I Can't Wait To Be Patient

by Rob Bell

Are you successful, but can't seem to slow down? Do you have a sense of urgency towards everything? We are designed to get from point A to point B as fast as possible.

However, as a result, we can’t slow down and there is a sense of urgency towards everything. We are bombarded by the urgent, tugged by the future, distracted by the unimportant, and discouraged by the past.

Time is our most precious resource. It's what we want the most, but it's what we use the worst.

I Can’t Wait To Be Patient is a practical guide to overcome our challenges, stress, and expectations, through the power of time and the path of patience.

This book four laws of patience and the four killers to urgency.Why rhythm is more important than speed.Why mortality rates actually decrease when the top surgeons are away.How we mistake the urgent for the important and why it is a recipe for disaster.Why “icing the kicker” in football does not work.Uncover if you have the patient “personality.” You just might. The process requires perspective and the product requires patience.
The path toward a better mental game and mental health is through patience. Patience is recovery of the mind and if you can wait, then you can win!

188 pages, Kindle Edition

Published May 2, 2023

About the author

• Dr. Rob Bell is a noted sport psychology coach, author, and speaker. He has spoken to the NFL, PGA, Marriott, and Walgreens, and has written 8 books on Mental Toughness.


• Rob has worked with 3 different winners on the PGA Tour and has served as the mental coach for University of Notre Dame, Indy Eleven, an Indy 500 champion, an Olympic Silver medalist, a grand slam tennis champion, and the USTA National Champion.

• Dr. Bell has caddied over 20+ events on the PGA & LPGA Tours. He’s an ironman, completed several ultra marathons and a 100-mile trail run.

• He hosts the Mental Toughness Podcast With Dr. Rob Bell and interviews experts on mental heath, mental toughness, and their Hinge moments.

• A fomer university professor Dr. Bell has published over a dozen journal articles and has been featured on ESPN, The Golf Channel, Runner’s World, NY Times and Stack Magazine.

• He is a graduate from of University of Tennessee, Temple University, & Shepherd University. Join on instagram @drrobbell or drrobbell.com

Reviews

[Giana Bender · Rating 3 out of 5]

Making notes of what I found to be important takeaways from this books that I would like to remember. Hiding as spoilers just in case. Lot of good information that can be applied to many aspects of life. I'd say it's worth a read, especially if you are struggling to make the best use of your time, dealing with not feeling as productive/efficient as you could be, or struggle with inaction.


-the way we perceive time is relative, but in reality it all is the same. we can't speed up the bad and prolong the good, we have to experience it all for what it is.
- perception of time varies with age; 5 years to a 10 y/o is half their life, while for an 80 y/o it is a much smaller percentage of their lived experiences. keep this in mind when working with others and trying to understand their urgencies and what they think is important
- action bias is the idea that doing something is better than doing nothing. not always true! example is the hospital study where they showed that when top doctors/surgeons are at conferences, mortality rates tend to drop. this is because the on-call staff are more cautious to take drastic measures and more likely to wait to see if things start to resolve on their own rather than defaulting to procedures just to look like they are doing something.
- urgency DOES NOT EQUAL importance; urgency needs to be focused on an important task to be effective; we get bogged down because we give urgency to things/tasks that are not important
-urgency w/o a purpose/intent/reason is a lunatic - only outcome is more stress, panic, anxiety, overwhelmed, etc.; panic is urgency that has gone awry
-If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.
- excess time kills urgency; w/o urgency, work expands to fill the available time; example of having a task that takes 10 min and group 1 has 15 min to complete and group 2 has 60 min to complete; group 2 will take much longer to finish simply because time allows for it; shows that you need to be deliberate with your scheduling and avoid getting bogged down with trivial things
- acceptance is not a negative thing; it allows you to focus on the facts of what is happening (good or bad) and to see situations clearly; acceptance DOES NOT EQUAL resignation, simply understanding
- confidence leads to patience; with a when, not if attitude, patience is easier because you believe in the process and what the outcomes may be
- be urgent with the process and patient with the results; they will come
-Myers Briggs: J - need hit-and-run time to process changes and doing this minimizes the amount of complaining because you replace it with processing time (tell someone about change and leave for a few min); P - non-committal, bad with too many choices, helps to narrow options down for them or have them say what they do not want because it may be easier to rule a few things out to start

[Calvin Reid · Rating 3 out of 5]

It was ok

[Jithendra Jithu · Rating 5 out of 5]

📚 Book Review: "I Can't Wait To Be Patient" by Dr. Rob Bell 📚

Rating:5/5

Review:

👉In our fast-paced world, Dr. Rob Bell's book is a beacon of wisdom. "I Can't Wait To Be Patient" is a captivating exploration of the modern struggle with urgency and the profound impact that patience can have on our lives.

