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Cupidity: 50 Stupid Things People Do For Love And How To Avoid Them
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Stupid?
You're a smart person. You really are. Most of the time. So why are you having such trouble making sense of your love life? Whether you're single and wondering where "the one" is hiding, head over heels in a new dating relationship and vowing that this time it'll work, or finding that married life isn't the thrilling adventure you'd once anticipated... you might be surprised to discover that the answer may lie in your own Cupidity.
Cupidity: stupid love. Hayley and Michael DiMarco have been there—and survived. In this book, they identify 50 of the most common acts of Cupidity, ways to avoid them and learn from them, and some surprising things God has to say about relationships. If you think you may have been stuck by a few of stupid Cupid's arrows, there's good news: stupid love doesn't have to be terminal. With the help of a little inside information, smart, successful love can be just around the corner.
Stupid?
You're a smart person. You really are. Most of the time. So why are you having such trouble making sense of your love life? Whether you're single and wondering where "the one" is hiding, head over heels in a new dating relationship and vowing that this time it'll work, or finding that married life isn't the thrilling adventure you'd once anticipated... you might be surprised to discover that the answer may lie in your own Cupidity.
Cupidity: stupid love. Hayley and Michael DiMarco have been there—and survived. In this book, they identify 50 of the most common acts of Cupidity, ways to avoid them and learn from them, and some surprising things God has to say about relationships. If you think you may have been stuck by a few of stupid Cupid's arrows, there's good news: stupid love doesn't have to be terminal. With the help of a little inside information, smart, successful love can be just around the corner.
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245 pages, Paperback
First published January 1, 2010
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March 18, 2013
Dear Lord,
I praise and thank you for guarding my heart all these years. I thank you that you have not allowed me to get into a wrong kind of relationship and commit more acts of Cupidity. You've told me once that I was made for romance, and the only one who can offer it to me consistently and deeply is your son, Jesus. So as I patiently wait for that pleasing and perfect will of Yours for me, I pray that You continue to guard and strengthen my heart more. Remind me constantly to use this gift of single-blessedness as an opportunity to serve and honor You and to serve others. I also pray that you protect me from all the things that this world may offer but are outside of Your ill so I may avoid the acts of Cupidity mentioned in this book. Teach me to really fix my eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of faith so I may become the woman (or wife) that You want me to be.
In Jesus name, I pray. Amen.
Your daughter,
Cary
okay, so that was my initial reaction after reading the book. What i really liked most about it is that the authors never fail to remind the reader that yes, in one way or another, you've committed an act of cupidity but it's never too late to repent and start a clean slate because our God is a God of forgiveness and redemption. I also agree with them that we should really test against GOd's Word whatever things we heard about love. Every believer should always bear in mind that God is always concerneo about our lives, and that includes our love life
I praise and thank you for guarding my heart all these years. I thank you that you have not allowed me to get into a wrong kind of relationship and commit more acts of Cupidity. You've told me once that I was made for romance, and the only one who can offer it to me consistently and deeply is your son, Jesus. So as I patiently wait for that pleasing and perfect will of Yours for me, I pray that You continue to guard and strengthen my heart more. Remind me constantly to use this gift of single-blessedness as an opportunity to serve and honor You and to serve others. I also pray that you protect me from all the things that this world may offer but are outside of Your ill so I may avoid the acts of Cupidity mentioned in this book. Teach me to really fix my eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of faith so I may become the woman (or wife) that You want me to be.
In Jesus name, I pray. Amen.
Your daughter,
Cary
okay, so that was my initial reaction after reading the book. What i really liked most about it is that the authors never fail to remind the reader that yes, in one way or another, you've committed an act of cupidity but it's never too late to repent and start a clean slate because our God is a God of forgiveness and redemption. I also agree with them that we should really test against GOd's Word whatever things we heard about love. Every believer should always bear in mind that God is always concerneo about our lives, and that includes our love life
April 5, 2012
Some of my friends know that I’m not really bombarding myself to romantic paraphernalia. However, feeding my mind with love and relationship counseling books aid my personality and beliefs. As what the authors of Cupidity namely Hayley & Michael DiMarco said, “What you feel comes from what you believe.” Thus, to help myself is to feed my mind with this kind of book.
Here are the Top 10 quotations of Cupidity: (in random order)
1. “God knows that love, in order to prove itself, must be tested. It must stand in the face of the opposition; it must give of itself when it gets nothing in return; it must be a conscious choice and not an emotional response. “
2. “Love. It’s not what you feel; it’s what you do.”
