What do you think?
Rate this book
Don't Ask, Don't Tell #1
Don't Ask, Don't Tell
Staff Sergeant Elijah Jackson, EJ to his friends, joined the air force hoping for refuge from the mess his life had become. For almost 10 years he enjoyed new life, success, and love, in spite of the closet he was forced to hide in by the Don't Ask, Don't Tell military policy. One day it all comes crashing down around him. Now he's back home with serious decisions to make and a very short time to decide how to salvage his life while healing his heart. Betrayed by his lover and partner, Dr. Dale Chenault left California and his fledgling practice behind. In Sayville, he's found a home for his counseling service, and on the surface, seems to have his life in order. The truth is some of the decisions Dale made have become a stumbling block in his ability to rebuild the breach in his heart and, by extension, his life. When Dale and EJ, meet, the chemistry between them is hot, but the pain of past betrayals is strong, and trust seems impossible to build. Will they be able to move past what has been to create a future together? Don't Ask Don't Tell is a story of love, trust, betrayal and second chances with an HEA.
140 pages, Paperback
First published August 8, 2018
20 people are currently reading
114 people want to read
About the author
Miski Harris
17 books177 followersMiski Harris was born and raised in New York City with her younger brother and sister. She became and worked as a critical care nurse, served in the military, raised five amazing sons and traveled to other countries, sometimes, all at the same time. When Miski sets her mind to achieve something there is no force on earth that can stop her.
Through all the organized chaos that has often defined her life her one constant has been her love of books. Reading has always been a mainstay in her life and she is rarely seen without her Nook on which she has reportedly downloaded over 2,000 books. A woman of boundless imagination, she has always desired to give life to the characters who maintained residence in her imagination. With that in mind, she has finally put pen in hand to fulfill a lifelong desire to write books of her own.
Ask anyone who knows Miski to use one word to describe her and they would say fierce. A prior military commander once defined her as a “tender warrior”. Friends, patients, and associates have always found a strong advocate in this woman who is not afraid to speak her mind.
Miski believes three things: challenge is just another word to define worlds to conquer and lines to cross; love and faith are the most powerful forces in the universe, and the only thing that hinders success is to fail to try. With that in mind, she invites you to join her in a world where love is second to nothing and life is the greatest adventure of all.
Through all the organized chaos that has often defined her life her one constant has been her love of books. Reading has always been a mainstay in her life and she is rarely seen without her Nook on which she has reportedly downloaded over 2,000 books. A woman of boundless imagination, she has always desired to give life to the characters who maintained residence in her imagination. With that in mind, she has finally put pen in hand to fulfill a lifelong desire to write books of her own.
Ask anyone who knows Miski to use one word to describe her and they would say fierce. A prior military commander once defined her as a “tender warrior”. Friends, patients, and associates have always found a strong advocate in this woman who is not afraid to speak her mind.
Miski believes three things: challenge is just another word to define worlds to conquer and lines to cross; love and faith are the most powerful forces in the universe, and the only thing that hinders success is to fail to try. With that in mind, she invites you to join her in a world where love is second to nothing and life is the greatest adventure of all.
Ratings & Reviews
Friends & Following
Create a free account to discover what your friends think of this book!
Community Reviews
Displaying 1 - 30 of 51 reviews
August 1, 2018
Don’t Ask Don’t Tell is a charming little story as well as a good, and at times disturbing look at how things used to be before DADT was withdrawn. It is also the tale of two men who have been burned by love in the past and slowly find their way towards trust again.
Poor EJ. While we are a good bit into the story before we find out what exactly happened to not only break his heart but also upset and derail all his plans for the future, it is clear from the start that he has been devastated. So much so that he can’t even bring himself to confide in his best friend or his always supportive parents. Dale’s heartbreak is less openly visible when we first meet him. It lies further in the past and at first he comes across as self-assured and confident. But, his romantic history has left him cautious and wary of jumping in too soon.
It takes time, getting to know each other and discovering that their instant attraction doesn’t diminish over the weeks they spend together for the two men to see that they could be more than good friends. EJ opening up to Dale and explaining exactly what has happened to him is a pivotal point in their coming together, and a heartbreaking moment to read for the reader.
I liked that we had two not quite young men dealing with pain in a realistic and ultimately satisfying way. I found myself drawn to both men and rooting for them from the moment they first met. And to say their form of happily ever after left me with a huge smile on my face would be an understatement.
It was clear that the author knows her business when it comes to military/Air Force matters, and she managed to share her knowledge in such a way it was an integral part of the story rather than a lesson in all things military. I always enjoy learning new stuff while blissfully unaware I’m being taught anything.
Personally I wouldn’t have minded if the author had taken a bit more time/words with the aftermath of EJ and Dale starting their relationship. An awful lot happens there in what felt like only a few pages. But, that minor concern didn’t diminish my reading enjoyment or satisfaction when I finished the story at all.
I’m rather impressed with Misky Harris’s debut story and am eagerly awaiting what she may come up with next.
Poor EJ. While we are a good bit into the story before we find out what exactly happened to not only break his heart but also upset and derail all his plans for the future, it is clear from the start that he has been devastated. So much so that he can’t even bring himself to confide in his best friend or his always supportive parents. Dale’s heartbreak is less openly visible when we first meet him. It lies further in the past and at first he comes across as self-assured and confident. But, his romantic history has left him cautious and wary of jumping in too soon.
It takes time, getting to know each other and discovering that their instant attraction doesn’t diminish over the weeks they spend together for the two men to see that they could be more than good friends. EJ opening up to Dale and explaining exactly what has happened to him is a pivotal point in their coming together, and a heartbreaking moment to read for the reader.
I liked that we had two not quite young men dealing with pain in a realistic and ultimately satisfying way. I found myself drawn to both men and rooting for them from the moment they first met. And to say their form of happily ever after left me with a huge smile on my face would be an understatement.
It was clear that the author knows her business when it comes to military/Air Force matters, and she managed to share her knowledge in such a way it was an integral part of the story rather than a lesson in all things military. I always enjoy learning new stuff while blissfully unaware I’m being taught anything.
