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احصل على الحياة التي تتمناها : أسرار الحصول على تغيير سريع و دائم في الحياة

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اذا اردت السيطرة على نفسك بطريقة جيدة توجه فيها حياتك وتستطيع القيام باي شيئ وان تخوض تجربة تؤتي ثمارها بشكل رائع و تتعلم دروسا تجعل الحياة اسهل عليك بقراءة الكتاب
الكتاب يقدم لك منهاجا حياتيا به تستطيع معالجة المشكلات التي تواجهها حتى تصل الى الحياة التي تصبو اليها بالاضافة الى بساطته و سهولته فهو بمثابة معلم يعلمك كيف تقهر الاشياء السيئة و كيف تستجمع شتات نفسك في الاوقات التي تشعر فيها بالانهيار و كيف تحصل على اشياء مثيرة تجعلك ناجحا و سعيدا و كيف تتخذ قرارات مهمة في حياتك.

209 pages, Paperback

First published August 21, 2008

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39 reviews5 followers
November 23, 2008
If you are looking for a book to solve all your problems, this is it! Really.

I recently developed a fascination for NLP after discussing it with someone at a party. I had known about Neuro-linguistic Programming for about 10 years but I didn't pay much attention until now. I discovered that my understanding of NLP was mostly wrong and it suddenly became a new hope for me to perhaps overcome problems I've been struggling with for years.

There are all sorts on books of NLP but this one jumped out at me. Not only is it written by Richard Bandler, the renowned co-founder of NLP, but it is also brand new and presents a culmination of NLP techniques. It focuses on self transformation, putting an end once and for all to bad habits and creating lasting change. It not only works for all the little things in life, but also offers ways to cure phobias, fears and compulsions and provides practical tools for day to day life. And surprisingly, it really does work.

I cannot give this book enough praise. Bandler's approach is incredibly insightful, wise and seasoned with decades of successful application. At first I felt a little silly doing the exercises and found some resistance or mental blocks to it, but I earnestly wanted to change some aspects of myself and stuck with it. And it has paid off! It has helped me in ways that no other rational thinking, book, or psychologist has been able to. Though probably the most important thing I have learned from this book is to use imagination and thinking more creatively to solve problems. It has put me back in control of my thoughts, feelings and future!
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716 reviews611 followers
August 26, 2010
Worthless--

In audio format. Get the book. Really. The book is a goldmine of useful NLP patterns and exercises, which are pretty hard to do while on a bike or on the way to the train station. The format also makes it next to impossible to go back and find particular patterns that you need RIGHT NOW.

So get the book and stay away from the audiobook.

As far as the content is concerned, Bandler makes it painfully clear what NLP is, especially what in the world "submodalities" are. Anthony Robbins doesn't do a good job explaining them, but Bander the founder of NLP, does, except it's darn hard and sometimes simply not possible to "elicit" the submodalities of your feelings and beliefs.

For example, for the strong belief exercise, we're invited to listen to the statement, "Tomorrow, the sun will rise" and elicit the submodalities of our belief.

Frankly, I had no picture in mind when this statement was spewed at me. No picture of the sun, and hence no size, no color, or no placement of the picture.

So that was a bit annoying.

Anyways, although I haven't made up my mind about the effectiveness of NLP, I remain open-minded and am willing to give it a shot, and will report back when I come to any sort of conclusion about it.

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135 reviews10 followers
March 27, 2021
Not bad but not great either.

This book is a good introduction to some useful NLP techniques. I learned several new methods of working with my thoughts and feelings and was reintroduced to several more. In addition to the NLP techniques, there is a bit in here about time management and quite a lot of good-ol' homespun practical life management advise.

While all of the above is true, the format of the book is archaic and the writing style is boring and sometimes hard to follow. For instance, Mr Bandler insists on talking about "spinning" your feelings. I tried my best but, for the life of me, I can't understand what he's talking about. My feelings don't spin! I can make them grow and intensify, shrink and diminish. I can even invert them, attach them to contrary thoughts, and move them around to different parts of my body and beyond, but spinning and coloring them makes no sense to me.