3. “Words aren’t the cure for every problem… sometimes they are the cause.”
4. “Dating is the riskiest time of the relationship.”
5. “There is more to love about a person than what you see.”
6. “When you put your hope solely in the hands of another person, you are sure to be disappointed.”
7. “When you obsess over someone, you smother them.”
8. “When giving love becomes more important than getting it, you’ll find that getting it becomes a lot easier.”
9. “Silence isn’t the death to the relationship.”
10. “Love never stops learning.”
CONTENT:
Unlike any other relationship counseling books, Cupidity is into descriptive and rationalistic content. Some books’ contents are more into situational which some readers can’t relate to. I’m not saying that Cupidity doesn’t have one but they make it concise and straightforward. In short, it’s interesting and ennui-less.
Cupidity’s advice and guiding principles are taken and based from the bible. That’s the reason why I was attached and hooked to the book.
PRICE:
This book can surely help you on how to avoid the stupid things people do for love. You better save your two hundred fifty pesos because this book can definitely shape your mind, heart, and soul.
RATING:
10 over 10 bookmarks for its attractive cover, well-written and substantial content and affordable price.
Here are the Top 10 quotations of Cupidity: (in random order)
1. “God knows that love, in order to prove itself, must be tested. It must stand in the face of the opposition; it must give of itself when it gets nothing in return; it must be a conscious choice and not an emotional response. “
2. “Love. It’s not what you feel; it’s what you do.”
3. “Words aren’t the cure for every problem… sometimes they are the cause.”
4. “Dating is the riskiest time of the relationship.”
5. “There is more to love about a person than what you see.”
6. “When you put your hope solely in the hands of another person, you are sure to be disappointed.”
7. “When you obsess over someone, you smother them.”
8. “When giving love becomes more important than getting it, you’ll find that getting it becomes a lot easier.”
9. “Silence isn’t the death to the relationship.”
10. “Love never stops learning.”
CONTENT:
Unlike any other relationship counseling books, Cupidity is into descriptive and rationalistic content. Some books’ contents are more into situational which some readers can’t relate to. I’m not saying that Cupidity doesn’t have one but they make it concise and straightforward. In short, it’s interesting and ennui-less.
Cupidity’s advice and guiding principles are taken and based from the bible. That’s the reason why I was attached and hooked to the book.
PRICE:
This book can surely help you on how to avoid the stupid things people do for love. You better save your two hundred fifty pesos because this book can definitely shape your mind, heart, and soul.
RATING:
10 over 10 bookmarks for its attractive cover, well-written and substantial content and affordable price.
February 22, 2012
The title of this book is actually Cupidity:50 Stupid Things People Do For Love And How To Avoid Them. Despite the long title, this book is in reality a short and quick read. Only 244 pages in a font of comfortable reading size, Cupidity is not far from self-help relationship and dating books you see in bookstores. It discusses 50 acts of “Cupidity” which make us stupid when it comes to love and relationships. It contains the ever-known-but-seldom-applied principles in relationships which is to use the head and not the heart. It is a call to singles and couples alike to be more sensible when it comes to matters of the heart. Sounds easy when read (and written), but is in reality a struggle. Because if all of us are sensible in handling relationships, particularly romantic relationships, there wouldn’t be a proliferation of books of this kind in bookstores, right?
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August 29, 2016
It's such a great read. I couldn't get my hands off of the book, but decided to have the discipline to read it over 5 days to help the lessons from each day stick more in my mind. I love the way the DiMarco couple writes so naturally, as if we are in a conversation. Would love to have mentors like them someday!
March 11, 2019
Owned this book for a long time but it's only this year that I got the chance to read it and in a perfect timing as well. I learned a lot from this and I did not hesitate to share this to the man who's currently courting me so he'll have added knowledge about the process that we are going through as well.
December 13, 2019
I have read this book way back I was single. It helps me identify what's right from wrong especially in my dating days. It talks about all real-life situations of how stupid a person can be that usually happens when we fall in love. So, technically, it's not just for married couples and in a relationship but also for dating and single. I thank God for this book that I am able to use the wisdom I gained from reading it until now that I am married.
