Tiikerin lapsi

Sheila #2

by Torey L. Hayden, Eeva-Liisa Jaakkola (Translator)

Kuusivuotias Sheila ei puhunut. Hän ei itkenyt koskaan. Hänen silmänsä olivat täynnä polttavaa vihaa.

Elämä on jakanut Sheilalle kurjat kortit. Äidin hylkäämästä ja alkoholisti-isän pahoinpitelemästä tytöstä tulee lapsi, jota aikuisetkin pelkäävät. Odottaessaan paikkaa suljettuun laitokseen Sheila joutuu vaikeasti häiriintyneiden lasten luokalle, jota Torey Hayden opettaa. Siitä alkaa pohjimmiltaan poikkeuksellisen lahjakkaan tytön kivinen tie kohti elämää, jossa hänelläkin on paikkansa.

Vähä vähältä opettajan ja oppilaan välille rakentuu vahva yhteys. Menestyksen hetkiä seuraavat usein vakavat takaiskut, mutta kaikesta selvitään. Ja vaikka yhteys välillä ulkoisesti katkeaakin, se kestää henkisesti, ja kantaa varttuvaa Sheilaa aikuisuuteen asti.

Genres: Nonfiction, Psychology, Memoir, Education, True Story, Biography, Mental Health

428 pages, Mass Market Paperback

First published March 6, 1995

About the author

Victoria Lynn Hayden, known as Torey L. Hayden (born May 21, 1951 in Livingston, Montana) is a child psychologist, special education teacher, university lecturer and writer of non-fiction books based on her real-life experiences with teaching and counselling children with special needs.

Subjects covered in her books include autism, Tourette syndrome, sexual abuse, fetal alcohol syndrome, and elective mutism (now called selective mutism), her specialty.

Hayden attended high school in Billings, Montana and graduated in 1969. She then attended Whitman College in Walla Walla, Washington.

A little time after having written her most famous book One Child, Hayden moved to Wales in 1980 and got married to a Scot called Ken two years later. In 1985, she gave birth to her daughter Sheena. Hayden is now divorced.

She has also written three books of fiction in addition to her non-fiction books.

Reviews

[Kat · Rating 4 out of 5]

The follow-up to Torey Hayden’s 1980 book One Child, this true story chronicles a now teenage Sheila, as she’s reintroduced into Hayden’s life after Torey’s efforts to locate her. What follows is a reality check for Hayden, as she realizes that the fairy tale storyline she may have imagined of how Sheila’s life would be positively impacted by their past close relationship as teacher and student, isn’t playing out quite the way she’d hoped. The book isn’t doom and gloom, but it is difficult and messy. We see a girl who not only hasn’t shed the demons of her past trauma, though she’s courageously trying to, but is still steeped in more than her fair share of it. We see a girl who, like so many other kids with hidden stories, has suffered abuse and betrayal at the hands of adults and a life of instability, never having solid ground to stand on for very long. Unable or unwilling to bond with peers and struggling to trust the adults around her, she’s in full-on survival mode, which sometimes leads to choices that further complicate her life.

It can be argued that Hayden should never have gotten this close to Sheila, in effect, becoming a de facto mother figure to her, but it’s hard to blame her for wanting the best for a child she knows has so much potential. Does it burn Hayden? Yes. A number of times. It’s one thing to handle the behavior of a six-year old with relatively few resources, but it’s an entirely different thing to anticipate and manage the behavior of a street-smart, sometimes manipulative teenager in survival mode, who literally has nothing to lose. There’s love and hate and everything in between as Torey and Sheila struggle to redefine their renewed relationship, and like any story involving conflict, it’s not always a smooth ride. Despite the difficulty, it’s rewarding to see how Torey and Sheila’s relationship evolved, and to see Sheila’s efforts to understand and move on from her past. I only wish I could see where she is now, considering this book was published 25 years ago.

