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You, Me and Him
Josie is dismayed to find herself pregnant again. How will she cope? At least she can talk to her best friend Clarky about it. He’s always been there for her, even if her husband Finn suspects ulterior motives.
336 pages, Paperback
First published January 1, 2007
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Alice Peterson
26 books225 followersAt the age of eighteen Alice had been awarded a tennis scholarship to America when she experienced pain in her right hand. It was rheumatoid arthritis (RA) and she hasn’t picked up a tennis racket since, a sadness that shall always be with her. The theme of disability features in her fiction, but there is nothing gloomy about Alice or her work. Rather this gives her fiction the added dimension of true poignancy.
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July 13, 2021
This was my 4th Book by this Author. It took me a while to get into this one. I found I enjoyed the current story in he book but got a bit confused by the back story in places. However i did enjoy it overall.
May 7, 2017
A thoroughly enjoyable read. Bit slow paced in the beginning but quickly got into it and the story began to pick up pace and unfold a bit quicker. The story went back and forth from when Kate and Finn first met and to present day with them. This was essential knowledge to the present day but at times it did annoy me that Kate could so quickly and seamlessly slip from the present back to the past and then back again,to the point that I got confused as to what time frame she was actually in,was she referring to now or did this happen back then!
Anyway it was a gripping wee read,with Kate finding out she is pregnant again but afraid that this baby will have ADHD like her son George and then feeling guilty for having these thoughts. Coping with George is a daily struggle and as lovely as her husband Finn is,he isn't exactly a hands on dad and so this causes tension in their marriage,more so now Kate is pregnant with baby number 2.
What doesn't help the situation is Kate's lifelong friendship with Clarky,both men in her life hate each other but are tolerant for Kate's sake but there are secrets among them. Not to mention the fact that Kate relies on Clarky too much too often,when she should turn to her husband. She is making the situation much much worse and I really disliked her for this.
Anyway it was a gripping wee read,with Kate finding out she is pregnant again but afraid that this baby will have ADHD like her son George and then feeling guilty for having these thoughts. Coping with George is a daily struggle and as lovely as her husband Finn is,he isn't exactly a hands on dad and so this causes tension in their marriage,more so now Kate is pregnant with baby number 2.
What doesn't help the situation is Kate's lifelong friendship with Clarky,both men in her life hate each other but are tolerant for Kate's sake but there are secrets among them. Not to mention the fact that Kate relies on Clarky too much too often,when she should turn to her husband. She is making the situation much much worse and I really disliked her for this.
August 12, 2019
I haven’t been writing reviews again. Which makes me realise(again) how I forget the books I read and liked. Loved. This book I got it after the one of her other book I loved. Which I forgot because I wrote such an ass of a review. Anyways about this one now.
Him, her and the other one. The book was none of them. It felt as if the writer wanted to write about ADHD more than the love story. It’s really a predictable book. The him(Finn) is the moronic husband who takes everything for granted and never appreciates what he has and is always patronising or making the opp person guilty.
Her(I already forgot her name, and it’s just 5 mins back that I finished it) got sucked into life. Dealing with work, a troubled kid and an ass of an husband and a friend she is holding onto.
The other one(Clarky) I liked him the most. Reliable, always there for you kind of a friend. I don’t understand why would anyone choose someone else when you have that one person. Maybe it’s me but he is a doormat when it comes to “her”.
And then blah blah blah and fucking drama and then conveniently packed, bullshit ending. I would have preferred the other kind of ending even if other relationship didn’t work or whatever. It’s a decent read even if it’s boring story, characters and everything on between. Lot of unresolved issues. Fuck it’s tired to even think about the book.
Him, her and the other one. The book was none of them. It felt as if the writer wanted to write about ADHD more than the love story. It’s really a predictable book. The him(Finn) is the moronic husband who takes everything for granted and never appreciates what he has and is always patronising or making the opp person guilty.
Her(I already forgot her name, and it’s just 5 mins back that I finished it) got sucked into life. Dealing with work, a troubled kid and an ass of an husband and a friend she is holding onto.
The other one(Clarky) I liked him the most. Reliable, always there for you kind of a friend. I don’t understand why would anyone choose someone else when you have that one person. Maybe it’s me but he is a doormat when it comes to “her”.
And then blah blah blah and fucking drama and then conveniently packed, bullshit ending. I would have preferred the other kind of ending even if other relationship didn’t work or whatever. It’s a decent read even if it’s boring story, characters and everything on between. Lot of unresolved issues. Fuck it’s tired to even think about the book.
