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His Needs, Her Needs Participant's Guide: Making Romantic Love Last – A 6-Week Marriage Workbook and Study Guide for Couples
God wants you to have a marriage full of love and passion
For years, Dr. Harley's bestselling book His Needs, Her Needs has been transforming marriages all over the world. Now you and your spouse can experience its life-changing message with this interactive six-week study.
Designed to follow the His Needs, Her Needs DVD, this participant's guide takes you through the important concepts of His Needs, Her Needs in six sessions. Take these steps to apply Dr. Harley's concepts and put them into
● Learn - Watch the video to let Dr. Harley introduce you to the concept
● Engage - Discuss the concept with your small group
● Reflect - Think about the concept individually
● Relate - Work together to apply the concept in your marriage
Regardless of how long you've been married or the current condition of your marriage, this guide will help you make your love for each other last a lifetime. You'll remember why you fell in love in the first place, renew your commitment to your marriage, and rediscover your passion.
For years, Dr. Harley's bestselling book His Needs, Her Needs has been transforming marriages all over the world. Now you and your spouse can experience its life-changing message with this interactive six-week study.
Designed to follow the His Needs, Her Needs DVD, this participant's guide takes you through the important concepts of His Needs, Her Needs in six sessions. Take these steps to apply Dr. Harley's concepts and put them into
● Learn - Watch the video to let Dr. Harley introduce you to the concept
● Engage - Discuss the concept with your small group
● Reflect - Think about the concept individually
● Relate - Work together to apply the concept in your marriage
Regardless of how long you've been married or the current condition of your marriage, this guide will help you make your love for each other last a lifetime. You'll remember why you fell in love in the first place, renew your commitment to your marriage, and rediscover your passion.
64 pages, Paperback
Published January 15, 2013
About the author
Willard F. Harley Jr.
30 books116 followersWillard F. Harley, Jr., Ph.D. is best known as author of the internationally best selling book, His Needs, Her Needs: Building An Affair-proof Marriage. Over three million copies have been purchased, and it is available in twenty-two foreign translations.
Dr. Harley earned a Ph.D. degree in psychology from the University of California at Santa Barbara in 1967 and has been a Licensed Psychologist in Minnesota since 1975. For the first ten years after earning his degree, he taught psychology at both the graduate and undergraduate levels. During those years, he was also a frustrated part-time marriage counselor with little success in helping couples.
In 1973 he discovered that he was not alone in his failure to save marriages -- almost everyone in the marital therapy profession were also failing. So he spent the next two years designing an entirely new approach (see How Dr. Harley Learned to Save Marriages). When his success rate skyrocketed in 1977, he resigned from his teaching position to counsel full-time. Over the next ten years his solo practice developed into the largest network of mental health clinics in Minnesota (thirty-two locations) with over one hundred psychiatrists, psychologists, social workers and chemical dependency counselors working with him to provide a full range of mental health services. He became the exclusive provider of mental health and chemical dependency services in ten counties, and had offices in other counties as well.
One of his responsibilities was to write support materials for the clinical program he directed. He created over one hundred questionnaires and wrote numerous articles that were given to clients as part of their therapy. Among the materials he wrote was His Needs, Her Needs, which was first published in 1986. Although it was written to be a support text for his marriage counseling program, within three years it had become a national best-seller and a basic reference for marriage counselors throughout the nation.
By 1988 he found himself spending almost all of his time administering his clinics, and very little time doing what he enjoyed most -- improving his marital therapy program. So he began turning his clinics over to the counselors who worked with him, and the ownership of his last clinic was transferred in 1993. Since then, he has written 16 more books and hundreds of articles.
Dr. Harley and his wife, Joyce, are actively involved in the Marriage Builders® Online Program, which introduces couples to his highly successful plan for marital recovery. An online seminar offered by Dr. Harley kicks off a one-year home study program that includes personal accountability. He supervises the progress of those who enroll, and answers their questions on a special Marriage Builders Weekend section of the Forum.
Dr. and Mrs. Harley have been married for 47 years and live in White Bear Lake, Minnesota. They have two adult children, who are now working with them as marriage coaches, and four grandchildren.
Dr. Harley earned a Ph.D. degree in psychology from the University of California at Santa Barbara in 1967 and has been a Licensed Psychologist in Minnesota since 1975. For the first ten years after earning his degree, he taught psychology at both the graduate and undergraduate levels. During those years, he was also a frustrated part-time marriage counselor with little success in helping couples.