Final note: If you haven’t read One Child, the first few chapters of this sort of bring you up to speed, but honestly, I wouldn’t bother with this book unless you read that first. You can’t get the emotional impact of Torey and Sheila’s relationship in a few synoptic chapters, and the first book is worth the effort. My review for that: One Child

★★★★

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TRIGGER WARNING:
The book contains both implied and direct talk of child sexual abuse, which may be upsetting to some.

[Maria Espadinha · Rating 4 out of 5]

O Amanhã de Sheila


O que sucedeu a Sheila após a reabilitação?
Uma vez devolvida à sociedade, já fora do alcance e influência de Torey, que rumo foi o seu?
Perdeu-se? Estabilizou?
Regrediu? Evoluiu?
Será que todo o trabalho desenvolvido por Torey no sentido da sua recuperação foi aproveitado e encaminhado?
Ganhou asas e voou ou tornou-se Torey-dependente?

A Menina Que Nunca Chorava destina-se àqueles que após a leitura de A Criança Que Não Queria Falar, se interrogaram sobre o Amanhã de Sheila!

[Chana · Rating 2 out of 5]

I didn't enjoy reading it; it read like Torey Hayden's true confessions of the mistakes she made and the ways she failed to help her student. She is always like, I'm just your teacher, when she was obviously so much more both in her mind and her student's mind.
Then we have all the failures of the educational system including that f'd up Least Restrictive Environment law. Torey is spot on when she is skeptical of the law and says it is being implemented to save money. As the mother of a special needs son who needs a pretty restrictive environment to keep him safe, I fought against that law time and time again so that he could be in classrooms with a higher teacher to student ratio and a classroom that was restrictive enough to protect him and the others around him.
We also have the failures of the social services agencies. I mean, wtf, they keep sending her back to her dad who is a drug addict and has been selling her since she was a small girl to pay for his drugs. Her uncle rapes her as a six year old thereby rendering her unable to have kids ever. Dad goes to jail on drug charges but as far as I can see from the book no one is ever punished for this child's physical (she has cigarette burn scars up and down her arms) and sexual abuse, and her neglect.
The professional relationship of therapists, teachers and caregivers to needy children is a very difficult one. It is necessary to bond with a child to help her, gain her trust; but it is all only professional to the professional and when it is all over the child is saying but what happened? I thought you liked me and cared about me?
I've seen that also with my son. His 'best buds' are these professionals who work with him intensively for years and when it is over, see ya! My son couldn't comprehend why people he saw 3 or 4 times a week and who were his "friends" no longer came over or called or shared his birthdays etc. Saying it was only my job is certainly going to cause a lack of trust and a skeptical attitude toward other professional "friends".
So the whole system needs a serious re-think. Then there is Torey herself; won't commit. Love? deny, deny, deny. I'm too young to get married! I'm only your teacher! Sure. Wasn't it idiotic when she brings Sheila over to Chad's for 4th of July with his wife and kids? And she wonders why Sheila acts the way she does? She created the family fantasy of Chad, Torey and Sheila back when Sheila was six; and then she shatters the dream, then brings her back as a teen for a visit with Chad and his new family, including the oldest daughter named Sheila!! A total nitwit should have seen that was a recipe for disaster.
I have decided to amend this review to say two things:
1. If Torey Hayden had not intervened in this girl's behalf then things could have gone much worse for her. She was scheduled to be put in a psychiatric facility and was only put in school as a holding measure until a place opened in the psych facility. Torey intervened and the result was that Sheila was allowed to stay in school where she had two good years (or as good as they could be considering her problems) until her father moved them again and Sheila went through a series of foster homes when her father was in jail on drug charges.
Torey had good intentions and did good for Sheila, although the book still reads like a confession of everything Torey feels she failed to do for Sheila.
2. It is very unclear what is true and what is not in this true story. In the book Torey stays in U.S., stays single and has no kids. In real life Torey goes to Wales, gets married and has a child after her teaching experience with Sheila. She gets divorced and returns to the U.S. which is when I assume she looked for and found Sheila again. If Torey's story is so altered, how altered is the story she tells of Sheila?