Personally I wouldn’t have minded if the author had taken a bit more time/words with the aftermath of EJ and Dale starting their relationship. An awful lot happens there in what felt like only a few pages. But, that minor concern didn’t diminish my reading enjoyment or satisfaction when I finished the story at all.
I’m rather impressed with Misky Harris’s debut story and am eagerly awaiting what she may come up with next.
July 6, 2018
Delve into the recent past and see just how the Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell ruling truly affected enlisted men and women.
When his past comes back to haunt him, Dale, aka Dr. Chenault has to make decisions about his life that he thought he had made long ago.
EJ realizes that the man he knows as Dale is actually a person who he feels betrayed him he has to decide whether to go forward with this relationship or move on.
Great new novel by Miski Harris. I’ll look forward to more by this talented author.
When his past comes back to haunt him, Dale, aka Dr. Chenault has to make decisions about his life that he thought he had made long ago.
EJ realizes that the man he knows as Dale is actually a person who he feels betrayed him he has to decide whether to go forward with this relationship or move on.
Great new novel by Miski Harris. I’ll look forward to more by this talented author.
September 24, 2018
A Joyfully Jay review.
2.75 stars
I liked this idea from the beginning because I have a special place in my heart for self-published books. When I read the blurb for Don’t Ask Don’t Tell, I was immediately drawn in. I liked the idea of a story taking place in the middle of the Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell military period. I’ve read a lot of books that take place after so I thought it would be an interesting change of pace. I’m sad to say I didn’t connect to this one, and it left me feeling a bit disappointed.
EJ and Dale are nice guys, but I didn’t really feel much for them and I had a difficult time believing in their romance. Sure, there’s a such thing as love at first sight/insta love, but I felt like their relationship began and went on at a breakneck speed. I don’t think I had enough time to feel invested in them as a couple. I will give Dale some credit for planning a romantic first date, and I admire the men for deciding not to jump into a complete sexual situation even though they really, really wanted to. However, I didn’t get a sense of attachment like I’ve had with other couples.
Read Kenna’s review in its entirety here.
2.75 stars
I liked this idea from the beginning because I have a special place in my heart for self-published books. When I read the blurb for Don’t Ask Don’t Tell, I was immediately drawn in. I liked the idea of a story taking place in the middle of the Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell military period. I’ve read a lot of books that take place after so I thought it would be an interesting change of pace. I’m sad to say I didn’t connect to this one, and it left me feeling a bit disappointed.
EJ and Dale are nice guys, but I didn’t really feel much for them and I had a difficult time believing in their romance. Sure, there’s a such thing as love at first sight/insta love, but I felt like their relationship began and went on at a breakneck speed. I don’t think I had enough time to feel invested in them as a couple. I will give Dale some credit for planning a romantic first date, and I admire the men for deciding not to jump into a complete sexual situation even though they really, really wanted to. However, I didn’t get a sense of attachment like I’ve had with other couples.
Read Kenna’s review in its entirety here.
August 9, 2018
Cette nouvelle de Misky Harris se déroule à la fin des années 90, fin 97/début 98 plus précisément, à une époque où la politique américaine du Don't Ask Don't Tell est en vigueur. Signé par Bill Clinton en 1993, le DADT est censé 'protéger' les droits des militaires gays & lesbiens. En gros, les recrues homos ont le droit d'être dans l'armée, MAIS doivent faire profil bas si elles veulent garder leur place dans les rangs de l'armée. S'ils sont outés, ils sont mutés, rétrogradés, poussés vers la sortie, c'est aussi simple et dégueulasse que cela.
Et c'est ce qui arrive à EJ au début de la nouvelle. Il travaille dans la branche de l'aviation américaine depuis 8 ans, en mission au Japon, sur la base d'Okinawa. Il vit une histoire sérieuse avec James, un autre militaire et évidemment tous deux se planquent et usent de nombreux subterfuges pour ne jamais se faire remarquer. EJ tombe de haut lorsqu'il est convoqué dans le bureau d'un de ses supérieurs et se fait renvoyer au pays avec un ultimatum : soit il quitte l'armée, soit il accepte une mutation, qui ne sera évidemment pas en sa faveur. Histoire d'en rajouter une couche, James est quant à lui promu, et n'a aucune intention de soutenir son mec.
EJ rentre donc chez lui, honteux et dévasté. Il demande à son meilleur ami Teddy de l'héberger et lui fait promettre de ne pas dire à ses parents qu'il est de retour. EJ veut digérer ce qui lui arrive et prendre une décision avant de faire face à ses parents, qui sont pourtant des soutiens indéfectibles.
Dale et lui se rencontrent lors d'une soirée, et entre eux c'est l'insta love. S'ils décident d'y aller lentement, parce qu'ils tous les deux été échaudés sentimentalement parlant, j'ai trouvé que ça allait quand même super vite entre eux, avec des déclarations d'amour et des projets d'avenir au bout de quelques jours à peine ... Ceci dit, ils sont mignons et romantiques, ce qui donne un ton très doux à la romance. Leur relation est très fluffy, et une part de celle-ci est juste mentionnée, on ne la voit pas évoluer tant que ça, du coup, cela renforce pour moi le sentiment que tout va très vite entre eux.
Dale est à même d'aider EJ dans son cheminement, puisque non seulement il est psy, mais en plus, il dirige un centre qui accueille les militaires qui ont traversé/traversent les mêmes problèmes qu'EJ. J'aurais aimé que l'auteur s'attarde davantage sur les ravages causés par le DADT, car on voit EJ à bout, il suffoque de devoir se cacher en permanence et renier qui il est. D'ailleurs, Dale résume très bien ce sentiment éprouvé par les soldats :
Cependant, on est dans une nouvelle de 110 pages, il ne faut donc pas s'attendre à ce que la dimension psychologique soit creusée de fond en comble. Je pense que cela suffira à la plupart des lecteurs, mais ma préférence allant vers des récits plus émotionnels encore, j'avoue que je suis restée sur ma faim sur ce point.
