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The Philosophy of Love
What is love? Is it something spiritual or wholly physical? Can our feelings be explained and quantified? Or are we all actually two halves of a whole?
Ask Alice and Luke and you’d receive vastly different answers.
Despite her world having been recently dismantled by a messy break-up, Alice would tell you that love is the most important – albeit ineffable – human experiences. But when she once again crosses paths with her old school nemesis, Luke, he challenges this. Luke is a scientist and he’s certain love can be measured and explained – just like everything else.
So the two decide to make a they’ll each venture back into dating and if one of them falls in love, Alice wins, if not, then Luke does.
But can anyone win when you’re playing with emotions?
Ask Alice and Luke and you’d receive vastly different answers.
Despite her world having been recently dismantled by a messy break-up, Alice would tell you that love is the most important – albeit ineffable – human experiences. But when she once again crosses paths with her old school nemesis, Luke, he challenges this. Luke is a scientist and he’s certain love can be measured and explained – just like everything else.
So the two decide to make a they’ll each venture back into dating and if one of them falls in love, Alice wins, if not, then Luke does.
But can anyone win when you’re playing with emotions?
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Published February 1, 2024
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February 27, 2024
writing: j'adore | plot: cute | ending: be still my beating heart
my opinion
JAOFJWKGNKDNGS I LOVED THIS SO MUCH!!!!!!!!! Pls read carefully: If you like Lindsey Kelk, Sophie Cousens, Lia Louis, and Beth O'Leary (The Switch and The Flatshare only) you will probably (most likely) love this. If you are a feral horndog or think that Cade from Elsie Silver's Heartless is actually THAT guy, this is NOT for you. Yes, this is teed up as a romance given the title and the cover, but this is actually women's fiction with a splash of subtle romance. Emphasis on the subtle.
The premise reminds me of The Love Wager in some regards, but better and more thoughtfully executed. I loved the structure of this book: there's six parts that begin with an aphorism about love that is explored throughout that section. And while it may seem that the quote is only about romantic love, Rebecca Ryan takes it a step further by applying it to self-love, family love, and friendship as well. This paragraph was a lil too serious for my liking so let me end it with an enthusiastic YERRRRRRR!!!!
I absolutely loved Alice's self-deprecating and dry humour. Even as she becomes kinder to herself, she doesn't lose her jokey jokes, which is always appreciated. I think some reviewers may be annoyed at Alice for being 30-years-old and as lost as a baby bird in a hurricane, but I thought it was a realistic portrayal of what it's like to come out of a controlling relationship that you entered as a teenager. I also liked how the author depicted how toxic her ex was without it being over-the-top dramatic or going for shock value. Ryan skillfully demonstrates how abuse is not always getting donkey-kicked in the stomach; it can be "death by a thousand paper cuts" style wherein he breaks you down by dressing up his insults as "guidance" and taking away your autonomy as "you shouldn't have to worry about anything." Again, this got serious, so again: YERRRRR!!
Lastly: Luke. I'm not one to fall for fictional men but Luke is my ideal man: thinks before he speaks, competent, and calm. Do I wish there had been more one-on-one scenes with Alice and Luke so I could really buy into the magnitude of their feelings? Most definitely. While they did have chemistry, and Luke handled Alice's low-key PTSD like an angel, the romance was definitely the weakest part of this book.
Really looking forward to reading Ryan's other book and pre-ordering whatever she drops next. Thank you for the exceptional vibes💖
pros & cons
pros: conversational writing that makes you feel like you're facetiming with a friend, loved the humor, fast-paced, heartwarming exploration of self-love, family support, the power of friendship, and healing, no third act break up, Luke💕, thoughtfully executed story structure
cons: needed more one-on-one between Luke and Alice
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my opinion
JAOFJWKGNKDNGS I LOVED THIS SO MUCH!!!!!!!!! Pls read carefully: If you like Lindsey Kelk, Sophie Cousens, Lia Louis, and Beth O'Leary (The Switch and The Flatshare only) you will probably (most likely) love this. If you are a feral horndog or think that Cade from Elsie Silver's Heartless is actually THAT guy, this is NOT for you. Yes, this is teed up as a romance given the title and the cover, but this is actually women's fiction with a splash of subtle romance. Emphasis on the subtle.
The premise reminds me of The Love Wager in some regards, but better and more thoughtfully executed. I loved the structure of this book: there's six parts that begin with an aphorism about love that is explored throughout that section. And while it may seem that the quote is only about romantic love, Rebecca Ryan takes it a step further by applying it to self-love, family love, and friendship as well. This paragraph was a lil too serious for my liking so let me end it with an enthusiastic YERRRRRRR!!!!
I absolutely loved Alice's self-deprecating and dry humour. Even as she becomes kinder to herself, she doesn't lose her jokey jokes, which is always appreciated. I think some reviewers may be annoyed at Alice for being 30-years-old and as lost as a baby bird in a hurricane, but I thought it was a realistic portrayal of what it's like to come out of a controlling relationship that you entered as a teenager. I also liked how the author depicted how toxic her ex was without it being over-the-top dramatic or going for shock value. Ryan skillfully demonstrates how abuse is not always getting donkey-kicked in the stomach; it can be "death by a thousand paper cuts" style wherein he breaks you down by dressing up his insults as "guidance" and taking away your autonomy as "you shouldn't have to worry about anything." Again, this got serious, so again: YERRRRR!!
