This book blew. my. mind. It is a powerful primer on racism and antiracist practice. It offers a clear and concise framework from which to think about these issues. It arms you with knowledge and advice. I don't often say this, but this should be required reading.
Here is a fraction of what I learned:
—Because white people don't feel the effects of their race, they are tricked into thinking we live in a post-race and post-racism society. Perhaps they will concede that things aren't perfect for people of color, but they'll definitely point out that things are not as bad as they used to be. Yes, a handful of individual people of color have broken glass ceilings, and yes, slavery in its historic form has long been abolished, but the numbers clearly show that disparities in education, in the justice system, and in wages have gotten worse since the Civil Rights era. WORSE. We are more segregated and less equal now than we were at the start of integration. Segregation is not random and it is not benign. If, like many white people, you went to largely white schools and lived in largely white neighborhoods, this was no accident of fate.
—In America we are deeply wedded to notions of individualism and meritocracy, and these insidious ideologies keep racism firmly in place. We think, "people just need to pick themselves up and work hard to enjoy the American dream." This totally disregards centuries of policies that have benefited white people and hurt people of color, centuries that have resulted in inherited wealth, attitudes, policies, and networks that favor white people and white people's access to resources. Amazingly, white people resent people of color for policies put in place to level this wildly uneven playing field, hotly denying that they have any legs up, so why should people of color have them.
—We conceive of racism as individual malicious acts by "bad" people, and we are thereby able to distance ourselves from it. But racism is better thought of as systemic oppression that on the whole advantages one demographic over another. Yes, white people may suffer from discrimination on a temporary, contextual basis (as well as be oppressed in other ways—class, gender, etc.), but on the whole, with regards to race, they are undeniably the privileged group. When thinking of privilege, it is more helpful to think of it as a lack of struggle rather than something that is handed to you. Of course some white people have worked very hard for what they have, but in terms of race, they always had the wind at their backs. White people are very resistant to these ideas because it forces them to see themselves as part of a larger, advantaged demographic. They are offended by the notion that they are privileged or that they themselves participate in racism. They demand to be seen and judged as individuals, denying all history and sociology and psychology. The irony is how often these insisters see others as manifestations of their racial group (e.g., black men are more prone to violence; Asians are bad drivers; Latin men are highly sexualized; etc.).
—Racial stereotypes are as pernicious and damaging as they are pervasive. And stereotypes do not exist for a reason. They are unfair, unmerited projections onto an entire group. I don't care who you are, you hold racial prejudices and you discriminate, many times in ways you are not even conscious of. Yes, this holds true for people of color as well, but the difference is that when it comes to institutions and institutional power, the numbers clearly show that white people have more ready access to resources than people of color. If you look at the racial makeup of people in positions of power (be it elected officials and judges or teachers and social service workers), they are disproportionally white in contrast to the larger population. However well intentioned these people in power may be, their racial prejudices and discriminations on average play out in predictable ways that benefit white people and hurt people of color, for example the administering of tougher punishments for similar offenses.
—Prejudice (an emotion unrelated to reality) fuels discrimination (an action). Hatred fuels racial violence, but that is the extreme end of the spectrum. Discomfort, for example, fuels avoidance. We are taught in myriad subtle ways that people of color are not as important, not as interesting, not as worthy or desirable. This indifference fuels segregation. Discrimination can also manifest itself as favoring certain people based on your prejudice about their group. This runs the gamut of deferring to people we see as our superiors to treating as individuals those we see as "normal."
—Denial maintains the status quo. Silence maintains the status quo. Inaction maintains the status quo. Guilt and evasion maintain the status quo. The status quo is racism. If you are white, the status quo benefits you and hurts people of color.
—We (white people) need to educate ourselves. We need to read and learn about other cultures and about our history and for god's sake, we need to listen. We need to shut the fuck up about reverse racism, which doesn't exist (discrimination might, but not racism in the sense of institutionally backed oppression). We need to shut the fuck up about how colorblind we are and stop yapping away about how much less of a racist we are that that other guy over there. We need to disrupt racism, even when—especially when—we feel uncomfortable doing so with our white peers. We need to form meaningful cross-racial relationships. We need to be allies. We need to acknowledge our privilege. We need to educate our kids. We need to not tokenize and objectify and exoticize people of color. We need to notice when people of color aren't at the table, aren't in the room, aren't in the discussion, aren't in our neighborhoods, aren't represented, aren't our friends or our coworkers or the writers we read or the actors we watch.
—And finally, we did not ask to be born into this system. We are not bad people for absorbing all of this prejudice. But privilege comes with responsibility. It is our responsibility to do what we can to fight this. It won't be easy or comfortable or graceful. But we have to try. Because this should make us sick to our stomachs.