🕰️ Time is our most precious resource, yet we often misuse it. Dr. Bell eloquently outlines the four laws of patience and identifies the four killers of urgency, revealing why rhythm triumphs over speed.

💡 One of the book's key takeaways is the peril of mistaking the urgent for the important. Dr. Bell illustrates this with real-world examples, such as the surprising decrease in mortality rates when top surgeons take time away.

🧘‍♂️ "I Can't Wait To Be Patient" goes beyond theory and delves into developing a patient "personality." It makes a compelling case that patience is not just a virtue; it's a cornerstone of mental health and personal growth.

📖 This book is a practical guide for anyone seeking to find balance, resilience, and a more patient mindset in today's frenetic world. It's a must-read for those ready to embrace the power of patience and unlock its transformative potential.

#BookReview #PatienceMatters #PersonalGrowth #Mindfulness #MustRead

[Michael Smith · Rating 4 out of 5]

how Dr Bell's book is a short read related to time and mismanagement of it increases stress and anxiety which then robs time from us. He talks about we all have 84,600 seconds in a day and if taken a full accounting we as individual waste most of it. An interesting chart he uses is that based on a lifespan of an average of 80 years we have 29,220 days. The big question is how effectively will you use them. It's about time management in order to get the best return on the investment. He identifies robbers of time like saying yes to others when we really would prefer to say no. We understand that yes might help others but it robs us from completion of something we had planned. He talks briefly about the Myers-Brigs analysis and how J's are super focused to the point that any disruption throws them totally off schedule and they don't adapt to change easily. Where P's go with the flow. Bell also brings in different life figures to solidify his points. Good quick read that presents the reader a lot to think about. Might be a good read for a college student.

[Naman Gupta · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book emphasizes the importance of patience in achieving our goals and even in everyday life.
The author has talked in detail about the importance of "Important Urgencies" & shared the 4 threats to them. Also, he has shared the 4 laws of patience which will help you attain this virtue in your life.

This book is for you if:
1- You feel like you do a lot but still are not able to achieve your goals.
2- What is action bias and how it can make your goals difficult to achieve?
3- How to be patient towards the outcome in this world full of distractions?
4- If you want to understand and improve your relationship with time.
and much more gems are hidden in this book.

[R. Hollis]

Educational, fun, inspirational

First, the chapters are short. That makes for easier digestion of the information within. Each ends with a relevant note and begins with a relevant quote. Being the history buff I am, I adored the story about George Washington. My first hero, I knew the story of his only surrender and the story of the horses being shot out from under him during a later battle. Still loved reading it again! And the story of the twin towers heroes had me crying. Love the book and the inspirational way that patience is taught throughout!

[Rashmi · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is one of the best books to understand the importance of patience in one's life to achieve your goals. The author has shared some remarkable examples from history and the sports world as well to explain his concepts in an easy way.
This book made me realize that we often keep ourselves busy in unimportant urgencies and think that we are doing some valuable tasks, then wonder why we were not able to achieve our main tasks.
One can read it to learn how to be patient.

[jad dellel · Rating 5 out of 5]

Excellent book about patience

What a great book about this underestimated virtue nowadays: patience.
The book has many examples and stories that illustrate the important concepts, I liked the inspirational quotes and the reference to spirituality and sacred books.
Be patient and complete reading the book, it deserves it!

[Jim Hardison · Rating 5 out of 5]

Thoughtful, Insightful, and Useful

This is an excellent read, crammed full of great information and practical tips about how to develop a healthier relationship with time.

[Brandon Zimmerman · Rating 5 out of 5]

Lots of great content that you can apply to many aspects of life!

[Ash · Rating 5 out of 5]

Excellent Book!

"I Can't Wait To Be Patient" is not just a self-help book; it's a call to redefine our relationship with time and reevaluate our priorities. Dr. Bell's insights and strategies are applicable to various aspects of life, from personal relationships to professional endeavors. By practicing patience, readers will discover newfound clarity, improved decision-making skills, and a deeper appreciation for the present moment.

The author’s writing style is engaging and accessible, making the book an enjoyable and enlightening read. His expertise and experience shine through, as he seamlessly blends research-based insights with personal anecdotes and practical exercises. The book is well-structured, guiding readers through the exploration of patience step by step, ensuring a comprehensive understanding of the concepts presented.

5 Stars.