Friendship Letters Series — Doretta Schwartz has always enjoyed writing letters and feels her letters can be a bit of a ministry to her friends. In this series, exchanging letters that contain open and honest feelings and struggles helps Doretta and two of her best friends through the darkest challenges of their lives.
Letters and Prayers Between Friends Become a Balm for Healing
Irma Miller thought having a family of her own would bring her joy and a sense of accomplishment, but she struggles with memories of the abuse she suffered as a child at the hand of her stepfather. When she becomes physically and emotionally abusive to her own children, she reaches out to her friend Doretta for prayer and wisdom. But Irma may find herself at an even darker emotional place before she will admit she needs professional help to heal the past traumas. Will Doretta’s letters of wisdom help Irma and her family, or will too much be broken to ever be repaired?
Find out in the third book of The Friendship Letters series by New York Times Bestselling Author Wanda E. Brunstetter.
New York Times bestselling and award-winning author, Wanda E. Brunstetter is one of the founders of the Amish fiction genre. She has written close to 90 books translated in four languages. With over 10 million copies sold, Wanda's stories consistently earn spots on the nations most prestigious bestseller lists and have received numerous awards.
Wanda’s ancestors were part of the Anabaptist faith, and her novels are based on personal research intended to accurately portray the Amish way of life. Her books are well-read and trusted by many Amish, who credit her for giving readers a deeper understanding of the people and their customs.
When Wanda visits her Amish friends, she finds herself drawn to their peaceful lifestyle, sincerity, and close family ties. Wanda enjoys photography, ventriloquism, gardening, bird-watching, beachcombing, and spending time with her family. She and her husband, Richard, have been blessed with two grown children, six grandchildren, and two great-grandchildren.
If I could only read one book this year I would want it to be this one! The main topic was something most people aren’t comfortable talking about. Wanda Brunstetter has written a heart felt story about physical and emotional abuse to a young Amish girl by the hand of her step father. What made it worse was that it seemed her mother had stood by watching as the abuse went on and on. Not intervening on her daughter’s behalf. The child grew up, married and left home with bitterness and unforgiving thoughts towards her mother and step father, hidden in her heart. The years went by and the woman was unable to forget her past and go on with her life. Then she begin to abuse her own children and even though she didn’t want to she couldn’t seem to control her anger issues. Her friends prayed for her and tried to give her helpful advice but she still refused to forgive her mother even after her stepfather died. I thought the book was very well written and very realistic. It was emotional and I thought the story was very meaningful. I was completely drawn into the book from the beginning. It was a page turner and it held my interest till the end of the book. I recommend Letters of Wisdom to readers of Christian Fiction, Amish Fiction, Women’s Fiction and to fans of the Author. This book is part of a series but can be read as a standalone. I voluntarily read an advanced readers copy of this book. All thoughts and opinions shared here in this review are my own. #LettersofWisdom #NetGalley
This was the 3rd book in the Friendship Letters series. Great read and cab be read a a stand alone, it has been awhile since I read the first and second book in this series.
It's not often that an Amish fiction author writes about a tough topic such as abuse. So, this was a new take on Amish Fiction and Brunstetter did it with so much love. This is one Amish book you might want to read. Mary Reader received this book from the publisher for review. A favorable review was not required, and all views expressed are our own.
Bitterness blocks healing and prevents the goodness of God from shining through in our life. Bitterness eats away at our peace.
The Friendship Letters series have been tackling some very tough subjects and this is not exception. Probably the most painful. Irma Miller has made a life for herself with her husband and children. She has left a painful past back in Montana where she was abused by her step father. When she hears from her family that her step father has passed away, she struggles with going back to Montana. Her husband gently reminds her that she can have closure and be a support to her mother. However, it is not only her step father that she struggles against, it is also her mother who stood by and let it happened.
Irma's story is the gospel. She was a victim of abuse by those that were suppose to love and protect her however the gospel is not about victimhood. The gospel is about the victory of Christ. It was a journey that looks different for all of us. Do we stay in victimhood or do we move to victory in Christ. What does that look like? Irma realization that she too is prone to anger and abuse. When it is directed to her own children, she knows that it is by the power of forgiveness and moving forward that she can move to victory.
