3.5, 3.75 out of 5, rounded to 4
Overall, this is a good book. The writing is very good, the banter is witty, the character growth is on point, and the spice is very nice. However, I had a very hard time connecting with the book, especially the main character, Phoebe. I found myself not liking her throughout most of the book and wanting to yell at her to grow up, put the pot pen down, and deal with life's garbage. She is a very nice young woman, who really is not that young comparatively--she's 31--who doesn't seem to know who she is (but then again, that could be any of us at any time) and seems to be unable to go after what she wants, ever, until the night she finally does. She finally, after years of pining for him, propositions Declan who has also been pining for her.
They've been friends for something like seven years. Declan asked Phoebe out once, she said no (and we see her POV of this moment later on and jeez, was this one of those moments that I wanted to yell at her), and they move forward like nothing happened, but only as friends. While I didn't care for Phoebe--and yes, she is very sweet and nice and gives excellent, heartfelt advice to her friends--I loved Dec. He is the bad boy, sad boi, retired f*ck boy we all know and love. He seems to know who he is, what he wants in life, and while he doesn't always go after it (case in point: Phoebe), he does in other aspects (the bar he owns). He had no issues leaving his toxic family to pursue his own paths. Respect. He is in tune to Phoebe's wants and needs both in and out of bed. He's great.
I also loved the side characters, especially Joe. His side story of reuniting with a love lost after returning from Vietnam was one of the most enjoyable aspects of the book. The friends--especially Dec's friends who he doesn't even realize are his friends because as a bartender he's always behind the bar listening to others and never seeking his own solace and advice--are a special group of people and as much as Phoebe annoyed me, I kinda want to see each of these guys get their own HEA.
This is a very Millennial book. So if you are a Millennial, you will probably love this book and see yourself in one of the characters, nodding along with them as they make their way in the world. However, if you are not a Millennial, say a GenXer, you might be too old and cynical for this book and find yourself shaking your fist at Phoebe and muttering, dang nabbit, kids these days, get off my lawn, etc. (Don't "OK Boomer" me, I'm a very young GenXer, thank you very much.)
One last thing, the character growth, especially of Phoebe, is wonderfully done. She finds a lot of herself on her own but seeing herself through Dec's eyes helps push her to be more assertive and go after what she wants, and frankly, what she deserves. A massive credit to Nellie Wilson's writing/craft for being able to mature and move Phoebe forward in such an organic and subtle way. I appreciated how forward each character was in taking two major steps in their relationship with one another. There was no major hemming and hawing or dramatics. Both were rather matter-a-fact about it which felt very real life. Both moves also shocked me as they just happened but didn't feel out of place. Because when these moments happen (and if you read the book you should know what they are, one is from Dec and the other Phoebe), you see that they are so natural and so *needed* to show how much the character has come into themselves by being around and with the other.
Thank you Nellie for an advanced copy even if I cannot give it five stars. All opinions are my own.