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Why Can't We Just Get Along?: 6 Effective Skills for Dealing with Difficult People
Every woman suffers from relationships that seem broken and past the point of salvaging. Why Can't We Just Get Along? provides a warm, friendly, and candid resource for women to look honestly at relationship issues and take control of their own lives...regardless of the choices others make. Author and speaker Shelley Hendrix unpacks six biblical principles that will enable readers to "be at peace with everyone." With practical, easy-to-understand tools, Shelley helps women Complete with discussion questions, real-life illustrations, teaching from Scripture, and expert advice from psychologists and therapists, Why Can't We All Just Get Along? is an invaluable resource for women everywhere, showing them how to find peace in places they never thought they could.
224 pages, Paperback
First published March 1, 2013
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Shelley Hendrix
4 books24 followersPeople resonate with authentic, passionate people. This is why people resonate with Shelley. She shares her story of God's grace in a fun, compelling way, and in doing so allows others to see a picture of that very same grace reflected in their own story. I am so excited to see how Jesus is leveraging her life to encourage others and move the Kingdom forward.
Jeff Henderson
Campus Pastor, Gwinnett Church, A Campus of North Point Community Church led by Senior Pastor, Andy Stanley
Shelley Hendrix is passionate about helping others live with purpose and without pressure!
She is a wife, mother, teacher, speaker, author, and television talk show host who lived most of her life feeling like the "invisible woman." Always striving to measure up to others' standards and never sensing she was ever going to reach that bar eventually brought her to a powerful and painful crossroads in her own journey. Coming to the realization that she was indeed designed to live a life with great purpose, but without the pressure that so many of us feel, radically changed the course and destiny of her life. Because of this, She is passionate about helping others live with purpose and without pressure!
Shelley boldly and clearly articulates the message of God's grace and new identity in a way that connects the dots for so many followers of Christ while also communicating in a way that reaches the ears and hearts of those who have yet to embrace a relationship with Jesus Christ.
"It deeply blesses and greatly impresses me when I meet young Christian women who have a passion for God’s Word and the ability to articulate that passion to communicate God’s message to the lost, the hurting and the next generation. Shelley Hendrix is one of those young, passionate, articulate women who, out of the overflow of her relationship with the Lord Jesus, is pursuing God’s call on her life to teach, lead and encourage other women. Whether reading Shelley’s books or hearing her as she teaches and mentors women across the street or across the country, she is on a mission, fulfilling the Great Commission and making a difference." Babbie Mason
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Prior to launching Church 4 Chicks in the fall of 2008, Shelley had been teaching various studies and classes at her home church since 1997, and began traveling and speaking in 2005.
She is a host of Atlanta Live!-A Christian Talk Show on Atlanta’s WATC TV 57., and has been a featured guest on radio programs around the nation including Fox News Live. Shelley speaks at various events nationally and internationally, and was also a contributing writer to “Secrets of Confidence”- a devotional book for women published by Barbour Publishing. Shelley’s first published book is entitled “On Purpose For A Purpose," which can be used for individual or group study and is based from the Book of Esther. Also available is her 31-day devotional guide called "Wisdom: A Girl's Best Friend," based on the Proverbs. Her current project in the works is "Why Can't We Just Get Along?!" which will be published by Harvest House Publishers (to be released March 1, 2013). Additionally, Shelley is also a freelance writer and has been published with Randall House Publishing and various other publications and blogs.
Shelley received her certificate of counseling at First Baptist Woodstock, GA in 2005, trained under the leadership of the Director of Counseling, Rev. James Eubanks. She has also received certificates from CLASS Speakers Training Seminar as well as the SCORRE Conference (FKA "Dynamic Communicator's Workshop"), led by Ken Davis and Michael Hyatt.
Shelley will readily tell you that one of the greatest honors of her life is being married to her best friend, Stephen Hendrix, CADC, Director of Clinical Programs for the HopeQuest Ministries Group, Inc.; A counseling ministry to men and women struggling with life dominating issues such as drug addiction, alcohol addiction, and sexual brokenness. They have tw
Jeff Henderson
Campus Pastor, Gwinnett Church, A Campus of North Point Community Church led by Senior Pastor, Andy Stanley
Shelley Hendrix is passionate about helping others live with purpose and without pressure!
