★★★★☆ 3.75/5
✎ (❁ᴗ͈ˬᴗ͈) ༉ Note : This review will remain spoiler-free as it has not been published at the current date of my review.
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Tropes / Expectations
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▹Fake dating
▹Topics of anxiety, alcoholism, panic attacks, cheating
▹Third-act break up
▹Emotionally Stunted FMC
▹Cultural topics
You Started It is a young adult novel following seventeen-year-old Jamie Taher-Foster as she is unexpectedly dumped by her boyfriend of three years, Ben. It reads very much like you would expect a young adult novel to read, and includes a lot of nods and mentions to modern day slang, trends, and artists. On top of this, it also covers a plethora of real-world issues such as anxiety disorders, IBS (irritable bowel syndrome), alcoholism, co-dependency, cheating, and the current situation between Palestine and Israel.
: ̗̀➛ My Review Rants
This was a very cute read. I was initially put off by the book shortly after it started with the usage of cringe slang you would hear your average teenager using, but as I pushed further into the book, I found myself unable to put it down.
I relate a lot to the main character, Jamie, when it comes to having debilitating anxiety, a fear of losing control of your own life, and panic attacks. I actually related to her so much that I felt uncomfortable at times, but it's precisely because of that, that I really loved our FMC.
I loved the approach to being biracial, being unaccustomed to or uneducated on your cultural roots or traditions, and the struggles many go through by never truly feeling like you belong. Axel Dahini, our MMC, was the greenest of flags imaginable when it came to this topic. Refusing to let Jamie downplay her race or significance due to being biracial was such a nice touch that as a biracial person myself who feels detached from my culture and religion due to family keeping me from it, I felt seen and accepted.
The pacing in this book was great, there was never a dull moment or time where you question when things will pick up or get better. It was doing that the entire time, just getting better and better. I will say I did have moments where I was frustrated with characters like Jamie's mother, Ben, and Jamie herself, but it was never enough to make me uninterested in the book or want to put it down. I was hooked from start to finish despite wanting to fight some of these characters. I also truly loved the hints put throughout the book of thinking what Jamie was doing was a normal teenage thing, only to realize when you look back just how damaging her behaviour was and being able to reflect on why and how and do better from it. It was well done when brought to the reader's attention by the end of the book.
I have and always will be very anti-third act break ups. I think they are redundant and often times backtrack on all of the progress and development of the main characters, and unfortunately that's exactly how I felt about the one in this book. I felt that it dragged on for far longer than necessary and the miscommunication/unwillingness to communicate between the main cast was really annoying and I found myself sighing in annoyance often. I do think the resolution to the third act break up was a bit lackluster as well, but I overall did have a great time, and I really loved Axel.
I would also like to give appreciation to the author for speaking out on the stereotypes placed against Arab men, their culture, as well as for speaking up for Palestine. It is refreshing to see an author speak up for her beliefs and make it so enjoyable in a book that caters to younger adults. This is a great book for learning more about viewing others through an objective lens, not through judgmental or divisive ones. I also really appreciated the anxiety and panic attack representation in this novel. As someone who struggles with both to a debilitating level, I really appreciated how well they were handled in this novel. An author educating themselves and showing that through their writing and not glorification of these topics is few and far between, and Jackie Khalilieh did a wonderful job tackling it.
: ̗̀➛ Final Thoughts
A solid 3.75/5 for this novel. I enjoyed it for what it was, and would've loved for a bit more time with Axel and Jamie together as a couple or expanding on their relationship. I often felt that there wasn't enough of just them in this book, especially in the later half around the 70% mark and beyond. The tension and conflict interfered with giving their relationship more of a platform. But for what it offered, I enjoyed it!
Thank you Netgalley and Jackie Khalilieh for this ARC! I look forward to future works from this author. For anyone who is interested, You Started It will make its official publication on May 20, 2025, so please keep an eye on it and check it out when it releases!