The author is very sensitive to this painful subject. It is not taken lightly and it is not taken in isolation. Irma hid her pain and it was her husband that helped her. I appreciated how the gospel was lived out in our very broken world. Highly recommend.
A special thank you to Barbour Publishing and Netgalley for the ARC and the opportunity to post an honest review.
*****I received this ARC free from NetGalley in exchange for my honest review.
One of my favorite authors in this genre. I really liked how she covered the topiic of the cycle of abuse. Even in a peaceful Amish community people can be touched by this issue.
I liked reading this 3rd book in the series by Wanda Brunstetter. I have enjoyed all the books in the series so far, but this one was definitely harder to read because it unfortunately portrayed real life situations such as abuse. I am glad I finished the book and it had a good outcome. Filled with advice from letters and the act of forgiveness, the book took me on a roller coaster ride of emotions. I recommend the complete series because each book has a character with their own story which ties them to all three books.
I received a complimentary copy from NetGalley and the publisher. All words are my own
Book 3 of this series, and it didn't disappoint. I have to say that this story,of Irma and her past abuse & current issues with her children,was hard for me to read. It wasn't anything to do with the great writing of Wanda, it was the abuse. Even though my parents NEVER abused me, thank God, later in my senior year in my marriage, my now ex that's deceased, abused me in ways I never imagined. I married the man I loved, met at Church, thought I new him completely, but turned out to abuse me emotionally, mentally, verbally, and finally physically in 2009, after my dad(my lifeline to the outside world)passed away. He was a monster, similar to how Irma's step-dad was to her, but worse in so many ways. I related to Irma in this story, and felt sorry for her, yet understood her too. I was made to feel like a slave, similar to like she felt, but she didn't say that particular term for it. Her friends tried writing letters, as they have always done to help her out. They had noticed her letters to them seemed different at first,because she wasn't sharing her current feelings/situation to them. Irma didn't want to be ANYTHING like her step-dad, and treat her children or husband like she had been treated. She was so frustrated with her mom and how she could stand by and not say a word to her husband whenever he treated her differently, than his own children! Thankfully with her friends, husband,and community with her faith, things turn around for Irma in ways for the better. Can she come to terms with everything? Can she forgive her mom? Can she move forward for the better with her children & husband? You can find all this out by grabbing your copy anywhere you get your books. It was released March 1st. ***I was lucky & blessed to receive an ARC of this book, and my review is my own words, noone else's. I highly recommend this story along with the 2 prior books in the series Friendship Letters!!***
Letters of Wisdom is another powerful book written by Wanda Brunstetter in her The Friendship Letters. Her characters are amazing and well defined by the end of the story they felt like real friends. I enjoyed the storyline which was a hard topic to write about. With the help of a dear friend through letters Irma Miller is finding the help she needs. This story will draw you in and keep you reading to find how everything is revealed. The author definitely does not let her readers down with this story.
I received a complimentary copy of this book from Barbour Publishing but I was not required to post a favorable review. I have rated this story with five stars for meeting my expectations of a wonderful story for readers of all genres.
2.5 stars. Not Wanda's worst, but it's far from her best. Irma is pretty much the worst right from the start and it's hard to have any sympathy for her.
I have long been a fan of Wanda Brunstetter's books. When I began this book, I was somewhat taken aback because of the storyline. It took me several nights of reading to really get in to the book, but once I did, I was certainly glad I did. This book deals with family abuse at the hands of one of Irma's parents and the memories and characteristics she carries as a result of it.
Irma Miller's father passed away when she was a young child and her mother consequently remarried. When she remarried, she had additional children with her new husband. Irma became the brunt of his abuse and as a result she carried those memories into her own marriage and family. She wrote about this abuse to her friends, Doretta, who became a prayer warrior for her. When some of those abusive characteristics start to take form in Irma's own child-rearing, her husband, LaVern becomes concerned. Her letters to her friend, Doretta, also cause alarm . Through the trials and consequences in dealing with her own family life, Irma has to come to terms with her past abuse. She also has to mend fences with her mother and siblings before she can move on.
I was given a review copy of this book through NetGalley. I am thankful to the author and the publisher, Barbour Publishing for the opportunity to read this. I would definitely recommend others read this, especially anyone who has dealt with abuse or has family members who have been in an abusive situation.
