How to Succeed with People: Remarkably easy ways to engage, influence and motivate almost anyone

by Paul McGee

21 easy ways to gain more confidence with and get the most out of dealing with other peopleSelf-confidence is indispensable to success in all areas of life. And, as author Paul McGee shows in this fun, fast-paced guide, an indispensable prerequisite to improving self-confidence is improving your ability to talk to people--all people, in every situation. In "How to Succeed with People," McGee arms you with twenty-one simple, proven methods for quickly building your communication muscle. Packed with priceless insights, expert advice and skill-building exercises, it gets you quickly up and running with the skills you need to communicate effectively with bosses, team members, customers, family, friends, neighbors . . . even complete strangers. Features a down-to-earth, approachable style brimming with Paul McGee's trademark wit and good humourFills you in on the reasons why people behave the way they do in different situations and how to use that knowledge to improve your ability to deal with anybody, anywhere, anytimeOrganized around common scenarios depicting situations in which better communication could have led to more positive outcomesCovers communications in an array of contexts, including work, home and community, team leading, networking, conflicts and negotiations, classrooms and seminars and many more

Genres: Nonfiction, Business, Self Help, Psychology, Communication

216 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 2013

About the author

Paul McGee is one of the UK’s leading authors and speakers on the subject of change, workplace relationships and motivation. His book 'SUMO' (Shut Up, Move On) became an instant best seller and 'Self Confidence' reached number one in the WHSmith’s business book chart and remained there for a further 24 weeks. He has appeared on BBC Breakfast television and is a regular contributor on BBC Radio.
Building on his background in psychology, Paul’s aim is to deliver a practical, relevant message that he hopes can make an immediate impact on people’s professional and personal lives.
Paul has written eleven books, and is in the process of writing number twelve, and co-writing thirteen (a children's book). He has spoken at over 1,000 organisations in 41 countries to date, and from Todmorden to Tehran and from Bradford to Brisbane, Paul also has created a schools pack, with resources and literature to link SUMO principles with the PHSE curriculum.

Reviews

[jaroiva · Rating 3 out of 5]

V rámci motivační literatury bych hodnotila jako dobrý standard. Některé myšlenky/poučky jsou skutečně dobré k zamyšlení a k zanesení do vlastního života.
Za všechny rady bych citovala jednu:
"Neúspěch není konečný stav, pokud jste to sami nevzdali."

[Sarah · Rating 3 out of 5]

Some useful concepts in this book and some that are covered in multiple books in this genre.

[Alex Willow · Rating 4 out of 5]

Книга вне всяких сомнений полезная: много остроумных наблюдений и эффективных рекомендаций. При этом она совершенно не перегружена.
Как общаться с людьми? На что обращать внимание в первую очередь? Как выстраивать отношения? Эти и многие другие вопросы разобраны Макги в очень доступной и дружелюбной манере.
Есть и минусы, конечно. Главным я бы назвал конспективность. Многое дано тезисно, подчас поверхностно, без должной глубины. Впрочем, это популярная книга, требовать от неё слишком многого не следует. Короче, если у вас есть свободный вечер и вы хотите почитать что-то "полезное", то она идеально подойдёт.

[Zahida Zahoor · Rating 1 out of 5]

A book containing some common sense advice. Invest time into relationships and focusing on the other person’s needs. Following the formula: serve, personalise, encourage, courtesy, interest, appreciation and listen (SPECIAL), as a general guide.
I found the book patronising in places, assuming that most people don’t finish reading books or apply what they are reading about. Also, there was the blatant use of up-selling in the book, with a number of references to his past and future books.
Snippets of the book were useful, including reminders that we revive the behaviour we are willing to tolerate and to focus both on facts and feelings when communication.

[Oleksandr · Rating 5 out of 5]

Succeeding with people

Great book on succeeding with people. I have implemented many of the tricks and tips into my work life and I can say it really works. Dealing with people is not easy but remembering that we all want to feel valued, we talk mostly about ourselves and becoming genuinely interested in other people's interest has a gigantic power.

[Deristya Handoko · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book give me good advice and new perspective about kindness. The kindness of something good to people not always must be soft and sweet. Rather that, it can be something different from it. This book realized me that you shouldn't overthink about the reply of your kindness to someone. Not every single of it can you get right now after that. But the important one is you get some flex to doing something good to everyone. Less expectation is the key to facing people that can't be changed by you if they won't. I only can affect them :D

I read this book in Bahasa and it's available with the yellow cover

[Karen Broughton · Rating 3 out of 5]

I am a huge fan of paul mcghee, taken on board the whole SUMO philosophy. I found this one a little repetitive, its definitely more aimed at working relationships, which to be fair it does state that on the back cover. There was a few nuggets of gold in there but not sure i will revisit this one, whereas the others i will.

[Sean Flatley · Rating 5 out of 5]

A great reference book to read yearly

I am a massive fan of Paul McGee and have all his book from his first of SUMO. As always I can never be bored of them as I am always rereading them yearly to refresh my memory when dealing with clients.
But definitely a recommended read and to have.
Keep up the amazing word.
Best wishes Sean

[Sio · Rating 4 out of 5]

What I really enjoyed about this one was the easy structure and the language use. However, while some of the concepts are new, others are things most people, I hope, are doing without realising. A good thing that comes out of this book is that some of these techniques the author calls out, while you also learn new ones or how to rely on your current pallet.

[Andrii Bas · Rating 4 out of 5]

For everyone who wants to build successful relationships with people. Relationships are like finances: no investments, no returns.

[Amit · Rating 4 out of 5]

Much better then the very simple and classic how in win friends
The books is grounded in practicality and commonsense approach.

[Yulia · Rating 4 out of 5]

Pretty simple advice yet superficial book. I liked it but would prefer to get more details.

[Bouthaïna · Rating 1 out of 5]

Lots of white spaces. Pretty much nothing new...

[Alex Marriott · Rating 2 out of 5]

Extremely basic but pleasant enough

[Andre Widiartanto · Rating 4 out of 5]

Awal baca (dan kira-kira sampai melahap setengah bagian buku) isinya agak jauh di luar harapan. Tetapi menjelang bagian akhir, banyak tips yang membuat saya berpikir: oh iya, bener juga yah.

Harapan saya sebelumnya adalah ada banyak tips-tips seputar manajemen tim dan sejenisnya. Tetapi bahasan di dalamnya cenderung bersifat hubungan perorangan atau, dalam hal kerja tim, hanya tentang berbicara agar diperhatikan secara umum (kurang spesifik). Topik utama yang dibicarakan adalah tentang bagaimana mendengarkan dan berbicara dengan orang, khususnya rekan kerja.

Buku bagus. Dan sesuai dengan wanti-wanti penulisnya di awal buku, buku ini tiada artinya tanpa diikuti dengan ACTION!

[Shay Hafez · Rating 3 out of 5]

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البشر قابلون للتنبؤ وغير قابلين للتنبؤ. بسطاء ومعقدون. من الممكن أن يكونوا لطفاء. ومن الممكن أن يكونوا قتلة. فهم يمنحون الأشياء، وينتزعونها. وهم شفوقون، وقانعون. رائعون، ومروعون. يحبون ويكرهون. يتم تشكيلهم بواسطة ماضيهم، بينما يعيشون في الحاضر.


فبمواجهة مثل هذه القائمة للصفات المتناقضة التي يمتلكها الناس، فإن أفضل شيء يمكننا أن نأمل فيه في التعامل معهم هو بعض الإرشادات المفيدة بالفعل.
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