Pour un premier récit, Miski Harris nous offre une nouvelle agréable. Je n'y ai pas trouvé tout ce que je cherchais, mais c'était assez mignon et fluffy, avec un épilogue permettant de voir l'évolution de leur relation à plus long terme (même si je ne vois pas absolument pas l'intérêt du détail des dernières lignes ...)
Et c'est ce qui arrive à EJ au début de la nouvelle. Il travaille dans la branche de l'aviation américaine depuis 8 ans, en mission au Japon, sur la base d'Okinawa. Il vit une histoire sérieuse avec James, un autre militaire et évidemment tous deux se planquent et usent de nombreux subterfuges pour ne jamais se faire remarquer. EJ tombe de haut lorsqu'il est convoqué dans le bureau d'un de ses supérieurs et se fait renvoyer au pays avec un ultimatum : soit il quitte l'armée, soit il accepte une mutation, qui ne sera évidemment pas en sa faveur. Histoire d'en rajouter une couche, James est quant à lui promu, et n'a aucune intention de soutenir son mec.
EJ rentre donc chez lui, honteux et dévasté. Il demande à son meilleur ami Teddy de l'héberger et lui fait promettre de ne pas dire à ses parents qu'il est de retour. EJ veut digérer ce qui lui arrive et prendre une décision avant de faire face à ses parents, qui sont pourtant des soutiens indéfectibles.
Dale et lui se rencontrent lors d'une soirée, et entre eux c'est l'insta love. S'ils décident d'y aller lentement, parce qu'ils tous les deux été échaudés sentimentalement parlant, j'ai trouvé que ça allait quand même super vite entre eux, avec des déclarations d'amour et des projets d'avenir au bout de quelques jours à peine ... Ceci dit, ils sont mignons et romantiques, ce qui donne un ton très doux à la romance. Leur relation est très fluffy, et une part de celle-ci est juste mentionnée, on ne la voit pas évoluer tant que ça, du coup, cela renforce pour moi le sentiment que tout va très vite entre eux.
Dale est à même d'aider EJ dans son cheminement, puisque non seulement il est psy, mais en plus, il dirige un centre qui accueille les militaires qui ont traversé/traversent les mêmes problèmes qu'EJ. J'aurais aimé que l'auteur s'attarde davantage sur les ravages causés par le DADT, car on voit EJ à bout, il suffoque de devoir se cacher en permanence et renier qui il est. D'ailleurs, Dale résume très bien ce sentiment éprouvé par les soldats :
"A closet gives you room to breathe. We call Don't Ask, Don't Tell a footlocker, barely enough room for the body."
Cependant, on est dans une nouvelle de 110 pages, il ne faut donc pas s'attendre à ce que la dimension psychologique soit creusée de fond en comble. Je pense que cela suffira à la plupart des lecteurs, mais ma préférence allant vers des récits plus émotionnels encore, j'avoue que je suis restée sur ma faim sur ce point.
Pour un premier récit, Miski Harris nous offre une nouvelle agréable. Je n'y ai pas trouvé tout ce que je cherchais, mais c'était assez mignon et fluffy, avec un épilogue permettant de voir l'évolution de leur relation à plus long terme (même si je ne vois pas absolument pas l'intérêt du détail des dernières lignes ...)
April 17, 2020
Audiobook review:
Overall: 5
Performance: 5
Story: 5
I loved this!
One of my favorite audiobook performers, John Solo, did a live reading of Miski Harris's Don't Ask Don't Tell in his Facebook group recently. John's live reading was enough to get me very interested and eager to listen to this book. He really gave the story high marks and I respect his opinion.
As part of the live reading, Miski gave away a few codes for Audible copies of the book; I was lucky enough to win one. When I checked my Kindle library, I also found out that I had purchased a copy of the book a while ago. (I'm a one-click addict and own way more books than I'll ever live to read. 😊)
Don't Ask Don't Tell is a novella length story but it felt like it was much longer to me (in a good way!). The story starts off in 1997 and spans four years. It centers around Elijah Jackson (EJ) and Dale Chenault.
EJ was in the Air Force and was betrayed by his lover who was also in the Air Force. The betrayal cut deep and forced EJ to reexamine his life and goals. Dale suffered a similar betrayal by a lover many years ago so he understood what EJ was going through. The two of them met at a party and really hit it off with each other.
The embarrassment and anguish that EJ goes through radiated off of the pages. It's really hard for me to believe that this was Miski Harris's first published book. I thought the writing was excellent and the story truly kept me captivated from beginning to end.
I would call this a slow burn story. While the chemistry between Dale and EJ was off the charts, Dale had promised himself years ago that he would no longer engage in casual sex. Because he felt that EJ still wasn't over what happened to him, Dale insisted that they wait to have a sexual relationship.
Well, this review is already getting too long so I'm going to stop and just say you need to read or listen to this book. The story is compelling and romantic; I just can't say enough good things about it. I'm really looking forward to reading the next book, Collateral Damage, which I immediately bought a copy of after listening to Don't Ask Don't Tell. I hope that it also comes out in audio format at some point.
Gah! I almost forgot to mention how much I loved John Solo's performance of the audiobook. I've never listened to anything he's performed that I haven't loved!
A copy of this audiobook was provided to me but my review was voluntary and not influenced by the author.
***Reviewed for Xtreme-Delusions dot com***
Overall: 5
Performance: 5
Story: 5
I loved this!
One of my favorite audiobook performers, John Solo, did a live reading of Miski Harris's Don't Ask Don't Tell in his Facebook group recently. John's live reading was enough to get me very interested and eager to listen to this book. He really gave the story high marks and I respect his opinion.
As part of the live reading, Miski gave away a few codes for Audible copies of the book; I was lucky enough to win one. When I checked my Kindle library, I also found out that I had purchased a copy of the book a while ago. (I'm a one-click addict and own way more books than I'll ever live to read. 😊)
Don't Ask Don't Tell is a novella length story but it felt like it was much longer to me (in a good way!). The story starts off in 1997 and spans four years. It centers around Elijah Jackson (EJ) and Dale Chenault.