It seems Wanda's books are getting better and better! This book is kind of a thought provoking read. About a lady who is abused and marries the first guy who comes along to escape the abuse. She chooses to not think about it anymore since she no longer has to deal with it now. Until she does. Her anger boils over now when her children disobey and she is having bad flashbacks and nightmares. And then she snaps. This book shows how the vicious cycle of abuse happens. It's bone chilling to see. And the ways to properly deal with it besides just counseling. Good friends who can be there for you, guide you, give good advice are just as good too. The only down side to this entire book that I didn't like is that it portrayed that if you struggle from being abused the only way to fix it is to become a Christian. So that means Christians can't struggle? "I received a complimentary copy of this book from Barbour Publishing and was under no obligation to post a review."
This is a good story about forgiveness and trust that was somewhat difficult to read due to my own past. It brought up a lot of past experiences and unanswered questions.
Another 5 star read! This series just keeps getting better and better. Tackeling some very intense issues. It started out with 2 friends keeping in touch with each other to sharing the reality of a not so perfect life. Although it may cause some triggers these issues are dealt with in a very thoughtful way. This book deals with physical abuse and the stigma that surrounds it. Relationships are broken and some will not be restored. It shows how faith in God will heal the hurts and help forgiving the people that hurt you.
3rd book in series. A well developed story that had me captive for several hours. This story captures attention right away several letters with good prayer warriors giving good advice.helps the story. Every chapter gets better & better. Overcoming our sinful nature with God's help. I enjoyed this book the most. Well done
This Amish series is different than most in a good way, and this novel is the best of the three! Each one addresses a specific challenge that many families have faced, so it is a blessing to see examples of Christians finding help and hope. My heart has gone out to each of the three friends in the series, especially Irma. While there is no bad language, graphic violence, or terrible examples of abuse, some of the scenes may be uncomfortable for those who were abused or spilling that abuse to the next generation. I hope that many will seek help as a result of it, whether one has been abused in any way or loves someone who has experienced child abuse. What the novel shows me is that there is hope for the Lord to allow healing, and some of His instruments of healing may be clergy or Christian counselors.
We get to know three childhood friends, Eleanor, Doretta, and Irma, through their conversations, letters, and behaviors. I was happy to see Eleanor and Doretta, from earlier novels, again. Doretta serves her friends and loved ones well with her prayers and her thoughtful, encouraging letters. I admire how well the Amish, who do not use cell phones, email, or texting, yet communicate better than non-Amish people.
Irma’s beloved father died when she was young. Within a year, her widowed mother married Homer, who moved them away from their family and friends in Indiana to Montana. Her mom and Homer had four more children, and he grew increasingly more critical of Irma, crossing the line to verbal and emotional abuse, then to physical abuse. Irma saw her mother stand by and allow Homer to abuse her. After Irma and LaVern met, married, and moved to Ohio where his family lived, she never went back to visit, and communicated as little as possible with them.
When they got word that Homer died suddenly, Irma grudgingly went to Montana with LaVern for his funeral. They didn’t arrive until late the night before the committal, and left the following morning. LaVern came from a very loving family, and knew little about the relationships in Irma’s home, so he was puzzled by Irma’s reactions.
Irma hoped her nightmares and flashbacks would stop if she went to the funeral. Instead, they got much worse. Her patience with their young children snapped, she found out she was pregnant again, and she caught herself heading toward that line of hurting her own little ones until it actually happened. This time, she was not able to get the children to stay silent before LaVern came home and found out.
I was completely unaware that some of the challenges in this series happened in Amish communities. I was happy to see how close-knit church districts are equipped to assist with such challenges in a positive way. I feel this novel has an excellent place in today’s Christian Women’s Literature whether one is, or was in an abusive situation, or to recognize someone who is actively abused. I appreciate how people shared their faith in the Lord. I enjoyed seeing Doretta enjoy watching birds and other local nature. I highly recommend this to women of all ages, especially those who enjoy Amish Christian settings and reading about women who are committed to their friends, churches, and communities.
From a thankful heart: I received a complimentary copy of this book from Barbour Publishing and was under no obligation to post a review.
This series has been very enjoyable but this book will always be my favorite. The author tackles a sensitive subject with compassion and opens the doors for healing from those who have been through a similar situation. I appreciate the candid look at child abuse and how it affects many. It was particularly emotional for me as I was a victim like Irma.