Lastly: Luke. I'm not one to fall for fictional men but Luke is my ideal man: thinks before he speaks, competent, and calm. Do I wish there had been more one-on-one scenes with Alice and Luke so I could really buy into the magnitude of their feelings? Most definitely. While they did have chemistry, and Luke handled Alice's low-key PTSD like an angel, the romance was definitely the weakest part of this book.
Really looking forward to reading Ryan's other book and pre-ordering whatever she drops next. Thank you for the exceptional vibes💖
pros & cons
pros: conversational writing that makes you feel like you're facetiming with a friend, loved the humor, fast-paced, heartwarming exploration of self-love, family support, the power of friendship, and healing, no third act break up, Luke💕, thoughtfully executed story structure
cons: needed more one-on-one between Luke and Alice
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April 17, 2025
*Definitions of Love*
This was an interesting take on viewing love. On the surface, Alice and Luke are two very different people.
Alice, who had recently broken up with her ex, lost her job, and her home in London, decided to move back to her hometown of Easington in County Durham. She was mortified about having to move back in with her parents, but soon settled back in. Alice had always been good at philosophy and never continued her studies after meeting her ex.
Luke, on the other hand, had always been odd at school, wearing nail varnish and a lot of eyeliner, but he was excellent at science. He had become a successful scientist and was doing well.
During her travels back home, Alice bumped into Luke, her nemesis from school. They got into a conversation about love, with Alice thinking it virtually announces itself to you, while Luke offered his scientist’s view. Upon agreeing to disagree, they struck up a bet: if one of them fell in love, they would pay up.
Over the course of dating others and discussing their experiences, they realised they had completely missed what was glaringly obvious in plain sight. Alice finally realised the truth about her ex and her completely wrong idea of what she was holding onto.
There were some comical experiences along the way, and I started off thinking it was going to be science or philosophy-laden, but it definitely wasn’t. I enjoyed it.
This was an interesting take on viewing love. On the surface, Alice and Luke are two very different people.
Alice, who had recently broken up with her ex, lost her job, and her home in London, decided to move back to her hometown of Easington in County Durham. She was mortified about having to move back in with her parents, but soon settled back in. Alice had always been good at philosophy and never continued her studies after meeting her ex.
Luke, on the other hand, had always been odd at school, wearing nail varnish and a lot of eyeliner, but he was excellent at science. He had become a successful scientist and was doing well.
During her travels back home, Alice bumped into Luke, her nemesis from school. They got into a conversation about love, with Alice thinking it virtually announces itself to you, while Luke offered his scientist’s view. Upon agreeing to disagree, they struck up a bet: if one of them fell in love, they would pay up.
Over the course of dating others and discussing their experiences, they realised they had completely missed what was glaringly obvious in plain sight. Alice finally realised the truth about her ex and her completely wrong idea of what she was holding onto.
There were some comical experiences along the way, and I started off thinking it was going to be science or philosophy-laden, but it definitely wasn’t. I enjoyed it.
January 24, 2024
⭐️ 5 ⭐️
My (extra)Ordinary Life was one of my favourite reads in 2023, so I couldn’t wait to get my hands on a copy of Rebecca Ryan’s new book, The Philosophy of Love.
Ryan’s writing is so fluid; it sweeps you along, and before you know it, you find yourself on the last page. The characterisation is excellent, and I adored Alice and Luke — I think I even fell a little bit in love with Luke myself!
It’s witty and laugh-out-loud funny, but it also covers some more serious subjects, which are handled with sensitivity and care. It’s a wonderful story of family, friendship, love, hope, and self-belief.
The Philosophy of Love has already secured a place in my top reads of 2024.
Many thanks to NetGalley and the publisher for the eARC, in exchange for an honest, unbiased review.
My (extra)Ordinary Life was one of my favourite reads in 2023, so I couldn’t wait to get my hands on a copy of Rebecca Ryan’s new book, The Philosophy of Love.
Ryan’s writing is so fluid; it sweeps you along, and before you know it, you find yourself on the last page. The characterisation is excellent, and I adored Alice and Luke — I think I even fell a little bit in love with Luke myself!
It’s witty and laugh-out-loud funny, but it also covers some more serious subjects, which are handled with sensitivity and care. It’s a wonderful story of family, friendship, love, hope, and self-belief.
The Philosophy of Love has already secured a place in my top reads of 2024.
Many thanks to NetGalley and the publisher for the eARC, in exchange for an honest, unbiased review.
December 27, 2024
My Rating: 4⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ out of left field for me but I liked it, a lot!!
So yes, I have gone for the pretty cute book again… shock and horror!! I have my good friend LitwithLeigh to thank for this one, she posted this to me as a gift. After my horror show of a toe in the romance novels with Tessa Bailey…she thought I needed something actually cute without any smut… I can vouch for the no smut… phew!!! Thank you Leigh 🩷
I actually really loved this, the story is written really well and its engaging and fun and chunked up into parts of Alice’s life (in the present). We get to meet Alice when she is an all time low… and love has kicked her arse all over town. She goes home to her parents house and low and behold even more bad luck is in store for her.
She meets back up with Luke who is the boy from school who was weird and unfriendly and what a surprise he’s now hot but still unfriendly… shenanigans ensue… from new job, new friends, a love bet, a horny aunt, a new start and more!!! Its got it all people.
This one is cute but also funny and sarcastic so that got me good… I liked that. It will hit you in the feelings a bit as well.. yes I have feelings somewhere under all the murder and serial killers!!!
Honestly is it a surprise that Alice and Luke might get together… or have the potential… I mean its a frenemy to lovers scenario… but it doesn’t take the straight line and there are some bumps in the road… it is doing exactly what its meant to be doing, without porn… thank goodness!!! I could not handle it if there was any more of that nonsense going on.