All in all, I think the subject matter of Get the Life You Want is valuable and a worthwhile read - but the execution could have been much better.
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1 review2 followers
June 22, 2014
After reading a ton of stuff on NLP (that I did not get) this one did it for me. Not just me, but even for my wife who has never been exposed to NLP or any of these concepts... she was able to get results right off the bat with the exercises in this book.

Good stuff... get it to solve problems.
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23 reviews5 followers
July 21, 2017
I wanna give it 4.5 stars.

It's a quick read. At an average reading speed of 20~30. pages per day, you can finish it within a week.

Given the fact that Dr. Bandler as the co-founder of NLP, he's pretty good at summing up NLP for lay readers. I've read through other books on NLP but many are either too theoretical or too anecdotal. The content of the book is just right, i.e. enough anecdotes, enough principles, enough techniques, and enough examples. You'll be compelled to practice immediately for each chapter that you've gone through.

NLP, in my humble opinion, is a modern brand of meditation. It's a blend of mindfulness and directed visualization. And of course, like other forms of meditation, one can only benefit from it by practicing in a regular basis.

P/S: Minus 0.5 star for some of author's bragging tone in writing. He doesn't have to mention several times about his decades of experience in the field because we know he's the co-founder of NLP.
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97 reviews5 followers
June 9, 2023
#زندگی_خود_را_امروز_تغییر_دهید(۲۰۰۸)
اثر #ریچارد_بندلر
ترجمه #نرگس_حیدری_منجیلی

"زندگی خود را امروز تغییر دهید" کتابی استخواندار برای رشد شخصی نوشته‌شده توسط ریچارد باندلر. این کتاب به تکنیک‌ها و راهبردهایی برای رشد شخصی و دستیابی به موفقیت در جوانب مختلف زندگی می‌پردازد. باندلر، یکی از مؤسسان برنامه‌نویسی عصبی-زبانی (NLP)، راهنمایی‌ها و تمریناتی را به اشتراک می‌گذارد تا به خوانندگان کمک کند تا محدودیت‌ها را برطرف کرده، الگوهای منفی را تغییر داده و تغییرات مثبتی در زندگی خود ایجاد کنند.

کتاب به موضوعاتی مانند تعیین اهداف، مهارت‌های ارتباطی، ایجاد اعتماد به نفس، مدیریت احساسات و ایجاد باورهای قدرت‌بخش می‌پردازد. باندلر تکنیک‌های NLP را معرفی می‌کند، که شامل درک رابطه بین زبان، الگوهای فکری و رفتار است، تا به خوانندگان کمک کند ذهن خود را بازبرنامه‌ریزی کرده و کارآمدی شخصی خود را بهبود بخشند.

از طریق مثال‌ها، داستان‌های واقعی و تمرینات، باندلر خوانندگان را در یک سفری از خودشناسی و تحول همراهی می‌کند. او به خوانندگان تشویق می‌کند که به زندگی خود مسئولیت بپذیرند، باورهای محدودکننده خود را چالش بکشند و به منابع داخلی خود دسترسی پیدا کنند تا زندگی‌ای را که واقعاً می‌خواهند ایجاد کنند.

"زندگی خود را امروز تغییر دهید" ابزارها و بینش‌های قابل استفاده‌ای را در اختیار خوانندگان قرار می‌دهد تا آن‌ها را در مسیر تحقق آرزوها و اهدافشان همراهی کند. باندلر به خوانندگان نشان می‌دهد که همه چیز از داخل شروع می‌شود و تغییر از درون آغاز می‌شود. او با استفاده از مطالب و مثال‌ها، راهنمایی می‌کند که چگونه از ابزارهای قدرتمندی مانند تمرینات روانشناسی، تمرکز بر هدف، تصویرسازی و تغییر الگوهای ذهنی استفاده کنند.

کتاب "زندگی خود را امروز تغییر دهید" یک منبع ارزشمند است که به خوانندگان کمک می‌کند تا از ذهن خود بهره‌برداری کنند و راه‌هایی را بیابند تا به بهترین نسخه خود تبدیل شوند. این کتاب معتقد است که هر فرد قادر است زندگی‌ای را ایجاد کند که با ارزش برای خودش و دیگران باشد، و به خوانندگان می‌آموزد که چگونه از این قدرت داخلی استفاده کنند.