Irma was so easy to relate to because we have similar childhoods. Her abuse came from her stepfather but mine was from my father and older brother. Irma still has memories from what she endured but when she marries and moves away she almost feels free for the first time. Lingering deep in her heart is pain, bitterness and unforgiveness. She has carried this secret for awhile. Like Irma’s mother, mine stood silently by and did nothing. The pain of not feeling safe and protected by her mother is hard to understand at times. Irma can’t understand why her mother allowed this to happen to her and never once step in to stop it.
Irma’s husband LaVern is away from home a lot due to his job. He has no idea that Irma is feeling stress around the children. He is gentle and loving with his wife but he has no idea of the secrets she has been hiding. When a death in the family sends Irma back home there was definite tension between her and her mother. Irma’s mother feels guilty for what happened to her oldest daughter at the hands of her second husband. She tried to stop him but his anger turned to her. She hid bruises from everyone and I understand her feeling of helplessness. My mother did not step in at all for me and for a very long time in my life I was angry with her.
The story shows how Irma is becoming more angry towards her children and begins to abuse them. This broke my heart. I wanted to sit next to Irma and tell her that she needs to seek help right away. Her bitterness is destroying her life and causing her children to be afraid of her. I’m so thankful that her dear friend continued to send letters to Irma and encourage her to seek help. I will leave the ending of this story for readers to see what the outcome is.
As I end my review I will share a few personal thoughts. For many years I suffered through physical and emotional abuse by my father and oldest brother. For years I cut ties to my family. I was angry that the two people who should have kept me safe didn’t. They let me know that I was not loved by them and had never wanted me. As I finished reading Irma’s story I am thankful for the author for sharing this story. Abuse happens everyday. But there is freedom when we forgive and are forgiven. Please make sure you read the Dear Reader section at the end of the book. It will help you understand why this story is so personal to the author. I’m grateful for the author being transparent and helping me continue to forgive my parents and oldest brother everyday.
“Bitterness blocks healing and prevents the goodness of God from shining through in our life.”
I received a copy of this book from the publisher and author. The review is my own opinion.
Letters Of Wisdom by Wanda E. Brunstetter (Friendship Letters, 3) Doretta Schwartz has always enjoyed writing letters and feels her letters can be a bit of a ministry to her friends. In this series, exchanging letters that contain open and honest feelings and struggles helps Doretta and two of her best friends through the darkest challenges of their lives. Letters and Prayers Between Friends Become a Balm for Healing Irma Miller thought having a family of her own would bring her joy and a sense of accomplishment, but she struggles with memories of the abuse she suffered as a child at the hand of her stepfather. When she becomes physically and emotionally abusive to her own children, she reaches out to her friend Doretta for prayer and wisdom. But Irma may find herself at an even darker emotional place before she will admit she needs professional help to heal the past traumas. Will Doretta’s letters of wisdom help Irma and her family, or will too much be broken to ever be repaired? This is Irma Miller and family's story. This is Doretta Schwartz and family's story. This is Eleanor Lapp and family's story. Irma shook her head slowly and kept walking until she came to the wooden bench she’d placed under a shady maple tree at the first sign o f spring. Eager to read the letter she’d received from her friend Doretta Lengacher, she placed the rest of the mail on the bench besideAfter putting her two-year-old daughter, Myra, down for a nap, Irma Miller grabbed the mail and went outside. There, she found her middle child, Clayton, crouched in one of the flower beds with a bunch of rocks he’d piled into a mound. her, ripped the envelope open, and started reading: Dear Irma, I hope this note finds you well and enjoying some lovely spring weather. It’s been beautiful here in Grabill, and I love spending time in the yard. The feeders are full, and there are birds aplenty. Yesterday, I spotted two Eastern bluebirds eating at one of the feeders. Although they’re fairly common here in Indiana, I always enjoy seeing the beautiful blue feathers that cover most of their little bodies. The cardinals are out too, and I love the remarkably vibrant red color of the males and the red crests above their heads. Remember how you, Eleanor, and I used to play at Riverside Park? You two used to tease me because I was always pointing out pretty or unusual birds. I’m still doing that as an adult, telling anyone who’ll listen. I recommend this book. Letters Of Wisdom by Wanda E. Brunstetter is a 4 star book. I am looking forward to reading more books by Wanda E. Brunstetter. I voluntarily read and reviewed an advanced copy of this book.