Overall, even if you are a hardcore thriller girlie like me you could enjoy this, I actually really recommend it to anyone who does love romance novels, and also to anyone who needs a little break from the stabby stabs and the dead things… I will definitely be looking for more from this author!!! What a pleasant PG surprise this was.
So yes, I have gone for the pretty cute book again… shock and horror!! I have my good friend LitwithLeigh to thank for this one, she posted this to me as a gift. After my horror show of a toe in the romance novels with Tessa Bailey…she thought I needed something actually cute without any smut… I can vouch for the no smut… phew!!! Thank you Leigh 🩷
I actually really loved this, the story is written really well and its engaging and fun and chunked up into parts of Alice’s life (in the present). We get to meet Alice when she is an all time low… and love has kicked her arse all over town. She goes home to her parents house and low and behold even more bad luck is in store for her.
She meets back up with Luke who is the boy from school who was weird and unfriendly and what a surprise he’s now hot but still unfriendly… shenanigans ensue… from new job, new friends, a love bet, a horny aunt, a new start and more!!! Its got it all people.
This one is cute but also funny and sarcastic so that got me good… I liked that. It will hit you in the feelings a bit as well.. yes I have feelings somewhere under all the murder and serial killers!!!
Honestly is it a surprise that Alice and Luke might get together… or have the potential… I mean its a frenemy to lovers scenario… but it doesn’t take the straight line and there are some bumps in the road… it is doing exactly what its meant to be doing, without porn… thank goodness!!! I could not handle it if there was any more of that nonsense going on.
Overall, even if you are a hardcore thriller girlie like me you could enjoy this, I actually really recommend it to anyone who does love romance novels, and also to anyone who needs a little break from the stabby stabs and the dead things… I will definitely be looking for more from this author!!! What a pleasant PG surprise this was.
November 15, 2025
this is the most horrible book i've ever read. you cant call something a romcom if it does not contain any sex?!?! there was one scene but we did not go lower then the collarbone?
i mean luke was cute, but that was the only highlight of the book.
the English was really annoying (pet as nickname, stop it please) and I hate that there are always so many side plots, i don't care, leave me be.
okay last thing:
how come she has no friends but than in 1 chapter becomes besties with someone? please, life does not work like that.
my rant is over haha
(in English for my lovely international people hahah <3).
i mean luke was cute, but that was the only highlight of the book.
the English was really annoying (pet as nickname, stop it please) and I hate that there are always so many side plots, i don't care, leave me be.
okay last thing:
how come she has no friends but than in 1 chapter becomes besties with someone? please, life does not work like that.
my rant is over haha
(in English for my lovely international people hahah <3).
November 1, 2023
3.5/3.75 stars
*Disclaimer: I was kindly provided with an advanced copy of this book by Netgalley.*
The Philosophy of Love is a cozy, heart-felt romance about what love and a healthy relationship with yourself and your partner is supposed to look like. Alice was recently left by her boyfriend of 10 years after she caught him cheating on her. She ends up moving back from London into her small home town. She makes a bet with Luke, who she knew in school and who is now a biologist. As part of the bet, Alice starts going on dates again and in the process makes many discoveries about relationships and reassesses her past relationship. And she also gets to hang out a lot with the cute, intelligent and caring Luke.
I enjoyed the book. Even though some potentially triggering topics relating to abusive relationships are brought up, the overall mood remains on the fluffy side. It’s beautiful to read about how Alice rediscovers and learns to love herself throughout this book. In that way, this is an inspiring story. The side characters of Alice’s family and her new friend Joanie are very lovable and will capture anyone’s heart immediately. At times, the writing and story felt a bit simple and the character’s a little immature for my personal taste. However, this does not take away from the overall enjoyment of the book and I can see this being among many people‘s favourite romances.
*Disclaimer: I was kindly provided with an advanced copy of this book by Netgalley.*
The Philosophy of Love is a cozy, heart-felt romance about what love and a healthy relationship with yourself and your partner is supposed to look like. Alice was recently left by her boyfriend of 10 years after she caught him cheating on her. She ends up moving back from London into her small home town. She makes a bet with Luke, who she knew in school and who is now a biologist. As part of the bet, Alice starts going on dates again and in the process makes many discoveries about relationships and reassesses her past relationship. And she also gets to hang out a lot with the cute, intelligent and caring Luke.
I enjoyed the book. Even though some potentially triggering topics relating to abusive relationships are brought up, the overall mood remains on the fluffy side. It’s beautiful to read about how Alice rediscovers and learns to love herself throughout this book. In that way, this is an inspiring story. The side characters of Alice’s family and her new friend Joanie are very lovable and will capture anyone’s heart immediately. At times, the writing and story felt a bit simple and the character’s a little immature for my personal taste. However, this does not take away from the overall enjoyment of the book and I can see this being among many people‘s favourite romances.
July 22, 2024
wanted to give this 3.75 ⭐️ because it took me a hot sec to get into but it has some important themes in relatable topics and i flew through the last third!
December 10, 2024
Genuinely was not expecting her to start playing WoW with some guy she’d just met and was personally offended when guilds were referred to as clans.
February 1, 2024
Alice is having a bad hair day!
I loved Rebecca Ryan’s My (extra) Ordinary Life, so it was with some trepidation that I read The Philosophy of Love. So often there’s a touch of second book syndrome that can be disappointing. Not so here. The Philosophy of Love is an absolute belter. It’s equally as fresh, absorbing and witty and I loved it.
