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Everything Is F*cked: A Book About Hope
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Nominee for Readers' Favorite Nonfiction (2019)From the author of the international mega-bestseller The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck comes a counterintuitive guide to the problems of hope.
We live in an interesting time. Materially, everything is the best it’s ever been—we are freer, healthier and wealthier than any people in human history. Yet, somehow everything seems to be irreparably and horribly f*cked—the planet is warming, governments are failing, economies are collapsing, and everyone is perpetually offended on Twitter. At this moment in history, when we have access to technology, education and communication our ancestors couldn’t even dream of, so many of us come back to an overriding feeling of hopelessness.
What’s going on? If anyone can put a name to our current malaise and help fix it, it’s Mark Manson. In 2016, Manson published The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck, a book that brilliantly gave shape to the ever-present, low-level hum of anxiety that permeates modern living. He showed us that technology had made it too easy to care about the wrong things, that our culture had convinced us that the world owed us something when it didn’t—and worst of all, that our modern and maddening urge to always find happiness only served to make us unhappier. Instead, the “subtle art” of that title turned out to be a bold challenge: to choose your struggle; to narrow and focus and find the pain you want to sustain. The result was a book that became an international phenomenon, selling millions of copies worldwide while becoming the #1 bestseller in 13 different countries.
Now, in Everthing Is F*cked, Manson turns his gaze from the inevitable flaws within each individual self to the endless calamities taking place in the world around us. Drawing from the pool of psychological research on these topics, as well as the timeless wisdom of philosophers such as Plato, Nietzsche, and Tom Waits, he dissects religion and politics and the uncomfortable ways they have come to resemble one another. He looks at our relationships with money, entertainment and the internet, and how too much of a good thing can psychologically eat us alive. He openly defies our definitions of faith, happiness, freedom—and even of hope itself.
With his usual mix of erudition and where-the-f*ck-did-that-come-from humor, Manson takes us by the collar and challenges us to be more honest with ourselves and connected with the world in ways we probably haven’t considered before. It’s another counterintuitive romp through the pain in our hearts and the stress of our soul. One of the great modern writers has produced another book that will set the agenda for years to come.
We live in an interesting time. Materially, everything is the best it’s ever been—we are freer, healthier and wealthier than any people in human history. Yet, somehow everything seems to be irreparably and horribly f*cked—the planet is warming, governments are failing, economies are collapsing, and everyone is perpetually offended on Twitter. At this moment in history, when we have access to technology, education and communication our ancestors couldn’t even dream of, so many of us come back to an overriding feeling of hopelessness.
What’s going on? If anyone can put a name to our current malaise and help fix it, it’s Mark Manson. In 2016, Manson published The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck, a book that brilliantly gave shape to the ever-present, low-level hum of anxiety that permeates modern living. He showed us that technology had made it too easy to care about the wrong things, that our culture had convinced us that the world owed us something when it didn’t—and worst of all, that our modern and maddening urge to always find happiness only served to make us unhappier. Instead, the “subtle art” of that title turned out to be a bold challenge: to choose your struggle; to narrow and focus and find the pain you want to sustain. The result was a book that became an international phenomenon, selling millions of copies worldwide while becoming the #1 bestseller in 13 different countries.
Now, in Everthing Is F*cked, Manson turns his gaze from the inevitable flaws within each individual self to the endless calamities taking place in the world around us. Drawing from the pool of psychological research on these topics, as well as the timeless wisdom of philosophers such as Plato, Nietzsche, and Tom Waits, he dissects religion and politics and the uncomfortable ways they have come to resemble one another. He looks at our relationships with money, entertainment and the internet, and how too much of a good thing can psychologically eat us alive. He openly defies our definitions of faith, happiness, freedom—and even of hope itself.
With his usual mix of erudition and where-the-f*ck-did-that-come-from humor, Manson takes us by the collar and challenges us to be more honest with ourselves and connected with the world in ways we probably haven’t considered before. It’s another counterintuitive romp through the pain in our hearts and the stress of our soul. One of the great modern writers has produced another book that will set the agenda for years to come.
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First published March 5, 2019
About the author
Mark Manson
105 books19.2k followersMark Manson (born 1984) is a professional blogger, entrepreneur, and former dating coach. Since 2007, he's been helping people with their emotional and relationship problems. He has worked with thousands of people from over 30 different countries.
He regularly writes and updates his blog at: www.markmanson.net
He regularly writes and updates his blog at: www.markmanson.net
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May 16, 2019
Arg, it's really difficult for me to rate this.
This isn't a "book" in my opinion. It's more of a collection of essays, "blog posts" and articles you'd see on HuffPo (or perhaps NPR).
There are some parts of the 'book' that were well researched, provided excellent points and I thought to myself "oh wow" and "I'm going to have to read this again!!!" Then there were other parts that I was like "WHAT IS THIS?" and "WHY IS THIS HERE?"
The writing also oscillated between deplorable to somewhat academic.
There are times where it reads like a polished, academic book but more often it is ranty with slang like "Cray cray" and vulgar examples that Manson seems to slip in for shock value except it doesn't work.
Manson is also a terrible narrator. His voice isn't just bleh, but he can't even seem to properly read his own writing--he can't deliver his own jokes and punchlines. It comes out awkward and unnatural-- making his "cray cray" and other slang even more distracting.
I also kept having a revolving thought, "DAMN THIS IS SOME RICH WHITE MALE PRIVILEGE & MANSPLAINING" not that the subjects he approached where "white male privilege shit" (though there is some of that) but that he seems to overlook privilege quite a bit.
Yet there were some parts of the book that I thought were excellent, though most of them were rehashing from other outstanding books I've read such as Thinking, Fast and Slow, Ryan Holiday/Stoicism, Enlightenment Now: The Case for Reason, Science, Humanism, and Progress or anything by Pinkner, Switch: How to Change Things When Change Is Hard or anything by Chip & Dan Heath, plus Nietzsche & Plato. His last bit on AI was interesting, though I suspect that was parlayed from somewhere/someone else.
(UPDATE after more thought and discussion, this isn't a 3-star, it's a 2-star)
This isn't a "book" in my opinion. It's more of a collection of essays, "blog posts" and articles you'd see on HuffPo (or perhaps NPR).
There are some parts of the 'book' that were well researched, provided excellent points and I thought to myself "oh wow" and "I'm going to have to read this again!!!" Then there were other parts that I was like "WHAT IS THIS?" and "WHY IS THIS HERE?"
The writing also oscillated between deplorable to somewhat academic.
There are times where it reads like a polished, academic book but more often it is ranty with slang like "Cray cray" and vulgar examples that Manson seems to slip in for shock value except it doesn't work.
Manson is also a terrible narrator. His voice isn't just bleh, but he can't even seem to properly read his own writing--he can't deliver his own jokes and punchlines. It comes out awkward and unnatural-- making his "cray cray" and other slang even more distracting.
I also kept having a revolving thought, "DAMN THIS IS SOME RICH WHITE MALE PRIVILEGE & MANSPLAINING" not that the subjects he approached where "white male privilege shit" (though there is some of that) but that he seems to overlook privilege quite a bit.
Yet there were some parts of the book that I thought were excellent, though most of them were rehashing from other outstanding books I've read such as Thinking, Fast and Slow, Ryan Holiday/Stoicism, Enlightenment Now: The Case for Reason, Science, Humanism, and Progress or anything by Pinkner, Switch: How to Change Things When Change Is Hard or anything by Chip & Dan Heath, plus Nietzsche & Plato. His last bit on AI was interesting, though I suspect that was parlayed from somewhere/someone else.
(UPDATE after more thought and discussion, this isn't a 3-star, it's a 2-star)
May 15, 2019
This book will not be a well loved book.
I only say this because as a person who has read a lot of his articles as well as his previous book, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, there are a lot of concepts in this book that can be perceived as radical, and possibly downright offensive. The keyword is perceived. When you come into this book hoping and/or believing that this book will affirm all of your biases, all of your hopes and dreams, all of what you stand for, then you wouldn't have a great time.
This book talks about philosophy, human existence, psychology, democracy, religion, politics, money, etc. and it takes quite a controversial but rational standpoint on these fields. Yes, sometimes while reading this book it'll be difficult to get through some of the philosophical concepts. Yes, sometimes (or most times) you will get offended by what Mark says. And yes, you would want to put the book down.