In 1973 he discovered that he was not alone in his failure to save marriages -- almost everyone in the marital therapy profession were also failing. So he spent the next two years designing an entirely new approach (see How Dr. Harley Learned to Save Marriages). When his success rate skyrocketed in 1977, he resigned from his teaching position to counsel full-time. Over the next ten years his solo practice developed into the largest network of mental health clinics in Minnesota (thirty-two locations) with over one hundred psychiatrists, psychologists, social workers and chemical dependency counselors working with him to provide a full range of mental health services. He became the exclusive provider of mental health and chemical dependency services in ten counties, and had offices in other counties as well.
One of his responsibilities was to write support materials for the clinical program he directed. He created over one hundred questionnaires and wrote numerous articles that were given to clients as part of their therapy. Among the materials he wrote was His Needs, Her Needs, which was first published in 1986. Although it was written to be a support text for his marriage counseling program, within three years it had become a national best-seller and a basic reference for marriage counselors throughout the nation.
By 1988 he found himself spending almost all of his time administering his clinics, and very little time doing what he enjoyed most -- improving his marital therapy program. So he began turning his clinics over to the counselors who worked with him, and the ownership of his last clinic was transferred in 1993. Since then, he has written 16 more books and hundreds of articles.
Dr. Harley and his wife, Joyce, are actively involved in the Marriage Builders® Online Program, which introduces couples to his highly successful plan for marital recovery. An online seminar offered by Dr. Harley kicks off a one-year home study program that includes personal accountability. He supervises the progress of those who enroll, and answers their questions on a special Marriage Builders Weekend section of the Forum.
Dr. and Mrs. Harley have been married for 47 years and live in White Bear Lake, Minnesota. They have two adult children, who are now working with them as marriage coaches, and four grandchildren.
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February 1, 2020
When I started this book, I thought it was great. Such a simple yet helpful premise - care for your spouse in the way they need to be cared for, and your marriage will benefit. However, as I got deeper into the book I found it very frustrating in its “advice”.
This book is **highly** gender stereotypical! Men are all sex-obsessed and women are all emotionally fragile. He does say a couple of time “everyone is different, and each relationship is different”, but the overall theme is that “men are 99% like xxx and women are 99% like xxx”. Men want to hunt, drive fast cars, and watch violent movies. Women want to knit, drink tea, and stroll on the beach. So if you and your partner are anything other than a highly conservative couple that adhere to 1950s gender roles then this book probably won’t feel very relatable or helpful. There is also an overtone of “if you fail to tick all your spouse’s ‘need’ boxes and they have an affair, can you blame them? You should have been a better husband / wife.” Umm, what?!
There are genuinely some great points in this book: communicate with your spouse, listen to them, show interest in their passions, spend quality time together, agree on how to discipline your children together, etc, etc. All great points!
HOWEVER, points such as...
- “You should diet / put on more make up / only wear clothes your husband like because needs to be attracted to you” (What about her feelings and preferences??)
- “Women are more interested in their home and children than men are” (What about women that prefer to work or don’t want children? What about men who prefer to be at stay-at-home dads?)
- “You should only be responsible for the household chores that affect you the most” and “don’t worry about any chores that won’t get you points with your spouse” (What about being an adult and just having to get things done sometimes?!
... needless to say some of these points made me cringe! There’s such a lack of consideration and compromise between partners in some of the advice given.
I’m also still confused as to whether this is meant to be a Christian book or not, because there’s no mention of a Scripture or biblical reasoning behind his argument. Though he does talk about “going to church together”...
I still don’t know if I’d recommend this book. All I can says is read it with discernment - take out the gems and leave the rest.
This book is **highly** gender stereotypical! Men are all sex-obsessed and women are all emotionally fragile. He does say a couple of time “everyone is different, and each relationship is different”, but the overall theme is that “men are 99% like xxx and women are 99% like xxx”. Men want to hunt, drive fast cars, and watch violent movies. Women want to knit, drink tea, and stroll on the beach. So if you and your partner are anything other than a highly conservative couple that adhere to 1950s gender roles then this book probably won’t feel very relatable or helpful. There is also an overtone of “if you fail to tick all your spouse’s ‘need’ boxes and they have an affair, can you blame them? You should have been a better husband / wife.” Umm, what?!
There are genuinely some great points in this book: communicate with your spouse, listen to them, show interest in their passions, spend quality time together, agree on how to discipline your children together, etc, etc. All great points!
HOWEVER, points such as...
- “You should diet / put on more make up / only wear clothes your husband like because needs to be attracted to you” (What about her feelings and preferences??)
