Adoptive reunions are emotional events. The reconnection with my father in 2011 was right out of a storybook- father and daughter back together after so many years of separation. What started out as a fantasy, quickly turned into a nightmare as an unusual and little known phenomenon called genetic sexual attraction took hold of our relationship.
What child looking for their parent imagines a situation in which the roles of lover and father get mixed up? I was happily married and raising three children. Unprepared for the intensity of love and affection I felt for him during our reunion, I ignored the signs of danger as our relationship continued at intense speed. Boundaries blurred and my desire to know him ignited a sexual passion that turned his, “I love you’s,” into, “I want you.” The experience caused me to question and rebel against every rule I had known about incest, parental love, and psychological abuse.
Plunged into the depth of this haunted taboo, I felt both love and murderous hate towards the man who gave me life. If I turned away from this twisted relationship, would I lose the father I had just found?
As a survivor of genetic sexual attraction, I co-own a website, blog, and online community that supports individuals who are struggling with GSA.
This is my story. It is dark, graphic, and difficult for many to understand. I feel it necessary to disclose this information so any and all readers understand what they are buying.
If you have ever reunited with a long lost parent, this book is for you. If you are someone who has been in a twisted and complicated abusive relationship, this book is for you as well. I hope my story will help others who find themselves in a confusing adoptive reunion.
Great read. Really felt what the author went through. Gave me a greater insight on GSA and on the strength of the author as a person. There were parts were I laughed and there was parts where I cried. I couldn't put it down because I just had to know what was going to happen. I was definitely invested.
A brutally honest true story of pain, confusion and personal insight into little known GSA. Julie is very daring and courageous for opening up her life and sharing such a personal story. Recommended.