EJ was in the Air Force and was betrayed by his lover who was also in the Air Force. The betrayal cut deep and forced EJ to reexamine his life and goals. Dale suffered a similar betrayal by a lover many years ago so he understood what EJ was going through. The two of them met at a party and really hit it off with each other.
The embarrassment and anguish that EJ goes through radiated off of the pages. It's really hard for me to believe that this was Miski Harris's first published book. I thought the writing was excellent and the story truly kept me captivated from beginning to end.
I would call this a slow burn story. While the chemistry between Dale and EJ was off the charts, Dale had promised himself years ago that he would no longer engage in casual sex. Because he felt that EJ still wasn't over what happened to him, Dale insisted that they wait to have a sexual relationship.
Well, this review is already getting too long so I'm going to stop and just say you need to read or listen to this book. The story is compelling and romantic; I just can't say enough good things about it. I'm really looking forward to reading the next book, Collateral Damage, which I immediately bought a copy of after listening to Don't Ask Don't Tell. I hope that it also comes out in audio format at some point.
Gah! I almost forgot to mention how much I loved John Solo's performance of the audiobook. I've never listened to anything he's performed that I haven't loved!
A copy of this audiobook was provided to me but my review was voluntary and not influenced by the author.
***Reviewed for Xtreme-Delusions dot com***
August 2, 2018
Don't Ask, Don't Tell is a wonderful romance that takes place during the horrible DADT years.
EJ is home, after being outed in the military, and he has to decide what he wants to do for his future, knowing that every decision has a downside.
Dale is new to town after leaving a cheating partner and has become friends with EJ's best friend, Teddy.
EJ feels like he's suffocating in the closet because of DADT. I love the response he receives after revealing this. "A closet gives you room to breathe. We call Don't Ask, Don't Tell a footlocker, barely enough room for the body." I believe this perfectly sums up DADT.
When EJ and Dale meet, the sparks are there, but both are struggling with their pasts. Despite this, Dale pushes, asking EJ to just give them a chance, feeling they could be something good together. They grow close quick, are wonderful together and make a beautiful relationship.
This isn't an easy read, as DADT had tragic consequences, and we get to see some of them. Fear of being outed led men to betray those they proclaimed to love, leading to hurt and bitterness.
One of my favorite lines is "I can't change the past, but I can learn from it." Obviously, this sentiment holds true for everyone.
My only complaint is that I want more. I would love to read a version that is longer, with more content. Other than that, I love Don't Ask, Don't Tell and am thrilled to have found this book by Miski Harris.
EJ is home, after being outed in the military, and he has to decide what he wants to do for his future, knowing that every decision has a downside.
Dale is new to town after leaving a cheating partner and has become friends with EJ's best friend, Teddy.
EJ feels like he's suffocating in the closet because of DADT. I love the response he receives after revealing this. "A closet gives you room to breathe. We call Don't Ask, Don't Tell a footlocker, barely enough room for the body." I believe this perfectly sums up DADT.
When EJ and Dale meet, the sparks are there, but both are struggling with their pasts. Despite this, Dale pushes, asking EJ to just give them a chance, feeling they could be something good together. They grow close quick, are wonderful together and make a beautiful relationship.
This isn't an easy read, as DADT had tragic consequences, and we get to see some of them. Fear of being outed led men to betray those they proclaimed to love, leading to hurt and bitterness.
One of my favorite lines is "I can't change the past, but I can learn from it." Obviously, this sentiment holds true for everyone.
My only complaint is that I want more. I would love to read a version that is longer, with more content. Other than that, I love Don't Ask, Don't Tell and am thrilled to have found this book by Miski Harris.
August 8, 2018
A second chance book set when DADT was still in place. Both MCs, Elijah and Dale, have experienced betrayal and this makes it difficult for them to trust one another and move on.
The couple struggle with admitting their attraction to one another, and have a lot to overcome before they can be true to themselves.
It's quite a dramatic story and is also a bit of an eye opener to how difficult it was to be gay in the services at that time. I was impressed with Ms Harris' knowledge, the book had obviously been well researched.
For a debut novel, the writing is quite impressive, if wordy at times, but the basis is there for a good story. I would've liked to have read more about the MCs after they came together. On the whole though, a good effort, with a strong story line, which I enjoyed. I would certainly seek out more of this lady's books in the future. A solid 3 and a half stars.
The couple struggle with admitting their attraction to one another, and have a lot to overcome before they can be true to themselves.
It's quite a dramatic story and is also a bit of an eye opener to how difficult it was to be gay in the services at that time. I was impressed with Ms Harris' knowledge, the book had obviously been well researched.
For a debut novel, the writing is quite impressive, if wordy at times, but the basis is there for a good story. I would've liked to have read more about the MCs after they came together. On the whole though, a good effort, with a strong story line, which I enjoyed. I would certainly seek out more of this lady's books in the future. A solid 3 and a half stars.
August 5, 2018
i really enjoyed this story, which is set in the late 90s. EJ is in the airforce in the era of DADT and he runs into trouble when he is outed.
He goes to stay with his best friend but refuses to speak about why he is home, even though it is obvious that he is hurting.
EJ and Dale meet at a party and sparks immediately fly between the two. Both, however, have been hurt and even though EJ initially tries to push Dale away, Dale just pushes back. They decide to take things slowly and before long EJ's walls start to come down and both men begin to open up to each other more.
I will definitely look out for more books by this author.
He goes to stay with his best friend but refuses to speak about why he is home, even though it is obvious that he is hurting.
EJ and Dale meet at a party and sparks immediately fly between the two. Both, however, have been hurt and even though EJ initially tries to push Dale away, Dale just pushes back. They decide to take things slowly and before long EJ's walls start to come down and both men begin to open up to each other more.
I will definitely look out for more books by this author.
August 7, 2018
A sensational book the writing was good. The plot was entertaining and it was steady throughout the book. I found the story and characters likeable. The characters were developed and thought out. Dale and EJ are the MC’s of this book. There was humor, betrayal, family and friends, a motorcycle, secrets and lies, Christmas lights and Santa Clause and more in this book. I can recommend this book as a short but good read. I voluntarily read an advance copy of this book for an honest review.