But don't. Instead, read on, or better yet, reflect first as to why you feel the way you feel. Don't succumb to the dichotomy of "good" and "bad" feelings i.e., if you feel offended, don't automatically assume that it's because what Mark wrote was wrong and you're right. This book calls upon reflection of everything ugly in all of us, and if you can't keep your biases at bay, or on hold, you will not enjoy reading this book.
But, if you go into this with an open mind, prepared to feel both validated and hurt, both offended and reassured, then I think this would be a great reading experience for you.
Overall, I gave this book 5 stars, because just like The Subtle Art, it called into question everything I believed, and for me, it strengthened some of my beliefs, and weakened others. A first for me in a long time.
I only say this because as a person who has read a lot of his articles as well as his previous book, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, there are a lot of concepts in this book that can be perceived as radical, and possibly downright offensive. The keyword is perceived. When you come into this book hoping and/or believing that this book will affirm all of your biases, all of your hopes and dreams, all of what you stand for, then you wouldn't have a great time.
This book talks about philosophy, human existence, psychology, democracy, religion, politics, money, etc. and it takes quite a controversial but rational standpoint on these fields. Yes, sometimes while reading this book it'll be difficult to get through some of the philosophical concepts. Yes, sometimes (or most times) you will get offended by what Mark says. And yes, you would want to put the book down.
But don't. Instead, read on, or better yet, reflect first as to why you feel the way you feel. Don't succumb to the dichotomy of "good" and "bad" feelings i.e., if you feel offended, don't automatically assume that it's because what Mark wrote was wrong and you're right. This book calls upon reflection of everything ugly in all of us, and if you can't keep your biases at bay, or on hold, you will not enjoy reading this book.
But, if you go into this with an open mind, prepared to feel both validated and hurt, both offended and reassured, then I think this would be a great reading experience for you.
Overall, I gave this book 5 stars, because just like The Subtle Art, it called into question everything I believed, and for me, it strengthened some of my beliefs, and weakened others. A first for me in a long time.
May 23, 2019
Can someone please remind me never to pick a Mark Manson book again? The writing is insufferable, he grossly oversimplifies ideas that need a more nuanced view, makes preposterous generalizations about mental health and related concepts, and generally makes you wonder what his point really is. Not sure how he gets published, but seems to be riding a strange wave with the word *fuck* in his titles.
May 21, 2019
Did not finish.
He starts off by mentioning the holocaust, how people had "real" problems back then, compared to us who are now weeping at minor inconveniences behind closed doors: crying for an ex, crying because someone was rude to us, etc. I find this comparison disgusting and I mean it. The problems back then were physical and very different. There was no internet back then. Now, in the internet age, we have lots of things to compare ourselves with. Everyday, whether we want it or not, we are constantly reminded of the things we lack. And at the end of the day, when we reach home, it takes a family or a closed one to help us forget those things.
Secondly, the writing. He speaks of things in a very patronizing manner which I found really irritating and was what made me drop this book.
I loved his first book and on my worst days, it provides a sense of comfort unlike anything. But this book, I don't know what happened with the author. I am not trying to find comfort, but maybe just give me some substance. Time is precious and I cannot waste it anymore after getting into 20% of this one. Maybe he got too much into himself. Now that he is rich, he forgot how to relate to the common folks. This book is indeed "f*cked".
He starts off by mentioning the holocaust, how people had "real" problems back then, compared to us who are now weeping at minor inconveniences behind closed doors: crying for an ex, crying because someone was rude to us, etc. I find this comparison disgusting and I mean it. The problems back then were physical and very different. There was no internet back then. Now, in the internet age, we have lots of things to compare ourselves with. Everyday, whether we want it or not, we are constantly reminded of the things we lack. And at the end of the day, when we reach home, it takes a family or a closed one to help us forget those things.
Secondly, the writing. He speaks of things in a very patronizing manner which I found really irritating and was what made me drop this book.
I loved his first book and on my worst days, it provides a sense of comfort unlike anything. But this book, I don't know what happened with the author. I am not trying to find comfort, but maybe just give me some substance. Time is precious and I cannot waste it anymore after getting into 20% of this one. Maybe he got too much into himself. Now that he is rich, he forgot how to relate to the common folks. This book is indeed "f*cked".
July 7, 2022
What made Mark Mason's first book a huge success was the freshness in the idea he was trying to discuss. But now, when the second book is published, there are many books with the same theme already published and read by the readers. Even if the author tries to treat a few chapters differently, there is a high probability that the readers will be bored after reading a few chapters of this book.
The author attempts to take a different approach in some chapters by trying to discuss philosophy, epistemology, and ontology. He tries to discuss ideas shared by some great people like Friedrich Nietzsche, Bertrand Russell, and Yuval Noah Harari. You will feel these portions as just average if you are a follower of the above philosophers and have read their books. Still, I must admit that it was a brave attempt by the author to think out of the box, especially after the massive success of his initial book.
The condescending manner in which he discusses this book will also be boring to some readers who have already finished the author's first book. I feel that he should have been a little more careful while describing mental health. Despite all these negatives, you will get some critical ideas that might be helpful to you.
My favorite three lines from this book.
"Because pain is the universal constant of life, the opportunities to grow from that pain are constant in life. All that is required is that we don't numb it, that we don't look away. All that is required is that we engage it and find the value and meaning in it."
"You must love someone without expecting anything in return; otherwise it's not true love. You must respect someone without expecting anything in return; otherwise you don't truly respect him. You must speak honestly without expecting a pat on the back or a high-five or a gold star next to your name; otherwise you aren't truly being honest."
"Ultimately, the most meaningful freedom in your life comes from your commitments, the things in life for which you have chosen to sacrifice."
The negatives in this book are greater in number compared to the author's first book. Still, some great points are hidden in a few corners, like a few of the above lines I shared. If you are someone who liked the author's first book, you can give this book a try.
March 30, 2019
Something is very wrong with the world. It’s us. We have abandoned our quest for character in favour of one for happiness and we have created a world of diversions that give the illusion of freedom but in fact keep us docile and imprisoned.
Manson has written a book that will stay with me for a while. This very well-researched exploration into human virtues (and hope in particular) isn’t exactly warm and fuzzy. Nor is it pessimistic. In fact it is paradoxically optimistic for a book that genuinely and convincingly lays out that everything is indeed f*cked!
His trademark wit is still on display but Manson strikes a slightly more academic tone than in his first book, which was a welcome change of pace. In fact this book has inspired me to learn more about Manson’s (and the world’s) philosophical greats and read a few of his sources. I think that’s a good thing.
Manson, once again, holds a mirror up to the reader, which can be confronting (in a good way), and makes demands on us to be better. Not merely hope to be better. But BE better. And that’s a message I can get behind.
Give this book a go...
Manson has written a book that will stay with me for a while. This very well-researched exploration into human virtues (and hope in particular) isn’t exactly warm and fuzzy. Nor is it pessimistic. In fact it is paradoxically optimistic for a book that genuinely and convincingly lays out that everything is indeed f*cked!
His trademark wit is still on display but Manson strikes a slightly more academic tone than in his first book, which was a welcome change of pace. In fact this book has inspired me to learn more about Manson’s (and the world’s) philosophical greats and read a few of his sources. I think that’s a good thing.
Manson, once again, holds a mirror up to the reader, which can be confronting (in a good way), and makes demands on us to be better. Not merely hope to be better. But BE better. And that’s a message I can get behind.
Give this book a go...
June 8, 2019
I really wanted to like this book. As a fan of Mark Manson, I enjoyed his at-times comical writing style and humorous anecdotes in his other books. Yet, this felt stale.
The book is lazy. It's essentially a bunch of repackaged Nietzsche and Harari stuffed together without any flow whatsoever. The central theme of hope acts as a loose umbrella topic to otherwise disconnected chapters.
The book talks about subjects right out of Sapiens and Homo Deus by Yuval Harari. The only difference is that Manson inserts his unique voice in this commentary, including a lot of 'f*cks.' Sounds great right? Not exactly. The subjects are oversimplified, the language feels condescending at times, and the charm that Manson usually puts on in his books was nonexistent.
What made Manson's earlier books good was that he spoke from experience about topics he was passionate about. But this attempt into deeper subjects doesn't cut it. It is neither comprehensive nor original. It's just not as good as other books in its field.
