I really liked the book. The storyline is strong and socially relevant and the characters are well developed.
It is a basic love story riddled with ghetto issues. Jonasi, the main male character, is a self-made millionaire married to Joyce, the typical long-suffering wife, and they have 4 kids. The more power and wealth Jonasi accumulated, the more he felt that he deserved to meander outside the covenant of his marriage and "sow his wild oats".
Enters Matipa who climbed the corporate ladder by "servicing" her boss, Jonasi. Essie, Jonasi's "sofasilahlane kasi" girlfriend and later 2nd wife, is bitter because she was an "open secret" and stayed and lived in the township.
Lindani, Jonasi's last squeeze, was young, with curves in the right places and "tight" and taught. Typical "Arm candy" looking for someone to bankroll her lifestyle.
The themes explored throughout "The polygamist" are universal: greed, lust, infidelity, power wars, unhealthy family dynamics, children born out of wedlock.
The author really captured the true essence of these themes and highlighted their impact on these families. We are not only told of Joyce's journey, but also of Matipa's parents' reaction to her cohabitation with a married man. We are shown how Elsie's ghetto-mentality kept her tied to Jonasi. How Lindani's fairy-tale life unravelled infront of her eyes.
The essence for me was how the other women in Jonasi's life were just taking what they felt they deserved without acknowledging that Jonasi was who he was because Joyce had anchored him.
Let this be a lesson to all "Fab" girls who think that they can hook their greedy talons into someone like Jonasi, that while they are sipping "Gin 'n Juice" there is a woman behind who makes sure that those tailored shirts are ironed, that the man looks good because she prepares healthy meals at home, that the man is able to unwind in their company because of the woman at home who worries on his behalf.
In the end, Jonasi dies from an AIDS related disease leaving all of them infected with the HIV virus.
Polygamy, in this book, was abused by Jonasi. He used it as a shield to cover his infidelity. I thought that if a man wanted a second or third wife, all parties were consulted and would all arrive at a mutually beneficial agreement. Infidelity in whatever form, leaves a devastating trail of destruction.
Note to girls: don't ever marry in secret. If you are getting married and you are the only one who knows, it is anything but a marriage. Weddings happen everyday but marriages are built on a solid foundation
29062016 after re-rereading this book, my opinions have changed a bit. Firstly, I'm angry. Very angry. Angry at Jonasi, at Joyce. Matipa, Essie and Lindani. Angry at how we, the society, perpetuates stereotypes. Turn a blind eye at morally wrong things.
Jonasi was an abusive misogynistic man. He was all macho and no heart. Love doesn't hurt. Love is not blind. Love is not possessive. Love is freedom. Love is trust. Love is not jealous.
Jonasi was not everyman but he was most men. Living his tertiary schooldays' fantasies. Forgetting that he was now OLDER with adult responsibilities therefore he had the responsibility to conduct himself like an adult.