Ages 5-13: Pay child on commission; money for some jobs. Pay weekly. At payday, teach to save 20%, Give 10%, spend rest. Write down savings goal so they can see it daily. Teach them to give money and time to others.
"Raking leaves, cleaning the house, or being responsible for feeding the pet creates a sense of accomplishment, the sense that they actually did something that they can feel good about. It makes them feel confident that they can go out and win."
Ages 14-18: Open up a checking account in your child's name. Put all the money you spend on them(clothes, sports, clubs, lunch) in there, plus the weekly commissions that they earn. Plan a budget based on your child's income and a what they need/want to spend it on. Give, Save(emergency fund of 500 minimum (car repairs, etc.), college, car and repairs, computer, trip, gifts), Food (eating out, school lunch), Clothes (sport, regular), transportation (gas, insurance, oil change, license and taxes, bus), Personal (cosmetics, hair, music, gifts, pocket money, cell phone), recreation (movie, concerts). Balance checkbooks once a month as a chore. In addition to teaching budgeting, teach your child about investing and avoiding debt at all costs.
"Saving money requires emotional maturity. Delaying pleasure is one definition of maturity. Adults devise a plan and follow it; children do what feels good."
"A budget creates boundaries. That's the great thing about being purposeful in how you plan your money - it sets limitations for you."
"Children who can learn to plan and be forward-thinking are more poised and confident because life is not always happening to them - they are happening to life."
"Give them some freedom to make their own mistakes. Be careful to make this a positive experience for them so they can grow to love the process and benefits."
Wedding: 55% reception (facilities, food, drinks, decorations, cake, band, parking, transportation), 12% ceremony (flowers, location, officiant), 10% photography+videographer, 10% wedding planner, 8% dress and tux, 5% miscellaneous (bridesmaid and groomsman gifts, wedding bands, invitations, thank you notes, marriage license).
"When you teach your child to lean on a plastic crutch, you are teaching them that they don't have to delay pleasure, or sacrifice, or save up and pay cash for things. You are teaching them that they don't need to save for a rainy day, because the plastic umbrella is always there. You are teaching them really bad values that will lead them into debt, which may take them a decade to clean up."
"Getting a credit card doesn't make your student an adult; it makes her a slave to debt and sets her on a potentially lifelong course of spending money she doesn't have. When you train your child from a young age how to spot those marketing tactics, and if you teach her that the borrower truly is a slave to the lender, you'll empower her to walk right past the debt salesman."
"If he learned early on to save up and pay cash for cars, and if he learned about budgeting, debt, contentment, and the other things we're talking about in this book, he wouldn't have that payment. That means he'd have $492 extra in his monthly budget to save and invest. If he were to invest that $492 into a good growth stock mutual fund his entire working lifetime - age 25 to 65 - he would retire with $5,846,153. He'd be a millionaire by age 51 and have almost 6 million at retirement simply because he paid himself a car payment all those years."
Ready to buy a house/save for college: "completely out of debt, have a full emergency fund of 3 to 6 months of expenses in the bank, contributing 15% of income to retirement, and have a down payment of at least 10 percent (20 is better)."
Saving for college: 1st $2,000 per year in an ESA (growth stock mutual fund). Next, contribute to a 529 plan: "Stay away from plans that fix or control your investment options. You also need to stay away from the prepaid state tuition plans. Only do the kind you can put into a growth stock mutual fund and that allows you to control and move the investment."
On college: "You must lovingly guide your "grown" teen in his college choice and field of study. Keep the lines of communication open, and be ready to pull the money away if necessary to save him from himself."
"As your child hits her senior year of high school, I want to suggest a new part-time job for her: filling out scholarship applications. I recently talked to a new college graduate, and she told me that all through the spring semester of her senior year of high school, her mother made her fill out two scholarship applications every day. That took maybe an hour a day, and at the time, this girl was not happy about it. But her mom wouldn't let her off the hook, no matter how much she complained. Then the award letters started rolling in. By the time she started college, she had enough scholarships to give her a completely free ride for three years! That meant all she had to do was work enough during those three years to save up for her fourth year's tuition."