Friendship Letters Series — Doretta Schwartz has always enjoyed writing letters and feels her letters can be a bit of a ministry to her friends. In this series, exchanging letters that contain open and honest feelings and struggles helps Doretta and two of her best friends through the darkest challenges of their lives. Letters and Prayers Between Friends Become a Balm for Healing Irma Miller thought having a family of her own would bring her joy and a sense of accomplishment, but she struggles with memories of the abuse she suffered as a child at the hand of her stepfather. When she becomes physically and emotionally abusive to her own children, she reaches out to her friend Doretta for prayer and wisdom. But Irma may find herself at an even darker emotional place before she will admit she needs professional help to heal the past traumas. Will Doretta’s letters of wisdom help Irma and her family, or will too much be broken to ever be repaired? Find out in the third book of The Friendship Letters series by New York Times Bestselling Author Wanda E. Brunstetter.
My Review:
Book 3 here we are. Each book in the series titled by different types of letters. The latest and most fun is Letters of Wisdom. I do feel that each book could be a stand alone book, but I really love them read all together. The author does an outstanding job introducing you to all the characters and you feel as though you know each and every one of them.
The community feels like one that you literally stepped into the middle of. A great time can be had there and this latest addition is no different. Irma needs help, help not to turn down the same evil path as her stepfather. She turns to her good friend Doretta.
Really great read about healing, forgiveness, and friendship!
**Disclosure**This book was sent to me for my honest review from the publisher. All opinions are my own.
In the final book in the Friendship Letters, Letters of Windsor, we learn about abuse. Many people don’t always realize they are being abused.
Irma Miller was a happy child until, unfortunately, her father died when she was seven. Her mother remarries Homer and has four more children: two sons and two daughters. For some unknown reason, Irma seems to be constantly physically and mentally abused by her stepdad.
When Homer dies unexpectedly, Irma thinks the nightmares will end, and she will be a happy wife and mother to her three children.
After finding out that she will be having another child, something triggers all her anger to become more noticeable, and she is afraid of what might happen.
She has a dear friend, Doretta, whom she corresponds with, and she asks her to pray for her. Doretta does and advises her to seek help from a counselor or the bishop.
Irma had never told her husband, LaVern, about the abuses she had suffered, and he was comforting and understanding. When Irma realizes she is doing to her children what her stepdad did to her.
She is afraid of losing her children and possibly her husband and realizes she needs help. Thanks to the help of a counselor, she can let things go and pray more often.
It is a very emotional story, and I am sure someone you might know has been through something like this. The main goal is to talk about it and get help. With the proper counseling and prayers, this could unlock what you have locked away for years and become free of the past by forgiving and making peace with god and yourself.
Letters of Wisdom the third book in the series of The Friendship Letters is a must read to complete the series. It's never easy to write about hot button issues such as abuse, but Wanda Brunstetter has done it.
In book three Letters of Wisdom our three friends come to the aid of one another again, through prayers and letters of encouragement. Irma Miller is struggling after learning her stepfather has passed away, and must decide if she will go back to her home town which she has not returned to since marrying nine years ago. While Iram is trying to decide, the memories of the abuse she suffered at his hands become fresh in her mind again, along with the anger, hurt and betrayal at her mother who, stood by and allow it all to happen.
Iram currently has three children and some days they are more than she can keep up with, the two boys always seem to be getting in to something and making Iram so mad and even though she and her husband decided long ago they would not discipline the children while still being angry it is getting harder and harder each day to keep that promise and some days more than not, she has not been able to keep that promise.
Can Irma get past the abuse she suffered early in life, is Irma herself become an abuser, can she ever forgive her mother and move on to a happier and settled life?
This book can be read as a stand-alone book, but highly recommend all three books, all currently available. #lettersofwisdom #wandaebrunstetter #wandabrunstetter #thefriendshipletters #barbourpublishing
In this book Mrs. Wanda talks about a topic that you don't read about, physical and emotional struggles people and children can go through at the hands of abuse.