TL/DR: Just read Harari and Nietzsche.
The book is lazy. It's essentially a bunch of repackaged Nietzsche and Harari stuffed together without any flow whatsoever. The central theme of hope acts as a loose umbrella topic to otherwise disconnected chapters.
The book talks about subjects right out of Sapiens and Homo Deus by Yuval Harari. The only difference is that Manson inserts his unique voice in this commentary, including a lot of 'f*cks.' Sounds great right? Not exactly. The subjects are oversimplified, the language feels condescending at times, and the charm that Manson usually puts on in his books was nonexistent.
What made Manson's earlier books good was that he spoke from experience about topics he was passionate about. But this attempt into deeper subjects doesn't cut it. It is neither comprehensive nor original. It's just not as good as other books in its field.
TL/DR: Just read Harari and Nietzsche.
July 3, 2019
If I were to ask someone to “give it to me straight” in terms of life, humanity and our future potential, this book would be it.
Amazing read, push through the first few chapters and you’ll see how it all ties together in the end!
Amazing read, push through the first few chapters and you’ll see how it all ties together in the end!
May 31, 2019
The book was a meaningless string of random thoughts and stoic philosophy and meditation. It was funny at parts, but mostly just a few interesting stories and cliches that are set up as being new insight. Also, I don't buy stoicism and meditation as a way forward. I am still interested in progress and I do think social movements can make people's lives better. Manson seems to think it's all just vain showing off and we should all just chill, but life isn't about peace and happiness. We also search meaning.
December 10, 2022
was going to give this 2 stars but that ending was….. ahaha….. no
May 14, 2019
Smart and funny, this book will help you make sense of your mind and the world we live in
If you liked Subtle Art, you'll enjoy this too. I couldn't put it down, actually, reading it in under a day.
Mark has a talent for taking potentially boring subject matter, such as the teachings of philosophers, and bringing it to life in easy-to-understand language (with plenty of expletives).
I especially liked his Consciousness Car metaphor in explaining the Thinking Brain vs Feeling Brain (would love to see an animated cartoon version), and thoughts on antifragility and how we benefit by choosing to accept (and even seek out) discomfort in our lives.
If you've been feeling like the world is a mess (especially in terms of politics) lately, this book can help you make sense of what's going on. And, it includes some takeaways we as individuals can use to help make a positive difference for ourselves, and by extension, society.
If you liked Subtle Art, you'll enjoy this too. I couldn't put it down, actually, reading it in under a day.
Mark has a talent for taking potentially boring subject matter, such as the teachings of philosophers, and bringing it to life in easy-to-understand language (with plenty of expletives).
I especially liked his Consciousness Car metaphor in explaining the Thinking Brain vs Feeling Brain (would love to see an animated cartoon version), and thoughts on antifragility and how we benefit by choosing to accept (and even seek out) discomfort in our lives.
If you've been feeling like the world is a mess (especially in terms of politics) lately, this book can help you make sense of what's going on. And, it includes some takeaways we as individuals can use to help make a positive difference for ourselves, and by extension, society.
May 23, 2019
I wish I had enjoyed this book more. I really wanted to. I so enjoyed Mark's first book, I had high hopes for this one.
Alas, I found it uninspiring, and without much direction. Lots of rambling, with famous people from history thrown in, for which I never saw the connection. It felt a little forced. Contrived even. Like Mark is really, really trying to fill a book.
I will be watching for what he writes next, and hope to get my love back for Mr Manson.
Alas, I found it uninspiring, and without much direction. Lots of rambling, with famous people from history thrown in, for which I never saw the connection. It felt a little forced. Contrived even. Like Mark is really, really trying to fill a book.
I will be watching for what he writes next, and hope to get my love back for Mr Manson.
October 6, 2019
This creatively titled self-help book, Everything is F*cked, presents psychology, philosophy and the author's view of reality. In a series of essays, Mark Manson discusses a variety of topics including the differences between the "thinking brain" and "feeling brain." He uses Isaac Newton's laws to create a parallel universe's version of emotional laws and completes a fairly scathing dissection of religion. Throughout the various topics, he circles back to the idea of hope and how it can potentially create more problems than it solves.
Why did Manson write a book about hope?
"This book is my little source of hope. It gives me purpose; it gives me meaning. And the narrative that I've constructed around hope is that I believe this book might help some people, that it might make both my life and the world a little bit better." pg 15
I did not read Manson's other incredibly popular title, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life, so I went into this one not knowing what to expect. I found Manson to be particularly adept at breaking down complex topics into simple, easy-to-understand analogies.
For example, here's his take on the psychological cause of a underlying feeling of unworthiness: "This feeling of unworthiness is usually the result of some bad sh*t happening to us at some point. We suffer through some terrible stuff, and our Feeling Brain decides that we deserved those bad experiences. Therefore, it sets out, despite the Thinking Brain's better knowledge, to repeat and re-experience that suffering." pg 46
And here's the analogy he crafts around his explanation of unworthiness: "Put another way, the problem isn't that we don't know how not to get punched in the face. The problem is that, at some point, likely a long time ago, we got punched in the face, and instead of punching back, we decided we deserved it." pg 46
His writing is simple and succinct, which could be incredibly useful for readers who are looking for more information about the self help topics presented. I didn't particularly care for Manson's overall style, but that's a personal preference rather than a commentary on the value of what he's discussing.
"The stories of our future define our hopes. And our ability to step into those narratives and live them, to make them reality, is what gives our lives meaning." pg 70
I think this author may be similar to Sarah Knight and her series of self help books about The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F**k. Readers either love or hate those, I fell somewhere in between.
My favorite part of this was when Manson dived into some Buddhist philosophy in the chapter, "Pain is the Universal Constant." He discusses the teaching of suffering being similar to a person struck by arrows. The first arrow brings physical pain and the second brings the emotional pain, which can be far worse and last longer than the physical pain because of the narratives we weave around it. Through meditation, the second arrow, emotional pain, can be diminished or perhaps eliminated.
"That while pain is inevitable, suffering is always a choice. That there is always a separation between what we experience and how we interpret that experience. That there's always a gap between what our Feeling Brain feels and what our Thinking Brain thinks. And in that gap, you can find the power to bear anything." pg 186
Recommended for readers who aren't offended by strong language and have the ability to hold the book they're reading in that gap in their minds — between the thoughts and the emotions, in the space of pure being. I'll meet you there. :)
Why did Manson write a book about hope?
"This book is my little source of hope. It gives me purpose; it gives me meaning. And the narrative that I've constructed around hope is that I believe this book might help some people, that it might make both my life and the world a little bit better." pg 15
I did not read Manson's other incredibly popular title, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life, so I went into this one not knowing what to expect. I found Manson to be particularly adept at breaking down complex topics into simple, easy-to-understand analogies.
For example, here's his take on the psychological cause of a underlying feeling of unworthiness: "This feeling of unworthiness is usually the result of some bad sh*t happening to us at some point. We suffer through some terrible stuff, and our Feeling Brain decides that we deserved those bad experiences. Therefore, it sets out, despite the Thinking Brain's better knowledge, to repeat and re-experience that suffering." pg 46
And here's the analogy he crafts around his explanation of unworthiness: "Put another way, the problem isn't that we don't know how not to get punched in the face. The problem is that, at some point, likely a long time ago, we got punched in the face, and instead of punching back, we decided we deserved it." pg 46
His writing is simple and succinct, which could be incredibly useful for readers who are looking for more information about the self help topics presented. I didn't particularly care for Manson's overall style, but that's a personal preference rather than a commentary on the value of what he's discussing.
"The stories of our future define our hopes. And our ability to step into those narratives and live them, to make them reality, is what gives our lives meaning." pg 70
I think this author may be similar to Sarah Knight and her series of self help books about The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F**k. Readers either love or hate those, I fell somewhere in between.
My favorite part of this was when Manson dived into some Buddhist philosophy in the chapter, "Pain is the Universal Constant." He discusses the teaching of suffering being similar to a person struck by arrows. The first arrow brings physical pain and the second brings the emotional pain, which can be far worse and last longer than the physical pain because of the narratives we weave around it. Through meditation, the second arrow, emotional pain, can be diminished or perhaps eliminated.