I think what is so absolutely engaging is the fact that the events in The Philosophy of Love are completely believable and relatable. Small aspects, such as the way Alice has drifted away from old school friends, her embarrassment at returning to live with her parents after her relationship with Charles has ended, the claustrophobia of small communities where everyone knows everyone else’s business and has an opinion on it, are just some of the features that feel so true to life and draw in the reader.
I thought the dynamics between Luke and Alice were perfect. I was desperate throughout for them to have a happy ending because they are so obviously the epitome of opposites attracting. I found the journey Alice goes on as she comes to recognise Luke’s positive attributes very touching and I loved their exploration of the philosophy and science of love. The way Alice realises what makes for a controlling and coercive relationship, and what, in contrast, is a relationship built on mutual respect and the quietness of love is perfectly handled by Rebecca Ryan. Alice also learns how to be comfortable in her own skin (without bright orange curls) and with Alice’s growing understanding that it’s never too late to start again Rebecca Ryan incorporates aspects that add layers of realism, hope and drama, so that The Philosophy of Love is a story of emotional development just as much as it is a highly entertaining romcom. I was so invested in Alice’s life because of the way Rebecca Ryan presents her through her lively first person, conversational style, that I truly resented real life getting in the way of my reading.
In amongst all that, The Philosophy of Love lifted my spirits too. It is so entertaining. I laughed aloud and fell in love with almost all the characters. Charles, in contrast, I could quite happily have shaken very hard indeed. Certainly he’s recognisable as typical of his type, but the manner with which he affects Alice even after he has rejected her is both plausible and disturbing.
The Philosophy of Love is one of those warm and engaging romantic stories that those who believe this kind of fiction to be all froth and no substance absolutely should read. Rebecca Ryan incorporates biological science and philosophy effortlessly. It doesn’t matter whether the reader has any background in either subject, because the story weaves in examples delightfully casually so that it is a real pleasure to read and the story educates even as it brings a smile to the reader’s face.
However, whilst The Philosophy of Love considers some weighty themes, it does so with a lightness of touch that makes it a wonderfully diverting, absorbing and satisfying book. The Philosophy of Love is one of those books you close with a deep sigh and a smile on your face, feeling thoroughly happy and contented. It’s the kind of book we all need in our lives and I loved it.
I loved Rebecca Ryan’s My (extra) Ordinary Life, so it was with some trepidation that I read The Philosophy of Love. So often there’s a touch of second book syndrome that can be disappointing. Not so here. The Philosophy of Love is an absolute belter. It’s equally as fresh, absorbing and witty and I loved it.
I think what is so absolutely engaging is the fact that the events in The Philosophy of Love are completely believable and relatable. Small aspects, such as the way Alice has drifted away from old school friends, her embarrassment at returning to live with her parents after her relationship with Charles has ended, the claustrophobia of small communities where everyone knows everyone else’s business and has an opinion on it, are just some of the features that feel so true to life and draw in the reader.
I thought the dynamics between Luke and Alice were perfect. I was desperate throughout for them to have a happy ending because they are so obviously the epitome of opposites attracting. I found the journey Alice goes on as she comes to recognise Luke’s positive attributes very touching and I loved their exploration of the philosophy and science of love. The way Alice realises what makes for a controlling and coercive relationship, and what, in contrast, is a relationship built on mutual respect and the quietness of love is perfectly handled by Rebecca Ryan. Alice also learns how to be comfortable in her own skin (without bright orange curls) and with Alice’s growing understanding that it’s never too late to start again Rebecca Ryan incorporates aspects that add layers of realism, hope and drama, so that The Philosophy of Love is a story of emotional development just as much as it is a highly entertaining romcom. I was so invested in Alice’s life because of the way Rebecca Ryan presents her through her lively first person, conversational style, that I truly resented real life getting in the way of my reading.
In amongst all that, The Philosophy of Love lifted my spirits too. It is so entertaining. I laughed aloud and fell in love with almost all the characters. Charles, in contrast, I could quite happily have shaken very hard indeed. Certainly he’s recognisable as typical of his type, but the manner with which he affects Alice even after he has rejected her is both plausible and disturbing.
The Philosophy of Love is one of those warm and engaging romantic stories that those who believe this kind of fiction to be all froth and no substance absolutely should read. Rebecca Ryan incorporates biological science and philosophy effortlessly. It doesn’t matter whether the reader has any background in either subject, because the story weaves in examples delightfully casually so that it is a real pleasure to read and the story educates even as it brings a smile to the reader’s face.
However, whilst The Philosophy of Love considers some weighty themes, it does so with a lightness of touch that makes it a wonderfully diverting, absorbing and satisfying book. The Philosophy of Love is one of those books you close with a deep sigh and a smile on your face, feeling thoroughly happy and contented. It’s the kind of book we all need in our lives and I loved it.
July 12, 2025
“Adulthood would be so much easier if it came with a manual telling us what we’re meant to be.”
Alice moves back to her hometown following her decade long relationship breaking down, when she runs into her old nemesis from school, Luke. They make a bet after discussing and disagreeing on what love is: if one of them falls in love, Alice wins, if not, Luke wins. Game on 🤝
This is my second Rebecca Ryan and I’ve really enjoyed it! I’ve found the books to be comforting as they’re set in Northern England and describe things that are so ordinary to me that it doesn’t feel like escapism but rather a warm cosy hug.
