Well Said: Choosing Words that Speak Life, Give Grace, and Strengthen Your Faith and Family

by Sarah Molitor, Abbie Halberstadt (Foreword)

Have you ever had moments when your words have gotten the better of you?

Maybe you knew how much something would hurt, but you said it anyway because it felt good in the moment. Maybe you're fighting a habit of complaining or yelling, when you really want to be a person who speaks with kindness and patience. Or maybe you stay silent because you're never quite sure what to say. Whatever your "maybe" may be, you are in the right place. As a wife, mom, and the creator of the popular Modern Farmhouse Family Instagram, Sarah Molitor has learned firsthand that yes, words can hurt—but they can also help and heal.

In Well Said, she uses authentic, relatable stories paired with Biblical truth to help readers

Use their words to create grace-filled, positive relationshipsDevelop a healthy, balanced approach to social media (and find their wisdom filter)Feel equipped to use words to forgive and reconcile differences so they can live freely and fully . . . and so much more.
Well Said helps you explore what it means to speak words that direct you to the very heart of Jesus. Sarah will be the trusted friend who walks alongside you, encouraging you to discover God's true desire for the words we speak every day.

Genres: Parenting, Nonfiction, Christian, Audiobook, Christian Living, Faith, Self Help

233 pages, Kindle Edition

Published October 3, 2023

Reviews

[Ann Dunagan · Rating 5 out of 5]

Do you ever need HELP for guarding your tongue? Oh my! I love using my words, for motivation, for teaching, for encouragement, and even for sharing the Good News of Jesus — but (as the Bible so clearly warns) my words can often get me into trouble.
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Right now, I’m listening to an advance copy of an amazing new soon-to-be-released book, WELL SAID* by my super-impressive youngest sister-in-law Sarah Molitor.
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If you happen to know of Sarah from @modernfarmhousefamily — did you know we’re related? Yes, I’m quite proud of that fact. And my husband even feels he should get credit for matchmaking Tim & Sarah.
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But I digress.
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Point is that Sarah has written a wonderful book with @tyndalehouse publishers, about using life-giving words and seeking God’s help and grace for all the ways our words can hurt and cause pain.
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I need this book, as we probably all do. And right now, I’m super-honored to be a part of Sarah’s book-promo team, so I’ll be sharing a bit, here and there, between now and the book’s early October release date.
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WELL SAID* is available now, for preorder, and I’m looking forward to getting mine to hold in my hand (and to apply to my heart).
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@modernfarmhousefamily #wellsaid

[Suzanne Hines · Rating 5 out of 5]

“Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks”
This book is one of those gentle kick-in-the-pants encouragements to watch what my heart is kindling for my mouth to speak. Lately, it’s not always pretty and this book and Sarah’s stories are exactly what I needed in my season of young motherhood. I needed the reminder to turn to the Word and fill my heart and mind with gospel truth so that it will overflow from my mouth towards my husband, my kids, and all those that I interact with.
I highly recommend this book!

[Kathy · Rating 3 out of 5]

I had high hopes for this book. It seemed just a big pep talk with personal anecdotes from the authors life to keep it interesting. Although I did get some ideas of how to speak more kindly and use my words to build others, or how she said often, speak life into someone. Skimmed through the last half of the book as it seemed somewhat repetitive.

[Erica · Rating 4 out of 5]

4.5🌟 a great book on using our words to glorify God and encourage and uplift others. each chapter talked about different ways we use our words and where our words spring from. The author was very real and used a lot of scripture, although there were some versions that she used that were not my favorite, like the Message and Passion. I especially enjoyed the chapters on using our words well in parenting and how our words can affect future generations.

"We All have a choice in how to respond to where God places us, whether that placement is short-term or long-term."

" Forward progress is progress"

" We are totally equipped to flourish yet many times we act helpless"

" it's important to understand that God made you you for a purpose. you cannot be replicated, and if you try, it will always be second rate to how God originally designed you. this concept applies to every area of our lives, including how we use our words."

" when I spend all my time trying to communicate like someone else instead of walking in who God made me to be, I'm discounting and disregarding his workmanship."

" everything God does is with intention, and His decision to speak the world into existence is no different. God could have chosen a series of hand motions to put everything into place, or He could have created everything through His thoughts alone. but He didn't. from the very beginning He chose to make words powerful."

let's not get so caught up in where we should be and what we should be doing that. we forget about where we are and what we can do right now.

" what we speak through any struggle usually has more impact than what we speak through the good times."

"Once We start to filter the unique voice that God gave us through the approval of people. instead of the approval of God, our voice loses effectiveness."

"You Don't have to attend every conversation. you are invited. to."