August 14, 2023
Quick But Good
This may be a quick story but it was definitely an interesting one. This sweet hurt/comfort story pulled me in from the start. I'm looking forward to more from this series.
I received an ARC and this is my unbiased opinion
This may be a quick story but it was definitely an interesting one. This sweet hurt/comfort story pulled me in from the start. I'm looking forward to more from this series.
I received an ARC and this is my unbiased opinion
March 19, 2020
4.5*
It's a good story. In the middle of don't ask don't tell, a lot of gay people had to feel like they were being forced back into a closet they didn't want to be in. Or they were someone's dirty secret. It was horrible. And even to this day, after all of it has passed. It's still hard. It's a shame how people's bigotry affects other people. It's stupid and downright hateful. But this was a good story.
It's a good story. In the middle of don't ask don't tell, a lot of gay people had to feel like they were being forced back into a closet they didn't want to be in. Or they were someone's dirty secret. It was horrible. And even to this day, after all of it has passed. It's still hard. It's a shame how people's bigotry affects other people. It's stupid and downright hateful. But this was a good story.
February 6, 2020
Fear, betrayal, and emotional distress were rampant during the era of “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell”. Wikipedia defines DADT as “The policy that prohibited military personnel from discriminating against or harassing closeted homosexual or bisexual service members or applicants, while barring openly gay, lesbian, or bisexual persons from military service”. Miski Harris’s fact-based fictional story, Don’t Ask Don’t Tell is a firsthand account depicting the stress and mental anguish Staff Sargent Elijah Jackson (EJ) endures because of DADT.
EJ has a plans for his future, unfortunately those plans are the very thing that precipitate his military demise via a horrific display of betrayal. Devastation has him reeling, trying to sort out his life and next steps. Collapsing inward, EJ avoids his family and friends. Thankfully, his best friend, Teddy is there to support him regardless.
Betrayal of a different nature relocates Dr. Dale Chenault to the sleepy little town of Sayville. Here he runs Changes, a counseling service and outreach program for gay service members and veterans, especially those struggling with the effects of Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell. Dale proudly proclaims, “‘I have odd eyes, brassy red hair, I’m built like a bean pole, and I love iconic T-shirts’”.
When EJ and Dale meet the connection is immediate and intense. The spark sizzles despite the insecurities each harbor. That is until EJ discovers that Dale unknowingly, and without malice, triggers his self-loathing, threatening to break a promise he has made to himself. He will not repeat his past mistakes expecting a different outcome.
Fortunately for EJ, Dale is persistent in working to build a friendship with EJ. A pivotal moment occurs when EJ lets his guard down and reveals the events bringing him to his current mental state. The moment is beautiful, if not heartbreaking, as you wonder what the heck is wrong with people, why love between two men is an issue and why DADT was even implemented in the first place.
EJ and Dale deal with their pasts differently, but the course is right for them individually. In a twist of fate, the old adage of “It’s a small world” brings a satisfying and smug version of karma on those who have wronged EJ. While I am glad these men got a taste of their own medicine, I can’t help but feel sorry and have some pity for them.
I enjoyed this story, even though it was hard to read at times. While I was never subjected to DADT, being a gay man in the 80s and 90s, so much of it hit home. The struggle and fear the pages of Don’t Ask Don’t Tell depict is real. Knowing who to trust for your own preservation weighs heavily on your soul. And the act of betrayal, well that is completely unforgivable.
This is a magnificent debut novel from Miski Harris and I’m excited to see what comes next in Collateral Damage, book 2 in the Don’t Ask Don’t Tell series. I had so much invested in these men that the only thing that could have made this story better is a view into their happiness after all they endure.
EJ has a plans for his future, unfortunately those plans are the very thing that precipitate his military demise via a horrific display of betrayal. Devastation has him reeling, trying to sort out his life and next steps. Collapsing inward, EJ avoids his family and friends. Thankfully, his best friend, Teddy is there to support him regardless.
Betrayal of a different nature relocates Dr. Dale Chenault to the sleepy little town of Sayville. Here he runs Changes, a counseling service and outreach program for gay service members and veterans, especially those struggling with the effects of Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell. Dale proudly proclaims, “‘I have odd eyes, brassy red hair, I’m built like a bean pole, and I love iconic T-shirts’”.
When EJ and Dale meet the connection is immediate and intense. The spark sizzles despite the insecurities each harbor. That is until EJ discovers that Dale unknowingly, and without malice, triggers his self-loathing, threatening to break a promise he has made to himself. He will not repeat his past mistakes expecting a different outcome.
Fortunately for EJ, Dale is persistent in working to build a friendship with EJ. A pivotal moment occurs when EJ lets his guard down and reveals the events bringing him to his current mental state. The moment is beautiful, if not heartbreaking, as you wonder what the heck is wrong with people, why love between two men is an issue and why DADT was even implemented in the first place.
EJ and Dale deal with their pasts differently, but the course is right for them individually. In a twist of fate, the old adage of “It’s a small world” brings a satisfying and smug version of karma on those who have wronged EJ. While I am glad these men got a taste of their own medicine, I can’t help but feel sorry and have some pity for them.
I enjoyed this story, even though it was hard to read at times. While I was never subjected to DADT, being a gay man in the 80s and 90s, so much of it hit home. The struggle and fear the pages of Don’t Ask Don’t Tell depict is real. Knowing who to trust for your own preservation weighs heavily on your soul. And the act of betrayal, well that is completely unforgivable.
This is a magnificent debut novel from Miski Harris and I’m excited to see what comes next in Collateral Damage, book 2 in the Don’t Ask Don’t Tell series. I had so much invested in these men that the only thing that could have made this story better is a view into their happiness after all they endure.
April 14, 2020
Awesome Story & Audible Listen🎧 Captivating & Heartfelt!
