The Possibility of Sex: How Naïve and Lustful Men are Manipulated by Women Regularly

by Alan Roger Currie

Many self-help books are available to single women that shed light on the various types of men to avoid in today's dating scene.

What about advice for single men on what types of women they should avoid?

There are a number of women in society who would make any man a wonderful wife, girlfriend, or platonic friend.

Then there are other women who only look to take advantage of men who are naive and highly libidinous for their own egotistical and/or financial advantage.

Book Author Alan Roger Currie releases yet another book (in both a paperback and Kindle eBook version) that is filled with his unique brand of knowledge and wisdom related to how single men and women verbally communicate their romantic and sexual desires and interests to one another.

Currie once again highlights the fact that when a man expresses his romantic or sexual desires, interests and intentions to women in a very "cautious," "vague," "ambiguous," or "beat-around-the-bush" manner, that the man potentially opens himself up to be misled and taken advantage of by women who are seasoned manipulators of men.

Genres: Psychology, Relationships

159 pages, Kindle Edition

First published October 1, 2012

About the author

Beginning with May 1999, Alan Roger Currie was the first Red Pill Dating Coach associated with 'The Manosphere' and his nickname is 'The Godfather of Direct Verbal Game Advice & Wisdom' because of the expert-level advice he shares with his clients.

Currie received the highest ratings for all speakers featured at both the Direct Dating Summit UK (November 2010 in London) and the Direct Dating Summit USA (March 2012 in Las Vegas) in surveys conducted by Event Organizer "Sasha Daygame" among the men who attended both events. Currie has acted as a dating coach and interpersonal communication consultant for men from twenty-five different countries, and he has been interviewed on local, regional, and national radio and television.

Currie was the host of the popular internet talk radio podcast show, "Upfront & Straightforward with Alan Roger Currie," which was the most listened to talk radio show in the category of “Romance” and Dating & Relationships on the BlogTalkRadio Internet Radio Network for six of the nine years the show was active. Currie has also been a freelance writer for The Examiner.com and The NegroManosphere.com.

Currie’s primary specialty is teaching men how to overcome their fear of being rejected by women, how to overcome their fear of receiving adverse reactions and/or harsh, subjective criticisms from women, how to recognize women’s body language signals of interest and disinterest, and how men can train and regulate the tone and overall quality of their voice to use “erotic dirty talk” to arouse and verbally seduce women. Currie’s Mode One teachings have helped thousands of men of all ages, ethnicities and socio-economic backgrounds all across the world get in the habit of expressing their romantic and/or sexual desires to women of interest in a manner that is more highly self-assured, upfront and straightforwardly honest.

Reviews

[Alan Currie · Rating 5 out of 5]

I wrote the book!

[Heidi · Rating 5 out of 5]

When I read this book, I wasn't certain if I would like it or not. But as I read the book I found it interesting. While the book is marketed toward men looking for sex, it is actually about relationships. How they work, and how you can handle difficult relationships. The author divides women into four different categories: reciprocators, rejecters, pretenders and timewasters. He describes the behavior of women in these categories, and at different points in my life, I have been in each of these categories.

The author provides the reader with ways to halt manipulative behavior. And he is very upfront that often times an individual complaining about how men are manipulated by members of the opposite sex have some responsibility in that manipulation. They allow it to happen. He provides practical advice on how to end some of this manipulative behavior. And the best advice of all is don’t put yourself in those situations. He encourages individuals who are having difficulty in their relationships not to go to members of the opposite sex for advice. This is the best advice that anyone specializing in relationships has offered to date. So many people end up in an affair after they simply started telling members of the opposite sex about the trouble in their relationships. It’s best just to avoid doing that. The author also encourages readers to be honest with others. And this can be difficult for some individuals to hear.