- “Women are more interested in their home and children than men are” (What about women that prefer to work or don’t want children? What about men who prefer to be at stay-at-home dads?)
- “You should only be responsible for the household chores that affect you the most” and “don’t worry about any chores that won’t get you points with your spouse” (What about being an adult and just having to get things done sometimes?!
... needless to say some of these points made me cringe! There’s such a lack of consideration and compromise between partners in some of the advice given.
I’m also still confused as to whether this is meant to be a Christian book or not, because there’s no mention of a Scripture or biblical reasoning behind his argument. Though he does talk about “going to church together”...
I still don’t know if I’d recommend this book. All I can says is read it with discernment - take out the gems and leave the rest.
February 4, 2017
Read as a requirement for marriage counseling - I thought that the author had a lot of thoughtful and practical ideas, advice, and exercises as someone who spent 20+ years as a marriage counselor. However, the book definitely needs to be updated for the 21st century. Though he prefaces in the beginning that the prevalent emotional needs are unique to each individual, the rest of the chapters describe each emotional need with extreme gender stereotyping & heteronormativity (though I guess this is obvious from the title). For example, the author claims men and women have opposite needs: the top five emotional needs for men (according to the author) are sexual fulfillment, physical attractiveness, recreational companionship, domestic peace and quiet, and admiration, while women supposedly value financial support, caring for children, intimate conversation, honesty and openness, and affection. I think that otherwise this book has valuable content, and the author could have gotten his point relating to emotional needs across effectively without including gender or sexual preference in the equation, simply because I think they have little effect on which needs are valued by each partner.
August 9, 2018
Plays off sterio typical male and freezes out the not typical couple. If you are a woman who doesn't enjoy sex and your husband wants to have sex every minute of the day and the moment you say no he will go have an affair because he can't help it- this books for you. Does not pull Biblical principles.
June 30, 2019
I just re-read the book after a few years. I subtracted a star because I don’t like the title. I don’t like the stereotyping of ‘needs’ as his or hers. Too many sweeping generalizations. I also think the ‘affair’ word in the title scares some off.
This workbook is helpful to work along with the book.
Having said that:
Great insights for any couple. There are great discussion questions at the end of each chapter. Questions for her, for him, and for the couple together.
Hours suggested together per week will shock most.
Rules for hobbies will shock as well. A bit extreme, in my opinion, but the concepts are solid. Spend more time together doing things that both enjoy.
Dr Harley is serious about couples putting their marriage first. Hardcore assignments given. So, if a couple could inch towards his suggestions..I’d say that’s improvement.
Humility required. Self examination required.
It applies to my marriage, I recommend it to the couples I see in marriage counseling.
This workbook is helpful to work along with the book.
Having said that:
Great insights for any couple. There are great discussion questions at the end of each chapter. Questions for her, for him, and for the couple together.
Hours suggested together per week will shock most.
Rules for hobbies will shock as well. A bit extreme, in my opinion, but the concepts are solid. Spend more time together doing things that both enjoy.
Dr Harley is serious about couples putting their marriage first. Hardcore assignments given. So, if a couple could inch towards his suggestions..I’d say that’s improvement.
Humility required. Self examination required.
It applies to my marriage, I recommend it to the couples I see in marriage counseling.
April 15, 2013
Some great advice and insight for Christian couples, but there's also some outdated advice that's unnecessarily and stereotypically gendered. It's important to read this critically and to avoid using it to make sweeping generalizations.
March 22, 2018
A friend recommended this book to me, though I'm not into this kind of genre, I decided to give it a go and it was worthwhile. An eye-opening book with valuable insights. A true gem for managing relationship and marriage.
January 23, 2020
This book was truly fascinating! I wish I had read this book long before I started dating.
March 5, 2019
This book is very helpful for the married couple. I love the way the author gave emphasis on incompatible and irresistible. Most of the time the reason for the break-up is an "incompatibility " where in fact we become lax to show " irresistible" traits. As the author's guides on " Irresistible Man and Woman":
The Irresistible Man
A husband can make himself irresistible to his wife by learning to meet her five most important emotional needs.
1. Affection. Her husband tells her that he cares for her with words, cards,flowers, gifts, and common courtesies. He hugs and kisses her many times each day, creating an environment of affection that clearly and repeatedly expresses his care for her.
2. Conversation. He sets aside time every day to talk to her. They may talk about events in their lives, their children, their feelings, or their plans. But whatever the topic, she enjoys the conversation because it is never demanding, judgmental, or angry but always informative and constructive. She talks to him as much as she would like, and he responds with interest. He is never
too busy “to just talk.”