July 9, 2022
I read this during my teenage days and it equipped me for relationship and marriage. ❤️
January 19, 2012
I have loved the DiMarcos as authors since my parents gave my little sister a copy of Dateable while I was working with a high school youth group. I stole it to use with the girls I was working with and fell in love. I read Marriable as I was dating Luke and loved it too. These are down to earth, real life solutions to issues people actually face. Instead of the cliches that so often come at Christians (it's better not to date, etc), these authors write from less conservative point of view and provide practical, biblical advice. Having a chance to review their latest book for Tyndale was exciting to say the least.
Cupidity itself focuses on mistake that are commonly made my Christians in love - married or single. There is great advice in here about keeping your love going after marriage, respecting your husband, motivating your husband without nagging, and great advice for husbands on loving your wife, romance, and pornography. I thought about using it as a giveaway for Valentine's Day on here, but I loved it enough that I've got to keep it. It's getting a special spot on my shelves with Datable, Marriable, Mean Girls Grown Up, and a few other Hungry Planet books.
Here's my one warning: if you are not interested in reading a lot of biblical references OR you do not believe that wives should submit to their husbands, you are probably not going to just love this book. I take a pretty literal interpretation of the Bible and I want to see how the Bible backs up what I'm being taught, so these are both positive aspects of the book for me, but they may turn some readers off.
And one more small note: I think Cupidity is a great name, but you don't need to repeat the word in every single paragraph. By the end of the book the word had lost its cuteness and was grating on my nerves. But not enough to ruin the message of the book. I even got the chance to put some of the lessons I learned into practice this week!
Cupidity itself focuses on mistake that are commonly made my Christians in love - married or single. There is great advice in here about keeping your love going after marriage, respecting your husband, motivating your husband without nagging, and great advice for husbands on loving your wife, romance, and pornography. I thought about using it as a giveaway for Valentine's Day on here, but I loved it enough that I've got to keep it. It's getting a special spot on my shelves with Datable, Marriable, Mean Girls Grown Up, and a few other Hungry Planet books.
Here's my one warning: if you are not interested in reading a lot of biblical references OR you do not believe that wives should submit to their husbands, you are probably not going to just love this book. I take a pretty literal interpretation of the Bible and I want to see how the Bible backs up what I'm being taught, so these are both positive aspects of the book for me, but they may turn some readers off.
And one more small note: I think Cupidity is a great name, but you don't need to repeat the word in every single paragraph. By the end of the book the word had lost its cuteness and was grating on my nerves. But not enough to ruin the message of the book. I even got the chance to put some of the lessons I learned into practice this week!
January 21, 2010
I RECEIVED THIS BOOK FREE FROM TYNDALE PUBLISHERS AS PART OF THE TYNDALE BLOG NETWORK. UNLESS OTHERWISE STATED, THE OPIIONS GIVEN HERE ARE 100% MINE.
This book is written by a husband and wife team that has written dozens of books on love and relationships. They startd the company Hungry Planet, an organization that strives to reach the world with books and other media that is truthful.
According to the DiMarco's the definition of "cupidity" is "where love and stupid meet." The book coves many aspects of love, from meeting to marrying and long after the honeymoon. Things men and women say and do in the name of love is often pure cupidity.
At the beginning of the book there is a Cupidity Quiz to helpyou determine where you fall on the stupidity in love scale. I didn't do to bad. I have some areas that I need to think about an work on, but overall, I'm not doing too bad. (Thank goodness! It's nice to know I've learned something in my 42 years.) The book is then divided up into 5 sections: Emotional Acts of Cupidity, Mental Acts of Cupidity, Physical Acts of Cupidity, Social Acts of Cupidity, and Spiritual Acts of Cupidity.
While I definitely enjoyed the fact that the authors are Christians and used scriptures throughout to help make their points, at time I felt like I was reading a book written by teenagers. The text was often cutesy and shallow. I did enjoy some of the little side notes such as the ways a man feels loved and the way a woman feels loved, or the five signs you've gotten too comfortable in your relationship.
I would probably purchase this book for young adults, single and married, as the book addresses both of those issues. I think it is written for a younger reader than a 42 year old mom of 6. I would consider it a light read and worthy of taking a few notes, especially if you want to improve your romantic life.
This book is written by a husband and wife team that has written dozens of books on love and relationships. They startd the company Hungry Planet, an organization that strives to reach the world with books and other media that is truthful.
According to the DiMarco's the definition of "cupidity" is "where love and stupid meet." The book coves many aspects of love, from meeting to marrying and long after the honeymoon. Things men and women say and do in the name of love is often pure cupidity.