Don’t Ask Don't Tell
Don't Ask, Don't Tell, Book 1
By: Miski Harris
Narrated by: John Solo
I loved everything about this book, from Miski Harris’ wonderful writing style to the story and characters she created to John Solo’s fantastic narration. This is a well written and well told story about love, loss, betrayal and coming back from it all. The storylines and characters are realistic and easy to relate to. Staff Sargent Elijah Jackson, EJ for short, was having a good life, his career in the Air Force is a success he is on target with meeting his goals. Despite the “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” policy in the military he has found love and is cautious about keeping it hidden. At least he thought he was, when called in to the General’s Office he finds out otherwise and is given an ultimatum, transfer or leave the military. And his partner, James, was on track for his promotion. My heart went out to EJ, especially after finding out what really happened. EJ heads back home, stays with his awesome friend Teddy, whom I just loved. Teddy introduces EJ to Dale, whom I adored too. The two hit it off right from the start but each have been burned in the past so they take it slow. EJ needs to come to terms with everything that happened, needs to tell his family and make the decision of what he wants to do, reenlist or leave. I loved how everything plays out and works out, the story flows naturally and there is never a dull moment with plenty of drama, some angst, both heartbreaking and heartfelt moments and some great ones too. I especially loved the ending. Miski Harris, thank you for this awesome story and emotional rollercoaster ride.
I listened to the Audible edition, John Solo is a gifted narrator and voice artist. He brings the character to life giving each their own voice and personality. I loved how he portrayed each character, how he humanized them by giving them a whole lot of heart, their emotions and mannerisms can be heard in his performance. He is an entertaining storyteller and a pleasure to listen to. Thank you for another awesome listen🎧
Don’t Ask Don't Tell
Don't Ask, Don't Tell, Book 1
By: Miski Harris
Narrated by: John Solo
I loved everything about this book, from Miski Harris’ wonderful writing style to the story and characters she created to John Solo’s fantastic narration. This is a well written and well told story about love, loss, betrayal and coming back from it all. The storylines and characters are realistic and easy to relate to. Staff Sargent Elijah Jackson, EJ for short, was having a good life, his career in the Air Force is a success he is on target with meeting his goals. Despite the “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” policy in the military he has found love and is cautious about keeping it hidden. At least he thought he was, when called in to the General’s Office he finds out otherwise and is given an ultimatum, transfer or leave the military. And his partner, James, was on track for his promotion. My heart went out to EJ, especially after finding out what really happened. EJ heads back home, stays with his awesome friend Teddy, whom I just loved. Teddy introduces EJ to Dale, whom I adored too. The two hit it off right from the start but each have been burned in the past so they take it slow. EJ needs to come to terms with everything that happened, needs to tell his family and make the decision of what he wants to do, reenlist or leave. I loved how everything plays out and works out, the story flows naturally and there is never a dull moment with plenty of drama, some angst, both heartbreaking and heartfelt moments and some great ones too. I especially loved the ending. Miski Harris, thank you for this awesome story and emotional rollercoaster ride.
I listened to the Audible edition, John Solo is a gifted narrator and voice artist. He brings the character to life giving each their own voice and personality. I loved how he portrayed each character, how he humanized them by giving them a whole lot of heart, their emotions and mannerisms can be heard in his performance. He is an entertaining storyteller and a pleasure to listen to. Thank you for another awesome listen🎧
August 20, 2018
A free copy of this book was provided by the author in exchange for an honest review.
EJ is a man at a crossroads. He has dedicated the last 8 years of his life to serving in the Air Force under DADT. He and his partner of 3 years, James, were ready to face dishonorable discharge and build a life together. Something happened, however, that interrupted their plans. Instead of leaving the Air Force with James, EJ leaves alone. He reaches out to his best friend Teddy to stay with him, but refuses to tell him what happened other than the choice he has to make: re-enlist or be discharged.
As we slowly learn more about EJ and the secrets he harbors, we begin to see how deep and insidious the trauma of serving under DADT can be. Fortunately, Teddy happens to work in an agency that specializes in helping servicemen recover from these wounds. Through Teddy's connection to this agency, EJ meets Dale - someone who is kind, compassionate, and willing to help him face what happened with his relationship and his career.
Harris packs a lot into this short novella. I appreciated EJ's journey as he slowly comes to terms with his experience. I was particularly touched by the support that he receives. It's a powerful reminder that there are people who are there for you even when you feel most alone. The chemistry between the EJ and Dale is also undeniable, and I enjoyed spending time with them.
A nice first publication by this author.
"A closet gives you room to breathe. We call Don't Ask, Don't Tell a footlocker, barely enough room for the body."
EJ is a man at a crossroads. He has dedicated the last 8 years of his life to serving in the Air Force under DADT. He and his partner of 3 years, James, were ready to face dishonorable discharge and build a life together. Something happened, however, that interrupted their plans. Instead of leaving the Air Force with James, EJ leaves alone. He reaches out to his best friend Teddy to stay with him, but refuses to tell him what happened other than the choice he has to make: re-enlist or be discharged.
As we slowly learn more about EJ and the secrets he harbors, we begin to see how deep and insidious the trauma of serving under DADT can be. Fortunately, Teddy happens to work in an agency that specializes in helping servicemen recover from these wounds. Through Teddy's connection to this agency, EJ meets Dale - someone who is kind, compassionate, and willing to help him face what happened with his relationship and his career.
Harris packs a lot into this short novella. I appreciated EJ's journey as he slowly comes to terms with his experience. I was particularly touched by the support that he receives. It's a powerful reminder that there are people who are there for you even when you feel most alone. The chemistry between the EJ and Dale is also undeniable, and I enjoyed spending time with them.
A nice first publication by this author.
November 29, 2020
For all that this story hit on a lot of sensative subjects, it's not as angst-filled as I'd feared. Instead, the romance revolves around two very different men who deal with DADT from diverse viewpoints, and after the fact.
Learning to trust again is hard, and leaving behind the only life you've known to take a step out of the closet and live as your authentic self is truly daunting, but that's the task our hero EJ faces. His heart needs a light hand, and he finds that in love interest Dr. Dale. There's one big problem: after two bad examples in his life, EJ wants nothing to do with doctors of any kind.