"That while pain is inevitable, suffering is always a choice. That there is always a separation between what we experience and how we interpret that experience. That there's always a gap between what our Feeling Brain feels and what our Thinking Brain thinks. And in that gap, you can find the power to bear anything." pg 186
Recommended for readers who aren't offended by strong language and have the ability to hold the book they're reading in that gap in their minds — between the thoughts and the emotions, in the space of pure being. I'll meet you there. :)
October 26, 2020
I categorize self-help books into 3 categories;
1.. 5 stars; from which:
a.. you learn tons of new stuff
b.. you agree with absolutely everything it has to say
c.. you find it applicable
2.. 3/4 stars; in which :
a.. you find absolutely nothing new to learn
BUT
b.. you agree with a lot of stuff
c.. and you think some of it may be applicable (by someone maybe)
3.. 1/2 stars; in which
a.. nothing new, old BS
b.. you only agree with what you already know which is repetitive
c.. application? Been there! Done that!
Humorous! Sarcastic! Light yet fulfilling!
The use of references made very well!
5 stars from someone who doesn't treat self-help books any good!
Must read!
PS: HOPE IS A B***H!
1.. 5 stars; from which:
a.. you learn tons of new stuff
b.. you agree with absolutely everything it has to say
c.. you find it applicable
2.. 3/4 stars; in which :
a.. you find absolutely nothing new to learn
BUT
b.. you agree with a lot of stuff
c.. and you think some of it may be applicable (by someone maybe)
3.. 1/2 stars; in which
a.. nothing new, old BS
b.. you only agree with what you already know which is repetitive
c.. application? Been there! Done that!
Humorous! Sarcastic! Light yet fulfilling!
The use of references made very well!
5 stars from someone who doesn't treat self-help books any good!
Must read!
PS: HOPE IS A B***H!
May 22, 2019
How this guy keeps getting published I will never understand. Why I keep reading his books is something else I cannot understand. However, I saw it was marked 50% off at B&N, so I went ahead and bought it. I have read through it while doing cardio after lifting and can say that it is awful. It is more-or-less his other book rehashed with different wording. Not to mention, he misunderstands concepts but uses them throughout his book anyway.
He states, "Nihilism and the pure indulgence of desire that accompanies it are gripping the modern world. It is power for the sake of power. Success for the sake of success. Pleasure for the sake of pleasure...It aheres to no great truth or cause. It's a simple "Because it feels good."
He doesn't understand Nihilism or Nietzsche, even though he uses both throughout his text. Nihilism was not a hedonistic philosophy. Full stop. I'm out.
F*ck Mark Manson.
He states, "Nihilism and the pure indulgence of desire that accompanies it are gripping the modern world. It is power for the sake of power. Success for the sake of success. Pleasure for the sake of pleasure...It aheres to no great truth or cause. It's a simple "Because it feels good."
He doesn't understand Nihilism or Nietzsche, even though he uses both throughout his text. Nihilism was not a hedonistic philosophy. Full stop. I'm out.
F*ck Mark Manson.
May 19, 2019
After loving The Subtle Art, I found this a real disappointment. It was very dry and lacking the playfulness of his first book. I also found it hard to track the overarching ‘story’ of the book, it felt more like a jumbled collection of articles. Just couldn’t connect to it in any meaningful way
May 17, 2019
Everything is Fucked is a much more mature book than his last. While in the last book we looked at things we shouldn't care about, this book more focuses on what to care about. And I have to say that this book was really well done, and in my opinion, better than his last.
This book will definitely leave you feeling different than when you started it. I never take notes while reading a book, but this one time I did, because a lot will stick with you, and you won't want to forget it.
"Don't hope for better. Just be better"
This book covers lots of different topics: Hope, maturity, religion, social media, technology etc. It covers a lot more than his previous book, and for the better. Mark really shows us what's wrong with the world in this book, and what we can do to fix it, while also having his signature "fuck you" sort of humour. Some of the things that I read were kind of obvious (don't be a dick, act like an adult and not like a child etc) but he goes into more detail than that, and really makes you question how you act as an individual.
"The pursuit of happiness is a toxic value that has long defined our culture. It is self-defeating and misleading. Living well does not mean avoiding suffering; it means suffering for the right reasons. Because if we're going to be forced to suffer by simply existing, we might as well learn how to suffer well"
Like his last book, Mark gives us some really interesting historical events that eventually lead to his main point that he is trying to make. I personally found that some of them were a bit dragged out and went on for a little too long, and I found that I ended up missing the point he was trying to make due to the example being very long. However this is just my opinion, and isn't necessarily a bad thing, just my personal taste. I will say that some of the events he tells are amazing and eye opening, and will definitely leave an impact on you.
"When we deny ourselves the ability to feel pain for a purpose, we deny ourselves the ability to feel any purpose in our life at all"
This book is a much more satisfying, mature, and deeper book than his last. I would recommend this to anyone who wants to view things with a different eye, and is open to changing the way they are as a person. And while not everything in this book is breathtakingly amazing, it will still leave an impact on you for a long time.
This book will definitely leave you feeling different than when you started it. I never take notes while reading a book, but this one time I did, because a lot will stick with you, and you won't want to forget it.
"Don't hope for better. Just be better"
This book covers lots of different topics: Hope, maturity, religion, social media, technology etc. It covers a lot more than his previous book, and for the better. Mark really shows us what's wrong with the world in this book, and what we can do to fix it, while also having his signature "fuck you" sort of humour. Some of the things that I read were kind of obvious (don't be a dick, act like an adult and not like a child etc) but he goes into more detail than that, and really makes you question how you act as an individual.
"The pursuit of happiness is a toxic value that has long defined our culture. It is self-defeating and misleading. Living well does not mean avoiding suffering; it means suffering for the right reasons. Because if we're going to be forced to suffer by simply existing, we might as well learn how to suffer well"
Like his last book, Mark gives us some really interesting historical events that eventually lead to his main point that he is trying to make. I personally found that some of them were a bit dragged out and went on for a little too long, and I found that I ended up missing the point he was trying to make due to the example being very long. However this is just my opinion, and isn't necessarily a bad thing, just my personal taste. I will say that some of the events he tells are amazing and eye opening, and will definitely leave an impact on you.
"When we deny ourselves the ability to feel pain for a purpose, we deny ourselves the ability to feel any purpose in our life at all"
This book is a much more satisfying, mature, and deeper book than his last. I would recommend this to anyone who wants to view things with a different eye, and is open to changing the way they are as a person. And while not everything in this book is breathtakingly amazing, it will still leave an impact on you for a long time.
May 29, 2019
This book's thesis has already been written. Many times. This is stoicism. This is Nietzsche. This is Kant. This fact does not reduce the subject's interest whatsoever.
Mark's Uncomfortable Truth. Pleasant feelings are evidently not the goal here. He wants us to grow through pain since it's the only universal constant. Bertrand Russell, for one, would say be wary of those who glorify pain because the historical antecedents are not impressive. The fun is in deciding how far in which direction you will go.
The Classic Assumption: Thinking vs. Feeling. We quickly learn why Mark swears so much: humans have no self control. The classic assumption, says Mark, is that our Thinking Brains are in control. Plato onwards, through the Christian ages, until very recently. Kahneman and Tversky suggest otherwise. Mark says the Feeling Brain calls the shots. Needless to say, it's been a popular activity to imagine our brains divided in two, and Mark joins the frenzy: Plato had reason and spirit, Hume had impressions and ideas, Freud had ego and id, and somewhere down there is Thinking Brain has balls and is from Mars, Feeling Brain has breasts and is from Venus.
Clown Cars. Mark's brain theory involves seeing our feelings as cars. Clown cars (selfish narcissists) are toxic. Healthy cars see them coming a long way off and move into the slow lane. Clowns flock to other clown cars, think healthy cars are boring, drive too fast, run over pedestrians and get into way too many accidents. I imagine they are literally toxic like gas-guzzling, unreliable SUVs. Clowns probably drink and drive. If they can't get away with that, they'll smoke pot and drive. With a Whopper in the other hand.