She is a wife, mother, teacher, speaker, author, and television talk show host who lived most of her life feeling like the "invisible woman." Always striving to measure up to others' standards and never sensing she was ever going to reach that bar eventually brought her to a powerful and painful crossroads in her own journey. Coming to the realization that she was indeed designed to live a life with great purpose, but without the pressure that so many of us feel, radically changed the course and destiny of her life. Because of this, She is passionate about helping others live with purpose and without pressure!
Shelley boldly and clearly articulates the message of God's grace and new identity in a way that connects the dots for so many followers of Christ while also communicating in a way that reaches the ears and hearts of those who have yet to embrace a relationship with Jesus Christ.
"It deeply blesses and greatly impresses me when I meet young Christian women who have a passion for God’s Word and the ability to articulate that passion to communicate God’s message to the lost, the hurting and the next generation. Shelley Hendrix is one of those young, passionate, articulate women who, out of the overflow of her relationship with the Lord Jesus, is pursuing God’s call on her life to teach, lead and encourage other women. Whether reading Shelley’s books or hearing her as she teaches and mentors women across the street or across the country, she is on a mission, fulfilling the Great Commission and making a difference." Babbie Mason
More info:
Prior to launching Church 4 Chicks in the fall of 2008, Shelley had been teaching various studies and classes at her home church since 1997, and began traveling and speaking in 2005.
She is a host of Atlanta Live!-A Christian Talk Show on Atlanta’s WATC TV 57., and has been a featured guest on radio programs around the nation including Fox News Live. Shelley speaks at various events nationally and internationally, and was also a contributing writer to “Secrets of Confidence”- a devotional book for women published by Barbour Publishing. Shelley’s first published book is entitled “On Purpose For A Purpose," which can be used for individual or group study and is based from the Book of Esther. Also available is her 31-day devotional guide called "Wisdom: A Girl's Best Friend," based on the Proverbs. Her current project in the works is "Why Can't We Just Get Along?!" which will be published by Harvest House Publishers (to be released March 1, 2013). Additionally, Shelley is also a freelance writer and has been published with Randall House Publishing and various other publications and blogs.
Shelley received her certificate of counseling at First Baptist Woodstock, GA in 2005, trained under the leadership of the Director of Counseling, Rev. James Eubanks. She has also received certificates from CLASS Speakers Training Seminar as well as the SCORRE Conference (FKA "Dynamic Communicator's Workshop"), led by Ken Davis and Michael Hyatt.
Shelley will readily tell you that one of the greatest honors of her life is being married to her best friend, Stephen Hendrix, CADC, Director of Clinical Programs for the HopeQuest Ministries Group, Inc.; A counseling ministry to men and women struggling with life dominating issues such as drug addiction, alcohol addiction, and sexual brokenness. They have tw
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April 15, 2013
This book is full of great wisdom and truth! The personal stories are so easy to relate to and I love how Shelley makes it apparent that adapting these truths into your life is a process and not simply a wave of the magic wand. She is clear about the fact that God is always working in your life and that there is grace when you mess up. This gives me so much hope as I haven't "ARRIVED" quite yet. :)
March 26, 2013
This topic (dealing with difficult people) is something I've been looking for a good book on for quite some time. I've even gone to the Christian bookstore just to look for a book on how to deal with difficult people. Naturally, I requested it when I saw it available on NetGalley. You can tell from the cover that it's a book intended for women and focuses largely on women's relationships with other women, typically in social and familial settings, although it could also be applied to work settings.
Self-help type books tend to really defy my usual rating system, so I'm just going to write one review for both writing and entertainment value this time.
I think the writing will definitely have an appeal to a certain type of reader. Unfortunately, I don't think I'm the reader this book needed. And I hate to judge a book by its cover, but I feel like in this case I probably should have for both my sake and the author's. It's not a very...deep...book. I hate to say it that way, but what I mean is, there was no new information or insight. I wasn't really challenged and I felt like it was all information I have from various sermons, women's conferences, and Bible studies.
The focus of the book is also largely on dealing with social and familial relationships. I was hoping for less of a social, mean girls, woman to woman friendship vibe and more of a practical tips for dealing with both men and women in difficult situations across the board, as opposed to the social-familial atmosphere. My most difficult relationships are not with other women and are not confined to social or home-based settings. It's largely in my work life and, honestly, the most difficult people I work with are men.
