Nearly 20 years later, Eric Shaw Quinn's funny and often poignant look at a single gay man's struggle to gain custody of and raise his nephew is still as fresh and relevant as today's headlines.
The book takes place in a a conservative Southern town over a period of time seemingly the 70s, 80s, and 90s, and in a political environment where a gay man adopting is still controversial, and gay marriage isn't even yet on the plate. What I like best about it is it's verisimilitude... the book immediately immerses the reader in a time and a place not so far in the past when the prejudice against homosexuality was so great that the only way its gay protagonist is able to achieve respectability is to live as a veritable monk or sexual neuter. We are not so far removed from this view in modern society, and the book very naturally takes the reader back to that place.
This book is parenting and sacrifice, and the society's callous behavior towards those deemed as different or "other," specifically, in this case, Michael because he is gay, but it doesn't take a lot of reading between the lines to pick up the tone of indictment of the practice of demonizing and dehumanizing of those who are unlike ourselves. Michael is a very human character. Without ever losing its sense of humor, the book lets us feel Michael's pain and loneliness, and the lengths to which he is willing to go in order to have a family. Because he is so human, when he is treated unfairly, it resonates with the reader. We care about what happens to him.
The book was a pleasure to read, with it's light touch on heavy issues.
I had a little bit of trouble with a switch in character point of view (from uncle to nephew) that occurs in the middle of the book, but other than that I found the book's pacing very successful.
My overall impression is that this is historically important work that creates a very good window into the period of time in which it was written.