"Το σώμα μου είναι μόνο δικό μου": Οδηγός για γονείς και εκπαιδευτικούς

by Elizabeth Schroeder, Καλλιόπη Εμμανουηλίδου (Translator)

Η συζήτηση με τα παιδιά για την υπευθυνότητα και τον σεβασμό –ιδίως σε ό,τι αφορά το σώμα τους– είναι απαραίτητη αλλά και δύσκολη, κυρίως όταν μιλάμε για ευαίσθητα θέματα, όπως είναι η σεξουαλική κακοποίηση.

Αυτό το βιβλίο είναι ένας χρήσιμος οδηγός για να ξεκινήσετε να μιλάτε ακόμα και με πολύ μικρά παιδιά, χρησιμοποιώντας λεξιλόγιο και παραδείγματα που μπορούν να καταλάβουν. Αν μάθουν πώς να βάζουν όρια για να προστατεύουν τον εαυτό τους καθώς και να αναγνωρίζουν τα όρια των άλλων, θα αναπτύξουν τη δική τους αυτοεκτίμηση και θα μείνουν ασφαλή σε κάθε περίσταση.

Από πού να ξεκινήσετε Βρείτε βασικές κατευθύνσεις από μια έμπειρη συγγραφέα και μητέρα που συμβουλεύει εδώ και δεκαετίες τους γονείς πώς να διαχειρίζονται ευαίσθητα θέματα.

Τι να πείτε Ανακαλύψτε τρόπους για να μιλήσετε στο παιδί για το σώμα του, καθώς και πώς να είναι ασφαλές, χωρίς να το κάνετε να νιώσει ενοχές, σύγχυση ή φόβο.

Tι να κάνετε Μάθετε πώς να απαντάτε σε δύσκολες ερωτήσεις, αλλά και πώς να γίνετε το παράδειγμα σε θέματα ορίων και συναίνεσης μέσα από τη δική σας συμπεριφορά.

Genres: Parenting, Nonfiction, Self Help

128 pages, Paperback

First published December 7, 2021

About the author

Elizabeth Schroeder, EdD, MSW (she/her/hers), is an award-winning educator, trainer, program consultant and author specializing in sexuality education for youth, professionals and parents, LGBTQ+-affirming best practices, and working with adolescent boys. She has provided consultation to and direct education and training for schools, parent groups and youth-serving organizations in the US and countries around the world for over 25 years.

Dr. Schroeder has authored or edited numerous publications, including Rights, Respect, Responsibility, the first-ever K-12 sexuality education curriculum that is completely mapped to the National Sexuality Education Standards, for which she also served as a co-author. She also co-authored Sexuality Education: Theory and Practice with Dr. Clint Bruess and the four-part book series, Sexuality Education: Past, Present and Future with Dr. Judy Kuriansky. She is a frequently sought-out spokesperson in the news media on issues relating to sexual health education and youth development, having appeared on BBC’s “The Why Factor,” several NPR affiliates, and in The New York Times, CNN Online, The Huffington Post, among others. Dr. Schroeder speaks at conferences around the world on sexuality and adolescent development.

She holds a Doctorate of Education in Human Sexuality Education from Widener University and a Master of Social Work from New York University.

Reviews

[Narcisa Chiric · Rating 4 out of 5]

Cartea are mai multe informații referitoare la cum să ne învățăm copiii despre granițele personale și cum să reacționeze în anumite momente critice de abuz.

În sensul acesta mi-a plăcut mult strategia "nu- pleacă- spune!" care încurajează copiii să reacționeze după un model dat în situații critice. Am remarcat și accentul pus pe legătura dintre corp și emoție (fiind încă abstracte pentru cei mai mici) pentru a facilita înțelegerea. La fel de importantă mi s-a părut și ideea de adult de încredere pentru copil în afara părintelui, o persoana care împărtășește aceleași valori de viață cu noi.

Consider că este o carte necesară în zilele noastre!

[Yolanda · Rating 5 out of 5]

After receiving and reading an advanced copy of Dr. Schoeder’s new book, I’ll be recommending (or giving!) it to all my friends and family with young children. It’s one of the clearest and most practical parenting books I’ve read. With a conversational and inviting tone, Dr. Schroeder provides a well-defined rationale for why this information is important, while at the same time recognizing and addressing the anxiety of parents in an empathic but no-nonsense way. Wearing the hats of both parent and consummate sexuality educator, Dr. Schroeder encourages, challenges, and teaches her readers to be intentional and present when it comes to increasing self-efficacy in children. Any parent, caregiver, or teacher will find this to be extremely helpful and immediately applicable.

[Jenna Nelson · Rating 5 out of 5]

While I haven’t had a chance yet to read this new book, I have seen Dr S multiple times at various workshops and she is the absolute best at helping parents and teachers navigate difficult and critical conversations with kids/teens. Anytime I need support in this area I refer to her materials and guidance.

[Oana Lambrache · Rating 4 out of 5]

Mulți dintre noi am crescut într-o perioadă în care discuțiile despre corpurile noastre și schimbările prin care vor trece erau subiecte tabu. La fel și termenii corecți pentru organele genitale, iar întrebarea "De unde vin copiii?" primea drept răspuns "Sunt aduși de barză". Am știut de la bun început că al meu copil, fie fată, fie băiat, va primi altfel de răspunsuri și informații, pe care le-am adaptat în funcție de vârsta lui și de întrebările lui.