November 2, 2016
Abominabel slecht geschreven boek over een vervelend stel en hun huwelijksproblemen, die deels veroorzaakt worden door een zoontje met ADHD. De aandoening wordt zeer onvakkundig beschreven, en gegevens eromheen ook (behandeling, erfelijkheid, sympromen etc).
Onvoorstelbaar dat iedereen zo lovend is.
Onvoorstelbaar dat iedereen zo lovend is.
May 24, 2019
Really not sure what the point of this book was! Finn is the most unappealing character I have come across for a while but, for Josie, he is the best thing ever while her long standing, long suffering male friend gets taken for granted to the extreme. I did consider giving up but somehow ploughed on to the end.
April 7, 2018
Beautifully written
I thought this book was fantastic. My grandson has adhd and the story really resonated, the characters are so well written. A book that makes you laugh and cry. What more can you want. 😊
I thought this book was fantastic. My grandson has adhd and the story really resonated, the characters are so well written. A book that makes you laugh and cry. What more can you want. 😊
April 25, 2021
Fin wns Josie seem to have it all, Each other, good jobs, nice house, and son George, but is all in the garden as rosie as it seems?
A good sorry likeable characters, but a bit long too much back story detail of the couple i thought.
Didn't grab me sorry
A good sorry likeable characters, but a bit long too much back story detail of the couple i thought.
Didn't grab me sorry
March 19, 2024
Yeuugh. I just couldnt get into this book. I’m at 15% and absolutely nothing has happened, it actually reads like a YA book! Shame, as she is one of my favourite authors and I’ve loved her other books. DNF
April 22, 2020
Loved it.
Fabulous book, brilliant characters, George is such an amazing boy. Just really enjoyed reading the book. True to life story.
Fabulous book, brilliant characters, George is such an amazing boy. Just really enjoyed reading the book. True to life story.
February 17, 2017
I enjoyed this!
I liked reading Finn and Josie's relationship back-story and what led them to being married with a son, George (with ADHD) and another baby on the way. Josie's lifelong male best friend, Clarky was made out to be an untrustworthy feature in their lives amongst all the chaos which was an interesting touch.
I know very very little about ADHD other than the basics - I feel this book was well researched handled well. I even felt Josie's stress myself at times. Definitely worth a read.
I liked reading Finn and Josie's relationship back-story and what led them to being married with a son, George (with ADHD) and another baby on the way. Josie's lifelong male best friend, Clarky was made out to be an untrustworthy feature in their lives amongst all the chaos which was an interesting touch.
I know very very little about ADHD other than the basics - I feel this book was well researched handled well. I even felt Josie's stress myself at times. Definitely worth a read.
December 5, 2012
I've previously read one of Alice Peterson's novels before, but didn't know what to expect from this one. It took me a few pages to get my head sorted between the characters, once I did and realized who was who and what was what it all fell into place.
This is about a man that works all hours as a budding Consultant who know that was how his parents marriage broke up as his mother became lonely.
The little book they have has ADHD which causes a lot of stress on the mother who now finds herself pregnant with a second child. She is stressed and worried this baby will have the same problems. Her husband isn't sensitive to her needs, worries and concerns and the daily worry and responsibility needed to be constantly alert to her son's needs.
Her life long childhood friend has been constantly there for her, that is where the title of the story comes in. Three in a relationship. The ending of the story didn't end the way I suspected it too so that was a good thing about this read.
This is about a man that works all hours as a budding Consultant who know that was how his parents marriage broke up as his mother became lonely.
The little book they have has ADHD which causes a lot of stress on the mother who now finds herself pregnant with a second child. She is stressed and worried this baby will have the same problems. Her husband isn't sensitive to her needs, worries and concerns and the daily worry and responsibility needed to be constantly alert to her son's needs.
Her life long childhood friend has been constantly there for her, that is where the title of the story comes in. Three in a relationship. The ending of the story didn't end the way I suspected it too so that was a good thing about this read.
August 21, 2014
A husband, a wife and her best friend.
There is always a saying that there will never be platonic friendship between a guy and a girl. While the wife, Josie, maintained that Clarky was her best friend, Clarky held on to a not-so-secret crush on Josie. Things turned complicated when Finn, the boyfriend-turned-husband came into the picture.
It was obvious that Finn and Clarky weren't the best of friends. And Finn wasn't exactly the perfect husband either. So when things got tough, Josie found herself running to Clarky for help. And Clarky, being Clarky, would always be there for her.
While I have to say I was a little disappointed with the ending, I think this is the kind of ending that I would expect. It was a great read after all.
