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Before You Plan Your Wedding...Plan Your Marriage
Building a Marriage That Will Last a Lifetime
Authors Greg and Erin Smalley open their hearts and share their lives in Before You Plan Your Wedding...Plan Your Marriage so that you can know not only how to build a marriage that will last, but also how to have the kind of marriage where you and your spouse feel safe and honored and valued. When you feel safe, your heart will be open -- and open hearts make for fulfilling, powerful relationships.
Find out about the "fear dance" and how to stop dancing it. Discover the two biggest issues that threaten every marriage and how to stop them before they start. Learn what's more important than finding your soul mate and the significance of happiness in your union.
As wonderful as a wedding is, it lasts only for a brief time -- yet marriage is meant to last a lifetime. This important book will show you how to plan your marriage before you plan your wedding.
Authors Greg and Erin Smalley open their hearts and share their lives in Before You Plan Your Wedding...Plan Your Marriage so that you can know not only how to build a marriage that will last, but also how to have the kind of marriage where you and your spouse feel safe and honored and valued. When you feel safe, your heart will be open -- and open hearts make for fulfilling, powerful relationships.
Find out about the "fear dance" and how to stop dancing it. Discover the two biggest issues that threaten every marriage and how to stop them before they start. Learn what's more important than finding your soul mate and the significance of happiness in your union.
As wonderful as a wedding is, it lasts only for a brief time -- yet marriage is meant to last a lifetime. This important book will show you how to plan your marriage before you plan your wedding.
336 pages, Hardcover
First published January 1, 2008
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February 16, 2017
My lifelong study of godly marriages continues. :)
This is not a bad book, but it is heavier on the psychology and self-care side of the spectrum than I prefer.
A good book to skim for communication tools while relying on more Bible-centric books to build a foundation for biblical marriage. For this, I always always always recommend Sacred Marriage and Cherish by Gary Thomas.
This is not a bad book, but it is heavier on the psychology and self-care side of the spectrum than I prefer.
A good book to skim for communication tools while relying on more Bible-centric books to build a foundation for biblical marriage. For this, I always always always recommend Sacred Marriage and Cherish by Gary Thomas.
October 9, 2023
So so good, I have learned so much from this book. I would recommend it to ANYONE, not just for those planning on getting married but for those dating and already married!
May 14, 2013
Since I'm getting married, my sister-in-law recommended the Focus on the Family podcast that featured the authors. I thought they seemed knowledgeable, so I decided to read their book.
It was just ok. I wanted to like it a lot, so that anyone could read it when planning their marriages, but it just seemed to narrow in its target and mindset. I felt like this was a book written by Christians for Christians, specifically. I will admit that I kind of feel that way about FotF in general. They give good advice, as long as you already agree with everything they are saying.
Greg and Erin did make some good points, but I kind of found them hard to relate to - maybe b/c they got married a whole lot younger than I am. Their advice felt like it was either for young 20-somethings or "old" 50-somethings. Guess what guys...a lot of folks get married in their thirties (gasp!).
I liked the idea behind this book - your marriage is definitely more important than your wedding, but I just struggled with the book itself. :(
It was just ok. I wanted to like it a lot, so that anyone could read it when planning their marriages, but it just seemed to narrow in its target and mindset. I felt like this was a book written by Christians for Christians, specifically. I will admit that I kind of feel that way about FotF in general. They give good advice, as long as you already agree with everything they are saying.
Greg and Erin did make some good points, but I kind of found them hard to relate to - maybe b/c they got married a whole lot younger than I am. Their advice felt like it was either for young 20-somethings or "old" 50-somethings. Guess what guys...a lot of folks get married in their thirties (gasp!).
I liked the idea behind this book - your marriage is definitely more important than your wedding, but I just struggled with the book itself. :(
March 22, 2023
I would recommend this book to everyone in a relationship, as it will also influence positively your friendships. I’ve been married for 3 years and I’m glad I read it now; I don’t think I would’ve understood a lot of the suggestions prior, especially during the “honeymoon” phase when you think your marriage is perfect. The personal stories, the jokes and the conference attendees responses made this book even more relatable; I appreciated the honesty and the “realness”.
December 25, 2014
I've read a lot of books on marriage, and this is definitely one of the best. Highly recommended not just for engaged couples, but also for anyone who wants a better marriage. For full review, see here. http://eagleswingsbooks.blogspot.com/...
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