I also like that encourages people to be honest with each other. That is often a mistake many individuals make in relationships. He points out that individuals often state that individuals say that they are fine with just being friends with an individual when they often are hoping that the relationship will evolve into something romantic. He points out women often use men to complete use some men they know are interested in them romantically to complete tasks and listen to them. He encourages the reader to end this relationship. And I believe this is good advice also. That person is being manipulated, and the only way to stop that manipulation is to end the relationship.

What I didn’t like about this book was that I felt that the author encouraged individuals to look at people as a type instead of a person. He emphasizes how a certain person acts, and he doesn’t seem to take into account that people do change. And he doesn’t take into account that individuals make mistakes.

Overall, this is a good book for individuals who have been in relationships where they have been manipulated. He provides concrete tips on ways to stop manipulative behavior. Like I said at the beginning of the review, this book is good for both men and women. It can provide insight into how others have acted, and it can provide insight into how you act in your own relationships.

The author provided me with a copy of this book, but this does not reflect my opinion that this book can assist individuals with developing healthier relationships with members of the opposite sex.

[Zarathustra Goertzel · Rating 5 out of 5]

The central theme of this book is how allowing high vagueness can lead to all sorts of time-wasting, whether via conscious manipulation or not. One core is, "are you engaging in activities partially motivated by sexual interest that you would invest less energy in otherwise?" If someone else enjoys these activities a lot, they may be reluctant to risk bursting the bubble by clearly expressing a lack of reciprocated sexual interest. Maybe there'd still be friendship potential -- maybe not!

Alan covers some varieties of forms this can take.

Next up is types of partners that will likely cause trouble and regret in the long run (gold diggers, partner thieves, drama queens, misandrists/misogynists, and liars).

As usual, Alan Roger Currie is a great inspiration in encouraging us to explore the possibility of simply being direct and straightforward with one's interests :- ). As, uh, we value our time and attention? :- D

[Brandon Noel · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book was much more a bigger eye opener than his previous book, Mode One. This one elaborated on the idea that women are highly manipulative and it a man's fault for falling victim of a manipulative woman. If he was being Mode One, which is straight forward and direct, then his expression would allow him to see right through manipulative women. Interesting book for men that spends wads of cash on girls only to get the possibility of sex.

[Henry · Rating 5 out of 5]

- (Actually a surprisingly positive book just wrapped in a non-bullshit, blunt language): the main thesis is rather simple, that a man (also woman) should be with their counterpart that can make him better (an example the author gave was the relationship between Michelle and Barack Obama. The author believes Obama wouldn't have been as successful without his wife). The author caution men to spend time with women who are wasting their times and provide net loss, not gain to themselves, and the book is about spotting such women and learn how to avoid them

- Timewasters: women who know your sexual desire but do not respond to you in a blunt way (author believes that a man should be direct with his intention, and do not take rejection personally). Such women are fishing for compliments rather than gaining anything meaningful

- For many women, they can't stand 1) being completely ignored and 2) not having compliment by men when they are dressing particularly sexy (they get frustrated if such thing happen for prolonged period of time)

- Men go to nightclub to get laid, women go to nightclub to show off their body/wardrobe

- The more attractive the female is, the more validation she seeks

- Men are romantically frustrated between 21 and 35; women are romantically frustrated between 45 and 59 (author note especially the former beauty queens because she can't stand the quickly diminishing praised she once have gotten in her earlier years)

- "Some delusional women think they can be in their forties or fifties, be sixty pounds overweight, and possess the not-so-feminine demeanor of a prototypical dominatrix, and still somehow attract the attention of a man with means. Riiiiiiight. Let me know when your alarm clock starts working again."

- (Some) Women seek men who are sexually satisfied (happily married/in a relationship with great counterpart) because instinctively they believe such men are "pre-screened"

- Author raised a rather interesting question: the society often punish men for cheating, the author asks, why doesn't the society ask why do female sleep with married men who are known to be married? (An example author gave was Tiger Woods, who was known to be married but still fished lots of women for affairs)

- The author believe men should avoid venues like night clubs, and men should avoid women who wears revealing outfits, flaunts wealth (through designer labels). Such women are not there to make men better but rather there to solve their own insecurities (in a wrong way) through men

[Mr.Bora · Rating 5 out of 5]

As the Author and Narrator of this audiobook says in his introduction, there are dozens of books written by women for women that warn women about how men can be lying womanizers or that other men can become the spouse or boyfriend from Hell. What about books written by men for men that warn men of women that will cause them nothing but stress, regret, and wasted time and finances?