به طور خلاصه، "زندگی خود را امروز تغییر دهید" یک راهنمای قدرتمند برای رشد شخصی و دستیابی به زندگی مطلوب است. این کتاب به خوانندگان نشان می‌دهد که در اختیارشان قدرت‌هایی برای تغییر و بهبود زندگیشان است و اگر بخواهند، قادرند به زندگی خوبی دست یابند.

۱۴۰۲/۰۳/۱۸ ۱۲:۴۵ 🏠
امتیاز من: ۳ از ۵ ⭐️
123 reviews
March 15, 2021
This book is so bad that it actually makes me feel sorry for people who think it will change their lives; turns out NLP isn't backed up by scientific evidence. The following snippet illustrates the type of advice you can hope for from Bandler:


1. Think of a big image of something you absolutely love doing and just the thought of it makes you drool with desire. Notice the submodalities.
2 Imagine a small image of you doing your taxes in the center of this image.
3 In a split second, imagine this small image growing into and replacing the bigger image so that you start to see yourself doing taxes in the same place and submodalities of what you drooled with desire for.
4 Repeat steps 1–3 a few times and notice yourself feeling the motivating feelings when you think about doing your taxes.
169 reviews27 followers
November 17, 2015
Some have suggested this book is humorous and enlightening. I found it utterly embarrassing and full of cheap tricks. I would not have read it through had I not been so determined to share my review on it to warn others.

To me it feels it has been written as a stand-up comedy act. I suppose live this man has enough charisma to pull it through (have not seen him) but in ink and being marketed as a self-help guide the tone is just very mean in all the provocation it holds. In the stories the therapist makes fun of his clients and adopts a role of a magician, a savior who hands his clients the keys out of the prison of the mind… to enter another prison, more exciting. The thrill is there and it saddens me that people so willingly build themselves another prison in the mind - when the freedom is so close!

The true base is clear and mr. Bandler also points it out: you are not a slave of your thoughts, you can master them. To play circus music on the background and replay the memories backwards… well that is for his amusement. That is how he makes his living – that is not how you will make your life. You actually can calm your mind and that should be the target as well as the way. Not as mesmerizing as taking still shots of your memories and rotating them to keep your mind occupied from worries, no sudden rush, no WTF-face for the “therapist” to brag about on his next session… but it saves your heart from all the fantasy drama that actually got you to the point you asked for help.

We do not need drama circling in our guts; it does not change our thought patterns for better nor for good. We can achieve peace - not by trying to alter our memories but approaching them with kindness and forgiveness. We do not have to keep manipulating our mind. Just be aware of the thoughts. We do not have to paint a memory of a loved one with bloody liver (actual example from the book) to get over her. Really, would you want to change your love and affection to dislike and eventually hate? What is that? It is opposite of compassion and love, just like this whole book.

If my review sounds harsh I apologize. The book really exhausted my zen for a while.
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13 reviews2 followers
November 3, 2015
It has some really great elements to it, but desperately needs to be updated in terms of using shame techniques to get past addictions. Suggesting to someone who has a food addiction (and likely eating disorder) to imagine that eating another piece of cake will result in people pointing and laughing at you is irresponsible and horrendous fat-shaming that is likely a huge part of the emotional damage this person is already experiencing. Imagining further shame as a technique to change a behavior just plants more damage in the person's unconscious mind and shows a terrible lack of compassion and understanding of the complexities of pain a person faces when trying to find the right eating plan for their particular body. People are already facing enough internal shame without planting bigger issues in a trance state. A healthier and kinder approach is likely possible with this technique and hopefully the author has evolved enough to recognize more recent brain and emotion science and will update this approach in the future.
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42 reviews
March 23, 2023
NLP-metodi itsessään kiinnostava ja varmasti tulee osittain käyttöön, mutta kirjailijan outo suhtautuminen mm. naisiin ja ylipainoisiin ihmisiin paistoi oudosti läpi? En ymmärrä miten tällaiset asenteet tuli edes ilmi kun eivät mitenkään olennaisesti liity itse kirjan aiheeseen, täysin turhia kommentteja oikeiden asioiden välissä. Se pisti ärsyttämään ja vei samalla kirjailijan uskottavuutta. Mielenkiintoinen aihe, mutta kirjailijaa en suosittele, varmasti löytyy samaa tietoa muidenkin kirjoittamana.
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Author 2 books9 followers
August 22, 2021
Bandler has a profound and undeniable understanding of the fundamental principles of psychology, psychotherapy, psycho-analysis.