[Abbey Phipps · Rating 3 out of 5]

I realized about 2/3 of the way through this book that I was not the intended audience. Turns out, while I am a wordy person, I don't struggle with my words like the author does, so I couldn't relate to a lot of this or find much practical advice.
Overall, the book just felt very surface-level. I kept expecting a more academic or theological perspective, but it just barely scratched the surface of so many different topics. And it felt like we were constantly jumping from one topic to another without finishing a full thought.
The social media chapter seemed misplaced in this book. Sure, our words matter on social media. 100%. But then it digressed into why the author shares on social media, and a bunch of tips for if you want to start your own "platform." It didn't seem to fit with the rest of the book.
And honestly I got tired of hearing about Tim. 😂 I don't think wives should speak poorly about their husbands but everything was SO perfect and SO wonderful about Tim. It was a lot. (And I don't say that with a cynical attitude, because I too have an amazing husband. It just felt like a distraction.)

[Anna Westerfield · Rating 5 out of 5]

SO GOOD. I loved all of this - but specifically the part about speaking identity over people! The identity they find in Jesus, of course. I sometimes struggle with talking reactively or without a filter, typically with those I’m closest with. This book has so much wisdom on how to combat that and be as intentional as possible when speaking - if speaking is necessary in that situation. 🙌🏼🙌🏼

[Jasna · Rating 5 out of 5]

4.5⭐️Very different from my usual reads but I appreciated it. The content was positive and motivating

[April · Rating 4 out of 5]

I definitely appreciate the overall message of Well Said, and my teenage daughter loved the book and found a lot of encouragement and practical wisdom in it. However, I personally struggled to get through it.

For me, the book felt like it had quite a bit of fluff and repetition, though there were some good thoughts and helpful reminders about using our words to encourage, build up, and show grace to others. It wasn't as deep, theological, or compelling as I would have liked. But also, maybe I wasn't quite the target audience, as I don’t personally struggle with tearing others down for control, revenge, or frequently lashing out in anger in the ways the author describes, so many of the examples and struggles didn’t feel as relatable to me.

Overall, I think this book will resonate with someone who is working through those specific areas, and I’m thankful my daughter found value in it. While it wasn’t the most helpful or interesting for me, there were still some meaningful reminders about the power our words have and the importance of speaking life into others.

[Rosalyn · Rating 5 out of 5]

How many of us struggle with speaking kindly, using our tongues wisely?! Surely I'm not the only one! Actually, now I know I'm not, because Sarah freely shares her own experiences in this book.

I found this book to be such an encouragement and challenge.
Sarah Molitor has a way of writing that makes you feel as though you're having a face-to-face conversation with her. (I follow her on instagram @modernfarmhousefamily, and have been encouraged many times) I really appreciate the way she opened herself up and shared her experiences so that readers can learn what she learned.
Speaking well is something that I definitely need to learn, and I am grateful for a chance to read this book.
Disclaimer: I receive complimentary books from various sources, including, publishers, publicists, authors, and/or NetGalley. I am not required to write a positive review, and have not received any compensation. The opinions shared here are my own entirely. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255

[Jenny Laird · Rating 5 out of 5]

Sarah is one of my fav Instagram accounts so when she put a book out, I couldn’t wait to dive in. I actually ended up listening on audio because Sarah is the narrator and it was lovely.
Well Said is about the importance of our words and how to use them in a kind way to lift others up.
After following Sarah for a number of years, it really helped while reading it, because I see how kind, faithful and full of joy she is. Hearing through the book how she has struggled with how she used words, patience and a temper, really opened my eyes to how words can be healing or hurtful and how we can change.
Would definitely recommend to anyone who enjoys Sarah and her Instagram page and wants a helpful book filled with scripture and practical application.

[Emmy Proctor · Rating 3 out of 5]

Well Said was kind of a mixed read for me. I really appreciated Sarah Molitor’s heart behind the message and her desire to help us use our words in a way that honors God. The overall message is rooted in truth. There were definitely a few reminders that made me think about how I can be more intentional and speak life into others, and I’m glad I walked away with those.

But overall, the book felt pretty repetitive. A lot of the chapters blended together, and I kept waiting for something a little deeper or more spiritually challenging. I liked the message, but it did not feel as impactful or eye-opening as I hoped it would be.

[Rachel Clark · Rating 4 out of 5]

I didn’t realize this was written by an “influencer” when I started the audiobook (and maybe wouldn’t have read it then?) But it ended up being such a simple & encouraging word each day. Nothing overly profound but reminders I needed as someone who likes to talk a little too much!

[Cara · Rating 4 out of 5]

I really enjoyed this book. Sarah speaks from a place of wisdom, faith, and the kindness.

[Laura A · Rating 5 out of 5]

Loved this book, listened on Audible and I love how it was narrated by the author.

Encouraging, convicting and, most importantly, packed full of scripture.