Alan Roger Currie comes to the rescue with this audiobook! Currie does an excellent job of exposing those women out here who have no interest in being romantic or sexual with men, but they very much want men to give their ego a boost, entertain them, spend money on them, and listen to them for hours and hours while they whine about their various problems and frustrations with the wrong men who they chose to date or have sex with. Currie refers to these women in his audiobook as "Manipulative Timewasters." Currie argues in this audiobook that women use men for their platonic attention and companionship and monetary favors in the same way that many women will accuse men of using them for their sexual attention and companionship and willingness to please men in bed.

This audiobook is one of the few of its kind you will find anywhere. Most men want to get women in bed so badly that they never stop to ask themselves, "Is this a quality woman that I am pursuing? Is this woman really worth my time? Is she really worth treating to a free dinner at a five star restaurant?" Currie also discusses five types of women that even if a man does end up having sex with, these women will do nothing but cause that man stress and regret in the long run (Gold Diggers, Wannabe Mistresses, Drama Queens, Misandrists, and Lying Cheaters & Adulterers).

Women will hate this audiobook, but men will love it and listen to it repeatedly. Great listen for men.

[Atanas Dimitrov · Rating 2 out of 5]

The irony is that Alan Roger Currie’s best book is the one with the worst cover art. Whoever approved that thing?

Looking at the structure, this book is much more coherent and well-structured than what I’ve seen previously by the author. Far from perfect, but it at least makes sense: it has an intro and two distinct sections – an elaboration of Currie’s concepts of what constitutes women who are timewasters, and women who are no good.

Content-wise, there is more content that makes sense and can be made use of than in Mode One or his other books, and I found the intro particularly interesting with his observations on church and male-female interactions there. Currie also makes some generic remarks throughout the book that strike a right chord from a 2022 perspective:

“I think too many people in society go to such extremes not to be perceived as rude, crass, insulting, offensive and/or disrespectful by others that they slowly but surely transition from being well-mannered and polite into becoming blatant liars and exhibiting behavior that is incredibly insincere and phony toward others.”

The execution is, however, once again lackluster. There are lots of statements presented as facts just because the author says so without any factual justification, sources presented, or logical progression of his thought process, where in some instances where the latter is actually employed, it feels shallow. Some parts are needlessly prolonged, others show no real in-depth understanding of the subject area being commented on.

If I have to take one thing out of this book, it is the sort of similar message that we took from Mode One, but presented ever so more eloquently: be confident, patient and sexually self-controlled, and avoid toxic women. Some of the comments around how to spot dangerous tendencies in women’s behaviour are spot on too.

The only real practicality found in the book stands out too. Make a list of what you’re looking for in a woman: the essential aspects, the good-to-have, and the dealbreakers. And stick to it. Integrity + the aforementioned confidence and self-control = drastically better dating life.

[Fabio · Rating 5 out of 5]

Good buy

Learned a lot about female psyche and dating. I feel more prepared when I have to face a manipulator again.

[Jenny · Rating 1 out of 5]

Crap.

[Josh Dzarir · Rating 5 out of 5]

Delves into the intricate dance of human relationships, focusing on how some men, lured by the prospect of sexual encounters, can be manipulated. With his signature "mode one" approach, Currie offers an unfiltered examination of this dynamic, championing direct and honest communication. Instead of casting blame, he equips men with the insight to recognize manipulation and the tools to establish boundaries. This book, brimming with revelations about desire and interpersonal dynamics, challenges traditional masculinity views and urges men towards authentic, discerning connections. A must-read for those navigating the complex terrain of modern relationships

[Gustavo · Rating 5 out of 5]

Nuevamente, un libro directo tal como el autor lo expresa. Muy realista con el comportamiento tanto femenino cómo el masculino. Dice las cosas cómo son, y me gustó la conclusión del final. Este y el Mode One son dos libros completos y directos, para los que quieren estar preparados y seguir adentrándose al mundo de las relaciones de pareja y sexuales.