Alice felt relatable in the sense of not knowing who she is and who she wants to be, whilst exploring what friendships and family mean to her in her newly “free” state after ending her relationship with Charles. I especially really loved how the domestic abuse theme was explored as it was written about in a respectful way, whilst also acknowledging that different types of abuse can exist and are just as valid as physical abuse.
The little additions of the philosophy thoughts on love at the start of each chapter were also a lovely little addition. A really cute book framed all about what love SHOULD be, and not what we should just accept 💖
⭐️⭐️⭐️.5✨
Alice moves back to her hometown following her decade long relationship breaking down, when she runs into her old nemesis from school, Luke. They make a bet after discussing and disagreeing on what love is: if one of them falls in love, Alice wins, if not, Luke wins. Game on 🤝
This is my second Rebecca Ryan and I’ve really enjoyed it! I’ve found the books to be comforting as they’re set in Northern England and describe things that are so ordinary to me that it doesn’t feel like escapism but rather a warm cosy hug.
Alice felt relatable in the sense of not knowing who she is and who she wants to be, whilst exploring what friendships and family mean to her in her newly “free” state after ending her relationship with Charles. I especially really loved how the domestic abuse theme was explored as it was written about in a respectful way, whilst also acknowledging that different types of abuse can exist and are just as valid as physical abuse.
The little additions of the philosophy thoughts on love at the start of each chapter were also a lovely little addition. A really cute book framed all about what love SHOULD be, and not what we should just accept 💖
⭐️⭐️⭐️.5✨
August 16, 2024
4,3/5 stars. This is definitely my favorite romance book (which I know doesn't mean much, since I haven't read a lot of romance novels, but still). My favorite part about it was the fact that the protagonist's life didn't revolve around the male lead and that we got enough information about all the aspects of her life. I also loved how the author depicted toxic relationships in a realistic manner and showed that healing was a slow process (and not something that kiss from a new guy could fix 🫠).
This book has no spice if that is what you're looking for, but it was still perfectly satisfying to me as it showed that the physical aspect is not the most important part of a healthy relationship. I personally also love that this was a love story between adults, because I'm getting tired of the high school romance trope and (once again) it showed that love isn't her life's centerpiece as the main lead had a lot of other things to worry about as well.
Overall, while the book falls under the rom-com category, it still dives into other important issues, which I think separates it from the rest. 🤌
This book has no spice if that is what you're looking for, but it was still perfectly satisfying to me as it showed that the physical aspect is not the most important part of a healthy relationship. I personally also love that this was a love story between adults, because I'm getting tired of the high school romance trope and (once again) it showed that love isn't her life's centerpiece as the main lead had a lot of other things to worry about as well.
Overall, while the book falls under the rom-com category, it still dives into other important issues, which I think separates it from the rest. 🤌
December 26, 2023
Thank you to Simon & Schuster UK for granting me access to this arc in exchange for an honest review.
This was genuinely a super sweet romance. The narrative follows Luke and Alice, two academic rivals who coincidentally bump into each other years after leaving school. They decide to make a bet about love.
If you're looking for a slow burn romance, this is your gal. I honestly was sat on the edge of my seat waiting for these two to just kindle their romance. I loved their relationship and the way it progressed.
Luke was an extremely likeable male protagonist and the way in which he was just normal made him even more likeable. I was rooting for him to find romance from day 1.
Just generally a super nice romance narrative.
This was genuinely a super sweet romance. The narrative follows Luke and Alice, two academic rivals who coincidentally bump into each other years after leaving school. They decide to make a bet about love.
If you're looking for a slow burn romance, this is your gal. I honestly was sat on the edge of my seat waiting for these two to just kindle their romance. I loved their relationship and the way it progressed.
Luke was an extremely likeable male protagonist and the way in which he was just normal made him even more likeable. I was rooting for him to find romance from day 1.
Just generally a super nice romance narrative.
February 2, 2024
My (extra) Ordinary Life was one of my fav of last year and so I was very excited to review The Philosophy of Love from SJV for the tour this month.
This is another brilliant read from Becs Ryan - warm and heartfelt, I couldn’t help but fall in love with both Alice and Luke. Seeing Alice regroup and find courage again as she’s supported unconditionally by her mum and dad and the wonderful Aunty Moira.
All of the characters are wonderfully thought out, and even those with smaller parts like Gabby have such a big role to play in helping Alice move on.
Covering some serious topics within the smiles, Becs Ryan writes with compassion and sensitivity and I loved it.
This is another brilliant read from Becs Ryan - warm and heartfelt, I couldn’t help but fall in love with both Alice and Luke. Seeing Alice regroup and find courage again as she’s supported unconditionally by her mum and dad and the wonderful Aunty Moira.
All of the characters are wonderfully thought out, and even those with smaller parts like Gabby have such a big role to play in helping Alice move on.
Covering some serious topics within the smiles, Becs Ryan writes with compassion and sensitivity and I loved it.
November 7, 2023
I absolutely adored The Philosophy of Love, and Rebecca consistently hits this sweet spot between hilarious and poignant. There is so much genuine heart and depth to this story. I really related to Alice, and I enjoyed going on her journey to discover the true meaning of love. What a beautiful ending - I was pulled to the last page!
December 29, 2024
why has no one read this, this is so cute
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January 4, 2025Wasn’t cute. Predictable. Typical trope. Nothing new. DNF
February 24, 2025
3.5⭐
I liked that we were in Alice's head and could read her thoughts
I liked that we were in Alice's head and could read her thoughts
May 14, 2024
3.5 ⭐️
April 16, 2024
Not sure how many times I will say this during this review but I loved this book. Everything from the characters to the plot. Was it a little cliche? Absolutely. Did I know who Alice was going to end up with? Pretty much from the start of the book (and I mean the absolute start). But I loved the way that Alice realises how destructive her relationships have been, that there are multiple types of abuse and that she needs help.