Woodstock represents this type of car well: the 1960s, free love, if it feels good do it. The New Age counterculture was clownish all the way, and indulging one's emotions is STILL often equated with great spiritual awakening. White middle-class yuppies raised to believe the Thinking Brain calls the shots rebelled at a later age and let the Feeling Brain run rampant. They never really had any real problems, Mark reckons, except feeling bad, and they blamed their Thinking for it. They call that turning off of the Thinking Brain 'spiritual growth'. Sound familiar? I am SURE you know people like this. They think self-absorption is enlightenment. But it's still just a Clown Car with a new 'spiritual' paint job.
The Three Types of Religions. Mark suggests the key to our eternal salvation is to stop thinking critically and join one of the hope clubs: Spiritual, Ideological (the isms — communism, capitalism, anarchism, fascism, environmentalism, feminism, leftism), or Interpersonal (romantic, celebrity, children). And the ones that win out, he says, are those that most efficiently use labour and capital. Hold on to that sentence. It comes back.
The Root of all Social Conflict. His next target, guns all a blazing: radical leftists. The true equality they fight for will never exist. Pain will always be there, and the worst thing we can do is get rid of it. Enter Nietzsche's Master morality vs. Slave morality. Strength, Dominance, Hierarchy against Sacrifice, Submission, Equality. The Bullies vs. the Ressenters.
Reality check before the next round. Does Mark misunderstand Nietzsche, glorify him, or cherry-pick a nibble? Let's be clear, no beating around the bush: Nietzsche loves, I mean loves, LOVES violence and ruthlessness. Nietzsche just totally got erections for violence. Full daylight erections. Not morning hide-it-under-the-cover, wait-until-it-takes-a-chill-pill erections. Example hard to beat: he loved Napoleon. THE MAN, for Nietzsche. Yes, mass-murdering, war-mongering Napoleon. To Nietzsche, the majority are only a means to the excellence of the few. No, no grasping now my Nietzschian bullies, he was certainly not A BUDDHIST.
Kant vs. Nietzsche, and this is where it breaks. Mark concurs with Nietzsche that all beliefs are imprisoned by our own perspectives and are faith-based. He likes going beyond Good and Evil. He is certainly pro-pain. And then he takes Kant's Formula of Humanity, where you are honest, humble and brave at all moments.
These do not go together. Nietzsche was all about ends. Kant is all about means. Polar opposites. Nietzsche called Kant absurd, naïve and outright narcissistic (talk about calling a kettle black). Mark acknowledges Nietzsche scoffed at the Law of Humanity and then keeps both anyway. Some kind of fake arbitration is going on here. Without Kant, Mark would be an all-out nasty dude, and Nietzsche didn't mind being seen as nasty. Something tells me Mark isn't ready to take that step. Meanwhile he still comes across positive about war: war has created the most positive innovations, it brings out the best in our character. Yikes, not sure how far he wants to take that.
Developmental Psychology. Despite the contradictions, he has more interesting stuff up his sleeve. A child is all about pleasure vs. pain. An adolescent understands life as a transaction, pleasure through bargains. An adult does the right thing for the simple reason that it is the right thing. Honesty as an end, not a means. Idealistic? Yes. Practicable? It reminds me of Liar, Liar. Apparently so few people live this way that replicability is a problem in the studies. Not enough evidence, no science. So we're in the dicey religion area again.
Still, the theory is interesting: trauma and neglect leave people stuck in child or adolescent mode, and only some 13% get out. Becoming an adult requires enduring pain (Nietzsche has an erection again — Fred, put that thing away), abandoning hope, and letting go of the desire for pleasant things.
Fake Freedom. What's stopping us? Marketing. It knows how to manipulate Feelings, and our Thinking Brain was never trained to compete. So we are Fragile, obsessed with Comfort. We are consumed by low-level addictions: phone, email, Netflix, Facebook. And addiction is a downward spiral: numb the Pain, lose Meaning, generate more Pain, numb harder. And we have too much Choice, so we have constant Anxiety about whether we chose right.
This Insecurity is not Freedom. Modern tyranny is Diversion and Distraction. Big Brother is watching and steering us THROUGH Pleasure. Huxley and Orwell in one. Mark calls it TOO MUCH Pleasure, and notes that revolutions come from Pleasure, not misery: the French and American Revolutions were led by wealthy men. A Revolution of Rising Expectations. The tipping point may be Information. Once inequality is common knowledge, the demagogues arrive and democracy goes over.
Real Freedom is Self-Limitation. Consciousness of your Time, Attention and Choices. Less Superficiality. Stop hacking life. Freedom requires nothing of the world, just your Will. This is very Stoic.
The new Religion. Mark admits online advertising and fake news must cease to exist, and we need independent algorithms to rate the veracity of headlines. This is his Hope coming out of the masturbatory sock of self-help. Every previous religion's attempt at Global Harmony was partial and incomplete, he tells us. And then delivers his own final one: AI, and us as domesticated dogs. We already submit to algorithms and we love it. Musk says nuclear war, climate change and computers could end the world. Mark thinks computers will behave better than us and fix the other two.
So: every collective route is a hope club you join instead of thinking, and the one remaining hope requires nobody to do anything.
The Richer you Are, the Sadder you Are. The wealthier the country, the more its people struggle with meaning. Only 10% in a YouGov survey of the 17 richest countries felt the world was getting better. Wealthier countries also have higher suicide rates. This book is for them.
Mark raves about Steven Pinker and Hans Rosling here: 'excellent, indispensable and important' in the notes. But Steve and Hans care nothing about how depression works. They are addicted to big stats like GDP, and they lack subtlety even on their own terms. They use averages. An average is dragged up by the top. The mathematics they skip is that median real wages in rich countries have reduced since the 70s (see my review of Factfulness). Inequality is going up big time.
And Mark needs them. His whole diagnosis requires prosperity to be real. Too much comfort, too much pleasure, too much choice. He footnotes them as indispensable and then writes two hundred pages about a misery their numbers cannot see. It's the same trick as Kant and Nietzsche, one shelf over: take what you need from each and don't look at where they contradict.
To his credit, Mark realizes life actually sucks for most people in rich countries, and that the problem is Lack of Meaning rather than a shortage of goods. Steve and Hans don't get there.
Some tough truths about pain vs. pleasure. Remember that Evidence and Science are the only Religion worth following? There are no conclusive studies suggesting that Pain improves us. There are none suggesting Pleasure does either. There are none establishing what the right balance is. Mark suggests we are wimps who need to toughen up. Maybe. Did I mention there's no conclusive evidence about any of this?
Your motivation matters, intrinsic or extrinsic. You gotta love that Mark talks about intrinsic motivation: the simple pleasure of doing an activity well rather than for an external reward. He says that's why he wrote the book. Not for the millions of dollars. Nice! Let's assume it's true. 😉
In agreement with his polemics or not, give Mark Manson credit for putting passion and prudence on the scales again.
Mark's Uncomfortable Truth. Pleasant feelings are evidently not the goal here. He wants us to grow through pain since it's the only universal constant. Bertrand Russell, for one, would say be wary of those who glorify pain because the historical antecedents are not impressive. The fun is in deciding how far in which direction you will go.
The Classic Assumption: Thinking vs. Feeling. We quickly learn why Mark swears so much: humans have no self control. The classic assumption, says Mark, is that our Thinking Brains are in control. Plato onwards, through the Christian ages, until very recently. Kahneman and Tversky suggest otherwise. Mark says the Feeling Brain calls the shots. Needless to say, it's been a popular activity to imagine our brains divided in two, and Mark joins the frenzy: Plato had reason and spirit, Hume had impressions and ideas, Freud had ego and id, and somewhere down there is Thinking Brain has balls and is from Mars, Feeling Brain has breasts and is from Venus.
Clown Cars. Mark's brain theory involves seeing our feelings as cars. Clown cars (selfish narcissists) are toxic. Healthy cars see them coming a long way off and move into the slow lane. Clowns flock to other clown cars, think healthy cars are boring, drive too fast, run over pedestrians and get into way too many accidents. I imagine they are literally toxic like gas-guzzling, unreliable SUVs. Clowns probably drink and drive. If they can't get away with that, they'll smoke pot and drive. With a Whopper in the other hand.
Woodstock represents this type of car well: the 1960s, free love, if it feels good do it. The New Age counterculture was clownish all the way, and indulging one's emotions is STILL often equated with great spiritual awakening. White middle-class yuppies raised to believe the Thinking Brain calls the shots rebelled at a later age and let the Feeling Brain run rampant. They never really had any real problems, Mark reckons, except feeling bad, and they blamed their Thinking for it. They call that turning off of the Thinking Brain 'spiritual growth'. Sound familiar? I am SURE you know people like this. They think self-absorption is enlightenment. But it's still just a Clown Car with a new 'spiritual' paint job.