3. Honesty and openness. He tells her everything about himself, leaving nothing out that might later surprise her. He describes his positive and negative feelings, events of his past, his daily schedule, and his plans for the future. He never leaves her with a false impression and is truthful about his thoughts, feelings, intentions, and behavior.
4. Financial support. He assumes the responsibility to house, feed, and clothe the family. If his income is insufficient to provide essential support, he resolves the problem by upgrading his skills to increase his salary. He does not work long hours, keeping himself from his wife and family, but is able to provide necessary support by working a forty- to fifty-hour week. While he encourages his wife to pursue a career if it is her desire, he does not depend on her salary for family living expenses.
5. Family commitment. He commits sufficient time and energy to the moral and educational development of the children. He reads to them, engages in sports with them, and takes them on frequent outings. He reads books and attends lectures with his wife on the subject of child
development so they will do a good job training the children. They discuss training methods and objectives until they agree. He does not proceed with any plan of training discipline without her approval and recognizes that his care of the children is critically important to her.
When a woman finds a man who exhibits all five qualities, she will find him irresistible.
The Irresistible Woman
A wife makes herself irresistible to her husband by learning to meet his five most important emotional needs.
1. Sexual fulfillment. His wife meets this need by becoming a terrific sexual partner. She studies her own sexual response to recognize and understand what brings out the best in her; then she shares this information with him, and together they learn to have a sexual relationship that both find repeatedly satisfying and enjoyable.
2. Recreational companionship. She develops an interest in the recreational activities he likes most and tries to become proficient at
them. If she finds she cannot enjoy them, she encourages him to consider other activities that they can do together. She becomes his favorite recreational companion, and he associates her with his most enjoyable moments of relaxation.
3. Physical attractiveness. She keeps herself physically fit with diet and exercise and she wears her hair, makeup, and clothes in a way that he finds attractive and tasteful. He is attracted to her in private and proud of her in public.
4. Domestic support. She creates a home that offers him a refuge from the stresses of life. She manages the household responsibilities in a way that encourages him to spend time at home enjoying his family.
5. Admiration. She understands and appreciates him more than anyone else. She reminds him of his value and achievements and helps him maintain self-confidence. She avoids criticizing him. She is proud of him, not out of duty, but from a profound respect for the man, she has come to know better than anyone else.
When a man finds a woman who exhibits all five qualities, he will find her irresistible.
The Irresistible Man
A husband can make himself irresistible to his wife by learning to meet her five most important emotional needs.
1. Affection. Her husband tells her that he cares for her with words, cards,flowers, gifts, and common courtesies. He hugs and kisses her many times each day, creating an environment of affection that clearly and repeatedly expresses his care for her.
2. Conversation. He sets aside time every day to talk to her. They may talk about events in their lives, their children, their feelings, or their plans. But whatever the topic, she enjoys the conversation because it is never demanding, judgmental, or angry but always informative and constructive. She talks to him as much as she would like, and he responds with interest. He is never
too busy “to just talk.”
3. Honesty and openness. He tells her everything about himself, leaving nothing out that might later surprise her. He describes his positive and negative feelings, events of his past, his daily schedule, and his plans for the future. He never leaves her with a false impression and is truthful about his thoughts, feelings, intentions, and behavior.
4. Financial support. He assumes the responsibility to house, feed, and clothe the family. If his income is insufficient to provide essential support, he resolves the problem by upgrading his skills to increase his salary. He does not work long hours, keeping himself from his wife and family, but is able to provide necessary support by working a forty- to fifty-hour week. While he encourages his wife to pursue a career if it is her desire, he does not depend on her salary for family living expenses.
5. Family commitment. He commits sufficient time and energy to the moral and educational development of the children. He reads to them, engages in sports with them, and takes them on frequent outings. He reads books and attends lectures with his wife on the subject of child
development so they will do a good job training the children. They discuss training methods and objectives until they agree. He does not proceed with any plan of training discipline without her approval and recognizes that his care of the children is critically important to her.
When a woman finds a man who exhibits all five qualities, she will find him irresistible.
The Irresistible Woman
A wife makes herself irresistible to her husband by learning to meet his five most important emotional needs.
1. Sexual fulfillment. His wife meets this need by becoming a terrific sexual partner. She studies her own sexual response to recognize and understand what brings out the best in her; then she shares this information with him, and together they learn to have a sexual relationship that both find repeatedly satisfying and enjoyable.
