Find Love: How to navigate modern love and discover the right partner for you

by Paul Brunson

'FIND LOVE is more than a book; it's a compass for navigating the ever-changing landscape of relationships. This book is your toolkit for identifying and connecting with a partner who not only completes you but also strengthens you. It is rich with insights, supported by research, and steeped in heart.' - Paul BrunsonFrom red to green flags, apps, speed-dating, attachment styles, trauma, dealbreakers, compromises and making it past the first date... finding love can feel like a minefield.In Find Love, world renowned relationship expert and Head of Global Research for Tinder, Paul Brunson, provides you with vital advice for navigating and securing real connections. Whether you're single and looking for love or in a relationship and wondering if your partner is 'the one', this book will arm you with the advice, skills, and simple tools you need to make an informed decision on how to simultaneously love yourself and find the right partner for you.

Genres: Self Help, Love, Nonfiction, Relationships

288 pages, Hardcover

Published July 23, 2024

Reviews

[Dayna Schols]

*Paul Brunson - Really good DOAC Podcast Guest

[Louise · Rating 4 out of 5]

Fascinating book. Really recommend the audiobook. I’m single but I also studied sociology so it was really interesting reading from both perspectives.

[Resty Viola · Rating 5 out of 5]

After reading "Find Love" by Paul C. Brunson, you'll feel confident diving back into the world of love and finding the right partner for you. This book comprehensively covers essential aspects to know before meeting someone new, like a summary of various relationship books on attachment style, intergenerational trauma, the five love languages, and more.

So many aha moments, but my favorites are:
- Love is an emotion, but the pursuit of love is very logical. You need skill and talent, practice, and to put yourself in the best position to succeed.
- You can never have 100 percent certainty. There’s always going to be a leap of faith.

[Sophie Bell · Rating 4 out of 5]

For all my single girlies out there, you have to give this a read.

[Jessica Sparenberg · Rating 4 out of 5]

There was a lot of helpful, scientifically backed, information in this one! The author is one of the founders of Tinder, has a lot of background in matchmaking (he and his wife ran an agency), and he's been married for 20-something years! I also liked that rather than giving strategies for places to find people, etc., he concentrated more on making sure that the reader is ready and able to recognize qualities that make for a good partner, and what to look out for in terms of people who still have more growth to do. Highly recommend!

[Leatitia H · Rating 5 out of 5]

💘Find Love is a practical and uplifting guide to creating meaningful romantic relationships. The book blends personal stories, scientific insight, and coaching advice to help readers develop healthy relationship habits and attract partners aligned with their values.

🔑 Major Key Alert

1. Love Starts with You 💡
Before seeking love, build self-awareness and emotional maturity. Understand your patterns, heal past wounds, and commit to personal growth.

2. Be Clear on What You Want 🎯
Define what a healthy relationship looks like to you and align your actions accordingly.

3. Learn from the Past, Don’t Dwell on It 🔁
Brunson encourages readers not to let past pain define them. Instead, use it as a guide:

“Each encounter serves as a lesson, guiding you towards wiser choices and healthier boundaries.”

4. Choose Wisely 🧠❤️
He outlines 5 characteristics to look for in a potential partner:
• Kindness
• Emotional availability
• Shared values
• Mutual respect
• ConsistencyThese are non-negotiables in building a lasting connection.

5. Know Your Worth ✨
Trust your instincts and don’t settle for less than you deserve. Brunson reminds you:

“Value your self-worth and refuse to settle for anything less than you deserve.”

This book brings hope to today’s dating world, where the illusion of endless options often clouds real connection.

There are people to avoid, but more importantly, “there are far more who could be just the person you’re looking for.” Keep your standards high and your heart open.

[Roopen Patel · Rating 5 out of 5]

Find Love by Brunson is an easy, enjoyable read that taps into something universal: the search for love. I especially liked the fresh perspective on arranged marriages. It made me wonder if maybe our families and friends would do a better job choosing our partners than we do ourselves. A fun, thought-provoking take on how we find connection.

[Melissa Medley · Rating 5 out of 5]

A must-read for everyone looking for love. Every chapter is on point with scientific evidence to back it up. This book dissects dating, trauma, attachment styles, values, needs vs. wants, etc. This book is so good that it should be a university class. Love this book.

[Rahim Hussain · Rating 4 out of 5]

Second(?) audiobook!

Interesting to see how the “professionals” think about it and how you can apply a framework to basically anything in the world. The most unique thing he mentioned was to see dating apps as meeting apps, which I don’t think I’ve heard before, but I don’t hate the sentiment.

[Claire Smith · Rating 5 out of 5]

Such amazing jewels in this book!!!

[Priscilla · Rating 3 out of 5]

Valuable information however didn't hold my attention.

[Justine · Rating 3 out of 5]

Will give it 5 stars if it succeeds in its promise to help me “find love” 🌝

[Sian · Rating 4 out of 5]

Relationship science and sociology clearly explained in layperson terms. Full of great pointers and advice to reaching self-actualisation.

[Caroline · Rating 4 out of 5]

It's one of those books I wished I'd of read years ago, either way it was very informative and I did take a lot from this book

[Shaz · Rating 3 out of 5]

Opening your mind up

[Sophia Cimelli · Rating 5 out of 5]

Given through work and really enjoyed the way the book was split it which made it very digestible to read

[Madame Miou-Miou · Rating 5 out of 5]

Really good, positive book. Great dating guidance.

[Alice · Rating 3 out of 5]

Not for me

[Elisa · Rating 4 out of 5]

Interesting perspective from an expert in the field. Will definitely be applying his advice in my dating journey!