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Your Blueprint for Pleasure: Discover the 5 Erotic Types to Awaken—and Fulfill—Your Desires
A book that helps readers define what makes them tick in the bedroom, resulting in more love, passion, and intimacy with their partners—plus better sex!
When it comes to sex, many of us have been sold on the idea that certain techniques and tools are surefire turn-ons. If those techniques don't work, and we don't connect with our partners or our own pleasure, then something is inherently wrong with us. But sexologist Jaiya has identified five erotic types – Energetic, Sensual, Sexual, Kinky, and Shapeshifter – that, like Gary Chapman's The 5 Love Languages, empower people with the understanding that we are each erotically gifted and that our differences are our strengths. Jaiya’s framework will help readers bridge the sexual incompatibility gap, become masters of their own sexual desire, and experience the deeper connection and sexual satisfaction that they crave.
Based on Jaiya’s wildly popular Erotic Blueprint Quiz, Your Blueprint for Pleasure will help readers explore and find themselves among the five erotic types identified in this program. Fans of Come As You Are, The Erotic Mind, or other books on human sexuality and how to have sex will find much to appreciate in this empowering intimacy book.
When it comes to sex, many of us have been sold on the idea that certain techniques and tools are surefire turn-ons. If those techniques don't work, and we don't connect with our partners or our own pleasure, then something is inherently wrong with us. But sexologist Jaiya has identified five erotic types – Energetic, Sensual, Sexual, Kinky, and Shapeshifter – that, like Gary Chapman's The 5 Love Languages, empower people with the understanding that we are each erotically gifted and that our differences are our strengths. Jaiya’s framework will help readers bridge the sexual incompatibility gap, become masters of their own sexual desire, and experience the deeper connection and sexual satisfaction that they crave.
Based on Jaiya’s wildly popular Erotic Blueprint Quiz, Your Blueprint for Pleasure will help readers explore and find themselves among the five erotic types identified in this program. Fans of Come As You Are, The Erotic Mind, or other books on human sexuality and how to have sex will find much to appreciate in this empowering intimacy book.
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Published December 5, 2023
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December 19, 2024
Was interesting to get the different perspectives of how different people feel and desire sex. I learned a lot however there were some parts that were a little too spiritual/ethereal for me... however that's just my personal taste.
February 12, 2024
The theory of this book is that there are several different sexual "personality types" she calls "blueprints." It was unclear how these were developed. It appears she simply made them up, I guess she feels it's legit because of her experience as a sex coach. Sort of like how Freud made up all sorts of nonsense about wanting to fuck your mom based on his own experience as a clinician.
Still, I figured there might be some insight to be gained by reasoning about our extremely diverse sexual needs in this way. I tried to persevere through the silly stuff on my way to my hoped-for nugget or two of insight, but the insights were not coming, while the silliness just got sillier.
"Sensuals can have orgasms just from eating something delicious (yes!) They'll frequently moan or do a happy dance while eating great food. That's a telltale sign someone has a strong Sensual component. It's fun to see. They may not even be aware they're moaning while they're doing it!"
No, it is not possible to have an actual sexual orgasm from eating food. That's silly. No, moaning while eating something yummy is not the same as an orgasm. That's silly.
"In Ayurveda, one of the oldest healing sciences from India, they use a daily oil massage called abhyanga."
No, Ayurveda is not a "healing science." That's silly. What does "healing science" even mean? Ayurveda is an alternative medicine pseudoscience. Pseudoscience is so widespread amongst all types of practitioners except doctors and surgeons that I am always wary of any signs that they're pushing nonsense when I start reading their books. They almost always go there. I even knew a hair dresser once who thought they were "healing" their clients!
"And while we're on the topic of orgasms: Sensuals can orgasm just about anywhere on the body."
Nope. That's silly too. Not saying it never happens. There are some spots on the body that are packed with nerve endings, and I imagine it's possible for a sensitive person to become so hyper stimulated that they can orgasm from stimulation, but it is certainly not common enough to lend an entire personality type to it. Even in these extremely rare instances, it's silly to suggest that they can orgasm "just about anywhere on the body."
That's about as far as I got before the eyerolling became too painful and I couldn't stand wasting my time on it any longer.
Still, I figured there might be some insight to be gained by reasoning about our extremely diverse sexual needs in this way. I tried to persevere through the silly stuff on my way to my hoped-for nugget or two of insight, but the insights were not coming, while the silliness just got sillier.
"Sensuals can have orgasms just from eating something delicious (yes!) They'll frequently moan or do a happy dance while eating great food. That's a telltale sign someone has a strong Sensual component. It's fun to see. They may not even be aware they're moaning while they're doing it!"