2. Recreational companionship. She develops an interest in the recreational activities he likes most and tries to become proficient at
them. If she finds she cannot enjoy them, she encourages him to consider other activities that they can do together. She becomes his favorite recreational companion, and he associates her with his most enjoyable moments of relaxation.
3. Physical attractiveness. She keeps herself physically fit with diet and exercise and she wears her hair, makeup, and clothes in a way that he finds attractive and tasteful. He is attracted to her in private and proud of her in public.
4. Domestic support. She creates a home that offers him a refuge from the stresses of life. She manages the household responsibilities in a way that encourages him to spend time at home enjoying his family.
5. Admiration. She understands and appreciates him more than anyone else. She reminds him of his value and achievements and helps him maintain self-confidence. She avoids criticizing him. She is proud of him, not out of duty, but from a profound respect for the man, she has come to know better than anyone else.
When a man finds a woman who exhibits all five qualities, he will find her irresistible.
December 16, 2013
I loved this book. It's great for the newly married and those looking to improve their marital lives. Yes, some of Dr. Harley's advice is what one would consider "common sense", but you'd be surprised at how many of us don't realize common sense. Dr. Harley, a marriage counselor for many years, says that everyone has emotional needs. We all have an internal ranking of which needs are most important to us individually. The basic emotional needs are (in no particular order):
1. Affection
2. Sexual Fulfilment
3. Conversation
4. Recreational Companionship
5. Honesty and Openness
6. An Attractive Spouse
7. Financial Support
8. Domestic Support (helping with household responsibilities)
9. Family Commitment
10. Admiration
Having a certain emotional need as a priority doesn't make the person bad, a pig, or shallow. That just happens to be what you like and what's important to you. It's very freeing in a way because so many others will criticize a spouse if they want an attractive spouse or admiration as a top need.
The idea is for you to sit down with your partner and figure out which needs are important to that person and which needs are important to you. Once you figure the needs, you go about fulfilling those needs. Obviously, this works only if both people are equally committed to the relationship. Dr. Harley has a questionnaire at the back of the book that will help the reader to figure out which needs are important to him/her.
This book isn't a religious book, but Dr. Harley is a Christian counselor so some of his advice comes from that perspective. I didn't agree with everything Dr. Harley said, but much of what he said made a lot of sense. In theory his ideas are simple however, if more of us applied these simple theories into practice, there would be many fulfilling, intimate marriages. If more couples focused on their spouses, there would be fewer affairs and divorces
1. Affection
2. Sexual Fulfilment
3. Conversation
4. Recreational Companionship
5. Honesty and Openness
6. An Attractive Spouse
7. Financial Support
8. Domestic Support (helping with household responsibilities)
9. Family Commitment
10. Admiration
Having a certain emotional need as a priority doesn't make the person bad, a pig, or shallow. That just happens to be what you like and what's important to you. It's very freeing in a way because so many others will criticize a spouse if they want an attractive spouse or admiration as a top need.
The idea is for you to sit down with your partner and figure out which needs are important to that person and which needs are important to you. Once you figure the needs, you go about fulfilling those needs. Obviously, this works only if both people are equally committed to the relationship. Dr. Harley has a questionnaire at the back of the book that will help the reader to figure out which needs are important to him/her.
This book isn't a religious book, but Dr. Harley is a Christian counselor so some of his advice comes from that perspective. I didn't agree with everything Dr. Harley said, but much of what he said made a lot of sense. In theory his ideas are simple however, if more of us applied these simple theories into practice, there would be many fulfilling, intimate marriages. If more couples focused on their spouses, there would be fewer affairs and divorces
February 15, 2016
A friend recommended Harley's classic text on building a safe and loving marriage. I believe all marriages take work, part of which includes reading books like this one (IMHO). I liked the concept of the love bank, with deposits and withdrawals defining the current level of love and affection toward your partner. I've seen this concept in other books and it resonates with me. There are useful concepts in the book and I agree with many, but the book is also very dated. I read the first seven chapters and found myself agreeing with most of his advice, or at least appreciating his point of view; the same thing for chapter thirteen to the end. But I skimmed many of the intervening chapters simply because it felt like advice from 1986 or earlier. For example, there is a section on why women need to keep themselves attractive for their man, including wearing a hairstyle that is agreeable. Seriously? A new hairstyle is not going to help my wife and I find a deeper connection. The topics on finances, domestic support, and family commitments seemed equally dated. Read the book, take what you need from it, but know there are better resources out there.