[Kassie · Rating 5 out of 5]

As a severely abused individual I related to this story. I grew up non trusting and still to this day aged 29 I cannot take. Sheila the beautiful little girl in this story went through hell and back, and worse still was all at such a young age. A teacher, this wonderful Author Torey Hayden too this little girl under her wing, she was blessed with patients and best yet her heart was full of love, love for children, love for job, and she believed in the children she taught and cared for.
In three days I have been mesmerized by "One Child, and Tiger Child" My heart longs to have someone like Torey in my life who gives a Dam, Whilst reading Tiger Child I was telling Sheila to run into Toreys arms, Sheila needed to be embraced, she needed to have warming loving arms wrapped around her frail body, Sheila's heart needed to know she was loved and Torey did just that.
These two Books... One Child....Tigers Child....I highly recommend you read these. I cannot get Sheila and Torey out of my head, still after reading these books I am left in tears.

[Natalie Martinez · Rating 1 out of 5]

I found this book in short depressing. That wonderful little girl we meet in One Child is long gone. She feels confused and angry at the world. To be honest I can see why she does. Not only her mother leaving her but her teacher as well? And then living with her good for nothing father. Probably being abused at foster homes... the list goes on and on. As far as I'm concerned she does have a reason to rant and rave at the world. Also time and time again she mentions how things seemed different to her when she read One Child before it was published. It honestly made me wonder about if Mrs. Hayden is stretching any truths there. After all, we remember what we want about history. Or rather history is written by the victors, not the losers. I would be rather interested to read how Shelia would remember that time and compare it.
This story just hit me as wrong. Maybe we saw more reality then we did in her other books. I'm not sure. All I know is this book didn't sit well with me. I put it down several times and finished it more out of not having anything else to read then any other reason

[Cher · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a story I read years ago and just recently revisited. As a pediatric and psych nurse, I have always been a fan of Hayden's books. This is the rare story that goes beyond what Hayden does in the special needs classroom with a five or six year old and actually gives us a glimpse of one of her students (Sheila) into early adulthood. This is the sequel to, One Child.

Many readers comment that they don’t like this book as much as Hayden’s others. It has a different feel to it for sure since it’s not a concentrated day in and day out accounting of dealing with a classroom full of eotionally disturbed children. There are days, weeks and months that pass when Hayden doesn’t even hear from Sheila and the relationship is much more complicated on many levels. Also, Hayden is ten years older herself and with time and circumstance, Hayden has grown and changed. This book doesn’t have the “and they all lived happily ever after” ending that her other books imply. It is written from a more realistic viewpoint; a few hours a day during a nine month school year, can’t always “fix” a broken child no matter how hard you try or how much you give. Hayden ponders this and the question of how much harm is done in the process of trying to do good. Despite this concern, Hayden’s dedication and compassion go on to help Sheila through repressed and confused memories and through her transition into young adulthood.

An extraordinary story!

[Mai Laakso · Rating 5 out of 5]

Torey Haydenin Tiikerin lapsi alkaa surullisissa merkeissä, sanomalehden ikävällä uutisella. Torey Hayden toimi paikallisen koulun erityisluokan opettajana, ja arvasi jo lukiessaan, että tuo pieni tyttö sijoitetaan hänen luokalleen, jossa oli jo kahdeksan erityislasta. Johonkin tyttö oli sijoitettava, ennen kuin hänet sijoitettaisiin sairaalan osastolle saamaan lain määräämää hoitoa. Tuo pieni tyttö oli ensimmäisellä luokalla, mutta sijoitus oli jo kolmas koulu, sillä hänet oli todettu aivan mahdottomaksi sopeutumaan muiden lasten kanssa samaan ryhmään. Torey Haydenille selvisi kuukausien sisällä tämän pienen tytön kurja elämä koko kauheudessaan.

