Incompatibility: Grounds for a Great Marriage

by Chuck Snyder, Barb Snyder

Do women really spend more time in the bathroom? Are men truly more gifted when it comes to handling the remote control? Will women ever understand the intense concentration demanded by Monday Night Football? Chuck and Barb Snyder (who reveal that their only area of compatibility is having the same kids and grandkids) tackle these and other questions in Incompatibility: (Still) Grounds for a Great Marriage, an entertaining, insightful, and sensible primer on marriage for Christian couples. Ten years after their popular original book, they've teamed up again to present new material and elaborate on their original themes. Readers will learn that differences between couples are actually part of God's plan for marriage and should be viewed as assets, not liabilities.

Genres: Marriage

333 pages, Paperback

First published July 1, 1988

Reviews

[Josh Trice · Rating 3 out of 5]

Full of insight, wisdom and vulnerability, this book was a nice read on the subject of marriage. I’m getting married soon and what I read in this book, about submitting oneself to the Lord in order to better love your mate, is something I will remember in my marriage.

This is a fully Christian book, but it doesn’t beat you over the head. Each chapter is written and reads more like a conversation than a lecture which makes for enjoyable reading.

[Jodi · Rating 2 out of 5]

Ho-hum......blah! Blah! Blah! The authors seemed to babble on for about 80 pages before I found anything that vaguely interested me but once I start reading a book I need to finish it. Chuck Snyder struck me as a little sexist and this irritated me a lot-according to him women shouldn't work if they are to truly honor God because their place is in the home making it nice for their families! What?!? I am lucky that I am able to be a stay-at-home mom for now but many Americans don't have the choice or the luxury to stay home full-time. As soon as my son goes to first grade I NEED to go back to work so we can have better health benefits for our children and to help them pay for college in the future. According to Chuck, this is AGAINST God's plan! Pshaw! He also mentioned that women shouldn't do so much outside the home so things like my monthly book club, going to the gym, and ladies nights every so often should be given up so that I can relax in my sanctuary that I have created for my family. I doubt Chuck has ever spent any time raising children - if he did, he would understand why I need to take a few hours away each week for my own sanity! Mothers have enough guilt trying to manage a home, children, a job, and other things to fulfill themselves and they don't need a man preaching "Godly" values and making them feel guilty.
I did like his mention about a woman needing 12 non-sexual touches a day (holding hands, pat on the arm)just to keep their sanity. He stated if a man never touches his wife unless he wants to go to bed, she feels used. I'll share this one with my hubby! He is good to me but he could use a little more finesse!

[Dana · Rating 4 out of 5]

If your like me you want to get to the end of a book... and this was a hard read in the first few chapters. The authors really talk from their own personal experiences. Overall they give great advice for overcoming your differences. You may even find that you relate to what they are saying. I know I did. This book helps pinpoint and recognize diversities within your marriage and helps you see your compatibility through your differences. Men and Women alike could benefit from reading this book.

[Mark Thomas · Rating 3 out of 5]

Ongoing dialogue writing style that lets you see how two different people work out their marriage. Nothing spectacular but it can be encouraging.