The Three Types of Religions. Mark suggests the key to our eternal salvation is to stop thinking critically and join one of the hope clubs: Spiritual, Ideological (the isms — communism, capitalism, anarchism, fascism, environmentalism, feminism, leftism), or Interpersonal (romantic, celebrity, children). And the ones that win out, he says, are those that most efficiently use labour and capital. Hold on to that sentence. It comes back.
The Root of all Social Conflict. His next target, guns all a blazing: radical leftists. The true equality they fight for will never exist. Pain will always be there, and the worst thing we can do is get rid of it. Enter Nietzsche's Master morality vs. Slave morality. Strength, Dominance, Hierarchy against Sacrifice, Submission, Equality. The Bullies vs. the Ressenters.
Reality check before the next round. Does Mark misunderstand Nietzsche, glorify him, or cherry-pick a nibble? Let's be clear, no beating around the bush: Nietzsche loves, I mean loves, LOVES violence and ruthlessness. Nietzsche just totally got erections for violence. Full daylight erections. Not morning hide-it-under-the-cover, wait-until-it-takes-a-chill-pill erections. Example hard to beat: he loved Napoleon. THE MAN, for Nietzsche. Yes, mass-murdering, war-mongering Napoleon. To Nietzsche, the majority are only a means to the excellence of the few. No, no grasping now my Nietzschian bullies, he was certainly not A BUDDHIST.
Kant vs. Nietzsche, and this is where it breaks. Mark concurs with Nietzsche that all beliefs are imprisoned by our own perspectives and are faith-based. He likes going beyond Good and Evil. He is certainly pro-pain. And then he takes Kant's Formula of Humanity, where you are honest, humble and brave at all moments.
These do not go together. Nietzsche was all about ends. Kant is all about means. Polar opposites. Nietzsche called Kant absurd, naïve and outright narcissistic (talk about calling a kettle black). Mark acknowledges Nietzsche scoffed at the Law of Humanity and then keeps both anyway. Some kind of fake arbitration is going on here. Without Kant, Mark would be an all-out nasty dude, and Nietzsche didn't mind being seen as nasty. Something tells me Mark isn't ready to take that step. Meanwhile he still comes across positive about war: war has created the most positive innovations, it brings out the best in our character. Yikes, not sure how far he wants to take that.
Developmental Psychology. Despite the contradictions, he has more interesting stuff up his sleeve. A child is all about pleasure vs. pain. An adolescent understands life as a transaction, pleasure through bargains. An adult does the right thing for the simple reason that it is the right thing. Honesty as an end, not a means. Idealistic? Yes. Practicable? It reminds me of Liar, Liar. Apparently so few people live this way that replicability is a problem in the studies. Not enough evidence, no science. So we're in the dicey religion area again.
Still, the theory is interesting: trauma and neglect leave people stuck in child or adolescent mode, and only some 13% get out. Becoming an adult requires enduring pain (Nietzsche has an erection again — Fred, put that thing away), abandoning hope, and letting go of the desire for pleasant things.
Fake Freedom. What's stopping us? Marketing. It knows how to manipulate Feelings, and our Thinking Brain was never trained to compete. So we are Fragile, obsessed with Comfort. We are consumed by low-level addictions: phone, email, Netflix, Facebook. And addiction is a downward spiral: numb the Pain, lose Meaning, generate more Pain, numb harder. And we have too much Choice, so we have constant Anxiety about whether we chose right.
This Insecurity is not Freedom. Modern tyranny is Diversion and Distraction. Big Brother is watching and steering us THROUGH Pleasure. Huxley and Orwell in one. Mark calls it TOO MUCH Pleasure, and notes that revolutions come from Pleasure, not misery: the French and American Revolutions were led by wealthy men. A Revolution of Rising Expectations. The tipping point may be Information. Once inequality is common knowledge, the demagogues arrive and democracy goes over.
Real Freedom is Self-Limitation. Consciousness of your Time, Attention and Choices. Less Superficiality. Stop hacking life. Freedom requires nothing of the world, just your Will. This is very Stoic.
The new Religion. Mark admits online advertising and fake news must cease to exist, and we need independent algorithms to rate the veracity of headlines. This is his Hope coming out of the masturbatory sock of self-help. Every previous religion's attempt at Global Harmony was partial and incomplete, he tells us. And then delivers his own final one: AI, and us as domesticated dogs. We already submit to algorithms and we love it. Musk says nuclear war, climate change and computers could end the world. Mark thinks computers will behave better than us and fix the other two.
So: every collective route is a hope club you join instead of thinking, and the one remaining hope requires nobody to do anything.
The Richer you Are, the Sadder you Are. The wealthier the country, the more its people struggle with meaning. Only 10% in a YouGov survey of the 17 richest countries felt the world was getting better. Wealthier countries also have higher suicide rates. This book is for them.
Mark raves about Steven Pinker and Hans Rosling here: 'excellent, indispensable and important' in the notes. But Steve and Hans care nothing about how depression works. They are addicted to big stats like GDP, and they lack subtlety even on their own terms. They use averages. An average is dragged up by the top. The mathematics they skip is that median real wages in rich countries have reduced since the 70s (see my review of Factfulness). Inequality is going up big time.
And Mark needs them. His whole diagnosis requires prosperity to be real. Too much comfort, too much pleasure, too much choice. He footnotes them as indispensable and then writes two hundred pages about a misery their numbers cannot see. It's the same trick as Kant and Nietzsche, one shelf over: take what you need from each and don't look at where they contradict.
To his credit, Mark realizes life actually sucks for most people in rich countries, and that the problem is Lack of Meaning rather than a shortage of goods. Steve and Hans don't get there.
Some tough truths about pain vs. pleasure. Remember that Evidence and Science are the only Religion worth following? There are no conclusive studies suggesting that Pain improves us. There are none suggesting Pleasure does either. There are none establishing what the right balance is. Mark suggests we are wimps who need to toughen up. Maybe. Did I mention there's no conclusive evidence about any of this?
Your motivation matters, intrinsic or extrinsic. You gotta love that Mark talks about intrinsic motivation: the simple pleasure of doing an activity well rather than for an external reward. He says that's why he wrote the book. Not for the millions of dollars. Nice! Let's assume it's true. 😉
In agreement with his polemics or not, give Mark Manson credit for putting passion and prudence on the scales again.
October 30, 2021
I liked this book much more than the first.
The entire book basically points out the fact that pain is universal, suffering doesn't have to be, as it's based on how we perceive our circumstances.
Manson brings into the mix Nietzsche, Kant and Plato. I don't see myself reading them any time soon, but it was good to learn about some of their views.
Manson also mentions everyone's "favourite scientist" - Einstein - who is attributed all sort of sayings and quotes that he never uttered - ie "Everyone is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid."; "The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results." "The average human only uses 10 per cent of his brain." and so on.
I appreciated learning about: The Blue Dot Effect: humans warp their perceptions to fit their expectations, ie if you look for something bad, you'll find it/see it, even when it's not there. (look it up).
The last chapter on AI gave me anxiety, although he sort of puts a positive spin on it. I guess we'll wait and see, there's no escaping it.
The entire book basically points out the fact that pain is universal, suffering doesn't have to be, as it's based on how we perceive our circumstances.
Manson brings into the mix Nietzsche, Kant and Plato. I don't see myself reading them any time soon, but it was good to learn about some of their views.
Manson also mentions everyone's "favourite scientist" - Einstein - who is attributed all sort of sayings and quotes that he never uttered - ie "Everyone is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid."; "The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results." "The average human only uses 10 per cent of his brain." and so on.
I appreciated learning about: The Blue Dot Effect: humans warp their perceptions to fit their expectations, ie if you look for something bad, you'll find it/see it, even when it's not there. (look it up).
The last chapter on AI gave me anxiety, although he sort of puts a positive spin on it. I guess we'll wait and see, there's no escaping it.
March 7, 2020
وقتی کتاب رو به پایان رسوندم حس خوبی داشتم چیزهای جدیدی یادگرفتم و بهم اضافه شد به قول نویسنده رو اون طناب که بین هیولا و ابرانسان هست کمی جلوتر رفتم.