At the beginning of the book there is a Cupidity Quiz to helpyou determine where you fall on the stupidity in love scale. I didn't do to bad. I have some areas that I need to think about an work on, but overall, I'm not doing too bad. (Thank goodness! It's nice to know I've learned something in my 42 years.) The book is then divided up into 5 sections: Emotional Acts of Cupidity, Mental Acts of Cupidity, Physical Acts of Cupidity, Social Acts of Cupidity, and Spiritual Acts of Cupidity.
While I definitely enjoyed the fact that the authors are Christians and used scriptures throughout to help make their points, at time I felt like I was reading a book written by teenagers. The text was often cutesy and shallow. I did enjoy some of the little side notes such as the ways a man feels loved and the way a woman feels loved, or the five signs you've gotten too comfortable in your relationship.
I would probably purchase this book for young adults, single and married, as the book addresses both of those issues. I think it is written for a younger reader than a 42 year old mom of 6. I would consider it a light read and worthy of taking a few notes, especially if you want to improve your romantic life.
February 13, 2010
This review is coming out at a perfect time. With Valentines Day a couple days away, there's no time like present to discuss relationships. That's exactly what this book is about.
I find most of the information in the book to be believable, however, I do also believe that this book won't pertain to every one. Each person is different, so each relationship must be as well. I am happy that these tips worked for Hayley and Michael, but it may not work for you, so don't live for it. Learn from it.
The one criticism I have is how jumbled the thoughts were inside the book. In the middle of a paragraph, it jumps to some cute drawing with tips inside, then you confusingly find your paragraph again. Happened a little too much for my liking.
I have to say though, I really loved the way the authors spoke candidly while writing. It was almost like having a conversation, not reading. (Minus the blips in paragraphs here and there.)
All in all, this book gets a 3/5 from me. Some will love it, and others will hate it. Really you have to decide for yourself.
I find most of the information in the book to be believable, however, I do also believe that this book won't pertain to every one. Each person is different, so each relationship must be as well. I am happy that these tips worked for Hayley and Michael, but it may not work for you, so don't live for it. Learn from it.
The one criticism I have is how jumbled the thoughts were inside the book. In the middle of a paragraph, it jumps to some cute drawing with tips inside, then you confusingly find your paragraph again. Happened a little too much for my liking.
I have to say though, I really loved the way the authors spoke candidly while writing. It was almost like having a conversation, not reading. (Minus the blips in paragraphs here and there.)
All in all, this book gets a 3/5 from me. Some will love it, and others will hate it. Really you have to decide for yourself.
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April 28, 2010I won a copy of this book through Goodreads First Reads. I must say, I entered to win this on a lark. I liked the title, because anyone who knows me might agree I am not what you would call a big fan of love. To be honest, I didn't know it was a Christian book. I suppose I should have paid better attention to the description. There is a lot of scripture in this book, and I do not feel like it applies to me at all, as I am not the most spiritual person. However, I can definitely see how this book would appeal to Christian young adults, what with the catchy title and cute illustrations.
Perhaps my favorite chapter is chapter 25, the one regarding abuse. It is short and gets to the point--a point I think everyone, Christian or not, should take to heart.
So overall, I would recommend this to Christian young adults who need a quick, easy read about love and relationships with first-hand advice given by a Christian couple.
Perhaps my favorite chapter is chapter 25, the one regarding abuse. It is short and gets to the point--a point I think everyone, Christian or not, should take to heart.
So overall, I would recommend this to Christian young adults who need a quick, easy read about love and relationships with first-hand advice given by a Christian couple.
December 31, 2013
It's been a while since I read this. It was recommended to me by someone. But I was so busy and more interested in other books, so it took me a while to finally decide to get a copy myself. When I walked into the book store, they said they have already ran out of stocks for this book. So I just signed up for a copy and they would just text me if it arrives. It took me a month maybe or more before a copy lands to my hand.
So I just set aside my other books that I was reading at that time, and started reading this right away! So much for making me wait. hehe.
So it is very informative in the ways of love.
It made me understand that love is unselfish and made me understand a little about men.
What really stuck to me is. Love came from GOD, and finding it in loving your self first is not biblical truth. Love GOD FIRST
Very Recommendable book about love and relationships.
So I just set aside my other books that I was reading at that time, and started reading this right away! So much for making me wait. hehe.
So it is very informative in the ways of love.
It made me understand that love is unselfish and made me understand a little about men.