There is always a saying that there will never be platonic friendship between a guy and a girl. While the wife, Josie, maintained that Clarky was her best friend, Clarky held on to a not-so-secret crush on Josie. Things turned complicated when Finn, the boyfriend-turned-husband came into the picture.
It was obvious that Finn and Clarky weren't the best of friends. And Finn wasn't exactly the perfect husband either. So when things got tough, Josie found herself running to Clarky for help. And Clarky, being Clarky, would always be there for her.
While I have to say I was a little disappointed with the ending, I think this is the kind of ending that I would expect. It was a great read after all.
September 19, 2020
I loved this book! The characters are mostly believable, the story moving, the situations and conversations realistic.
It features a couple whose son has ADHD and the problems that arise when they find they're expecting another baby. But it's also about an extra person - a close friend - who has been so much part of their marriage that it causes immense stress.
Very well-written. Enjoyed very much on re-reading thirteen years after I first read this.
Four and a half stars really.
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It features a couple whose son has ADHD and the problems that arise when they find they're expecting another baby. But it's also about an extra person - a close friend - who has been so much part of their marriage that it causes immense stress.
Very well-written. Enjoyed very much on re-reading thirteen years after I first read this.
Four and a half stars really.
Full review here: https://suesbookreviews.blogspot.com/...
January 29, 2010
When it comes to friendship with opposite sex, one needs to be very careful as it may ruin your relationship.
I enjoyed reading this book, at times I was very angry with Josie for being sooo close to Clarky but I understand her sometimes because Finn (her husband) didn't understand or even acknowledge the difficulties she went through looking after their boy who has ADHD, day in day out.
I liked the whole drama when Clarky finally finds a girlfriend and Josie doesn't really approve.
I enjoyed reading this book, at times I was very angry with Josie for being sooo close to Clarky but I understand her sometimes because Finn (her husband) didn't understand or even acknowledge the difficulties she went through looking after their boy who has ADHD, day in day out.
I liked the whole drama when Clarky finally finds a girlfriend and Josie doesn't really approve.
April 28, 2015
It took me a while to get into this book. Josie is married to Finn but there is a third person in thief marriage - Clarky. He is Josie's best friend.
When their marriage goes through a difficult time of having a child with ADHD and being pregnant with another, life has a way of getting on top of them but Clarky is always there... Much to Finns dismay.
When a secret is revealed it has the possibly to ruin everything
Xx
When their marriage goes through a difficult time of having a child with ADHD and being pregnant with another, life has a way of getting on top of them but Clarky is always there... Much to Finns dismay.
When a secret is revealed it has the possibly to ruin everything
Xx
January 17, 2013
I enjoyed this book though I wanted to shake the two main characters at times. I loved George and his antics, felt as exhausted as Josie at times as I was reading it - a wonderfully drawn portrait of a hyperactive child. The impact on his parents was also well described. A bit more serious than other books I have read by the same author.
October 31, 2015
Read as part of the 2015 Reading Challenge - A book at the bottom of your to-read list.
This book was at the back of a 3 deep tbr pile,thinking I'd maybe get round to reading it one day,and I'm actually glad I did.
This book switches between the present day and college life,and asks the question as to whether you can be married and still have a male best friend.
A very enjoyable read.
This book was at the back of a 3 deep tbr pile,thinking I'd maybe get round to reading it one day,and I'm actually glad I did.
This book switches between the present day and college life,and asks the question as to whether you can be married and still have a male best friend.
A very enjoyable read.
March 6, 2014
An interesting read - can a man and a woman ever be just friends? I thought I knew where the book was going, but it ended very differently than I expected. Would have given it 3.5 if we were allowed half stars!
April 14, 2016
Loved this book. A great insight into living with ADHD. Josie, Finn and George are lovingly written characters which will warm the heart of any reader. A book which fully immerses you in its heartfelt storyline.
November 16, 2012
finding it quite boring at the momejt
April 22, 2013
I stumbled on the author, and enjoyed this book. Good frothy fun.
October 24, 2013
Lovely story from Alice Peterson yet again. I was a bit disappointed when this ended.
November 3, 2014
Slow start and then it picked up. Irritating characters
March 29, 2015
I like Alice's books but this one seemed to drag out a bit, it wasn't the easiest of books to read but nevertheless still really good.
July 13, 2015
This is very well written and touches on lots of sensitive topics, but I really didn't like Finn. This made it harder for me to enjoy the book and is the reason for the average rating.
January 8, 2008
So Far the Book is Soooooo Good
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