Irma has grown into a young woman, married now and with children she starts experiencing the conflicts and struggles more stronger from when she was younger. With a harsh abuser for a stepfather and a mother afraid herself to confront her husband did not protect her. Irma feels the pain inside growing and growing. Now feeling overwhelmed with so much to do and expecting a baby her emotions are exploding toward her children.
But is with the help of her dear friend Doretta who when knowing about her struggles from Irma in a letter she starts sending her letters with Bible verses and encouraging words. And when an incident escalates more Irma's husband LaVern steps in to push her to find and get help. And accept though hard it can be, forgiveness to let go of the past and embrace the future with an open heart without pain and fear. Such a sweet story that comes together at the end.
I have enjoyed these stories of the Friendship Letters Series. The topics are real and touching. And Mrs. Wanda knows how to incorporate topics and God's love so perfectly that you know that not only the letters from friends can be of help but we also have a huge book called the Bible with beautiful written letters to help us out from the Best Friend we have in God.
I received an ARC from the author/publisher not a positive note was required. All stated here are my own.
Letters of Wisdom the third book in the series The Friendship Letters is a must read to complete the series. It's never easy to write about hot button issues such as abuse, but Wanda Brunstetter has done it.
In book three Letters of Wisdom our three friends come to the aid of one another again, through prayers and letters of encouragement. Irma Miller is struggling after learning her stepfather has passed away, and must decide if she will go back to her home town which she has not returned to since marrying nine years ago. While Iram is trying to decide, the memories of the abuse she suffered at his hands become fresh in her mind again, along with the anger, hurt and betrayal at her mother who, stood by and allow it all to happen.
Iram currently has three children and some days they are more than she can keep up with, the two boys always seem to be getting in to something and making Iram so mad and even though she and her husband decided long ago they would not discipline the children while still being angry it is getting harder and harder each day to keep that promise and some days more than not, she has not been able to keep that promise.
Can Irma get past the abuse, is Irma herself an abuser, can she ever forgive her mother and move on to a happier and settled life?
This book can be read as a stand-alone book, but highly recommend all three books, all currently available.
Long known as a writer of Amish themed novels, Wanda E. Brunstetter has recently turned her hand to writing some books with very serious themes. Although they still focus on the Amish and how characters face situations, the problems are consequential with multi-generational results. Sadly, the stories such as this one originate in Brunstetter’s personal experiences.
Irma Miller suffered traumatic physical and emotional abuse inflicted by her stepfather on her only, not on his biological children. She is reluctant to share these experiences until she sees herself morph into the monster her stepfather was. Her surprised husband insists she get help in the form of therapy with a Christian counselor. Her mother-in-law and the bishop’s wife also provide childcare for her children. Healing is not an instant process. Letters from her friends helped. She had not been able to deal with her three children rationally and a fourth is on the way. Irma finds she has to confront the trauma head-on, granting and accepting forgiveness. Her mother and step brothers and sisters needed to be a part of that process too.
The characters, other than the stepfather, are likable. They are all caught up in a web of pain. The extent of the abuse is not evident in the first part of Letters of Wisdom, but becomes apparent later. Prayer and forgiveness are essential parts of the healing process, but Irma’s path is a difficult one and hard to witness.
I received a complimentary copy of this book in exchange for an honest review. Opinions expressed in this review are completely my own.