December 13, 2023
I found this book easy-read, practicle and built on experince. I think this book is essential to every married couple who wants to get married and those who want to make their marriage happy ever after. In his book Dr. Harley says that this happiness needs work. And he provides the details for this.
Through his counselling carreer he discovered that males and females have similar needs. They differ in their priorties. Simply put the woman's top 5 priorities are different than the man's top five priorities. Dr. Harley, explains and provides tools how to discover those needs and how to meet them in your partner.
I think it helps couples in two ways. It sets the expectaions for every couple who wants to get married. And married couples to know each other better.
All-in-all, I think the book delivers what it says on the title
Through his counselling carreer he discovered that males and females have similar needs. They differ in their priorties. Simply put the woman's top 5 priorities are different than the man's top five priorities. Dr. Harley, explains and provides tools how to discover those needs and how to meet them in your partner.
I think it helps couples in two ways. It sets the expectaions for every couple who wants to get married. And married couples to know each other better.
All-in-all, I think the book delivers what it says on the title
May 16, 2025
F*** it. I can't stand this book anymore. Read about a half of it but in about the second or third chapter the author has become losing my trust in him as any sort of professional. The only reason this deserves 2 stars is the whole idea of Love Units, Love Bank Account and how they work. This, imo, is pure genius and I love it. I loved it so much that I decided to read this. But oh boy what a load of crap follows. Some ideas are outright sexist, some are completely ridiculous (like, "i'll teach you how to live on $1000 a month, or his opinion that a husband and wife must become "one", i mean... khm.. boundaries anyone??)
The chapter about physical attractiveness for women that contained some exercise, diet, clothing and makeup advice, lol excuse me what.
Anyway. Some ideas like love units/accounta (really great), general framework of basic needs - good. The implementation - crap.
The chapter about physical attractiveness for women that contained some exercise, diet, clothing and makeup advice, lol excuse me what.
Anyway. Some ideas like love units/accounta (really great), general framework of basic needs - good. The implementation - crap.
January 7, 2024
This book brought SO many things about men and women to my understanding! Helped me to understand why my husband does and says certain things! This book is a great read personally BUT i feel this book would help a LOT more if read by both parties in the relationship! I understand my husband now and I know the things that I can change for our relationship. However, my husband has not read this book so he does not know and understand the things about me to be able to change for our relationship. I think you both have to be willing to listen and really retain the information as well!
January 15, 2018
This book is really great whether you are in a rough spot or not in your marriage. I learned a lot of things about my husband and why he may act a certain way and what I can do to change that. We are newly weds so it was good to read and know this book exists in case things do get rough or we are not understanding each other the way we used to.
August 19, 2019
The book definitely had some good points and brought up several points of discussion for my husband and I, which was great. I don’t think all of it made sense. 15 hours of intimate communication a week... wow. There were other things that I thought really?!?! But all in all we are taking the things we agreed upon seriously and I think that opening communication is great so job well done
January 7, 2020
It hurts a little bit to read because it applies to my marriage. But there are so many things that I think I can do to improve myself and my marriage. It takes a lot of humility. I like how it gives questions at the end for him and her to ponder and discuss. Some suggestions and advice are too extreme, but definitely good ones.
August 9, 2022
It's a good book to learn about how husband and wife view their needs differently. I can see the insights how men and women are looking for from their partner. I can say 90% of guide is true and practical in real life. Couple should read this book together.
July 19, 2013
Great companion to the book!!
July 30, 2014
This kind of had a text book approach to solving problems in marriage. I really learned a lot. I found this book in a pin on pinterest.
May 17, 2015
Severely lacking scripture. Based on large generalities.
February 23, 2017
This book encouraged deeper reflection of marital needs. I identified areas where I could make personal changes to better consider my husband's perspective.
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August 10, 2017One of the best relationship books I've ever read
March 1, 2018
Awesome, timeless advice. Rating would be 5 stars if it weren’t for Harley’s excessive self-promotion.
February 4, 2020
I've heard it's a really good book.
July 8, 2020
Not as good as I expected. But overlappings were good. So worth going through it.
April 28, 2021
True fulfillment only comes through God.
August 12, 2021
Definitely one of my favorite relationship books. I think it really speaks to the deep needs that many have & how they affect our spouses. Very logical & practical.
December 3, 2022
The practical guidance and stories make this book so a page turner!
April 11, 2023
Definitely need to read or listen on audibles with earbuds around kids but very insightful.
November 26, 2023
I liked the practicality in this book
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