Dealing with Differences in Marriage

by Brent A. Barlow

Dr. Brent A. Barlow discusses differences between men and women and the fact that its okay to have differences in marriage- in fact, he says, its healthy. But he stresses that its how we tolerate our differences that has to be monitored. Recorded with a studio audience, this tape presents an enlightening discussion with audience members on the differences they have experienced. Then Dr. Barlow talks about the Ten Cs of Marriage that help couples deal with those commitment, caring, communication, co-exist, capitulate, compromise, collaborate, confrontation, counseling, and Christ. He expounds upon each of these using scriptures and examples from his counseling sessions and classes.

Genres: Marriage, Relationships, Lds, Religion

Unbound

First published August 1, 1993

Reviews

[Courtney · Rating 5 out of 5]

Dealing with Difference in Marriage by Brent A. Barlow is a fantastic read! I would highly recommend this book to anyone who is married or in a serious relationship. In this book Barlow teaches his reader all about the importance in dealing with differences in marriage and what could be the consequence if they don’t (spoiler it can lead to divorce). Barlow provides first hand experiences he himself has encountered in his own marriage, as a professor, and marriage counselor. He also walks his reader through 10 C’S that are strategies with dealing with differences in marriage. This book captures the reader’s attention and Barlow makes it super relatable to any marriages with any level of struggles.
Again, I highly recommend this book to anyone who is looking at improving their relationship or who feels like they are on the verge of divorce but don’t know how to combat it. This book will fill you with hope and new strategies and perspectives. I can’t wait to try some of the amazing ideas the author shares!

[Josh · Rating 4 out of 5]

The book was released in the 90s and it’s pretty evident when you read it that some of the quotes and some of the ways of thinking are a little old fashioned. Besides that, though, the book is amazing and filled with practical principles in how to deal with differences in marriage.

Ultimately, Dr. Barlow encourages couples to love each other, recognize that differences are always going to be there, and work through them either through compromise or capitulation or confrontation.

[Jill · Rating 5 out of 5]

This was a talk on audio, so the audience participated in portions of it. Super helpful. No marriage is ever immune from an attack of any kind.

"In essentials let there be unity; in non-essentials, liberty; and in all things, charity!" Elder B. H. Roberts, General Conference Report, October 1912

[Linda · Rating 3 out of 5]

An interesting take on how to handle differences between husband and wife. I liked some of his strategies. I like compromises and forming a base of commitment, communication and belief.

[Lindsey · Rating 4 out of 5]

I really liked the quote - there are more things that you unite us than things that divide us.

[Dmitriy Kinnard · Rating 2 out of 5]

There are better books.

[Trent Cole · Rating 4 out of 5]

Very good book in helping husband/wife understand marriage better that it is a partnership not a one person ship

[Andrea · Rating 5 out of 5]

Fantastic!

[Jolene · Rating 5 out of 5]

Excellent book. One I will now buy and hopefully share with my siblings.

[Laura · Rating 5 out of 5]

Will reread and reference in my marriage

[Jessica · Rating 3 out of 5]

Had this one since we got married. Some insightful useful ideas about changing your perspective and focus to change your attitude.

[Ed · Rating 3 out of 5]

Very quick read and though I have been married for several years now it still is a good read. To help remind us that there will be differences and there are ways to work through them.