I was not a huge fan of this collection, but I suspect the problem was me and not Peter Orner’s work, and there are certainly a number of stories and concepts I would absolutely recommend.
He’s written a series of very brief stories exploring things like what it means to survive the loss of a loved one and especially a loved one you would expect to outlive and how we conduct our relationships with the dead, how we fulfill our unfinished business with them; how we interact with what’s normal and what’s expected of us; the way different places can allow you to be a different person or to imagine yourself as one, to change; and the isolated, closed-off territories only accessible to the two of you you create in a relationship, what Orner refers to as “the country of us.” He emphasizes a strong sense of place and a profound and pervasive sense of loss, a pained nostalgia for a past you can’t keep hold of anymore.
I was most struck and moved by his meditations on surviving loss and grief and the sadness, loss of dignity and fear of aging/looming mortality. He has a keen eye for Western grief rituals and tropes and the ways in which they fail to satisfy us, and many of his tales of the experience of the elderly had me reaching for the phone to call my grandmother. His style lends itself well to finding something real and evocative about these awesome, universal and terrifying human experiences, letting you feel it and leaving it at that. He doesn’t try to say too much about the unspeakable.
(Speaking of which, I was struck in reading it with this thought: ALL writing is fundamentally about human mortality on some level, isn’t it? It’s about a story that deserves to be remembered after you die and it would be obliterated if it only existed in your mind.)
His stories about romantic relationships are not necessarily his strongest, but I was really struck by the concept of “the country of us,” a special place only the two of you have passports to and are natives of and speak the language of and know the culture, that you only two understand. I’m sure that’s an idea that’s going to be knocking around in my head for a long time. That being said, perhaps my favorite story in the collection was “Herb and Rosalie Swanson at the Cocoanut Grove,” one of the longer entries which spins the tale of a white lie by a couple looking for an interesting dinner party story that gets out of hand, a white lie that leads Herb Swanson to be shaken by his wife’s commitment to it and raises the question of how hard it is to really know one’s spouse even after years building a life together – somewhat the opposite of this concept.
Another favorite was the final story in the collection, “Shhhhhh, Arthur’s Studying,” one of multiple musings on brotherly relationships, but more importantly something that finds a harsh emotional truth about the anguish and frustration of the doubter in the face of the steady, shining-eyed believer. This area – the competition of doubt and belief, the threat to your sense of self you face when you lose your convictions, the challenges of feeling that you’ve failed to live up to your principles and the centrality of belief to giving your life purpose – is one that clearly troubles and intrigues Orner, and many of his best lines come from the stories where he digs into it: “What good was believing? And yet the alternative was not having faith in his fellow men, and isn’t this another way of dying?”
Orner, like me, is also interested in politics and in political figures, and one theme that crops up in multiple stories is examining politicians not as the purely political creatures we tend to see them as but as the real human beings they are. He crafts some wonderful little moments in these stories, describing Harold Washington running against Gabriel for Archangel in heaven and a pretty chilling imagined trip inside Teddy Kennedy’s head at Chappaquiddick as he decides at a critical moment that he can’t live up to what’s expected of him as a Kennedy and a hero. I thought he did a good job finding the small pieces hidden within the grand stories of political drama. (He does the same for other historical figures ranging from Mary Todd Lincoln to Isaac Babel to Nathan Leopold, to varying degrees of success. There are some striking images from Mary Todd Lincoln’s story and it led me down a fascinating research rabbit hole about her life after having lost three sons and her husband. His description of Isaac Babel’s last moments was simply blindingly sad. There is a profound sadness and loneliness and isolation that pervades many of these stories, in fact – not a collection you want to dig into on a hard night. “Waldheim” is devastating, and the title story is a gut punch it takes you a while to see coming.)
I think a more patient and careful reader would have gotten more out of Orner’s stories than I did. The brevity of each entry puts a lot of pressure on every word to accomplish the story’s goals, and I often felt that he hadn’t quite gotten there – that what we were left with was something that had the tone of literary seriousness without actually saying all that much. In some of them Orner was just more interested in conveying an image or a feeling than a meaning or an insight, but there were a number that simply didn’t work on any level for me, which left me frequently frustrated and feeling like I was missing something. But this might be my failure more than Peter Orner’s. (I also find myself a lot more invested in some of these stories in thinking about them to write this, which is probably a major point in his favor.)
Not a book you should necessarily buy, but maybe worth picking up at a trip to the library to hit the high points.