Disingenuous at best, dangerous precedent at worst.
When I invest in a Christian book, I expect theologically sound insights from the author, especially when they claim pastoral authority. Unfortunately, Tricia Fenimore falls short of this standard in Pray for Them. Despite presenting herself as a pastor, we learn 80% into the book that she has only taken one course at NY Theological Seminary—The Art of Biblical Storytelling. While storytelling is valuable, it doesn’t equip someone to shepherd others in sound doctrine.
The subtitle of the book suggests a narrative of overcoming racism, which is commendable. Fenimore shares her journey of recognizing her biases and working toward change, a process many Christians can benefit from. However, her conclusion raises significant concerns. At the end of the book, she reveals that she has gone no contact with her parents because they remain racist. While distancing oneself from toxic or harmful relationships may sometimes be necessary, her decision seems to hinge on a self-righteous standard rather than a Christlike approach to reconciliation.
Fenimore claims to have been saved from her racism, yet this decision to cut ties with her parents reflects a works-based theology, the polar opposite of the gospel message. Christ calls us to love our enemies, forgive seventy times seven, and humbly recognize our own need for grace. Cutting off her parents for their sin feels less like a display of Christ’s transformative love and more like moral posturing.
As Christians, we are called to confront sin with truth and love, trusting God to change hearts. Fenimore’s story leaves readers with a troubling implication: that salvation is evidenced by morality rather than by reliance on God’s grace. This is a dangerous and misleading message, especially for readers seeking spiritual growth.
While Fenimore’s acknowledgment of racism is admirable, her theological framework is problematic and undermines the redemptive power of the gospel. Pray for Them offers a personal story but lacks the theological depth and humility needed for true spiritual guidance.