Eräs vanhempi kollega sanoi nuorelle Torey Haydenille, että oppilaisiin ei kannata kiintyä liikaa, eikä elää menneisyyttä. Torey Haydenillä on onneksi lämmin ja hellä syli, ja taito toimia oikein erityislasten parissa. Tiikerin lapsi koskettaa ja pelottaa samalla, sillä lasten kaltoin kohtelu ei ole kadonnut mihinkään. Tiikerin lapsi kertoo erään kaltoin kohdellun, hyljätyn ja pahasti häiriintyneen lapsen tarinan.

[Leanne Ellis · Rating 5 out of 5]

No, I didn't read this book in another language. The English title is One Child, and I don't know why it isn't showing up on this site. But that is the cover for the English version, and this is one of those truly life-transforming books. As an educator, a parent, or just a human being, this book is so very inspiring. I read it aloud (edited) to my students to open the window to the realization of how very lucky they are to have the seats that they do in life, and years later, this is the book they talk to me about as young adults; this is the book they remember and find on their own to re-read. I am pretty sure that this is the book that, at age 12 when I read it for the first of many times, set my subconscious on the thought-path that I would one day become a teacher.

[Maria · Rating 5 out of 5]

Após o livro "A criança que não queria falar", esta continuação deixou-me sem palavras. É uma mudança brusca na atitude de Sheila, antes uma menina calma e bonita em relação a Torey Hayden mas depois alguém selvagem devido a Tprey a ter abandonado. Mostra-nos a continuação e a persistência de Torey em ajudar a sua querida menina.

Torey Hayden sempre me fascinou, e já li uns quantos livros dela mas penso que "a criança que não queria falar" e "a menina que nunca chorava" são os melhores livros dela - digo isto talvez por serem também os dois primeiros livros que li dela.

Recomendo a todos, e de certeza que se vão emocionar com este relato de uma menina sozinha que é ajudada apenas por Torey.

[Mia · Rating 3 out of 5]

Again, the writing is fine but I feel the need to take away stars because I am uncomfortable about Hayden using this child's story in this way.

As a follow-up to One Child, The Tiger's Child illustrates why we are so encouraged to have "healthy boundaries" in our work with children, in order not to cross over the fine line between helper and caregiver.

When you've bathed and rocked and hair-dressed a child for a year, when you've taken them shopping and given them gifts, it's natural for that child to experience that relationship as something other than just "your job". And therefore when you part ways, either because insurance stops paying, the school year ends, or a new research project beckons, the child experiences a level of abandonment that isn't helpful and for which they have no context.

In the case of Sheila, Hayden got another go at putting that abandonment into context by contacting Sheila years later and reprocessing the whole treatment with her via having teenage Sheila read the manuscript of the book Hayden wrote about the child's year in her classroom at age 6. I appreciate that Hayden did not portray that reunion or the process of rehashing the past with Sheila as a feel-good Lifetime movie event, and that she doesn't always portray herself as having done the right thing.

As a therapist trained decades later than Hayden and steeped in the doctrine of maintaining healthy boundaries, I had to cringe and cringe again at some of Hayden's choices. The idea of sharing a hotel room with a teen client is enough to chill the blood these days, but Hayden apparently held no qualms of either disrupting her therapeutic alliance with Sheila, nor fear of losing her license. Instead she hid behind the technicality that Sheila was not currently her client.

As professionals, we don't often get a second go at a child, and reading One Child and its sequel may satisfy readers who work with troubled children and fantasize about how helpful it would be (to both treatment provider and child) if we could look up our clients years later and do that reprocessing. Hayden got to live the dream with Sheila, but I can't get past being dismayed at the choices she made while doing it.

