Reread 4/6/22
I got this series years ago, after the first 50 Shades book. This series was gajillion times better than FSG. I'm a little puzzled at some of the reviews after rereading now years later. Gray was a sexy as hell, dominant alpha male. And he was very unapologetic about it. Some people seem to have an issue with Gray wanting a submissive women in all things. Not that he wanted her to be a doormat but a women who let him be in charge. That's good, because that is what Faith desperately wants in a man. She is waking up and exploring her kinky side but she definitely has learned that a man who is always wanting her to call the shots isn't working for her anymore.
Gray has been burned by little sub bunnies, who love playing the sub for a scene or the night but they want to be back in charge when the morning comes. Gray's had enough of that, he is a dominant man he's not just playing one when a female's in the mood.
So here's where I get a little aggravated. Some reviewers are saying this is a terrible misrepresentation of the BDSM community, this author doesn't know anything, and all the choices are the subs to make.
I wonder if they've ever met a Dom? Do you really think they turn that off. You think between scenes, they still aren't the controlling Dom? That they just let their partners/subs run roughshod over them except during sex? Yeah.....no.
Now I'm not saying, and even Gray says he wants a woman who stands up for herself but that's something you can do and still be submissive. Gray says that there's no turning it off, but do you really think if Faith said she wasn't up for something, didn't feel good, or to stop that Gray wouldn't do that. These people seem to forget that the other side of giving your submission is that the Dom has the very large responsibility to take care of you, intuit what your feeling or discuss to find out, and meet your needs sometimes before you even know what those needs are. All while knocking your socks off with dirty kinky sexcapades.
Gray was a good man. He had a great heart, was loyal and compassionate. He was also very upfront that he needed to be in charge. Gray wanted a woman who would be the submissive counterpoint but still a 50/50 partner in their relationship. In Faith he saw the woman of his dreams, if she gave him the gift of her submission he would give her the world.
I honestly don't know what the issue was in saying it was okay for Faith to explore her wants in the kink world but no Dom wants the sub to force a relationship between them. That's not how Doms work. I know there are "bratty subs" and some Doms like/don't mind that. Many aren't going to put up with the sub forcing the issue repeatedly and going against the Dom's wishes. That's what Faith was doing, leading Gray to feel she wasn't really understanding or really didn't want a truly full time D/s relationship. Topping from the bottom is a real thing.
Once Gray realizes that Faith is genuine in her desire to have the man being in the driver's seat and take care of her and she wants that to be Gray, they take things to the next level. Gray was in charge but I don't think I've ever read another so doting and caring H, let alone a Dom. People are acting like Gray was a knuckle dragging neanderthal, but he was drawing baths and washing Faith, massaging her, brushing her hair, letting her nap and rest while he cooked and waited on her hand and foot. Not to mention sex so intense Faith didn't know if she could handle it. Yeah what women wouldn't want that.
I think some of the issue is that some people roll their eyes or can't really grasp a women that wants to cede all control over to a man. Faith was beautiful, sweet, caring, and a little bit naive. To Faith's point, there does seem to be a disdain or shunning attitude in this post feminism age towards women that want to take a more "conservative" role in the relationship. But like I say in many reviews people can like different things, can want different things, and that's okay. Some people like books when the H kidnaps, rapes, and degrades the h, or RH/poly relationships, or lizard alien men rescuing the little human. Just because you don't like the trope or don't find it relatable doesn't mean it's ridiculous. People want different things.
There was an aspect of this story that I don't quite care for. It's so hypocritical but I love RH and menage but don't care for when an established relationship just adds a third here or there. That does happen here when Grey and Faith are exploring each others kink. Grey made it clear if Faith didn't want it or it became too much, to say the word and things would stop immediately. It was hot, just not my favorite thing to happen.
Again I really liked this book. Gray was sexy and strong. Faith was lovely. This, though, is a very BDSM heavy series. I believe the next book in the series is even more intense than this one with a 24/7 Master/slave relationship. I personally think that's a little kooky, but I still enjoyed that book too. I can understand and appreciate someone's choice to be in that type of relationship even if I personally wouldn't.
Sorry about my rambling rant!! 😖🤣🤣