Again, I don't think this is necessarily an indication of poor writing or shallow thinking on the author's part. I think the fact that the focus was so centered on women's relationships with other women in the home and in social situations kept it from addressing what I was hoping for. And as far as the deepness goes, I think the level of the book will appeal to a lot of people, especially those who haven't heard the message before.
As far as good qualities go, the book is easy to read, has a conversational tone that I found appealing, and contains lots of anecdotes and stories that keep the book moving. It would probably make for a great young women's Bible study, as it's full of discussion questions that I think would keep a conversation lively and interesting.
Also, if any of you have any suggestions for books on dealing with difficult people in the workplace with less of a focus on woman to woman issues and more of a focus on professional relationships, I am totally in the market and would love to hear them!
Self-help type books tend to really defy my usual rating system, so I'm just going to write one review for both writing and entertainment value this time.
I think the writing will definitely have an appeal to a certain type of reader. Unfortunately, I don't think I'm the reader this book needed. And I hate to judge a book by its cover, but I feel like in this case I probably should have for both my sake and the author's. It's not a very...deep...book. I hate to say it that way, but what I mean is, there was no new information or insight. I wasn't really challenged and I felt like it was all information I have from various sermons, women's conferences, and Bible studies.
The focus of the book is also largely on dealing with social and familial relationships. I was hoping for less of a social, mean girls, woman to woman friendship vibe and more of a practical tips for dealing with both men and women in difficult situations across the board, as opposed to the social-familial atmosphere. My most difficult relationships are not with other women and are not confined to social or home-based settings. It's largely in my work life and, honestly, the most difficult people I work with are men.
Again, I don't think this is necessarily an indication of poor writing or shallow thinking on the author's part. I think the fact that the focus was so centered on women's relationships with other women in the home and in social situations kept it from addressing what I was hoping for. And as far as the deepness goes, I think the level of the book will appeal to a lot of people, especially those who haven't heard the message before.
As far as good qualities go, the book is easy to read, has a conversational tone that I found appealing, and contains lots of anecdotes and stories that keep the book moving. It would probably make for a great young women's Bible study, as it's full of discussion questions that I think would keep a conversation lively and interesting.
Also, if any of you have any suggestions for books on dealing with difficult people in the workplace with less of a focus on woman to woman issues and more of a focus on professional relationships, I am totally in the market and would love to hear them!
April 8, 2013
Awesome read. Cuts through the muck with useful advice. A must read for any woman. Thank you Shelley!!
June 23, 2025
religious fundamentalist. this is not the book for me. and neither is for you, unless you are one of them. in the end, the book is less about ”getting along” and more for validating their beliefs, and their god. so even if this book helps you, that was never the point, it was more of a marketing point.
June 19, 2018
Very helpful!
June 2, 2015
I was really struck by the fact that the book concentrates on getting the reader emotionally and spiritually healthy instead of just giving the tools to deal with difficult situations. The premise being that more secure we are with ourselves and God's love for us, the less likely we will be to take offense as well as to cause offenses to others. As the author states in chapter 2 "Hurt people hurt people" and so this is a first step toward ending the cycle of causing others pain.
Ms Hendrix's conversational writing style makes Why Can't We Just Get Along? an easy read that is simple to absorb and internalize. Guiding the reader through these concepts based upon scripture and prayer is also very appealing and necessary. The format of the book is also set up with questions for study and self-reflection that would be great for an individual or a group. Overall, I highly recommend Why Can't We Just Get Along? for anyone seeking to grow in their Christian walk as a secure and considerate person loved by God, just as He calls us to be.
Note: This book was provided to me free of charge with no expectation of a positive review. The opinions stated above are my own.
Ms Hendrix's conversational writing style makes Why Can't We Just Get Along? an easy read that is simple to absorb and internalize. Guiding the reader through these concepts based upon scripture and prayer is also very appealing and necessary. The format of the book is also set up with questions for study and self-reflection that would be great for an individual or a group. Overall, I highly recommend Why Can't We Just Get Along? for anyone seeking to grow in their Christian walk as a secure and considerate person loved by God, just as He calls us to be.
Note: This book was provided to me free of charge with no expectation of a positive review. The opinions stated above are my own.
June 24, 2015
I'll be honest. I picked this up to help me deal with a difficult family member. The different types of people - critic, cynic, etc - did help me pinpoint some behaviors from others I see. That didn't really help with the issue I was having though. I will recommend it to my mother, though. Some of the author's stories remind me of issues she's had with fellow church members.
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