Dr. Dale's patience, and a nudge of EJ's best friend, Teddy--okay, less of a nudge and more of a shove--just might convince EJ to take another chance.
Teddy. Oh, wow, Teddy! Love, love, love this character, and he has stories of his own to tell. I was kind of disappointed that the sequel wasn't about him, because he was larger than life and so endearing. He's the best friend who tells you what you need to hear, not what you want to hear.
It wasn't until after I completed the novella that I discovered that this is a debut work. Really? Pretty darned good debut, let me tell you.
Having grown up as an Army brat to become a Navy mom, I'm familiar with the concepts in this book, and loved how the author took care to add the right amount of details without confusing non-military types.
Learning to trust again is hard, and leaving behind the only life you've known to take a step out of the closet and live as your authentic self is truly daunting, but that's the task our hero EJ faces. His heart needs a light hand, and he finds that in love interest Dr. Dale. There's one big problem: after two bad examples in his life, EJ wants nothing to do with doctors of any kind.
Dr. Dale's patience, and a nudge of EJ's best friend, Teddy--okay, less of a nudge and more of a shove--just might convince EJ to take another chance.
Teddy. Oh, wow, Teddy! Love, love, love this character, and he has stories of his own to tell. I was kind of disappointed that the sequel wasn't about him, because he was larger than life and so endearing. He's the best friend who tells you what you need to hear, not what you want to hear.
It wasn't until after I completed the novella that I discovered that this is a debut work. Really? Pretty darned good debut, let me tell you.
Having grown up as an Army brat to become a Navy mom, I'm familiar with the concepts in this book, and loved how the author took care to add the right amount of details without confusing non-military types.
August 9, 2018
EJ joined the Air Force and willingly went from out and proud to closeted due to Don't Ask, Don't Tell. He wanted a fresh start after being hurt by a cheating lover. Finding himself In love again with a man who wouldn't even let him tell his family about their relationship, EJ was eventually screwed over again and sent home to make some tough decisions. When he met Dale, who had his life together and made a living out of helping others, it looked like EJ might fall again, and that was not part of his plan. How EJ and Dale began building a healthier relationship than either had experienced in the past, was a sweet story. EJ struggling to let go and let others help him out of an unfair situation was terrific. EJ's parents and his best friend Teddy were unfailingly supportive, and I really liked those characters. EJ and Dale were a great couple, and I wanted them to make it together. There were a few plot developments that seemed a bit too coincidental, but I was happy and satisfied for the most part. I'm looking forward to seeing what this author does next, as I really enjoyed this book.
August 5, 2023
It took me a few chapters to realise who the two MC's were in this story because secondary characters also get their own chapters. Just to be clear this book is about EJ and Dale. EJ has a big decision to make following a less than legal ultimatum. His best friend Teddy has a heart of gold and helps him out by letting him have a place to stay and by playing matchmaker. Dale also has a past that follows him and as a result this relationship isn't overly intimate until near the end. The relationship gets going early, both men are incredibly honest and they do share their feelings for each other. The intimate scenes were not quite closed door, but very little involvement for the reader. This story is set in the late 90's when 'Don't Ask Don't Tell' was very current and a lot of the narrative works around this. This story does have a HEA and we get an epilogue showing us how the MC's have progressed as a couple; however, the last paragraph gave me a shiver. I received an advance review copy for free, and I am leaving this review voluntarily.
May 7, 2020
Romance and hidden secrets from within
Harris pens a sexy story in Don't Ask Don't Tell. I haven't read anything from this author before, and I really enjoyed it. The characters were strong and very realistic. The author's writing style fits this type of genre, and it shows a side that some may not be familiar with, especially with struggling with having to keep a secret, when you just want to be yourself. There is a great chemistry between the characters, and a depth that makes them realistic and flawed. A very well-written story, and I enjoyed it. This author's characters develop and interacts well with the other characters. It's a great story to follow and try to figure out what will happen next. EJ and Dale have a connection, and it isn't forced, which shows the writing skills of the author. It's interesting how it all plays out. A great read. I look forward to reading more by this author. This book is a definite recommendation by Amy's Bookshelf Reviews.
Harris pens a sexy story in Don't Ask Don't Tell. I haven't read anything from this author before, and I really enjoyed it. The characters were strong and very realistic. The author's writing style fits this type of genre, and it shows a side that some may not be familiar with, especially with struggling with having to keep a secret, when you just want to be yourself. There is a great chemistry between the characters, and a depth that makes them realistic and flawed. A very well-written story, and I enjoyed it. This author's characters develop and interacts well with the other characters. It's a great story to follow and try to figure out what will happen next. EJ and Dale have a connection, and it isn't forced, which shows the writing skills of the author. It's interesting how it all plays out. A great read. I look forward to reading more by this author. This book is a definite recommendation by Amy's Bookshelf Reviews.
August 9, 2023
EJ is betrayed by his lover, and as a result of DADT, he’s given an option of a demotion or honourable discharge, for absolutely no reason, he’s a stellar soldier.
He returns home to consider, staying with his friend Teddy, and keeping his return secret from his parents. He meets Dale, who works with people with PTSD, some from keeping secrets due to DADT.
Dale doesn’t want to treat EJ, he wants to date him, so EJ sees another therapist. Once EJ starts to see a life outside the military, with Dale, he chooses the discharge.
But once his father finds out, being former military himself, he brings justice to the lying ex, who had manipulated the situation with EJ to his advantage.
Interesting book, nice connection between the two main characters, but I like Teddy and EJ’a parents best.
I received this ARC for free and am providing my honest review in appreciation.
He returns home to consider, staying with his friend Teddy, and keeping his return secret from his parents. He meets Dale, who works with people with PTSD, some from keeping secrets due to DADT.
Dale doesn’t want to treat EJ, he wants to date him, so EJ sees another therapist. Once EJ starts to see a life outside the military, with Dale, he chooses the discharge.
But once his father finds out, being former military himself, he brings justice to the lying ex, who had manipulated the situation with EJ to his advantage.