What really stuck to me is. Love came from GOD, and finding it in loving your self first is not biblical truth. Love GOD FIRST
Very Recommendable book about love and relationships.
October 30, 2013
I gave up just at the first few pages. I continued to just browse through the next pages.
Before I'd continue on with my review, I have never been one to like (or even read) self-help books. My brother gave this book to me from a trip, saying my reaction will be amusing. (Congratulations, dear brother, you have won this time.) Mind you, I have nothing against books like these. I, personally, am just not compatible with them.
I've never liked dogma — may it be from faith, politics, etc. I've never liked stereotypes either. I felt like this book was telling what each gender should do in a relationship, and if that does not happen, the relationship could/would fail. I've read other books that are “demeaning” to women in a way, and found them tolerable, but I cannot stand gender roles and the idea how we must abide by them.
On a more redeeming note, this book did have some good advice, especially with the role of faith and of God in regards to love, but it is still not for me.
Before I'd continue on with my review, I have never been one to like (or even read) self-help books. My brother gave this book to me from a trip, saying my reaction will be amusing. (Congratulations, dear brother, you have won this time.) Mind you, I have nothing against books like these. I, personally, am just not compatible with them.
I've never liked dogma — may it be from faith, politics, etc. I've never liked stereotypes either. I felt like this book was telling what each gender should do in a relationship, and if that does not happen, the relationship could/would fail. I've read other books that are “demeaning” to women in a way, and found them tolerable, but I cannot stand gender roles and the idea how we must abide by them.
On a more redeeming note, this book did have some good advice, especially with the role of faith and of God in regards to love, but it is still not for me.
April 19, 2014
This is a good book for just married folks who want to integrate faith, love, and peace into a better relationship. It also good for college students and others who are sorting out what a real life relationship can and should look like. The book has 50 examples of stupid things people do in love like:
1. Believing Love is a feeling.
6. Thinking That Telling Him Everything is a Good Idea
17. Walking on Eggshells
27. Blending Finances before Marriage
35. Letting Technology Define your Relationship
47. Obsessing over them
The book is broken into emotional, spiritual, social, physical and mental acts of Cupidity which is a fun word for stupidity in love.
1. Believing Love is a feeling.
6. Thinking That Telling Him Everything is a Good Idea
17. Walking on Eggshells
27. Blending Finances before Marriage
35. Letting Technology Define your Relationship
47. Obsessing over them
The book is broken into emotional, spiritual, social, physical and mental acts of Cupidity which is a fun word for stupidity in love.
February 7, 2012
Fifty stupid things you do for those people you love and how you'd avoid it.
I frequently do those some stupid things and this book serves as a learning medium for a girl like me. It's an awakening call for people who wouldn't want to risk their dream-like relationship for the sake of selfish acts and emotions. Majority of the ideas are taken from Biblical scriptures which make it a lot more interesting and a vital source of information.
I frequently do those some stupid things and this book serves as a learning medium for a girl like me. It's an awakening call for people who wouldn't want to risk their dream-like relationship for the sake of selfish acts and emotions. Majority of the ideas are taken from Biblical scriptures which make it a lot more interesting and a vital source of information.
February 16, 2015
It's a good book to read especially for those who love with their hearts on their head and not their head on their hearts...:). Yeah, I've learned many things from the authors of the book. They themselves have been victims of cupidity (stupid love) themselves. But we need not continue in the paths of cupidity but we have to learn true love and what better way to learn it from the TRUE LOVE Himself, our Father God.
April 23, 2016
Amazing marriage advice
The title can be misleading, but I recommend this book for everyone. Even if you're already married, it explain what the bible says a marriage should be. I read it straight through!
The title can be misleading, but I recommend this book for everyone. Even if you're already married, it explain what the bible says a marriage should be. I read it straight through!
August 25, 2013
Really disliked this book. I felt very judged and even questioned my own faith while reading this. Some is sound advice but other parts I felt like it was blaming multiple marital problems on women.
August 29, 2012
I loved this book. Flipping through it in the store it looked quirky but it had some great advice on life in general & dealing with all types of relationships not just romantic relationships.
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June 19, 2013mind changing
September 27, 2013
If you want to know if you are ready or not. This is the book for you. Just don't justify red flags because red flags are red flags and you don't want to disobey the Truth.
October 10, 2014
Great for Christians wanting to date. It will help.
August 20, 2013
Good read to realize its time to move on and how to be better person.
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