Yeah, I'm reading self-help books now. Surprised?
There are a lot of components to Feeling Good that still grated on the self-help misanthrope-hopeless-fuckface-jaded-dickhead that I usually am, and it's mostly in David Burns's overtly assertive and "it's-so-simple" prose styling. Sometimes it's great because he's gifted at taking highly nuanced and sophisticated concepts about cognition and psychiatry and making them digestible and applicable; other times the tone sort of crosses into the sort of infomercial, self-help prose that has become such a subject of ridicule and cliche among the jaded like myself. This is less common that I'm leading on. The content is absolutely, definitely, hands-down worth pushing through even if the title, the way that it is branded, the cover, and the prose is a little off-putting. Part of that is because of the ways in which Burns thought he needed to reach as many people as possible with his research, but, hey, he succeeded: as of 1990 I think 3 million people used Feeling Good to their advantage, and I understand why. Even if the self-help culture rubs you the wrong way, there are too many valuable lessons here that are by no means soft or even necessarily "feel-good." They're good, responsible tools just behavior-wise and could be an interesting read for anybody.
The first is this: your cognitions precede your emotions, and your cognitions will be - and are more often than not - distorted. Behind every sort of anxious blur or depressed haze or crushing weight, there really is a level to transcend there, and it's about putting your own thoughts under methodical, scientific inquiry. It's as simple and as difficult as that. It takes an element of bravery, a lot of motivation, and the writing and exercises it requires are - believe me - a lot of work. But part of Feeling Good, it turns out, isn't in bowing down to God or putting any concepts on a pedestal here. It's a toolbox that combines logical analysis of one's own cognitions, how they are distorted, and rebutting that rationally. There's something empowering about having the choice and power to rewire one's thoughts in this way, and it never feels like a delusion or even any sort of dishonesty. It's usually a goodness that comes via hard-earned evaluation and realization. They are the same principles of scrutiny and logical adherence I had - and have- as a depressed person, only I can escalate that mode of evaluation to my own thoughts in new and useful ways. It's as simple as realizing that "choice" transcends all the clusters of thoughts and feelings that can be incredibly crippling.
To be honest, I'm not familiar so much with the self-help movement as I am with the stigma and denigrating naysayer hullabaloo around it. I'm sure a lot of it, whether religion-based or delusion-based or Dr.-Phil-counseling balderdash, is just ridiculous and irresponsible. Feeling Good takes pains to provide examples of where psychiatrists, psychotherapists, physicians, and everyone in between gets it wrong, and it's usually by enforcing silly methods like "keep telling yourself this" or it's a "chemical imbalance."
In my depressions I felt a sort of comforting smugness to the confidence I had in my thoughts and feelings, the absolute certainty with which I could assert such and such was bad or such and such thing would not work out, and then very methodically explain why. That confidence in rational explanation was pointed outward, and was more assured than I would like to admit. All the criticism and rigor and weighty analysis of the external and its impact on me was preventing me from putting that skill to something that's a little more in my control than the outside world. Like, for example, how I think. This resolution is simple, brilliant, and 'meta' in the best way. Very recently it seems behavioral therapy is demonstrating the potential to re-wire the brain - hopefully I'm not criminally paraphrasing some neuro-scientific research - and that lends this the much-needed credibility a lot of the Deepak Chopra self-help movement desperately needs, and will never get.
So, Feeling Good has a tremendously important message and I hope it sticks, because so far it's working mighty well. I can't describe how "shit, that's so simple and brilliant...I wish I'd thought of that" his methodology is. It turns out the fact that you can't necessarily trust your mind can be spun into something empowering and liberating. It also turns out that rigorous scientific thinking or introspective, critical analysis does not bear the mark, necessarily, of misery or sadness. The only thing that's stopping me from saying Feeling Good is out-and-out amazing personally - which, its ideas certainly are - are just the artificial testimonials and awkwardly unrealistic "role-play" scenarios between Dr. Burns and his client. Even if they are word-for-word, they don't come off convincingly at all. I understand the need for examples but they don't quite pack as much of a punch when they come off as scripted or suspect. Some are more groan-inducing in execution than probably intended, and sometimes it beats a dead horse. The repetition helps it stick, though, and if anything ought to stick, it's how to help yourself out of self-destruction.
So I get they are a necessary way for him to get this out there and help as many people as he can. It's a quibble from someone who appreciates that its broad appeal is how I got to stumbling across it in the first place, and for that I am grateful. While parts of it weren't "amazing" to me personally, I'm more-so amazed at how pitch-perfect it is written to grasp such a wide and diverse audience (of depressed and/or hyper-critical people also), help millions, and transcend the oft-critiqued 'self-help' culture. The feat and the ideas are amazing even if at times the read doesn't sit well with me personally. In fact, I picked up The Feeling Good Handbook yesterday.
Part of me does think I'll get judged for this sort of reading, and there are imaginary people out there who will think poorly of this form of writing, blah blah blah. I can tell you right now that, though that voice is in there, I know precisely why it's there, that it's full of shit, and fuck off and go read this for your own sake. The way it differentiates between sadness and depression is poetic in a way I've never even seen in fiction.