"Corpul meu e doar al meu" este un mijloc de educare mai întâi pentru părinți, un ghid pentru aceștia pentru a deschide dialoguri cu copiii lor despre limite, consimțământ, respect, despre secrete și atingeri "bune și rele". Părțile pe care le-am apreciat cel mai mult la această carte au fost consolidarea conexiunii cu copiii noștri, asigurarea continuă că îi iubim necondiționat și reiterarea faptului că pot avea încredere în noi pentru a ne spune orice, indiferent de situație și gravitate, fără teamă sau rușine.

[Sol · Rating 5 out of 5]

Elizabeth Schroeder did a great job describing ways to teach children of all ages boundaries, body parts, and to recognize abuse, and to feel confident enough to tell an adult they trust. I liked the emphasis on building a environment where a child will not feel ashamed to reach out if they are uncomfortable with someones actions and physical contact. I would highly recommend to anyone who has a child or works with children, a great and educational read.

[Katerina Messi · Rating 5 out of 5]

Εξαιρετικός οδηγός για εκπαιδευτικούς και γονείς με πρακτικές συμβουλές για την σωστή σεξουαλική διαπαιδαγώγηση και την πρόληψη σεξουαλικής κακοποίησης στην παιδική ηλικία. Θεωρώ ότι οποιοσδήποτε βρίσκεται κοντά σε παιδιά θα πρέπει να το διαβάσει και να το συμβουλεύεται. Μας διδάσκει σημαντικές έννοιες όπως η συναίνεση, ο σεβασμός, τα όρια και η αυτό αποτελεσματικοτητα με πολύ απλό και κατανοητό τρόπο, έννοιες που πολλές φορές οι ίδιοι οι ενήλικες αγνοούμε ή δεν μπορούμε να εξηγήσουμε.

[Sarah · Rating 5 out of 5]

A crucial, easy read on a crucial, complex topic. It’s accessible in language and length, infused with humor, informed by research, and based in reality - a must read for all parents. Dr. Elizabeth Schroeder is an exceptional, storied sexuality educator whose human-centered approach is creating a better world for us all.

[Sorina · Rating 5 out of 5]

Un ghid pentru părinți foarte util pentru a fi pus în practică. Informațiile sunt scurte și la obiect, fără înflorituri. Deși educația sexuală este un subiect tabu, foarte sensibil in zilele noastre pentru unii părinți, părerea mea este că această carte îl simplifică și îl "desensibilizează", fără să omită informațiile esențiale.

[Cristina Ermac · Rating 4 out of 5]

O broșură mai desfășurată pentru părinți, cu întrebări și obstacole pe care le întâmpină în educația sexuală a copiilor.
Cartea oferă răspunsuri la întrebările care apar des în calea părinților, astfel încât aceștia să înțeleagă cum să inițieze mai ușor dialoguri cu copiii lor, discutând despre granițele personale, despre consimțământ, despre atingeri “rele și bune”, dar și cel mai important- cat de important e să păstrăm conexiunea cu copilul nostru încât să poată avea încredere și să se adreseze fără nici o jenă sau disconfort atunci când se află într-o situație ambiguă cu o altă persoană, pentru ca ulterior noi, părinții, să putem interveni la timp, pentru a preveni un act de abuz.

[Lisa Schulze · Rating 5 out of 5]

As a sex educator, parents/caregivers are always asking for helpful books to equip them with the words, skills and resources to have valuable conversations about bodies, boundaries and consent. Look no further! This book takes a somewhat daunting topic (b/c of our own lack of inclusive sex ed!) and breaks it down in a digestible way. Dr. Schroeder gives helpful examples and clear rationale on every topic. Very inclusive, so accessible and you will even have a few giggles. Will recommend to the families I serve!!

[Xiamara Hohman · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is a quick read. It’s an easily digestible and practical guide to talking to children of all ages about consent, boundaries, and respect. It provides helpful insights into discussing sexual abuse with children (both in terms of prevention of sexual abuse and intervention if sexual abuse does occur). I appreciated Schroeder’s direct language and the ways in which she modeled conversations.

[Lauren · Rating 5 out of 5]

I’m so grateful to have received a free copy of this book from the publisher! As a parent and public health professional, I believe this book is an essential read. I loved the layout, the actionable takeaways, and the personal anecdotes from the author. It was incredibly accessible to me as a reader. Highly recommended!

[Christine · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a clear and easy read guide on talking to young children about their bodies, boundaries, and consent. Schroeder provides a wealth of valuable tips on a very important topic for parents/guardians, key educators in these conversations. I loved how she reinforced her straightforward strategies with anecdotes from interactions with her son.

[Mariana · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a book to be read by all the adulți (not only the ones that already have children). It is important that everyone should know and keep his personal boundaries and to learn about the respect and consent. This is a book that worth all the stars in the world.

[Daniela · Rating 5 out of 5]

Corpul meu e doar al meu

[Vera Marin · Rating 5 out of 5]

Destul de interesanta. Explicații usor de înțeles.

[Anna Baboura · Rating 4 out of 5]

Χρηστικός οδηγός.

[Fotini Kakouri · Rating 5 out of 5]

A must read for all parents!

[Cristina Blaga · Rating 5 out of 5]

O carte foarte practica, utila. Ușor de citit, cu informații clare!