تقسیم بندی ذهنمان به ذهن عاطفی و عقلانی و ماشین دلقکی، تفاوت آزادی جعلی و حقیقی، تعریف سیستمهای شکننده و ضد شکننده، آزمایش اثر نقطه آبی و تاریخچه ی بازاریابی، تفاوت بچه ها و بزرگسالان، مصیبتهای سرگرمی های پوچ رو خیلی دوست داشتم و فکر میکنم در ذهنم ماندگار بشن.
تاریخچه مختصری که نویسنده از زندگی ویتولد پیلکی،نیچه، نیوتن، ادوارد برنایز، ایمانوئل کانت و تچ کوانگ دوک به تناسب در جای جای کتاب آورده بود خیلی جالب بود.
شرح نویسنده از شطرنج و هوش مصنوعی جالب بود ولی نتونستم بپذیرم اون چیز متعالی تر هوش مصنوعی باشه حالا یا اطلاعات من از هوش مصنوعی کمه و یا نویسنده اغراق کرده بود.
امتیاز رو 4 دادم چون برخی جاها مطالب پرش و گسستگی داشت نویسنده اون پیوستگی و انسجام کافی رو برای اثبات ادعاش نداشت. من فکر میکتم اگه به جای امید آرزو ترجمه میکردن بهتر بود. ولی با همه اینها موقع خواندن بعضی جاها واقعا غرق در لذت میشدم.
اگر بتوانید تردیدهای درونی هر کس را به کار بگیرید تقریبا هر چیزی به او بگویید خریداری خواهد کرد.
اینترنت برای این طراحی نشده بود که چیزی که نیاز داریم به ما بدهد برای این طراحی شده بود که چیزی را که میخواهیم بدهد.
جست و جوی خوشبختی همه ما را به بچگی میکشاند.
اگر فقط زمانی احساس خوبی دارید که زندگی شاد و آسان و زیباست یعنی آزاد نیستید.
فاصله بین حقیقت و خواسته ها را ازبین ببرید نه از راه تلاش برای رسیدن به خواسته ها بلکه با پذیرش حقیقت.
آزادی جعلی تنوع است و آزادی حقیقی تعهد است.
چنان عمل کنید که انسانیت را چه در خودتان و چه دیگران همیشه به منزله هدف در نظر بگیرید نه وسیله.
تقسیم بندی ذهنمان به ذهن عاطفی و عقلانی و ماشین دلقکی، تفاوت آزادی جعلی و حقیقی، تعریف سیستمهای شکننده و ضد شکننده، آزمایش اثر نقطه آبی و تاریخچه ی بازاریابی، تفاوت بچه ها و بزرگسالان، مصیبتهای سرگرمی های پوچ رو خیلی دوست داشتم و فکر میکنم در ذهنم ماندگار بشن.
تاریخچه مختصری که نویسنده از زندگی ویتولد پیلکی،نیچه، نیوتن، ادوارد برنایز، ایمانوئل کانت و تچ کوانگ دوک به تناسب در جای جای کتاب آورده بود خیلی جالب بود.
شرح نویسنده از شطرنج و هوش مصنوعی جالب بود ولی نتونستم بپذیرم اون چیز متعالی تر هوش مصنوعی باشه حالا یا اطلاعات من از هوش مصنوعی کمه و یا نویسنده اغراق کرده بود.
امتیاز رو 4 دادم چون برخی جاها مطالب پرش و گسستگی داشت نویسنده اون پیوستگی و انسجام کافی رو برای اثبات ادعاش نداشت. من فکر میکتم اگه به جای امید آرزو ترجمه میکردن بهتر بود. ولی با همه اینها موقع خواندن بعضی جاها واقعا غرق در لذت میشدم.
اگر بتوانید تردیدهای درونی هر کس را به کار بگیرید تقریبا هر چیزی به او بگویید خریداری خواهد کرد.
اینترنت برای این طراحی نشده بود که چیزی که نیاز داریم به ما بدهد برای این طراحی شده بود که چیزی را که میخواهیم بدهد.
جست و جوی خوشبختی همه ما را به بچگی میکشاند.
اگر فقط زمانی احساس خوبی دارید که زندگی شاد و آسان و زیباست یعنی آزاد نیستید.
فاصله بین حقیقت و خواسته ها را ازبین ببرید نه از راه تلاش برای رسیدن به خواسته ها بلکه با پذیرش حقیقت.
آزادی جعلی تنوع است و آزادی حقیقی تعهد است.
چنان عمل کنید که انسانیت را چه در خودتان و چه دیگران همیشه به منزله هدف در نظر بگیرید نه وسیله.
September 18, 2020
Deeper but Incohesive
After reading "the subtle art of not giving a fuck", I thought that Manson would have no new subject to talk about, and I was almost right. It can be concluded that this book has a more didactic tone, that is, it goes deeper and scrutinizes our intrinsic values, showing us the myopic effect they impose on our life. The thing is Manson's previous book had a very straightforward scheme (not that I am a stalwart supporter of linear plots, actually it is the exact opposite), however, this book was deprived of the "logical sequence of subjects". I could barely connect, Kant's daily schedule to the sci-fi-Isaac Asimov-ending. From my standpoint, the second half of the book was the fulcrum of the entire book. As for the first half, the exorbitant information regarding "religions" was extraneous and could have been truncated and the same thing can be said about the last chapter. It was all way too "predictivy like an ominous presentiment.
To put it in a nutshell, Manson is trying to say what Krishna Murti was trying to say many years ago.
Someone asks Murti: what is the right "way"?
and he answers: there is no "way".
Manson tries to convey the same thing with "hope"
One must go "beyond" hope. To hope as Nietzche described it is fraught with danger, man should go beyond Good and Evil to transmute into something Nietzche called "Superman" or "Übermensch" . One should simply put in the action.
"Don't hope for better. just be better".
This book is much deeper than his last book, it tries to convey a deeper more philosophical meaning. I can understand why some readers cannot relate to it the way they had related to his previous book.
After reading "the subtle art of not giving a fuck", I thought that Manson would have no new subject to talk about, and I was almost right. It can be concluded that this book has a more didactic tone, that is, it goes deeper and scrutinizes our intrinsic values, showing us the myopic effect they impose on our life. The thing is Manson's previous book had a very straightforward scheme (not that I am a stalwart supporter of linear plots, actually it is the exact opposite), however, this book was deprived of the "logical sequence of subjects". I could barely connect, Kant's daily schedule to the sci-fi-Isaac Asimov-ending. From my standpoint, the second half of the book was the fulcrum of the entire book. As for the first half, the exorbitant information regarding "religions" was extraneous and could have been truncated and the same thing can be said about the last chapter. It was all way too "predictivy like an ominous presentiment.
To put it in a nutshell, Manson is trying to say what Krishna Murti was trying to say many years ago.
Someone asks Murti: what is the right "way"?
and he answers: there is no "way".
Manson tries to convey the same thing with "hope"
One must go "beyond" hope. To hope as Nietzche described it is fraught with danger, man should go beyond Good and Evil to transmute into something Nietzche called "Superman" or "Übermensch" . One should simply put in the action.
"Don't hope for better. just be better".
This book is much deeper than his last book, it tries to convey a deeper more philosophical meaning. I can understand why some readers cannot relate to it the way they had related to his previous book.
August 25, 2020
The book starts off with the remarkable truth that ...We are inconsequential cosmic dust, bumping and milling about on a tiny blue speck. We imagine our own importance. We invent our purpose—we are nothing. Drawing from psychological facts and the wisdom of philosophy, Mark Manson establishes with ease that hope is a mechanism to steer forward despite the uncomfortable truth of life that human existence is meaningless. The author won me over with his logic, sharp observations and interesting anecdotes. There's no denying that the emotional part brain has an upper hand when it comes to decision making and that unless the thinking and feeling parts of the brain are at an equilibrium, everything feels hopeless. It didn't feel convincing enough that us faulty algorithms may worship AI in future. Everything is fucked presents to readers what we have to know and not what we want to (another need for bridging the gap between our feelings and reasons) and gives us an opportunity to reflect on our beliefs rather than follow it blindly. Apparently we should shift our focus away from hope and better ourselves. Isn't that easier said than done?
