ولدي صعب... ماذا أفعل؟

by Andrew Fuller

What makes some kids 'tricky'? They've found one particular way to get what they want in the world, and they've kept using that approach over and over again. They are not 'bad' kids, but they can make their parents and teachers feel like doing some very bad things. Why? Because they are used to getting their own way, and they are not the type of people to give up an advantage easily.Andrew Fuller, once a very tricky kid, brings 25 years of expertise with these kids to this humorous and insightful book. He shows parents and teachers how to understand these sweet little darlings, manage their moods and help them develop positive life habits. If you dream of occasionally winning at home - or in the classroom - this is the book for you!

Genres: Parenting, Nonfiction

320 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 2007

Reviews

[منال الحسيني · Rating 4 out of 5]

يبدو أن التعامل مع الأطفال صعبي المراس مشكلة يعاني منها الكثير من الآباء والأمهات بصرف النظر عن اختلاف المجتمع والثقافة
كتاب جيد يحاول تحليل تلك المشكلة بطريقة علمية مبسطة وسلسة، ويقدم عدد من النصائح العملية للتعامل مع الأطفال مع تلك النوعية، وإن كانت بعض النصائح لا تناسب مجتمعاتنا نظرا لاختلاف الثقافة والأمكانيات

[Tenaha Wilson · Rating 5 out of 5]

I loved this book. Thank you Andrew Fuller.

We have a tricky young lady who is a manipulator/debater/competitor. She can break your heart and put it together again in one minute. She is like a little tornado with so much personality. We love her spirit and can see how her traits are awesome in terms of life skills but we're not sure how to best parent her. This book has that covered.

Not only did this book demonstrate how to parent those tricky children but how to nurture their attributes so you don't break their spirit.

Having a tricky child, you are often reminded by others, on a daily basis, about what your child does that is wrong. This book made me feel proud to have a tricky child and explains how these children are special and just not well understood. Their behaviour is not wrong, it is just different!

I also found tips for my easy going child. This book really is for all parents.

Completely recommended for all parents of children 5 plus.

[Helen · Rating 4 out of 5]

So many parenting books identify which type of child you have and give you no concrete advice on what to do with them. This book, on the other hand, provides reasons for certain types of behaviour and suggests specific actions. We've been doing some of them, and we are all happier for it. Thumbs up.

[Tor · Rating 5 out of 5]

Anyone who has kids, works with kids or knows any kids should read this book. Sound advice from an expert. I have seen these strategies make a positive difference for parents, teachers and most important of all, the tricky kids themselves.

[Claire · Rating 5 out of 5]

I am finding this book extremely useful with my own tricky kid and I think the approaches will work very well.

[Maria Kumanova · Rating 2 out of 5]

Книга, която би могла да бъде събрана в 50 стр. Има безкрайни повторения, празни приказки и малко практически съвети.

[فاطمة غانم الابراهيم · Rating 4 out of 5]

يتمتع السيد أندرو بكم زاخر من المعرفة في تصنيف سلوكيات الأبناء مهام بلغ مرحلتهم العمرية وعن أنماط شخصياتهم وعلى أثره يتبع الوالدين "استراتيجية الفعالة للتربية" ربما قد تسائلت ذات مره ، لماذا لم ينفع هذا التكنيك في تقويم ذلك المراهق/الطفل في حين اتى بنتيجة جيدة مع الآخر ؟

في مقدمة الكتاب تعريف بأنماط الشخصية الصعبة للأبناء بعدها تأتي مراحل العمرية وأهمية احتياج لكل مرحلة ومايمر به الطفل وكيفية التعامل معه بشيء من الاسهاب .

هذا الكتاب صغير الحجم كثير الفائدة يسعى إلى إيجاد حلول لضبط سلوكيات الأبناء بناء على نمط شخصياتهم ، لذلك قد تشعرين بالخيبة من نصحية ذهبية قدمت لك من أم لخمسة أولاد لم تأت بثمار جيدة مع ابنك الوحيد ، هذا لأن لكل نمط شخصية ضوابط لتقويم السلوك ، فما قد ينفع لإبنك ليس بالضرورة ينفع للإبن الآخر ، ومن هنا تأتي أهمية التثقف دون الاستناد فقط على تجارب الآخرين .

الترجمة رائعة كما عهدت إصدارات دار الفراشة ، اللغة بسيطة وهى بالكاد يشعر القارئ بأنها مترجمة .

أنصح به فهو أشبه بدليل استرشادي للوالدين
لن تغير سلوك ابنك الصعب مالم تغير مزاجه ، وعادة يصبح المزاج عكر نتيجة زيادة مادتين في الدماغ تجعله صعب الانصياع وضبط سلوكه هما الكورتيزول والادرينالين الأول مسئول عن ارتفاع الضغط النفسي والآخر عن المواجهة أو الفرار وكليهما يفقد انضباط سلوك ابنك ، بمجرد خفضهما يمكنك أن تضبط السلوك ، وقد أتى الكتاب بتفاصيل أكثر حيال ذلك .

يضم مجموعة من الجداول والرسومات بالاضافة لمخلص لكل قسم يجعل القراءة ممتعه للمربين مهما تبايت مرجعيتهم الثقافية والاكاديمية ، وهو بكل تأكيد من الكتب التى ترغب في قراءتها أكثر من مره .

[NoBeatenPath · Rating 3 out of 5]

A helpful book packed with strategies for dealing with children who have challenging behaviours. While at times it suffers from overstretch by trying to cover a large range of ages, the strategies presented are applicable to parents with toddlers and teenagers.
What is most helpful is the insight it gives in to different behaviours - why is my child acting this way, and what can I do to deal with (and help my child deal with) their actions? It also talks a lot about parents needing to change their behaviour, which is something often overlooked in books of this nature.

[Jo]

hmmm not sure how useful this will be, seemed a bit superficial when it came to the solutions...

[Virginie]

Полезно четиво за всички родители. Съдържа практични съвети, поднесени по забавен начин. Препоръчвам!

[Veronica Athanasiou · Rating 5 out of 5]

An eye opener for parents, teachers or anyone who deals with teenagers. The neurological explanation of young people's behaviours can make us all more tolerant adults.