It starts as a very domestic, south Indian -American account of the family , narrated by the mother with terminal cancer. They are mostly medics, clever, but somewhat fragmented, Ronak the son lives far away, both geographically and emotionally . The mother has terminal cancer, conceals it from all except husband Abhi . She observes her family acutely, and the narrative is rich in memorable observations. Pondering her future, alongside her sleeping husband “I find the white gold of his wedding band and turn it around and around like winding a clock.”
Later, at a funeral, she is distracted, her mind wandering “like kites, in funeral” . She is a very self aware narrator, conscious of her heritage but not in thrall to it. She is sensitive to others, rejecting a lift, “ I would bring the odor of my mortality into her car, her morning, her mind”. Her passion is cooking, and food as more than nutrition, a life force.
Abhi, though a specialist doctor, is a secret mathematician, and wins a major prize. The narrator feels guilt, she didn’t pass the medical entrance exams, is outshone.
Abhi is loving and caring, but somewhat remote in his mathematical world.
The account of her mother in law dying, the emotion, her obstinacy, seem vividly real.
The second part takes us to reconciliation with her daughter Mala, the one she always sparred with. The route is via cookery, once Mala is aware of her illness after she caves in and tells
Overall, it is very Indian American, very domestic, with very little plot, except “I could write a book about the slow sloppy business of dying” which indeed this is. The wider world of events and politics scarcely enters. Some of the dialogue is mentioned as being in Gujarati, but this isn’t identified by typography, and doesn’t really influence the narrative. Whilst English is her second language it seems to be her language of thought. Ideally the reader needs to be familiar with American groceries, Indian cooking, and the medical system, but it is all easily inferred.
The family dynamics are pretty universal, the emotions as her physical abilities fade are sharply and unsentimentally described . I found the whole story very relatable, perhaps because of my age, looking back over life. The ending is original, and moving. I really liked this book.
I had from the Shelterbox book group, a UK disaster relief charity. In the author interview, a feature of this book group, he mentioned his interest in the spiritual dimension of writing, which does peek through in places. As a group we were surprised and impressed that this was written by a man, a remarkable act of empathy.