No, it is not possible to have an actual sexual orgasm from eating food. That's silly. No, moaning while eating something yummy is not the same as an orgasm. That's silly.
"In Ayurveda, one of the oldest healing sciences from India, they use a daily oil massage called abhyanga."
No, Ayurveda is not a "healing science." That's silly. What does "healing science" even mean? Ayurveda is an alternative medicine pseudoscience. Pseudoscience is so widespread amongst all types of practitioners except doctors and surgeons that I am always wary of any signs that they're pushing nonsense when I start reading their books. They almost always go there. I even knew a hair dresser once who thought they were "healing" their clients!
"And while we're on the topic of orgasms: Sensuals can orgasm just about anywhere on the body."
Nope. That's silly too. Not saying it never happens. There are some spots on the body that are packed with nerve endings, and I imagine it's possible for a sensitive person to become so hyper stimulated that they can orgasm from stimulation, but it is certainly not common enough to lend an entire personality type to it. Even in these extremely rare instances, it's silly to suggest that they can orgasm "just about anywhere on the body."
That's about as far as I got before the eyerolling became too painful and I couldn't stand wasting my time on it any longer.
March 22, 2024
I’ve read through this guidebook twice now, keeping it handy as a quick reference for my patients. It offers invaluable insights into overcoming sexual barriers and finding genuine satisfaction for both oneself and one’s partner(s). I highly recommend it for anyone dealing with sexual dysfunction caused by medication or depression. This book emphasizes that sex is not limited to just physical intercourse; it explores various forms of intimacy that can lead to fulfilling experiences. It’s a comprehensive resource for individuals of all sexual orientations and erotic types.
May 30, 2024
I think the Erotic Blueprints are a very interesting way to understand your idea of pleasure and how to focus on your wants and needs when it comes to intimacy (and all of that goes for your partner, too!). This book goes through each blueprint in detail, pros and cons, as well as how different blueprints can match with one another. It's almost like the 5 Love Languages: if you know how you like to receive love and how you prefer to give love, then you can lean into those for a better relationship with your partner(s). Highly recommend!
May 22, 2025
What the Myers-Briggs test is for personality, the Blueprint is for sexuality. You can find the "Erotic Blueprint Quiz" on many websites. The "free" version will tell you which is your predominant type. For a price ($17?) you can find how you rate in all five types.
The first two-thirds of this book was interesting. The problem is the unevenness of the coverage. Some portions were comprehensive, while others skimmed a bit. The last third seemed to be filler -- it just didn't interest me much.
The first two-thirds of this book was interesting. The problem is the unevenness of the coverage. Some portions were comprehensive, while others skimmed a bit. The last third seemed to be filler -- it just didn't interest me much.
March 14, 2024
Jaiya's work is amazing. I love to think of the blueprints she discovered as the erotic love languages. Her time and dedication to this work is inspirational. As a somatic sexologist, her findings are both empowering and can be life, and sex-life changing for individuals and couples.
After years of absorbing her info on the erotic blueprint through any medium I could find, I'm so looking forward to reading this book.
After years of absorbing her info on the erotic blueprint through any medium I could find, I'm so looking forward to reading this book.
September 3, 2024
This didn’t have much to offer me. I don’t know, maybe it’s just not FOR me, you know?
January 10, 2025
DNF at 66%
I just lost interest and didn't want to make myself finish it.
There was some useful stuff it just didn't hold my interest all the way through.
I just lost interest and didn't want to make myself finish it.
There was some useful stuff it just didn't hold my interest all the way through.
August 6, 2025
Great book that creates a deeper understanding and acceptance. I love that it has many practical tools and exercises to understand your own, and others’, sexuality 🤌
December 12, 2025
A little gimmicky but ultimately useful.
March 14, 2024
Jaiya's work is amazing. I love to think of the blueprints she discovered as the erotic love languages. Her time and dedication to this work is inspirational. As a somatic sexologist, her findings are both empowering and can be life, and sex-life changing for individuals and couples.
After years of absorbing her info on the erotic blueprint through any medium I could find, I'm so looking forward to reading this book.
After years of absorbing her info on the erotic blueprint through any medium I could find, I'm so looking forward to reading this book.
January 10, 2024
Thank You
Thank you so much for your knowledge and experience! Thoroughly enjoyed the book. I look forward to librating myself by uncovering my pleasure, owning it, and living a life of pleasure.
Thank you so much for your knowledge and experience! Thoroughly enjoyed the book. I look forward to librating myself by uncovering my pleasure, owning it, and living a life of pleasure.
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