May 21, 2019
I skimmed through a lot of this. It seems to me like he did a lot of philosophical research, then gathered a bunch contemporary themes, threw them in a mixing bowl and voilà! sequel!
This just wasn't for me.
If you are looking for something remotely hopeful, I would recommend not picking this up. 'a book about hope' is a misnomer in my opinion.
This just wasn't for me.
If you are looking for something remotely hopeful, I would recommend not picking this up. 'a book about hope' is a misnomer in my opinion.
July 3, 2019
كاد الكتاب ان يكون جيدا لو لا الكلام الذي كان يمكن أن يلخص بقدرأقل مما قيل بكثير.
May 22, 2019
"Greater commitment allows for greater depth. A lack of commitment requires superficiality."
First of all, if you are looking for a book that will give you hope about something, then just don't continue reading this. This book is not about hope. It is anti-hope.
And I understand the concept and can relate to what the author is saying but the author contradicts himself more often in this one. It'll leave you confused.
This one is much better than the subtle art of not giving a f*CK, just because it has some relevant information and facts.
First two chapters are okay, but when the book dives into religion, you miss the whole point about why you ever started reading this book.
Other than that it is a mediocre read. The writing gets repetitive and boring after a point.
First of all, if you are looking for a book that will give you hope about something, then just don't continue reading this. This book is not about hope. It is anti-hope.
And I understand the concept and can relate to what the author is saying but the author contradicts himself more often in this one. It'll leave you confused.
This one is much better than the subtle art of not giving a f*CK, just because it has some relevant information and facts.
First two chapters are okay, but when the book dives into religion, you miss the whole point about why you ever started reading this book.
Other than that it is a mediocre read. The writing gets repetitive and boring after a point.
October 10, 2022
It's not what the title implies. And it's not very linear in thought or context. It certainly does not give you hope, but dare I say that is the point of the book? It delves into why hope is actually a bad thing. I had a small existential crisis while reading this book, then I realized it was just one man's philosophy and I don't have to subscribe to it. There were valuable nuggets in this book, which is why I'm giving it three stars. If nothing else, it's entertaining. The end also gives you a nice conspiracy theory to chew on, if you're in to that kind of thing.
August 18, 2019
A condescending mansplaining stream of consciousness
June 8, 2019
A few good parts, but mostly f*cking boring.
February 4, 2020
"ميدانم ، شايد به دنبال يافتن نوعي اميد و اطمينان از اينكه اوضاع بهتر مي شود، سراغ اين كتاب آمده ايد، مثلا اگر اين كار و آن كار و كارهاي ديگري انجام دهيد ، اوضاع بهتر خواهد شد. متاسفم! من چنين جوابي برايتان ندارم ، هيچكس ندارد؛ چون حتي اگر تمام مشكلات امروز به شكلي جادويي حل شود ، ذهن ما ناگزير مشكلات فردا را تجسم مي كند."
اين كتاب رو كمي با سختي خوندم ،
چونكه بي نهايت پرش موضوعي داشت و نياز بود گاها بارها خوانده بشه تا مفهموم درك بشه
موضوع كتاب درباره اميد بود اما نه "اميد داشتن" در باره فهم غلط ما از اميد بود و اينكه زندگي بدون اميد اونقدرها هم ترسناك نيست
به عبارتي ديگه ميتونه خيلي خوب باشه و نويسنده براي اين موضوع زندگي كانت رو مثال ميزنه و موفقيت هاي اين آدم بزرگ رو
ابتداي كتاب درباره تقابل ذهن عاطفي و ذهن عقلاني بود و اينكه چقدر هر دو ميتونه انسان رو تخريب كنه
زندگي انسان در اين كتاب به يك ماشين دلقكي تشبيه شده بود كه عقل و احساس راننده هاي اون هستند
در ادامه مقوله اميد از ديدگاه فلسفي مورد بررسي قرار گرفت و ذهن كودك و نوجوان و بالغ در تجربيات روزمره مورد سنجش قرار گرفت
در آخر هم درباره هوش مصنوعي نوشته شد كه يكي از مباحث جالب كتاب از نظر من بود.
"واكنش احساسي ما به مشكلاتمان از طريق اندازه مشكل مشخص نميشود، بلكه ذهن ما فقط مشكل را بزرگتر يا كوچكتر جلوه مي دهد تا با ميزان اضطرابي كه انتظار داريم حس كنيم، تناسب داشته باشد"
اين كتاب رو كمي با سختي خوندم ،
چونكه بي نهايت پرش موضوعي داشت و نياز بود گاها بارها خوانده بشه تا مفهموم درك بشه
موضوع كتاب درباره اميد بود اما نه "اميد داشتن" در باره فهم غلط ما از اميد بود و اينكه زندگي بدون اميد اونقدرها هم ترسناك نيست
به عبارتي ديگه ميتونه خيلي خوب باشه و نويسنده براي اين موضوع زندگي كانت رو مثال ميزنه و موفقيت هاي اين آدم بزرگ رو
ابتداي كتاب درباره تقابل ذهن عاطفي و ذهن عقلاني بود و اينكه چقدر هر دو ميتونه انسان رو تخريب كنه
زندگي انسان در اين كتاب به يك ماشين دلقكي تشبيه شده بود كه عقل و احساس راننده هاي اون هستند
در ادامه مقوله اميد از ديدگاه فلسفي مورد بررسي قرار گرفت و ذهن كودك و نوجوان و بالغ در تجربيات روزمره مورد سنجش قرار گرفت
در آخر هم درباره هوش مصنوعي نوشته شد كه يكي از مباحث جالب كتاب از نظر من بود.
"واكنش احساسي ما به مشكلاتمان از طريق اندازه مشكل مشخص نميشود، بلكه ذهن ما فقط مشكل را بزرگتر يا كوچكتر جلوه مي دهد تا با ميزان اضطرابي كه انتظار داريم حس كنيم، تناسب داشته باشد"
May 1, 2020
وهل تساءلت يومًا عمّا يجعل الناس يشعرون أنهم أكثر قلقًا وتعاسة على الرغم من ازدياد حياتهم يُسرًا؟
ظهر هذا السؤال البرّاق على غلاف كتاب خراب- كتاب عن الامل، للكاتب الأمريكي مارك مانسون. وهذا التساؤل قد أثار فضولي ودفعني إلى قراءة الكتاب في حقيقة الأمر، لأنني ظننت أن الكاتب سيتوسّع فيما ذهب إليه في كتابه السابق فنّ اللامبالاة، بأسلوبه الصدامي غير المألوف، والذي حمل فيه أفكارًا وأساليب ممتازة بعيدة كل البعد عن أساليب التنمية البشرية التقليدية والتي أغلبها مُضللة في حقيقة الأمر.
موضوع الكتاب الأساسي هو الأمل، في الحقيقة... الكاتب لا يدعو إلى الأمل بل إلى ازدرائه وتجنّبه! ويدّعي أن الأمل هو قيمة هدّامة وهو سبب كل المشاكل والمآسي التي يمر بها الانسان، لأنه مجرد خدعة عصبية من العقل!
إلى أي مدى ممكن أن يصل بنا هذا التفكير؟
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ظهر هذا السؤال البرّاق على غلاف كتاب خراب- كتاب عن الامل، للكاتب الأمريكي مارك مانسون. وهذا التساؤل قد أثار فضولي ودفعني إلى قراءة الكتاب في حقيقة الأمر، لأنني ظننت أن الكاتب سيتوسّع فيما ذهب إليه في كتابه السابق فنّ اللامبالاة، بأسلوبه الصدامي غير المألوف، والذي حمل فيه أفكارًا وأساليب ممتازة بعيدة كل البعد عن أساليب التنمية البشرية التقليدية والتي أغلبها مُضللة في حقيقة الأمر.
موضوع الكتاب الأساسي هو الأمل، في الحقيقة... الكاتب لا يدعو إلى الأمل بل إلى ازدرائه وتجنّبه! ويدّعي أن الأمل هو قيمة هدّامة وهو سبب كل المشاكل والمآسي التي يمر بها الانسان، لأنه مجرد خدعة عصبية من العقل!
إلى أي مدى ممكن أن يصل بنا هذا التفكير؟
أدعوكم إلى قراءة مراجعتي الكاملة والطويلة في الرابط التالي:
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