Gypsy Boy on the Run is one of those biographies you don’t want to believe is true simply because to acknowledge that such terribly sad, horribly awful things happen in the world - let alone to the same person – makes you want to hide under the covers and never come back out. But Mikey Walsh didn’t hide under the covers. Despite all the abuse, heartache and loss, Mikey Walsh has not only found to strength to keep going, but also to share his story.
Mikey was born to a very proud and prominent Gypsy family in the very early 1980’s. I knew very little about Gypsy culture and I didn’t really realise that there even was still a Gypsy culture in a world overrun by globalisation and technology and greed. So when I saw the title, I thought it’d be really fascinating to learn a little bit more about the Gypsy lifestyle and find out why it was Mikey felt compelled to leave behind all he knew and what on earth he’d done to warrant his father putting a price on his head.
Gypsy culture, I have learnt, is very set in its ways and very against change. Partly, this is a necessity for keeping their culture alive and passing it on to the next generation without it being destroyed by the modern world. Gypsy girls play with dolls, get married and have strong, healthy babies. Gypsy boys learn to fight, smoke, drink a lot, and earn money for their families (in some cases by conning non Gypsies).
For Mikey, fighting lessons began at 3 with Mikey’s father beating him in the ribs to build up endurance. The harder Mikey cried, the harder he was hit. This “training” continued for a couple of years before Mikey was expected to fight against a boy several years older, and much bigger, than he was. When he lost, he was made to feel exactly how much he had disappointed and shamed his family with further beatings. And so began a constant cycle of apparently disappointing and shaming his family and being beaten as a punishment. If his mother interceded, she too was beaten in punishment.
Not only was Mikey facing the constant physical abuse from his father, but he was also sexually abused by his uncle for several years. The one time Mikey tried to explain what was being done to him, he faced yet another beating from his father for lying. With a childhood like this, it is little surprise that Mikey tried to end his life. Thankfully when his family moved once again, he was saved from the abuse by his uncle. However, the angry treatment from his father only continued to worsen as Mikey grew older.
Failing to be the fierce warrior his father expected was not the only way he “failed” him. Mikey was also gay. After yet another beating, this time with a shovel, fifteen year old Mikey made the tough decision to run away from the world he knew and move to Manchester with his boyfriend, Caleb.
While normally you would expect that this is where the happiness starts for Mikey, things only began to get worse as hordes of Gypsy men came to hunt him down for betraying his people. While Mikey moves to Leeds and learns how to get a job, a bank account and start a life for himself, Caleb is harassed each night because Mikey’s family believe that’s where he’s hiding. Sadly, the constant threats and the pressure placed on both of them drives them apart until their relationship degrades into yet another abusive relationship.
The next couple of years seem to hold a similar pattern for Mikey. He moves several times to avoid his family or relationships that have turned sour and each time must establish a new life for himself. His resilience is truly amazing and his courageous ability to keep picking up the pieces of his life and start over again inspiring. As his father will admit many years later, he did raise a fighter, only it was one full of inner strength rather than physical strength. For a long period of time though, it seems like Mikey can’t catch a break. None of his relationships work out, and they sure as hell don’t end well, and he has several run ins with violent homophobes. He moves around the UK several times and tries many different jobs.
One of the things I found most fascinating about listening to Mikey’s story was hearing him grow into the person he wanted to become. A child growing up is told that there are many possibilities open to them, though usually within some parameters of conventionality. They go to school, get a handle of what they’re educational talents might be and decide on a career usually based upon that talent. But this child will have had 18 or so years at least to decide upon such things. Mikey has had significantly less time, living in the much narrower expectations of his future based upon Gypsy culture. Mikey has not had the fortune of many years of education to discover his talents either, which puts him at a disadvantage. I was really looking forward to that aspect of his story and while he tried many things, like acting classes, I really liked what he stated he was doing by the end of the book. He’s become a teacher’s assistant in a special needs school, stating that he was catching up on the education he had missed out on, but I also like that he’s helping teach others that might have missed out on education opportunities just like he did.
Mikey does eventually begin to make contact with his family again, though it is always intermittent due to the volatile relationship with his father. It was nice to see him reconnect with them, though it made me so terribly sad that he was still frequently beaten by his father who has been unable to let go of this irrational anger he feels towards his son. Having to confront the man that sexually assaulted him to protect his baby brother from the same fate was also gut wrenching, and I wished more than anything that something would just go right for the poor guy.
Having Mikey narrate his own audiobook certainly made the experience more touching and intimate. Mikey reads his work with all the emotions he experienced at the time, and I relished hearing the laughter in his voice as he spoke about better times. He has the most fascinating accent and made the narration just that little bit more interesting, though it was frustrating that sometimes he spoke so softly it was hard to understand him. As he says at the end of the narration, there is no happily ever after so far for Mikey, and it doesn’t seem like something that’s ever going to be possible for him after everything he’s experienced. Despite that I can’t help but hope for a better future than he had past, not only because I’d wish it for anyone in his shoes, but also because by the end of the book I felt like I knew him really well and I just desperately want things to go right for him.