I adhere to the fact that psychology, psychotherapy, psycho-analysis can create lasting change in the client/patient's life.

I adhere with the initial formulation of NLP, which is that human minds can only perceive reality through their senses, and that they use linguistics (words) and senses (visual, kinestetic, auditory) to represent and communicate their reality.

Bandler's idea is that therefore, changing the way they represent their reality has the potential to instantly change their experience of life. While I am still aligned with the theory, I highly doubt the effectiveness of such underlying "NLP" quick techniques.

I believe NLP is an attempt to popularize technical concepts to the general public using quick but doubtful techniques.

In short, while there is a good amount of life-changing resource to be found in NLP, the same content can be found in the field of psychology, psychotherapy, psycho-analysis. I do believe the so-called NLP techniques can be categorized as "pseudo-science".
78 reviews1 follower
October 31, 2017
Sometimes I couldn’t speak very well because I was under strain but Richard showed me how to replace sub modalities on my mind. So I could speak very nicely. Meanwhile I always had pain in my body which it wasn’t related to special disease. He thought me how to control my stress and release it with good feeling
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51 reviews
October 16, 2018
The areas concentrated for a personal change was good.I found the techniques to be quite complex and lost interest in concentrating the sections individually but kept reading till the end as the fields considered were really good. Towards the end there were few highlights that felt a little uplifting too.
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23 reviews1 follower
March 8, 2019
The author provides practice opportunities for visualization. Using various, simple techniques, I can look at a snake on TV and touch the photo of a snake in a book, something that has terrified me since childhood. We all have varying fears and this book helps to move those barriers to the background.
3 reviews
December 23, 2022
For people who like to get an idea how works NLP it is nice and written in an easy way to understand. And if somebody had made an seminar it is helpfully to train the methodes. By the way for somebody who don‘t had heard anything about NLP it could be a little bit strange, but still you get an idea or maybye inspiration to find out more about it.
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171 reviews4 followers
May 24, 2017
It is a book about determination and the techniques on how to use NLP in our life and getting the things we want.

If you're keen to learn and know more about NLP, this is a book you should pick up. Bandler shared some useful tips on how simple NLP techniques can be practice to improve our life.
12 reviews
January 7, 2018
This book will change your life, it changed mine.

Success in life is about communication,how we communicate with ourselves and how we communicate with others. This book is about mostly how we communicate with ourselves, read the book but more importantly, do the book!
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Author 15 books2 followers
September 6, 2018
Wonderful information that changes your thinking and your life.

Richard Bandler is a wizard with words. Reading this book alone creates massive neurological shifts. Applying the processes in the book changes your life.
Great work Mr. Bandler!
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11 reviews
August 23, 2021
It had some good moments and an interesting approach on mindset. This is a good book for beginners and a good start for people who want to change their bad habits and deal with certain phobias and or anxieties.
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39 reviews4 followers
December 26, 2021
What you understand your way of being you and doing you, when you see the patterns of your behaviours that align to your legacy and those that don't you realise what is working and what is not.

I found a wealth of wisdom in this book.

It's a must read for anyone seeking to achieve in their life.
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20 reviews
July 5, 2017
Some pretty food Ideas and practicable things about psychology to put into practice.
2,103 reviews61 followers
November 20, 2017
Mostly about hypnosis. I was expecting this to be more about the power of language and psychology.
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39 reviews
April 23, 2019
This book helped me a lot in treating my OCD and fear of darkness. I'm thankful to the person who recommended me this book.
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693 reviews10 followers
May 26, 2020
Why didn't I hear about this book before? It can be life-changing.
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