[Stephanie Emmerson · Rating 2 out of 5]

My child's teacher gave me this book. I read the back cover and gleaned that the book was about a troubled gifted child. I lost much of my innocence when I read it because I didn't need to know the sordid details of Shiela's abuse. I know there are bad people out there but the retelling of the story in this way seems an attempt at evoking a reaction of shock and horror. What comes across to me is that the teacher has an immature relationship with her student. It is almost if Torey needs the relationship with Shiela, not the other way around. Nothing is mentioned about Torey's own childhood, upbringing, and why she got into teaching to begin with. What I've learned as an adult is that there are many dysfunctional families out there. Many more than I wanted to admit. It seems like there are a lot of dysfunctional adults who are drawn to children, teaching, or psychology as a way to heal themselves of their abusive pasts. After reading this book, I am supposed to gather that Torey had a profound effect on Shiela's life. Maybe she did, who knows? But, there is no scientific evidence to this. Yes, children need help. Yes, there are mentors who can change a child's life. This book, however, is very simplistic in it's emotional revelations and it makes Torey a hero. I'm disgusted by this self-absorbed heroism. Some kids are quiet, angry, or have disabilities but there are never any clearcut answers as to why. People are complex and while we can try to help we often don't know how we did, if ever. This isn't a scientific-based field. Theories abound. Some people turn themselves around with no help in their lives at all. Shiela seems like she is very intuitive as well as gifted so she may have likely turned her life around herself. Many people do.

[carolyn · Rating 3 out of 5]

The Tiger's Child, the sequel to Torey Hayden's "One Child", I felt was not as good as "One Child". I do commend Torey on all the dedication that she has shown this child throughout all of the years, even after they lost contact with eachother for years, the connection still was there and brought them back together. It was good to find out that "Sheila" survived all of the ordeals that was tossed her way and had gotten on with her life. I was disappointed though on the career path that she had chosen for herself since she was a brilliant child, but in a sense totally understand the decision that she made to work at McDonald's. Part of me believes that this decision was based upon the multiple times her and Torey had shared McDonald's with eachother. Then again part of me believes that she didn't want to deal with school anymore because of all the "crap" she had to deal with both in and out of school. Overall, a good read and if you have read "one Child", then you should also read this one.

[Mariana · Rating 3 out of 5]

3,5*
Gostei mais do primeiro livro, talvez por a Sheila ser uma criança e chocar muito mais o que ia acontecendo.
No entanto, este livro contém partes tão revoltantes como no primeiro, mesmo a Sheila sendo mais velha.

[Kris · Rating 4 out of 5]

There's a point in this book where the author returns from vacation to find a letter from Sheila, the subject of this book; Sheila writes that she's planning to commit suicide. The letter had been sent at about the same time as Hayden had left for vacation. She tries to figure out how she can find out whether Sheila was still alive, but can't think how she would phrase the question to the staff of Sheila's group home; in the end, she does nothing and gets caught up in her other clients and activities. Reading this, I thought, "Call the group home, tell them Sheila had written to you, and ask if she can have visitors. Even if they don't tell you whether Sheila committed suicide, they'll at least tell you whether she's there."
I've realized that's the thing that bugs me about Hayden - she has all this formal training, but so much of the time she doesn't know how to react to a situation. A student breaks down? She sits and watches instead of reacting. A child disappears? She and a coworker stand and argue for 15 minutes about whose fault it is before looking for him. So much of the success Hayden has with clients in these books seems to be made up of lucky breaks and stumbling onto a method that works. In fact, she admits as much in several of the books.
That being said, I enjoyed reading this book. Hayden originally had Sheila as a student at the age of 6 (a story written about in her book "One Child"); "The Tiger's Child" retells that story, then picks up when Hayden reunites with Sheila eight years later. In the interim, Sheila has had a pretty rough life; her addict father basically pimps her out to support his habit, she moves from one foster home to another, etc. Hayden is operating a summer program for some of her child clients and offers Sheila the chance to work as an aide in the program. Sheila's interactions with the children and with Hayden, and her coming to terms with all the things that have happened to her, make up the rest of the book.
Reading Hayden's books, and her accounts of the horrible things that have happened to these children, is emotionally exhausting. The fact that people, often the children's parents themselves, could do such terrible things, makes me incredibly sad. I'm thankful that there are people like the author who are driven by a need to help these children work through the severe emotional trauma they've been subjected to.