Alice and Luke are opposites but in many ways they are similar, they are both navigating unfamiliar territory and taking steps towards scary things.
The longer Alice is around the familiarity of home the stronger she seems to become. There are many ways that we see the shadows of the person she became, from her unwillingness to step outside of her home, to the way that she doesn't even want to celebrate her own birthday. The further into the story I read the more I could see that Charles' influence over Alice was destructive, dangerous and bullying, so subtle and clever but horrifying.
For me the strength of a book lies in its characters and there are so many different characters with so much to offer, from old Mr Hall on the bus, his daughter Hannah, Alice's auntie M, her grandmother (why is it always the wise grandmother who makes you realise what your path should be - the scene with her in the community centre legitimately had me crying), her parents and of course Joannie and Tyler (two more lovable characters I don't think I have come across in a while).
A book to read and relish, cry and laugh over and enjoy a triumph.
Alice and Luke are opposites but in many ways they are similar, they are both navigating unfamiliar territory and taking steps towards scary things.
The longer Alice is around the familiarity of home the stronger she seems to become. There are many ways that we see the shadows of the person she became, from her unwillingness to step outside of her home, to the way that she doesn't even want to celebrate her own birthday. The further into the story I read the more I could see that Charles' influence over Alice was destructive, dangerous and bullying, so subtle and clever but horrifying.
For me the strength of a book lies in its characters and there are so many different characters with so much to offer, from old Mr Hall on the bus, his daughter Hannah, Alice's auntie M, her grandmother (why is it always the wise grandmother who makes you realise what your path should be - the scene with her in the community centre legitimately had me crying), her parents and of course Joannie and Tyler (two more lovable characters I don't think I have come across in a while).
A book to read and relish, cry and laugh over and enjoy a triumph.
February 17, 2024
this book was okay! i didn’t hate it, i didn’t love it. it was a rather normal romance that i didn’t feel had anything particularly stand out to me, but it was enjoyable enough to read!
i liked alice as a main character, although i felt she was sometimes a bit bland. luke had more character than her at least, and a slight edge to him, but even then, he did come across as a bit of basic broody man.
joanie and aunty m were my faves in this book tho. they were both funny and had more to them than anyone else! they’re lines were some of the only ones that actually made me chuckle aloud.
i will say i liked the pacing, it wasn’t too slow, and i was satisfied with the slow burn of the romance, but it still felt like we got a nice chunk of romance at the end. i liked the concepts of love that were spoken about, but for a whole book that’s supposed to be about the philosophy of love, i feel like it could have been slightly deeper with more referencing. it just fell a little flat in the research department for me.
overall, i liked it. i probably won’t bother to read it again, but it helped me kill 48 hours of my life on this dreadful planet and was a welcome distraction, so i’ll take it for what it was!
maybe i’ll try the other Rebecca Ryan book i’ve seen around and go into it with an open mind?
i liked alice as a main character, although i felt she was sometimes a bit bland. luke had more character than her at least, and a slight edge to him, but even then, he did come across as a bit of basic broody man.
joanie and aunty m were my faves in this book tho. they were both funny and had more to them than anyone else! they’re lines were some of the only ones that actually made me chuckle aloud.
i will say i liked the pacing, it wasn’t too slow, and i was satisfied with the slow burn of the romance, but it still felt like we got a nice chunk of romance at the end. i liked the concepts of love that were spoken about, but for a whole book that’s supposed to be about the philosophy of love, i feel like it could have been slightly deeper with more referencing. it just fell a little flat in the research department for me.
overall, i liked it. i probably won’t bother to read it again, but it helped me kill 48 hours of my life on this dreadful planet and was a welcome distraction, so i’ll take it for what it was!
maybe i’ll try the other Rebecca Ryan book i’ve seen around and go into it with an open mind?
May 22, 2024
O. M. G. Rebecca’s done it again.
I adored her debut novel, My extra(ordinary) Life, and I loved this one just as much, if not, more! It was such a comfortable and easy read.
It kept me hooked and I was SOOOO invested in the characters’ stories and the relationships between all of them. There were so many relatable moments throughout the book, some positive and some a bit more sad. I love how Rebecca writes such relatable and likeable characters, it’s such an important aspect for me when I read, if I don’t like the characters or relate to them in any way, then it can be really hard for me to continue reading.
The men throughout this book definitely represented the reality of the dating pool in this climate, and I could relate to every single experience that Alice had in her love life. Especially the types of men you encounter as a single woman.
I laughed out loud at so many moments in this book and had a right giggle. I absolutely love when a book can do that!! I don’t re-read books but I feel like if I was to re-read anything on my shelves, I would probably choose this one. It was a rollercoaster of emotions for me, but it made me laugh more than any ever books has done in the past.
I adored her debut novel, My extra(ordinary) Life, and I loved this one just as much, if not, more! It was such a comfortable and easy read.
It kept me hooked and I was SOOOO invested in the characters’ stories and the relationships between all of them. There were so many relatable moments throughout the book, some positive and some a bit more sad. I love how Rebecca writes such relatable and likeable characters, it’s such an important aspect for me when I read, if I don’t like the characters or relate to them in any way, then it can be really hard for me to continue reading.
The men throughout this book definitely represented the reality of the dating pool in this climate, and I could relate to every single experience that Alice had in her love life. Especially the types of men you encounter as a single woman.