FAFSA during senior year for scholarships, grants, and assistance child is eligible for.
Take ACT/SAT at least three times.
"A part-time job will actually not hurt your child's grades; it will improve them. Studies show that students who work 10-19 hours a week actually have higher GPA's on average than students who don't hold jobs while in school. There are even studies that show how much a student's GPA goes up the more he is responsible for paying for his education. This might seem counterintuitive, but think about it: You value what you pay for, remember? We saw that when we talked about buying a car. If your child is financially invested in his own education, he's more likely to place a higher value on it and work harder to make the most of it. And if he's managing a job while in college, he also gets the added bonus of learning things like priorities, goal setting, and time management."
"Contentment is a spiritual experience that allows peace in the middle of a storm, but that peace isn't necessarily passive. It may very well be active. A content person still wants to do better and be better; he's just not pinning all his hopes and dreams on that one thing. He may say, "If this is all I ever have, I'll thank God and call myself blessed. But if I can grow and change and make a bigger impact on the world, then I'm going to do that." A content person doesn't avoid making decisions; he just doesn't feel the pressing need to make rash or stupid decisions. It is not necessary to be stagnant or unmoving to be content. So content people may not have the best of everything, but they make the best of everything."
On Jealousy/envy: teach your child to be happy for others blessings. Hope for themselves one day.
Limit remove friends/advertisements that encourage stuff/comparisons/wanting tons of stuff. Remind that stuff will not fulfill.
"Celebrating the accomplishments and character qualities that enabled them to make the purchase reminds your children that they are not defined by the abundance of their possessions. Purchases are always the result of a goal, not the end goal. Never let a child utter the words, "I will be happy when..." Contentment isn't a destination; it's not somewhere you're leaving from, and it isn't somewhere you're heading to. Contentment is a manner of traveling. It's an attitude of peace and joy where you are, even while you are working to be somewhere else."
"A heart filled with gratitude leaves no room for discontentment."
"Why is it that a two-year-old is often happier playing in the box a toy came in rather than playing with the actual toy? Why is it that children living in poverty in third-world countries seem happier and more content than kids in wealthy nations? Because neither is caught in the trap of comparisons. They don't know what they are missing out on. They are simply grateful."
"Make sure your heart is full of gratitude for the blessings in your own life. Let your children witness this in you, and they will want to respond with gratitude for the blessings in their own lives."
"When your child is focused on meeting the real needs of others through giving, it becomes harder and harder for him to focus on his wants."
"Winning with money also means getting comfortable doing some good, old-fashioned hard work. It means learning patience, delayed gratification, and contentment. It means developing the heart of a giver. Personal finance is only 20% head knowledge; the other 80% is behavior."
"To avoid this insanity, we as parents simply must say no sometimes - and stick to it. We need to assert our control and command over our households. Don't think for a second that your children aren't smart enough to manipulate you. They are. And they will as long as you let them."
"As a parent, let your yes be yes and your no be no. No is a complete sentence. It doesn't need an explanation. Have integrity. Stick to your answer. And enforce consequences for fits or negative outbursts that result from the healthy, loving boundary you set. Saying no and sticking to it take tremendous energy in the moment. However, over the scope of your life, it takes less energy because nothing is more draining than an eight-year-old brat or a self-centered teen. Few things in life are more disheartening than watching your adult child fail in his relationships, finances, career, and every other area of life because you never set boundaries for him as a child. Saying no takes energy at the time, but it saves your life and your child's life in the long run."
Grown child moving home: only for crisis. 1st, make a time limit. 2nd, they must be doing things promote healing (looking for a job for 3 hours a day, do a budget and show it to you, save a certain amount per month, exercise, good sleep, counseling). 3rd, act according to your rules (no drugs, coming home at reasonable hour, doing chores around the house).
"Is this helping my child become the self-supporting, healthy, mature adult I want him to be?"
"You will never win with money by accident, it takes planning."