[PinkAmy loves books, cats and naps · Rating 4 out of 5]

In a follow up to ONE CHILD, Torey Hayden locates Sheila, now thirteen. Once again living and working nearby, former teacher and former student reestablish their relationship. Sheila assists in a summer program for emotionally disturbed children. Over the next few years she experiences many ups and downs which Torey never imagined when they reconnected.

I read THE TIGER’S CHILD some twenty-five years ago, when it was first published, in the beginning of my career as a child psychologist. My feelings at the time were sadness that Sheila couldn’t live up to her potential and in awe of Hayden. A quarter century later (gulp), I focus more on Hayden’s naïveté and her impact on Sheila and how certain feel good in the moment boundary crossings would ultimately leave Sheila feeling more abandoned.

Hayden is a good soul, a gifted teacher, her heart is in the right place. Sheila is her blind spot and Torey fails to anticipate many of the adolescent’s actions. This comes from her eternal belief in and optimism for Sheila. As a mandated reported, Hayden consciously missed opportunities to turn Sheila’s father in for extreme neglect and using her as payment to feed his drug habit.

THE TIGER’S CHILD is at times dated. A gay psychologists fired for being gay and Hayden repeatedly uses the term “sexual preference”.

The depth and breadth of Sheila’s trauma made me cry. With an IQ of 180, at times she sounded like a gifted adult. She sometimes sounded like the six-year-old victim she was when she met Hayden.

THE TIGER’S CHILD made me hope that Sheila is happy and fulfilled, as the epilogue written 25 years ago suggests. I hope she’s found love for herself and acceptance.

[Britt · Rating 2 out of 5]

What a disappointment. There really wasn't much excitement in this book which is a good thing for Sheila, but makes a bad thing to publish. Do yourself a favor and skip reading the book. I'll tell you what happened: Sheila grew into a semi-normal teenager. She still had some of the same fears, issues and attributes of her younger self. Her father went back on drugs so she was placed in foster homes where she was raped in one. Every home after that, she ran away from. She placed ads in all of the California newspapers in hopes that her mother would contact her. A woman did, but she had mental health issues and wasn't really her mother. When Sheila became an adult, she took a Full-time job at McDonalds; she later became one of the youngest franchise owners in her area. The end.

Hayden quotes Sheila in her book something along the lines of "You think you were so great, but you weren't". ( I didn't think to mark the page) After reading that, I started wondering if Hayden wrote about Sheila just to toot her own horn. And omg! I never want to read the words "pensive silence" ever again!

[Maria Elmvang · Rating 3 out of 5]

Very interesting to read this follow-up to "One Child" and hear what later became of Sheila. I found the idea fascinating that Torey might actually have done as much harm as good in her way of treating Sheila back when she was 6. I can totally see both how Sheila (and her dad) might have seen it that way, and how horrified Torey would have been to discover that could have been the case.

I didn't like this book quite as much as "One Child" though. Torey really didn't come off in the best light here. I know it's non-fiction so she couldn't have written it any other way and still be truthful, but there were times where I caught myself thinking, "Dude, you're supposed to be the professional, and even I know you aren't handling that right!".

I have also learned not to read Torey Hayden's books in translation. This is the second one I've tried, and they've both been really, really badly translated. This one slightly less so, fortunately.

[Dian Novita Elfrida · Rating 3 out of 5]

Buku ini merupakan sambungan dari buku Sheila: Luka Hati Seorang Gadis Kecil. Sekarang Sheila sudah berusia 14 tahun, namun masih penuh dengan masalah.