I laughed out loud at so many moments in this book and had a right giggle. I absolutely love when a book can do that!! I don’t re-read books but I feel like if I was to re-read anything on my shelves, I would probably choose this one. It was a rollercoaster of emotions for me, but it made me laugh more than any ever books has done in the past.
November 9, 2023
I have been eagerly awaiting Rebecca Ryan's second book, as I loved My Extra (Ordinary) Life, and The Philosophy of Love did not disappoint. With her trademark wry humour, this smart, sparky story kept me reading - and laughing out loud. As Alice works her way from jilted and bruised (all the boos for her ex, Charles) to strong and independent, she makes firm friendships and forges a place at the heart of her community.
I could picture Alice’s haphazard stints as a waitress and loved accompanying her on her outings as she finds her new identity, from hair dye disasters to bingo nights and the high glamour of a toddler play centre – not to mention a few truly bad first dates. Rebecca Ryan writes with heart, wit and a good dash of northern soul and, although you might have an inkling of how her broken heart gets mended, this story sweeps you along to its conclusion and doesn’t shy away from serious issues of emotional abuse and gaslighting. Touching and true, this is a warm hug of a book.
I could picture Alice’s haphazard stints as a waitress and loved accompanying her on her outings as she finds her new identity, from hair dye disasters to bingo nights and the high glamour of a toddler play centre – not to mention a few truly bad first dates. Rebecca Ryan writes with heart, wit and a good dash of northern soul and, although you might have an inkling of how her broken heart gets mended, this story sweeps you along to its conclusion and doesn’t shy away from serious issues of emotional abuse and gaslighting. Touching and true, this is a warm hug of a book.
November 11, 2023
I loved this book. It was such a good read with fab characters. I really liked the family and friends aspect of this book. It was nice to see Alice’s relationship with her mum and that they got on so well, and that both MCs came from loving families.
The romance felt real and I really liked that they grew into the relationship rather than it being insta love.
This book gave a whole range of emotions from anger to how Alice’s ex treated her, to all the feels when she and Luke got together, and then the comedy that was provided by Joanie.
5 star read.
Thanks to NetGalley and Rebecca Ryan for the ARC
The romance felt real and I really liked that they grew into the relationship rather than it being insta love.
This book gave a whole range of emotions from anger to how Alice’s ex treated her, to all the feels when she and Luke got together, and then the comedy that was provided by Joanie.
5 star read.
Thanks to NetGalley and Rebecca Ryan for the ARC
December 15, 2023
[TW: domestic violence/coercive control]
I feel honoured to have been approved to read an ARC copy of this book via Net Galley. To be released in February 2024!
I loved this book, I loved the characters, and I enjoyed the relatability of the characters and situations depicted in the story.
It was a fabulous feel good romantic novel, which combines important themes of domestic violence and narcissism.
I enjoyed everything about this book, it tugged on all emotions and I couldn't put it down!
🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟 (5 stars!)
I feel honoured to have been approved to read an ARC copy of this book via Net Galley. To be released in February 2024!
I loved this book, I loved the characters, and I enjoyed the relatability of the characters and situations depicted in the story.
It was a fabulous feel good romantic novel, which combines important themes of domestic violence and narcissism.
I enjoyed everything about this book, it tugged on all emotions and I couldn't put it down!
🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟 (5 stars!)
June 11, 2024
Oh how I love this book. When I finished it I just felt my heart was so full and content and that’s exactly how I think how love should feel 💜 I loved Rebecca’s writing style in My (Extra) Ordinary life and this felt like a development on that. I felt the pace, character development, community building and the way things unraveled and realisations were made along the way felt so right. I found myself laughing and sighing and ‘hmm’ing so much throughout the book and felt so involved in the story that this had to be a 5 star rating for me 🥰
February 25, 2024
I’m sure some people will like this book but it was nottttt for me. Most of the story felt way more like women’s fic than romance, with the main themes all being about personal growth and the MC believing in herself. I found Alice (the MC) irritating throughout the book, her sense of humour felt very immature and she didn’t come across like a real person but rather a bundle of cliches. Luke, the love interest, was bland and we didn’t really see enough of him for me to be invested in him as a character, or to feel any sort of interest in their relationship. Basically it was not for me in any way but if you want a women’s fic story of a woman finding her self worth then this might be the book for you.
I took loads of notes while reading this because things the characters said kept getting on my nerves so here’s a list of all those things so my notes weren’t for nothing:
Thanks to the publisher and Netgalley for letting me read an e-copy in exchange for an honest review.
I took loads of notes while reading this because things the characters said kept getting on my nerves so here’s a list of all those things so my notes weren’t for nothing:
Thanks to the publisher and Netgalley for letting me read an e-copy in exchange for an honest review.
February 3, 2024
What is love? That is a big question and one which Alice would love to know the answer to! She thought she was loved and in love but was badly let down by her partner Charles. Left with no option but to return to her parents’ home and her old bedroom still with her teenage posters on the walls, it’s easy to understand why she feels like a failure. When she unexpectedly runs into Luke, an old schoolmate, they agree on a bet. As a scientist, Luke believes that love is nothing more than a chemical reaction and can easily be explained by science. They agree to date – other people, not each other – and if one of them falls in love, Alice wins the bet.
It was fun accompanying Alice on her various dates. Having been so badly let down, her standards are quite low and she thinks she might as well try dating more or less anyone. This led to some funny situations (I’m particularly thinking of Allan here) but most importantly helped Alice to see what she should be expecting in a loving relationship. Each date showed her some element of what had been wrong with her relationship with Charles. Of course, I was hoping that perhaps Luke might be the man for her but they just seemed to infuriate each other. The romance in the book, when it happened, was perfectly judged.
