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Pastoring a Narcissist: The Dark Triad
You’ve heard Pastoring would be wonderful, if it were not for the people.Narcissistic people drive a leader crazy. Psychology Today called such people Crazy Makers.
They are one of three groups in the Dark Triad. And you pastor narcissistic people, manipulative people and yes, at least one or two sociopaths/psychopaths.
Narcissists hurt people.Narcissists turn God’s work into a competition.Narcissists are about one thing - and it is not Jesus, His church or helping you. They live to win, even if they must cheat to win.This book addresses dealing with narcissists from a pastoral perspective. It identifies some of the more common traits of narcissists and looks at some Biblical characters through the lens of narcissism.
Lucifer, leading a revolt against the Creator of the Universe. Why? Narcissism. Lucifer lost heaven because of his narcissism. Listen to His I will ascend . . . , i will exalt . . . I will be like the most high. In the Lord’s way of doing business - the narcissist cannot be allowed to prevail.King Saul became focused on how events impacted him, and him alone. He ignored the needs of those he led. Became so insecure about David that he spent his energy doing little except trying to destroy David. A bit of attention unleashed Saul’s narcissistic tendencies.Diotrephes loves to have the preeminence . . ., (3 John 1:9). Was Diotrephes interested in the well-being of others? How could we think he was when he refused to allow them to be influenced by the Apostle John.In each case of narcissism there was also a response taken. In Pastoring Narcissists in the Dark Triad, suggested solutions are provided. They are not quick fixes, nor are they always easy. And there are times when what has worked for me won’t work for someone else. But if you deal with people as a pastor, a department head or even a corporate leader this book will help.
More about the Dark Triad
A mentor said, “Every church has grace-builders, as a pastor learn how to deal with them.” The people in the Dark Triad are grace-builders on steroids.
The three categories in the Dark Triad manipulators - Pastoring a Manipulator releases in April 2024. PsychopathsThese people are a challenge in any body of believers. In Pastoring Narcissists in the Dark Triad you will
1. The most common symptoms of narcissism.
2. People in the Bible who have every indicator of having been narcissistic, Saul comes to mind..
3. How a narcissist injures others, including a pastor. Self-centered people limit the work of God. Their wounds can be quite severe.
4. This is not addressed from a psychological or mental health perspective. The writer is a pastor, who has dealt with narcissistic people, managed to keep them around and keep them from hurting people. The suggestions found here are a place to start.
5. If you are a new pastor, get ahead of the curve. Prepare your mind, spirit and heart to deal with those who are narcissistic.
This book is about more than information. The objective is to protect the people in the local church, pastors, and their spouse and family, as well as the people in a local church from narcissistic people. The main objective is protecting the body of Christ.
Ships and planes have disappeared into the Bermuda Triangle. Some ministers work for Christ disappeared into the maw of The Dark Triad.
They are one of three groups in the Dark Triad. And you pastor narcissistic people, manipulative people and yes, at least one or two sociopaths/psychopaths.
Narcissists hurt people.Narcissists turn God’s work into a competition.Narcissists are about one thing - and it is not Jesus, His church or helping you. They live to win, even if they must cheat to win.This book addresses dealing with narcissists from a pastoral perspective. It identifies some of the more common traits of narcissists and looks at some Biblical characters through the lens of narcissism.
Lucifer, leading a revolt against the Creator of the Universe. Why? Narcissism. Lucifer lost heaven because of his narcissism. Listen to His I will ascend . . . , i will exalt . . . I will be like the most high. In the Lord’s way of doing business - the narcissist cannot be allowed to prevail.King Saul became focused on how events impacted him, and him alone. He ignored the needs of those he led. Became so insecure about David that he spent his energy doing little except trying to destroy David. A bit of attention unleashed Saul’s narcissistic tendencies.Diotrephes loves to have the preeminence . . ., (3 John 1:9). Was Diotrephes interested in the well-being of others? How could we think he was when he refused to allow them to be influenced by the Apostle John.In each case of narcissism there was also a response taken. In Pastoring Narcissists in the Dark Triad, suggested solutions are provided. They are not quick fixes, nor are they always easy. And there are times when what has worked for me won’t work for someone else. But if you deal with people as a pastor, a department head or even a corporate leader this book will help.
More about the Dark Triad
A mentor said, “Every church has grace-builders, as a pastor learn how to deal with them.” The people in the Dark Triad are grace-builders on steroids.
The three categories in the Dark Triad manipulators - Pastoring a Manipulator releases in April 2024. PsychopathsThese people are a challenge in any body of believers. In Pastoring Narcissists in the Dark Triad you will
1. The most common symptoms of narcissism.
2. People in the Bible who have every indicator of having been narcissistic, Saul comes to mind..
3. How a narcissist injures others, including a pastor. Self-centered people limit the work of God. Their wounds can be quite severe.
4. This is not addressed from a psychological or mental health perspective. The writer is a pastor, who has dealt with narcissistic people, managed to keep them around and keep them from hurting people. The suggestions found here are a place to start.
5. If you are a new pastor, get ahead of the curve. Prepare your mind, spirit and heart to deal with those who are narcissistic.
This book is about more than information. The objective is to protect the people in the local church, pastors, and their spouse and family, as well as the people in a local church from narcissistic people. The main objective is protecting the body of Christ.
Ships and planes have disappeared into the Bermuda Triangle. Some ministers work for Christ disappeared into the maw of The Dark Triad.
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Published July 5, 2023
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July 5, 2023
Good read for Pastors
If you’ve never read anything on narcissism then this will be a good overall view of what a person has to deal with.
If you have read info about narcissism it’ll be a nice review
I only gave it a 4 star because it appears to be the rough draft with many notes left in for the editor to make changes.
If you’ve never read anything on narcissism then this will be a good overall view of what a person has to deal with.
If you have read info about narcissism it’ll be a nice review
I only gave it a 4 star because it appears to be the rough draft with many notes left in for the editor to make changes.
August 25, 2023
Must read for pastors and saints
Excellent read as always with Bro Coon. This is a very needed book in the time we live in. This book we help you deal with those around you and yourself if you will apply it’s principles.
Excellent read as always with Bro Coon. This is a very needed book in the time we live in. This book we help you deal with those around you and yourself if you will apply it’s principles.
March 7, 2024
excellent book
Excellent book and I recommend everyone to read! Best book on this subject I have ever read. Buy it today
Excellent book and I recommend everyone to read! Best book on this subject I have ever read. Buy it today
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