‘The Art of Parenting Together: How to be Good parents Together by Using Dynamic Parenting to Improve Your Kid’s Childhood’ wasn’t quite what I expected. Rather than focussing on parenting in partnership, it turned out to be more of a general guide to parenting.
The book is well structured and easy to read. It includes some references, though more could have been beneficial. The book contains a lot of broad advice, some of which is aimed at adults rather than parenting (such as advice on drinking, quitting smoking, and binge eating.) However, there are useful snippets scattered throughout.
The first two chapters felt quite generalised. The examples of dysfunctional families are quite extreme – severe neglect, abuse, etc. I expected examples that would apply to more mainstream families.
Chapter three covers healthy communication and includes some useful tips, like being available, showing appreciation, and the importance of clear and direct communication.
Chapter four talks about acknowledging problems. It does a good job listing the various challenges parents face – temper tantrums, disobedience, picky eaters, etc. – but there is limited practical advice on how to address them. However, there are some ideas on how to help picky eaters, and I appreciated that it stressed that when disciplining a child, the child should understand it’s the behaviour that is the problem, not the child.
Chapter five focusses on healthy habits, which felt more suited to a self-help book for adults rather than a parenting book, as it focusses on adult’s bad habits rather than a child’s. So while it talks about things like breaking a habit into smaller goals, and visualising yourself succeeding, the example for the latter is: ‘see yourself breaking each cigarette or throwing away the box,’ ‘visualise yourself buying healthy produce.’
Chapter six on active listening was the most useful chapter. It offers advice on how to become an active listener, such as being attentive, maintaining steady eye contact (although I don’t agree with this one if talking to teenagers), avoiding interrupting, etc.
Chapter seven focusses on scheduling quality time together. I appreciated that it emphasised the quality of time rather than the quantity. It provides some practical ideas, such as eating meals together, bedtime stories (and grocery shopping, which made me smile.)
Overall, parents are likely to find some useful tips on parenting in general in this book, but there’s not much specific advice on parenting as a team.