[Andres · Rating 5 out of 5]

Legendary. This is a must read for young men and also women.

[JR Aguilar · Rating 5 out of 5]

It's a good book to learn about how women usually act when she is around SIMPS. Or undeciden men without strong atitude

[Gregory · Rating 5 out of 5]

Possibility of Sex

Again I love how he explains how some women you need to avoid work. I wish I had this book back when I was a younger adult. I highly recommend you read this book.

[MT · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great Read. Eye opening. Highly recommended!

[De Samuel · Rating 3 out of 5]

Mediocre

This book is a mix bag. Some good advice here and there but overall not on my top list of books for red pilled men. It is a good place to start if you totally unaware of female nature and manipulation. But much better books exist on the topic. Nonetheless I am very pleased that material like this exist to help men wisen up to the reality that women are not sugar and spice and everything nice like we were misled to believe.

[Joe Langdale · Rating 1 out of 5]

No evidence of anything he says, it seems very biased and as such very sexist too. Not very helpful for either gender or society in general.

[Andrew Anyetei · Rating 5 out of 5]

One Word: Wow!!!!!

I read Alan Roger Currie book Mode One, which is a good book on how honesty is the key but I was fairly skeptical about the approach until I started listening this book on audio and all I can say is: HOLY ****! Mindblown! Listening this audiobook has convinced me enough to respect and believe in Mode One and see it for what it's true intention, which is to prevent men from being exploited by women who are the manipulative time wasters. Those type women are dishonest as well as dishonourable as they will intentionally mislead and manipulate men with the "possibility of sex" to exploit their Resources, Attention and Time without ever being interesting in them whether it's romantically and sexually. Even worst, these manipulative time wasting women will likely engaging in sexual activities with the "bad boys" while exploit the naive and gullible and desperate men, not to mention the frustrated ones.

The author is right when he said spending money on dates with the possibility of sex (relationships) is like spending money on the lottery with the possibility of winning the jackpot and even though he's not in favour of tricking (paying escorts for sex ) but he said it's best to be a trick than a chump, which I agree with as at least a man is actually getting laid while paying for it than to be taken for a fool for spending all that time, money and attention on a woman that doesn't give a damn about you.

This book also broke down the types of women to avoid when pursing a potential girlfriend or wife such as Materialistic Gold Diggers, Man Theives, Mentally Unstable Drama Queens, Heterosexual Misandrists aka Feminists and Cheats & liars. Although the author did say the chapter on Cheats & Liars left a depressing impression on the readers and he's not wrong and its one of the reasons why men in my opinion are hesitant to get married, let alone reject the concept altogether as there are women who are likely to be unfaithful in marriages or had been lying about their promiscuous past by putting a facade as a innocent saint when she had been or is a guilty sinner.

Even though this book highlights the manipulative head games that women use on men, it also points out that men should admit fault and take personal responsibility for placing themselves in that position so they avoid it in the future by being upfront and honest to women about their intentions and if she rejects you, then good as they have avoided having their time, money and attention wasted and exploited by a possible manipulative woman. Again, this book has convinced that Mode One is the way forward. Mode One, Make it Work!

[Chi0 · Rating 2 out of 5]

As a woman, I really enjoyed to view things from a man's perspective. I agree on the fact that honesty in the long run is going to take any relationship out of manipulation and drama, and that both parties need to be straightforward.
**Update after reading the second part of the book: there are no facts in the book, everything is anecdotal and the author displays very obvious signs of sexism, and doesn't explain to detail what could make long term relationships work