I loved reading about Alice’s friends and family. Her mum and dad were so loving and supportive of her, showing her what unconditional love is. Her Auntie M was hilarious! I particularly liked her new and younger friend Joanie. When a much loved community hall is threatened with closure, Alice recognises its value for so many people and galvanises the local community into action. I do love a book which brings together such an eclectic mix of people all working for the common good.
It was lovely to see Alice begin to grow as a character as the book went on. She had been put down so much in her previous relationship that she had very low self-esteem and didn’t believe that anyone could really love her just as she was. There is an important message about coercive, abusive relationships permeating the book. As Alice comes to see, love shouldn’t hurt and that is true whether in a physical or emotional sense. As well as looking for love, Alice has to learn to love herself.
The Philosophy of Love is a warm and witty read which will have you laughing out loud at many parts. While family, friendship, community and of course love are central to the story, it also includes more serious themes such as healthy relationships and mental health. Rebecca Ryan once again has written a very engaging book with some fantastic characters.
It was fun accompanying Alice on her various dates. Having been so badly let down, her standards are quite low and she thinks she might as well try dating more or less anyone. This led to some funny situations (I’m particularly thinking of Allan here) but most importantly helped Alice to see what she should be expecting in a loving relationship. Each date showed her some element of what had been wrong with her relationship with Charles. Of course, I was hoping that perhaps Luke might be the man for her but they just seemed to infuriate each other. The romance in the book, when it happened, was perfectly judged.
I loved reading about Alice’s friends and family. Her mum and dad were so loving and supportive of her, showing her what unconditional love is. Her Auntie M was hilarious! I particularly liked her new and younger friend Joanie. When a much loved community hall is threatened with closure, Alice recognises its value for so many people and galvanises the local community into action. I do love a book which brings together such an eclectic mix of people all working for the common good.
It was lovely to see Alice begin to grow as a character as the book went on. She had been put down so much in her previous relationship that she had very low self-esteem and didn’t believe that anyone could really love her just as she was. There is an important message about coercive, abusive relationships permeating the book. As Alice comes to see, love shouldn’t hurt and that is true whether in a physical or emotional sense. As well as looking for love, Alice has to learn to love herself.
The Philosophy of Love is a warm and witty read which will have you laughing out loud at many parts. While family, friendship, community and of course love are central to the story, it also includes more serious themes such as healthy relationships and mental health. Rebecca Ryan once again has written a very engaging book with some fantastic characters.
January 28, 2024
The Philosophy Of Love is another heartwarming, hilarious and relatable read from one of my favourite authors.
Firstly I absolutely loved Alice and enjoyed following her throughout the book. She’s such a lovely, relatable character that I found myself warming to her instantly, wanting to keep reading as I cared about what would happen to her next. Her family were wonderful creations and I loved the way they rallied around to support her, making her get out of the house to experience their interests with them. Her aunt Moira in particular was a very colourful character whose many outlandish sayings often had me laughing out loud and made me wish I had an Aunt Moira in my life.
The book is divided into 6 parts each dedicated to a different man that Alice tries to date to win her bet with Luke. Every date is a chance for Alice to find herself and to discover what she doesn’t like about a man. Some of her experiences had me laughing out loud while others had a poignant edge to them as we discover how much past dating experiences have affected Alice. It was great to see Alice slowly rediscover herself and grow in confidence as the book continues.
Overall I absolutely loved this book and can’t wait to read more from this author in future. There are some surprisingly serious subjects mentioned in this book which took me by surprise but which I think would make this book a great book club read as there would be lots to discuss. I loved watching the different relationships develop and it was fun seeing what would happen with Luke and Alice who I had quickly grown fond of. The ending was brilliant and I closed the book very sad to leave the wonderful characters behind.
Huge thanks to Sara-Jade for inviting me onto the blog tour and for my copy of this book. Having really loved this author’s first book I was a tad nervous to read more from her as I didn’t think I could possibly like another book as much but I was wrong as I absolutely loved this one too!
Firstly I absolutely loved Alice and enjoyed following her throughout the book. She’s such a lovely, relatable character that I found myself warming to her instantly, wanting to keep reading as I cared about what would happen to her next. Her family were wonderful creations and I loved the way they rallied around to support her, making her get out of the house to experience their interests with them. Her aunt Moira in particular was a very colourful character whose many outlandish sayings often had me laughing out loud and made me wish I had an Aunt Moira in my life.
The book is divided into 6 parts each dedicated to a different man that Alice tries to date to win her bet with Luke. Every date is a chance for Alice to find herself and to discover what she doesn’t like about a man. Some of her experiences had me laughing out loud while others had a poignant edge to them as we discover how much past dating experiences have affected Alice. It was great to see Alice slowly rediscover herself and grow in confidence as the book continues.
Overall I absolutely loved this book and can’t wait to read more from this author in future. There are some surprisingly serious subjects mentioned in this book which took me by surprise but which I think would make this book a great book club read as there would be lots to discuss. I loved watching the different relationships develop and it was fun seeing what would happen with Luke and Alice who I had quickly grown fond of. The ending was brilliant and I closed the book very sad to leave the wonderful characters behind.
Huge thanks to Sara-Jade for inviting me onto the blog tour and for my copy of this book. Having really loved this author’s first book I was a tad nervous to read more from her as I didn’t think I could possibly like another book as much but I was wrong as I absolutely loved this one too!
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