Saya lebih menikmati membaca kisah pertama dari kehidupan Sheila. Dalam buku pertama tersebut, saya lebih dapat merasakan pergumulan dan emosi Torey Hayden dalam menghadapi Sheila. Mungkin juga karena Sheila yang sekarang sudah lebih bisa ditangani daripada Sheila kecil berusia 6 tahun. Tapi, tetap sebuah buku yang menarik, khususnya bagi pembaca buku Sheila yang pertama, pasti juga tertarik untuk mengetahui bagaimana kelanjutan kasha hidup Sheila.

[Raquel · Rating 1 out of 5]

Sabem daqueles livros que vocês pegam e dizem que pela sinopse parece ser um livro porreiro e fácil de ler? Não foi nada fácil, conta a história verídica de uma menina que não falava. Sofreu maus tratos, foi violada, cortada, enfim, não consegui chegar ao fim com a leitura porque era demasiado sofrido para uma pequenina só e de tal maneira que me emocionou que não consegui terminar a leitura. É uma pena que ainda há pessoas que não saibam o que fazem com as crianças.

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[Dolceluna ♡ · Rating 4 out of 5]

Sheila, la bambina difficile che Torey ha recuperato con amore e dedizione in “La bambina” è cresciuta. Torey la ritrova dopo anni, come un’adolescente tormentata, in lotta contro gli spettri del passato e alla disperata ricerca di quella felicità che le consenta di entrare nella vita adulta. Non senza difficoltà Tory cerca di riallacciare il rapporto con Sheila, i cui ricordi della loro relazione passata sono macchiati da rabbia, accuse e incomprensione.
A mio avviso meno emozionante di “La bambina”, ma forse ancora più profondo e complesso. Un applauso alla “maestra dei miracoli”!

[Mei · Rating 5 out of 5]

Torey akhirnya menyelesaikan sekolahnya dan kembali mencari Sheila. Dia mengetahui perubahan pada diri Sheila dan mencoba memperbaikinya. Ternyata Sheila telah menjadi seperti benang kusut setelah Torey meninggalkannya. Dia tidak mau lagi mengingat masa lalu dan menjadi seorang gadis dengan kepribadian yang sangat jauh berbeda dari sebelumnya.

Mengetahui hal tersebut, Torey mencoba mencari alasan mengapa Sheila berubah dan menemukan masa lalu yang kelam dalam kehidupan Sheila sejak mereka berpisah. Akhirnya, Torey mencoba menjalin kebersamaan mereka seperti yang pernah terajut sebelumnya. Memang itu bukanlah sesuatu hal yang mudah, namun Torey tahu persis bagaimana mengendalikan emosi Sheila yang sangat labil. Sejak itu, hubungan mereka berdua semakin baik dan Torey selalu memberikan dukungan dan bantuan dalam penyelesaian masalah Sheila.

Sheila akhirnya tumbuh menjadi sosok remaja yang mandiri. Namun dia belum mengetahui tujuan hidup serta cita-citanya. Akankah Torey dapat membantu Sheila mengendalikan emosinya yang labil? Mampukah Sheila menentukan tujuan hidupnya? Apakah Sheila dapat meraih masa depannya?


Yang pasti semua jawaban atas pertanyaan itu dapat kita peroleh dengan membaca buku ini.
^-^

[Lightreads · Rating 3 out of 5]

One in a series in which Hayden recalls her work as a teacher and therapist for psychologically disturbed children. In this particular book, she reconnects with Sheila, a six-year-old girl she worked with in a previous book who was prone to violent rages and elective mutism. Sheila is a teenager now, and by tracking the course of her life this book squarely confronts some of the difficulties inherent in the 1-year school approach, and in Hayden's books themselves. It's incredibly meta-analytical (Hayden gives Sheila a pre-publication copy of the previous book about her, and they discuss
the different ways they remember things and personal motivations). Clever, complicated, self-reflective, a little rueful.