Once again Wanda Brunstetter tackles a difficult subject with the utmost tact and sympathetic understanding. Irma Miller, abused by her stepfather as a child now finds herself afraid she is continuing the same tendencies with her own children. Irma's husband LaVern is concerned as well and tries to get his wife to seek the help she needs. However, before Irma will do this, she must first find the strength to admit to herself that she does in fact need help. Irma's friend Doretta, an old friend from prior book in this series writes letters of encouragement to Irma once Irma chooses to confide in her friend. Doretta and LaVern's encouragement finally get through to Irma who seeks help for her situation. What Irma doesn't expect is the forgiveness she realizes she must offer to her mother for the part she played in the abuse when not stopping her husband from his cruel treatment of her daughter. Sometimes hard to read, often heartfelt and very emotional throughout, Letters of Wisdom is a worthwhile read. Learn about Amish culture and tradition as you get to know these characters, and perhaps find your own faith strengthened through their trials and battles to overcome them. I received a complimentary copy of this book from Barbour Publishing and was under no obligation to post a review
The third book in the Friendship Letter series tackles a tough subject. Irma Miller suffered emotional and physical abuse from her stepfather as a child. Her mother never stepped in to stop the abuse or leave the man. Now, Irma is married and has three young children of her own. When her stepfather dies, and Irma travels home for his funeral, old memories and resentments resurface. After her visit, Irma returns to her children, and struggles with anger and unresolved feelings. She begins to emotionally abuse and physically hurt her own children. Her friend, Doretta, becomes concerned by Irma’s letters, and Irma’s husband, LaVern, must step in to stop the abuse and help Irma receive the help she needs. Irma’s situation is heartbreaking, and Brunstetter realistically depicts the full spectrum of emotions and feelings that Irma is experiencing. It is a story of forgiveness, reconciliation, and seeking help when needed. It’s a hard road for Irma to travel, but in the end, she finds her path back to a more joyful life with the support of her family, therapy, and the letters from her friends. This story has a strong plot, captivating characters, and a nice resolution. I thought the author did a good job with the subject matter. And as always, Brunstetter writes about the Amish with skill and reverence, which provides a compelling and entertaining look into this way of life.
Wanda Brunstetter has written a book that touches on a subject not often dealt with in Amish fiction-child abuse. LETTERS OF WISDOM is the third book in the Friendship Letters series which features Doretta Schwartz who enjoys writing letters to her friends Irma and Eleanor.
Irma Miller was a young girl when her father passed away and her mother remarried, unfortunately to a man who was an abusive, controlling person. Her stepfather abused her and would punish her severely, causing her to marry and leave home as soon as she was able to do so. Now she finds herself tired and overwhelmed with the duties of being a wife to an auctioneer husband who was gone from home often and as a mother to several young children who often misbehaved. Irma finds herself becoming increasingly abusive to her children, physically and emotionally, and decides to seek advice from her friend Doretta Schwartz, who often writes letters to her friends. Will Doretta be able to convince Irma to seek help before she loses her husband and children?
LETTERS OF WISDOM is one of Wanda Brunstetter's best books to date and tackles a very tough subject, especially in the Amish community. It could possibly trigger some abuse survivors but it is very well-written and handles the subject well.
I was given a free copy of this book in order to give my honest opinion.
Letter writing is how many Amish communicate with family and friends that live in other areas. This is book three in The Friendship Letters series, but each can be read alone because each has its on set of problems to work through. This novel tackles a very sensitive subject but one that is needed to be talked about in Amish as well as English homes. Irma was physically, emotionally and mentally abused as a child by her stepfather. She felt she was unloved by her mother because she never stepped in to help when she was being beaten. Her scars run deep and still as a married woman and mother, she has horrific nightmares of the past. Irma’s friend Doretta is one she writes to for encouragement and advice when she has these flashback episodes. Her husband is away a lot with work, leaving Irma alone to handle chores and the three children they have by herself. She begins showing abusive ways to her own children. It must stop, but how? I felt her pain and cringed when reading about what was done to her as a child. I could empathize in that I had abuse also as a child but on a much smaller scale. Healing can happen but the memories never go away. The conclusion to this story was a healing balm and gave this reader a smile. I received a complimentary copy of this book from the publisher through the author but was not required to write a review.
Letters of Wisdom by the gifted storyteller Wanda Brunstetter, is book three in her Friendship Letters series. This is a contemporary Christian Amish series that tackles series issues that everyone, not just Amish, might face. This book was the most intense.
Irma Lapp’s story is told in this captivating novel. Her story of physical and emotional abuse was often difficult to read, but it was true to life. The characters were skillfully crafted. They were believable and made the story come to life. This story is one of repeated behavior, forgiveness, and second chances. It pulls on your heartstrings.
I was totally invested in Irma’s story and at times wished I could hug her. Through the deft pen of the author, my emotions soared and plummeted with the characters’. This tale is full of surprises and kept me turning pages well into the early morning hours. I was fascinated with this poignant story.
After the story ends, there are author notes, recipe, and discussion questions. I highly recommend this riveting Amish novel. It would make a great book club choice. Even though it is book three in the series, it could easily be read and understood as a stand alone. I rate it 5 out of 5 stars. A copy was provided by the publisher but these are my honest words.