Well, this followed the same trajectory as Pride and Prejudice, rather than the one Emma did.
Honestly, I have such mixed feelings about this book that I’m afraid this review will be long. I loved it at first. By the halfway point, I only liked it, but I still found comfort in reading it. Then, in the later part of the book, everything started to go downhill.
You can tell this was Jane Austen’s first published novel, and I can clearly see why it has received such a mixed response. Austen is best known for her ability to poke fun at the upper classes without turning them into outright villains, but here, the balance between her trademark biting satire and grim social realism feels underdeveloped. What she seems to be saying doesn't always come across as she intends. I'm not saying the satire is wholly unsuccessful, but it is inconsistent.
Without looking more deeply at the book or considering what Austen may have been trying to convey, it can come across as deeply patriarchal and misogynistic. That impression is partly due to the way the satire fails to work consistently. Austen seems to want to show how difficult and restrictive life was for women at the time, and how society pitted women against one another, leaving them isolated, unable to form close friendships, and focused primarily on men. Sadly, in my opinion, that idea does not come through as clearly here as it does in her other two novels I have read. The narrative makes so many excuses for the mediocre and despicable men while vilifying the women (apart from the sisters, and sometimes even them) that it made me confused about what the book was trying to say at times. To me, when a story raises those kinds of questions, it suggests that its commentary has not been handled effectively. At some moments, the satire works well; at others, it disappears, leaving me stranded in a world that inspires little but frustration.
First, let's talk about Marianne, since I have a little less to say about her than I do about Elinor.
Marianne is meant to represent the sensibility in the title, and she certainly does. But she also has plenty of sense. She may be dramatic about her feelings, yet in most cases she sees people for who they really are. At times, her less charitable thoughts get the better of her, and she judges good and honorable people too harshly. For the most part, though, she strikes a balance between sense and sensibility.
It's funny: at the beginning, I didn't like Marianne very much and wasn’t especially interested in her. But as the story went on, she became my favorite sister. The narrative punishes her repeatedly for being so open and expressive about her feelings. I agree that she could have acted more prudently in some situations, but I don’t think the book’s criticism of sensibility alone is entirely deserved. She was certainly foolish to make it so obvious to everyone how much she loved Willoughby, but she was also free-spirited. She didn’t care much about other people’s opinions, which was rare at the time. I can understand why the narrative presents that lack of caution as dangerous: it could have cost her her reputation and even her future. Still, her behavior doesn’t seem so extreme to me that it warrants such a severe reprimand.
Marianne’s character development is handled so well that her ending ultimately feels like a punishment. Don't get me wrong, I loved Colonel Brandon, and I think he was the only character with any real sense and honor, but I’m not convinced that the book does enough to show that Marianne truly loves him, rather than simply settling into the kind of marriage people expect of her. So much of her story is devoted to her overcoming her sensibility and learning to value sense that, by the end, it feels as though she has been stripped of the qualities that made her so charmingly herself.
Now let's talk about the story’s principal protagonist, Elinor.
At first, I really loved her. I appreciated how the author presented her as the embodiment of sense, one half of the title’s central contrast. Elinor is self-disciplined and deeply aware of both her emotions and her own character. She seems able to hold her feelings firmly in check, understand them, and keep them from overwhelming her. I also admired her practical, no-nonsense views on how men and women behave and on the world around her. Early on, I found myself agreeing with many of her observations.
But this is where the execution began to falter for me. At a certain point, Elinor started to come across as something of a “pick-me” woman of her time, and I say that with genuine regret. I want to be clear that I understood what the author was trying to convey through the contrast between sense and sensibility. The idea itself came through, but its execution did not work for me.
The author seems to want Elinor to represent a woman who understands how society functions and recognizes what is expected of women in her era. That part of her characterization is clear. However, her repeated harsh judgments of women, paired with the warmth and generosity she so often extends to men, felt excessive. The imbalance became so pronounced that the satire stopped landing, and Elinor instead seemed to have internalized misogyny. I am not suggesting that every woman she criticizes is undeserving of criticism, or that every man she sympathizes with deserves none. Rather, the way she consistently responds to women and men revealed a great deal about how she views both genders. Elinor was a woman of great sense, but her understanding of right and wrong had become so distorted by her own rigid ideals that it eventually turned against her.
While the final scene with Willoughby is structurally meant to show his lingering regret, I found its inclusion unnecessary and frustrating. Readers already understood Willoughby’s motives and knew the broad outlines of his story, so I did not feel that we needed to hear his side in such detail. More troubling, though, was Elinor's reaction to what he told her. Her feelings made it clear just how readily she views men more favorably than women. Perhaps my modern expectations for accountability made it difficult for me to understand her pity, but her sudden shift in feeling toward a man who had been so deplorable left me confused.
And that is not even the cherry on top. Elinor’s opinions and feelings about the entire situation involving Edward and Lucy were even more difficult for me to accept. That whole storyline left me raising my eyebrows and rolling my eyes so often that I nearly gave myself a headache.
Now, on to the love interests: Colonel Brandon and Edward.
For Colonel Brandon, I have nothing but praise. He is the kind of romantic hero who is both dashing and deeply respectful, someone willing to love quietly and patiently if that is what will make the woman he loves happy. His enduring affection and selflessness make him the saving grace of this romance.
Edward, on the other hand, was a coward. He reminded me that even fictional men can be very much like real ones. His behavior was deplorable, and once I learned his secret, my opinion of him fell so far that I could never see him the same way again.
I truly tried to understand him. I tried to look at him from another perspective, make excuses for him, and find some reason to sympathize with him. But the narrative made it impossible for me to like him or see any redeeming qualities in his character. The saddest part is that I genuinely liked him before his secret was revealed.
To me, he showed no honor, and yes, I know that, by the standards of his time, his conduct may have been considered the height of honor. But that does not align with my own understanding of honor. Nor did he show Elinor the respect or love she deserved. As the story moved toward its ending, his actions only reinforced that impression.
Honestly, the ending felt almost horrifying to me. Elinor deserved so much better.
In conclusion, I understood what the author was trying to convey: women were expected to live within strict social constraints, while men were not held to the same standards. She also satirizes the way society excuses or indulges men, even when they are at fault, yet condemns women for conduct that is less serious than what men are allowed to get away with. I recognized these ideas, but I only picked up on them because I brought my existing familiarity with the author’s style and themes to the text, not because the novel's own execution worked well.