[Darmaila Wati · Rating 4 out of 5]

Novel ini menuturkan kisah hidup seorang anak (Sheila) yang memiliki emosi sangat labil, akibat masa lalunya yang suram. Sebenarnya kisah Sehila yang diangkat oleh Torey, bukanlah satu-satunya kisah nyata, karena mungkin ada banyak anak-anak lain yang bernasib seperti Sehila;dari keluarga miskin yang broken, pernah dilecehkan secara seksual dan ditelantarkan. Akibatnya Sheila yang sebenarnya memiliki kemamapuan luar biasa dalam hal Iq dengan nilai di atas 180, justru memiliki banyak kendala dalam hidupnya. Membaca novel ini, kita akan lebih memahami pribadi seseorang tanpa menghakiminya bersalah.

[Sinta Nisfuanna · Rating 4 out of 5]

“Antara dahulu dan sekarang saya selalu percaya bahwa saya telah menyelamatkannya dari bencana terburuk. Kini, setelah menyadari bahwa bahkan ketika dia masih mengikuti kelas saya dia tetap menderita, saya merasa kesakitan. Kesakitan ini semakin menyiksa sekarang setelah saya tahu bahwa bahkan saya tidak tahu tentang penderitaannya.” (Torey ~ h. 264 hlm)

Ulasan selengkapnya di Sheila: Kenangan yang Hilang

[Cláudia · Rating 4 out of 5]

A continuação de "A criança que não queria falar". Esta obra, foca-se no reencontro de Torey e Sheila. Da última vez que se tinham visto, Sheila era apenas uma criança de seis anos. Agora, tinha treze anos e estava muito longe de ser a criança que Torey tinha conhecido. Era uma adolescente, rebelde, e não se recordava de grande parte dos momentos que tinha passado com Torey. O esquecimento de Sheila entristeceu-a, pois pensava que aquela experiência tinha sido marcante para as duas. Apesar de tudo isso, Torey fez de tudo para recuperar o amor de Sheila.

[Chris · Rating 3 out of 5]

I've always liked Hayden's books about her work with severely damaged kids in her special ed classes. This is one I had missed, and it's a nice sequel to One Child, Hayden's first book. It provides some additional insight into her "nonfiction," suggesting that she's taken considerable liberties in creating her books. Still, this was a good, moving read, one that made my heart ache for kids like Sheila who have been abandoned by parents and neglected by society.

[Kim · Rating 4 out of 5]

I found this book really interesting. I have the first book- One Child, on the bookshelf. This one was written after Sheila was back in touch with Sheila. Tory works with children with various troubles or difficulties. Sheila came to her classroom after abducting a small child- whilst she herself was only 6.

I have an interest in selective mutism because of my daughter- and found the various places she worked fascinating.

[Lea Patinen · Rating 3 out of 5]

"Ensimmäinen osa" kirjasta oli aika järkyttävä ja koukuttava ja sai paljon uutta ajateltavaa tästä maailmasta. Joskus pääsee unohtumaan, ettei tämä ole kovin mukava paikka. Toinen osa taas oli aikalailla turha. Olihan se tietysti tavallaan mukava lukea onnellinen loppu, mutta jotenkin sen tädin ura ja ihmissuhteet jne. ei kiinnostanut pätkääkään. Jos kirjoitetaan kirja tytöstä, niin pysytään nyt sentäs aiheessa :D

[Jennie · Rating 3 out of 5]

I read One Child, and admit that I was curious what happened to Shiela. However, this was definitely not what I expected. Yes, we see how Sheila and Torey reconnected, but I didn’t expect the story to consist of another classroom (camp) setting of Torrey’s. I expected it to be more of a biography of what happened to Sheila. Although the details of what happened to Sheila from One Child to the time of publishing, this just wasn’t what I expected. 3 stars.

[Abilio · Rating 5 out of 5]

História verídica de uma criança de seis anos, insociável, violenta, perdida num mundo de raiva e sofrimento...até encontrar uma jovem e brilhante professora.