[Krista-Marie Linegar]

Good things to thing about and things I can work on for sure

[AgapeAdrienne · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is a great book about the power of words.
I had no prior knowledge of the author or her social media platform when I started this book.
She speaks to a more specific audience of those much like herself, wives and mothers.
Of course there are nuggets anyone can glean from a book like this, but she uses examples from marriage and parenting so just a heads up if that’s not your life stage.

I appreciate the authors dedication to the scriptures and the overarching mission of teaching others for Jesus.

[Markie · Rating 4 out of 5]

"Well Said: Choosing Words that Speak Life, Give Grace, and Strengthen Your Faith and Family" by Sarah Molitor appears to be a book that addresses the power of words and the impact they have on our relationships, faith, and overall well-being. The book seems to offer guidance and practical insights on using words to foster positive connections and personal growth. Here are the key points about the book:

1. **The Power of Words:** The book recognizes the profound influence that our words can have on ourselves and others. It acknowledges that words can either hurt or heal, and it seems to provide a framework for harnessing the power of words in a positive and uplifting way.

2. **Authentic Stories:** The author, Sarah Molitor, uses her personal experiences as a wife, mother, and creator of a popular Instagram account to illustrate the impact of words in real-life situations. These relatable stories are paired with biblical truths to offer a practical and faith-based perspective on communication.

3. **Creating Positive Relationships:** "Well Said" seems to focus on using words to cultivate grace-filled and positive relationships. It likely provides insights on how to choose words that build others up, promote understanding, and strengthen connections with family, friends, and beyond.

4. **Balancing Social Media:** The book appears to address the challenges of navigating social media and using words wisely in online interactions. It likely offers guidance on developing a healthy approach to social media usage while staying true to one's values.

5. **Forgiveness and Reconciliation:** The book seems to emphasize the importance of using words to seek forgiveness and reconcile differences. It likely provides tools and strategies for resolving conflicts and healing relationships through effective communication.

6. **Faith-Centered Approach:** "Well Said" is likely grounded in a faith-centered perspective, integrating biblical truths and principles into the exploration of using words for positive change. It aims to help readers align their communication practices with their faith journey.

7. **Personal Growth and Transformation:** The book seems to encourage readers to be intentional about their words and communication style, with the goal of personal growth and transformation. It likely offers insights on how conscious choices in our language can lead to a more fulfilling and purposeful life.

Overall, "Well Said" by Sarah Molitor appears to be a guide for individuals seeking to make positive changes in their communication habits. It seems to provide readers with practical tools, relatable stories, and faith-based insights to navigate the complexities of words in their relationships, faith, and daily interactions.

[Aja · Rating 3 out of 5]

The message is a good one, however I felt that there was too much fluff and overpowered the point she was trying to make. As a self proclaimed chatterbox I don’t the think the author would think I’m way out of line by saying that she did indeed drown out her message by talking too much in her book! (I say this lovingly)

There were definitely a few sayings I’m taking away from this read.
1)She spoke in the beginning of how many of us are totally equipped to flourish yet act helpless.
2)I like how she reminded us that God created us to communicate in a way that only YOU can. Therefore you don’t need to change everything about yourself, just make sure you’re communicating in a God honoring way.
3)And one of my favorites was that you don’t need to participate in every conversation that you’re invited to. But I wouldn’t say this book really is saying anything new, just applying Biblical truths about your heart and controlling your words while applying that to experiences that have happened in the authors life.

There were a few things that felt a little too niche for a wide audience and a few parts felt out of place to me. For instance she talks bout how it’s important to teach your children good ways to communicate as well as picking their words well, which is a great point. But then she goes on to give a step by step example of how you can go do this with your young children. If you don’t have young speaking children then this seemed to drone on for a bit. She also had a portion where she was encouraging you on how to start your social media page and how to start sharing things with people. It felt unnecessary since I don’t think everyone who picked up this book is interested in doing this.

All in all aside from the young kid parts, I think this would be a great read for a young teen girl. I think they would find the authors personal stories to be engaging and insightful and would benefit from the portion where she makes suggestions on how to navigate conversations with strangers on social media.

[Katherine Helm · Rating 5 out of 5]

Easily a 5 Star book!! Wow! This book was full of encouragement and conviction. Sarah offers vulnerable (and relatable!!) stories of not speaking well, and hope in stories OF speaking well. I love that she incorporates Scripture throughout, points us back to Christ, reminds us that, “My voice is not for my use, but for glorifying God and reflecting His love to those around me.” At the end, I loved that she included specific prayer prompts and scripture at the end!! Such a practical way to implement her book today! Sarah doesn’t just encourage you and then leave you wondering about how to speak well - she gives you practical tips and challenges.

One of my favorite quotes, “What I realize more and more, is that if I’m inclined to use my words to be that enthusiastic about a ‘thing…’ I also want to use my words in an enthusiastic and an honoring way to point others to God. Let’s share what we share and say what we say for THE One.”