Interesting book, nice connection between the two main characters, but I like Teddy and EJ’a parents best.
I received this ARC for free and am providing my honest review in appreciation.
August 21, 2023
Don’t Ask Don’t Tell by Miski Harris is the first book in the Don’t Ask Don’t Tell series. I loved the artwork in this book really cute. I liked this story for a start to a series. The characters are great, and the emotions is on point.
EJ dynamic personality. He is a go getter and not afraid to work for what he wants.
Dale has been betrayed before too. He has a compassionate heart, and he likes to keep hidden. I loved him he might come from a powerful family, but he is his own person living on his own terms.
Overall, a great start to this series. I did feel the chemistry was a tad off but I think its just because this is the first book and a lot had to be put into this story. I cannot wait to read the next book in this series. I think the kinks can be worked out and it will be an amazing story too.
EJ dynamic personality. He is a go getter and not afraid to work for what he wants.
Dale has been betrayed before too. He has a compassionate heart, and he likes to keep hidden. I loved him he might come from a powerful family, but he is his own person living on his own terms.
Overall, a great start to this series. I did feel the chemistry was a tad off but I think its just because this is the first book and a lot had to be put into this story. I cannot wait to read the next book in this series. I think the kinks can be worked out and it will be an amazing story too.
August 8, 2023
Sometimes books move me and this is one such book. It is an easy read but carries a heartfelt and emotional wallop. I love a great military romance and this one did not disappoint Both main characters, Elijah and Dale, are struggling with past trauma and pain and despite their instant chemistry that pain may stand in the way of their HEA. A well written storyline keeps you invested and hoping these men find love. I will admit I shed many tears on their journey to happiness in this realistically told story of military individuals during the time of this insane policy. I cannot wait for book two. I did receive an ARC and leave this honest review.
August 17, 2023
I found that EJ’s story drew me in and swept me along as he dealt with the betrayal and fallout from James, then found someone that rebuilt his trust and path to a happier relationship. Dale had his own trust issues, but the two together were able to work toward the lasting relationship that both wanted. The unexpected interwoven threads with EJ’s and Dale’s families were interesting, and resulted in some satisfactory karma for James and company. An interesting read dealing with what was a significant problem for some in the military at that time, and a big twist at the end. Looking forward to more from this author.
August 6, 2023
This is more than a MM romance book.
When EJ is forcibly given the opportunity to rethink his future in the air force, he goes back to his hometown. But avoids his parents and opts instead to stay with his best friend Teddy.
Teddy decides his friend EJ and boss Dale would hit it off so sets about making sure they meet.
It's not exactly a perfect start but the men soon find themselves settling into a relationship that grows stronger.
I received this book from GRR. This is my honest review
When EJ is forcibly given the opportunity to rethink his future in the air force, he goes back to his hometown. But avoids his parents and opts instead to stay with his best friend Teddy.
Teddy decides his friend EJ and boss Dale would hit it off so sets about making sure they meet.
It's not exactly a perfect start but the men soon find themselves settling into a relationship that grows stronger.
I received this book from GRR. This is my honest review
August 16, 2023
Reading a story like this makes you frustrated for the wonderful people who had to live their lives under this crap of a system. The characters in this story, Eli and Dale are well written. Eli suffers at the manipulation of superiors and lies and receipt they cause. What the perpetrators don't know is that both men have some pretty handy family and friends up their sleeves. There was a point in this story, you will work it out where I mean (don't want to spoil anything) where my whole body shivered and my jaw dropped. Great writing! I voluntarily reviewed a complimentary copy of this book.
August 18, 2023
As one who was around when the Don't Ask, Don't Tell policy was being debated and implemented with all the mixed emotions it generated and all the pretzel shapes it forced people's lives into I was immediately drawn to EJ's plight and so wanted him to find peace, a good life and the right person. Dale turned out to be that person but the relationship didn't come easily for either of them. This was a wonderful story of relearning how to trust.
September 10, 2020
Why did I wait so long to read this?
First off, I can’t believe this book is a debut for this author. Her gift of setting scenes you could easily visualize astounded me. The ending - I did NOT see that coming.
Miski Harris, you’ve blown me away and that is not an easy thing to do.
Well done my friend, very well done.
First off, I can’t believe this book is a debut for this author. Her gift of setting scenes you could easily visualize astounded me. The ending - I did NOT see that coming.
Miski Harris, you’ve blown me away and that is not an easy thing to do.
Well done my friend, very well done.
December 25, 2020
Not being American I don't know the full extent of DADT, only the basics, this is a interesting but brutal story of just how fucked up some lives can become because of it. An intense tale but beautifully written, EJ has suffered greatly and Dale is trying to bring sanity back to him. I thoroughly enjoyed this story, it's tough, heartbreaking, and sweet. The final few lines are jaw dropping.
September 18, 2022
Moving
The policy this book was named after was hideous. This book however was not. It was a good read. I was quickly invested in EJ and wanted him to find peace. Dale was delightful. I do wish James had gotten a little more in the end but still. Dale and EJ are much better for it. It was a very heartfelt book and I may or may not have cried a tear or two on EJ’s behalf.
The policy this book was named after was hideous. This book however was not. It was a good read. I was quickly invested in EJ and wanted him to find peace. Dale was delightful. I do wish James had gotten a little more in the end but still. Dale and EJ are much better for it. It was a very heartfelt book and I may or may not have cried a tear or two on EJ’s behalf.
September 23, 2022
3.5 stars. I needed more. They really don't get together until the end of the book so you really don't see them as a couple. And the whole not telling your parents that you are backed was way over the top. It needed a few more chapters to really bring the story together in a more satisfying way IMO.
August 8, 2023
I kind of enjoyed this book, but it's written somewhat hard for me to read. I enjoy the way that the author goes into the subject of being part of the LGBTQ+ community during 'don't ask don't tell', and the mental issues that it brought. It was good enough that I finished, I will be trying the next book in the series just to see if it's better, but I probably won't read this a second time.
Displaying 1 - 30 of 51 reviews