A World of Their Own Making: Myth, Ritual, and the Quest for Family Values

by John R. Gillis

Our whole society may be obsessed with “family values,” but as John Gillis points out in this entertaining and eye-opening book, most of our images of “home sweet home” are of very recent vintage. A World of Their Own Making questions our idealized notion of “The Family,” a mind-set in which myth and symbol still hold sway. As the families we live with become more fragile, the symbolic families we live by become more powerful. Yet it is only by accepting the notion that our ritual, myths, and images must be open to perpetual revision that we can satisfy our human needs and changing circumstances.

Genres: Sociology, History, Nonfiction, Parenting, Anthropology, Science

Paperback

First published July 1, 1996

Reviews

[Jackie · Rating 4 out of 5]

Gillis asks readers to recognize the difference between the families that we live “with,” and the families that we live “by” – there are actual social, historical, families, but there are also the culturally constructed visions of families that we all contend with. Gillis examines the cultural construction of the Western family, moving away from biology and sociology, using an anthropological approach. The book’s first section examines the meaning of family in Western Europe before the modern age; the second section relates the changes in said meanings during the Victorian period, and the final section discusses the cultural construction of major family figures in more detail (a chapter each on the “perfect couple”; the mother, the father, and the dead). The book concludes by exploring the present-day implications of past constructions of the family.

The book is filled with fascination information, which gives much food for thought about the things we take as “natural” about families and the way they work. Gillis synthesizes the work of myriad previous scholars to give a clear sense of the vast differences between our present-day understandings of families and the ideas of those in the past. Gillis is less effective in explaining the “whys” behind the shifts that occurred in the construction of the ideological family, but as the first person to take a cultural studies approach to the family, his work can serve as a strong grounding upon which later historians can build.

[Lgordo · Rating 2 out of 5]

This book fails on the matter of telling rather than showing. In order to cover an enormous quantity of culture over an enormous span of time, the author resorts to speedwalking. You get a snip here of a bride being "escorted by a raucous crowd" in the medieval era, and then a blur of courtship in the 1700s, but most of what's in between is gray narration. The author clearly did his research, but he doesn't show us the paintings he studied, he rarely names the writers of the diaries he read, and just as rarely quotes them.

Perhaps it would have been useful to dedicate a chapter to a single ceremony -- perhaps the wedding -- and richly illustrate it as it occurred in the 1200s, 1500, 1800s, etc. But this didn't happen, at least not before I gave up, about 3/4 of the way through. It just wasn't interesting.

[Travis · Rating 3 out of 5]

A thoroughly researched dive into family ritual and meaning, and how Victorian society shaped much of what we deem as "historical." A bit dense with information - not really composed for a general, passive reader.

Recommended for those interested in the history of the family, culture wars, or family values.