Once I finished the book, I was ready to turn back to page 1 to read it again!! I highly recommend this book. Thanks, Sarah! Now off to be a “first rate me” and not a “second rate anyone else.”

[Ashley Norman · Rating 5 out of 5]

In this book that encourages the reader to choose their words wisely, Sarah writes, “My voice is not for my use, but for glorifying God and reflecting His love to those around me…” Wow! That sentence jumped off the page and challenged me to think about what my words are meant to do! In a world where words, both written and spoken are quickly uttered without much thought, I believe this book will challenge the reader to consider how to use their words to glorify God. Packed with Scripture to guide the reader about what God says about how we use our words and the effects of our words on others, I can’t help but think that anyone who reads this book will not fail to come away changed in some small way. Thank you, Sarah, for writing LIFE-GIVING WORDS that this world desperately needs to hear!

[Ashley]

I knew immediately I wanted to read this book based on the title alone… this is an area I, personally, desire to grow in. As Sarah also points out, words are something we all can use to love others well!

I was blown away by the breadth of this book. Yes, it is a book about using our words to encourage, but it covers a lot of ground from motherhood, marriage, social media, reading the Word to influence our words, and even how our God given communication style allows us to love and encourage others in a way specific to our gifting (that was my favorite section).

I highly recommend, and it would be especially relatable and valuable for other moms.

[Caroline Parkinson · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book didn't really say a lot that I didn't already know, but knowledge has a funny way of being buried in a haze until it is expressed, and Sarah Molitor did a good job of expressing those things so that I can be more aware of what I'm saying and why I'm saying it. I appreciated her use of scripture, personal experience, and practical applications.
I didn't always resonate with where she was coming from because she's a talkative and outgoing person and I'm naturally more shy and quiet, but I still got a lot out of the book and definitely recommend it, especially to wives and mothers who want to build up their families with their words.

[Chelsea Beisner · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book reads like sage advice from a dear friend. Sarah is vulnerable and shares her story of redemption through the pages. Her authenticity mixed with biblical truth shares deep insight into how we ought to converse better. What flows from our lips is a reflection of our heart. I’d rather be well said/gentle instead of condescending/harsh. This book serves as a tool for those of us that need that extra fire under our bellies to make changes in the way we speak. As it is written, I would highly recommend this book to anyone; but it relates better to women.

[Beverly · Rating 5 out of 5]

Amazing!! I loved Sarah’s children’s book, so I was excited about a grown-up book from her! I was not even a few pages into chapter one and felt as if she was speaking directly to me! Her transparency and encouragement makes the book helpful and a must re-read for me! I am finding myself be more aware of my words and that I want to choose my words wisely. Some of her real-life examples are stuck in my mind and I remember them often as I face situations. My main encouragement, go read her book!

[Heidi · Rating 2 out of 5]

I try not to rate books I don't finish, but I did about 3/4 of it so I will. This was recommended to me, so I went further into it than I normally would a book I wasn't enjoying, however, I can't bring myself to finish it.

I feel like she kept building up to something that never came. I flipped forward through the book to see if it seemed more came, but from quick glance it appeared to be mostly the same stuff. I found it repeative and basic. I don't feel like I have any real takeaways.

[Miranda Matteson · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is one I will pick up again and again. Sarah uses her own personal life stories to explain how our words can be used to hurt or bring life. I know that I've got work to do. I appreciate how (Sarah) Modern Farmhouse Family intertwines the Scriptures and Prayer into each chapter.
"You don’t have to attend every conversation you are invited to."
#wellsaid

[Camille Hoffmann · Rating 4 out of 5]

This wasn’t the most mind-blowing of personal development books I’ve read, but it caused me to really reflect on my current behaviors and the words that I use, especially with my children, husband, and with myself. Lots of wisdom to be found, and while the writing was a little bland, the principles are important. Good food for thought.

[Brandi Liechty · Rating 5 out of 5]

I took way too long to finish this book, but looking back now at all the parts I’ve highlighted and underlined I’m reminded how much I loved it. It was full of challenging yet encouraging wisdom on speaking well and pointing people to Jesus with our words, especially our family or those closest to us who more often get to hear the “ugly” parts of us. I would definitely recommend!

[Steph - The Kind Reader · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a fantastic read for anyone looking to improve how they use their words to honor God. Our words matter and being aware of how and what we speak is crucial. This book inspired me to be wiser with my words, especially with my children!

[Madeline Brown · Rating 5 out of 5]

Wowie! This book breathes LIFE and so much wisdom. 10/10 recommend for anyone, especially the audiobook which was humbly and passionately read by the author. So many applicable take-aways and thought-provoking nuggets to stew on. A book I plan to come back to in every season!