How to Change Anybody: Proven Techniques to Reshape Anyone's Attitude, Behavior, Feelings, or Beliefs

by David J. Lieberman

Easy, prescriptive advice on how to change anybody from New York Times bestselling author David Lieberman If you've ever wanted to change someone in your life--to make him or her more generous, less angry, more romantic, or less impatient--this is the book for you. With these clear, prescriptive techniques, How to Change Anybody tells you how
- Inspire loyalty
- Eliminate predjudice in anyone
- Turn anyone's mood around fast
- Stop stubborn behavior
- Remake a wallflower into a social butterfly
- Stop passive aggressive behavior
- Turn a lazy bum into an ambitious go-getter These simple tried-and-true techniques truly give you the tools to change anyone!

Genres: Psychology, Nonfiction, Self Help, Business, Personal Development

Audio CD

First published January 1, 2005

About the author

David J. Lieberman, PhD, is a renowned psychotherapist and the author of eleven books, including the New York Times bestsellers Get Anyone to Do Anything and Never Be Lied to Again. He has trained personnel in the U.S. military, the FBI, the CIA, and the NSA, and his instructional video is mandatory for psychological operations graduates.

He teaches government negotiators, mental health professionals, and Fortune 100 executives, and has appeared as a guest on more than 300 television and radio programs, including the Today show, NPR, and The View.

Reviews

[Tamara Minawi · Rating 1 out of 5]

عنوان الكتاب مغري أكثر من مضمونه .. لا أعتقد اني سأنصح به أحد
ولكن لا يخلو كتاب من فائدة كما يقال .. الكتاب يحتوي على تقنيات ونظريات على الورق ويصعب تطبيقها بشكل عملي بالكامل .. فطبائع البشر وأنماط تفكيرهم تختلف وتتفاوت مما يصعب أن تضع استراتيجية محددة للتعامل .. وليست الأمور بهذه البساطة وليس المرء بهذه السذاجة ليصدق كل ما يقال
الا انه لا يمنع من التجربة والمحاولة واستخلاص أفضل التقنيات للحصول على افضل النتائج ..
عموما لسنا مجبرين على تغيير تصرفات أي أحد .. باستثناء اولئك الذين تجبرنا الحياة على التعامل اليومي معهم فأنا افضل أن نتعلم كيف نتعايش معهم أفضل من محاولة تغييرهم !!
مجرد وجهة نظر :)

[Amir Tesla · Rating 3 out of 5]

I read a book from David Liberman when I was a child and the lessons included have sticked to my mind ever since. So sticky that when I stumble upon the theories and studies regarding the roots of the techniques he advocated, they sparks a delicate joy within me.

AlthoughI might not be a fan of the title per se, I trusted the pleasurable experience I had with his other book and I've got to admit, I found several true gems here.

This is a book on how to affect human behavior in a positive way. If you want to motivate someone to quite a self-destructive habit, help people be on time or even more charitable, there are numerous scientifically-backed techniques, followed by examples to help you bring the good out of your surrounding people.

[Alshayma · Rating 5 out of 5]

لم انته بعد من قراءه الكتاب لكن شدتني فيه الكثير من طرق التفكير الرائعه !! انصح بقراءته

[Cody Sexton · Rating 2 out of 5]

Once upon a time I discovered something very meaningful about books; that even the worst books have something to redeem them. I know that's not very profound but it keeps me going anyway.
David Lieberman has written a book about how to, through simple psychological techniques that prey on our vulnerabilities to be accepted and respected, change a persons, any persons, behavior. Some of the more useful tactics include bringing a persons behavior out into the open. Now anytime he engages in it, he will be proving you right, which his ego won't let him do. Or try giving the person permission to behave as they are behaving. This puts you in control as you are giving them permission to engage in that behavior, at which point you've taken most of the fun out of it for them. 
I can't however seriously recommend this book to anyone, as I'm not entirely sure who this book is even for and most of Mr. Liebermans examples are so generic that it will be hard for people to extrapolate beyond them into other real-world scenarios making the applicability of these techniques questionable as they seem to be only effective on paper and only in the particular scenarios that he provides us.
But in the words of Statler and Waldorf, "Do you know what the best part about this book was?" "No, what?" "IT ENDS!"

[Hossam Elsayed · Rating 5 out of 5]

كتاب ممتاز فى استراتيجيات وإقناع من حولك
ملئ بالتقنيات البسيطة والمؤثرة
ويميزه فى نهاية كل فصل بيذكر ملخص لمحتوى الفصل ويشير للفصول المساعدة الباقية


لكن يعيب الكتاب كثرة التقنيات فبالتالى تحتاج قرائته مراراً و تكرارا

[Bill Zoelle · Rating 1 out of 5]

Much of the advice in this book (at least up until chapter 10) is harmless. It consists mostly of oversimplified tips taken from famous books that have been around for decades. I was looking for great 'in the moment' responses to help navigate disruptive attitudes. The author is able to provide advice that sounds very nurturing and empathic, however, his examples reveal a lack of EQ that does not square with the other advice. It feels almost like how I'd imagine a sociopath to assemble tips and tricks that are perceived to have worked on a surface level but without empathy, the emotional state of the individual with the new desired behavior is not accurately perceived.

The most egregious example of low EQ was the author's advice on how to snap your wife out of her depression. He suggests planning something for her to look forward to. (not terrible) He then offers two suggestions for events to plan. First, a trip. (off to a good start) Next, cosmetic surgery. Yep. It seems like a very rare set of circumstances would need to coalesce for that advice to lead to success. Aside from underestimating the financial means of most readers, I find that advice to be so out of touch with the world I navigate that I stopped reading to prevent myself from accidentally adopting advice that would harm my relationships.

[Rehab · Rating 4 out of 5]

الكتاب يركز في تغيير ذات الأشخاص ممن يهمه أمرك بتغير تصرفات او سلوكيات مزعجة ، يعطي هذه الكتاب عده تقنيات تقدر تستخدمها حتى يتغير تفكير الشخص وتتغير معه الصفة السيئة ولكن الكتاب يدعم التغيير في مصلحه الشخص ذو الطبع السيء وبطريقه جيده ، هذا الكتاب يساعدك في التخلص من علاقاتك السيئة مع الاشخاص الذين تحبهم بتحسين سلوكياتهم اتجاهك وعدم التخلي عنهم.

[Mai · Rating 4 out of 5]

كتاب يحاول تحسين نوعية العلاقات مع الاخرين عن طريق اعطاء طرق للتعامل مع معظم السلوكيات السلبية الشائعة للشخصيات من حولنا كالشخص البخيل أو العنيد ...الخ
أنصح بقراءته، أرى بأن الاستراتيجيات التي وضعها الكاتب منطقية وعقلانية ويمكن تجربتها اذا ماتم مواجهة هكذا شخصيات. أعتقد أننا بحاجة لملخص للاستراتيجيات المذكورة في الكتاب وذلك لكثرتها وصعوبة تذكرها

[Unwisely · Rating 1 out of 5]

I picked this up becuase a friend of a friend and I were talking at a party about my trouble with job interviews. She recommended some books on non-verbal communication, but the library didn't have any of them. This was a book by one of the authors she recommended, so I thought it would have some good tips.

I was wrong. This had the depth of a magazine article - and not, like, Rolling Stone, I'm thinking People here. The tips were either amazingly simplistic or trivial. It also had a generous helping of misogyny. I got maybe 20 pages in and there were several references to young women sleeping around as a Horrible Behavior That Needed Changing and the need to control that. And, really, I can get misogyny from enough sources that I don't need to seek it out.

I couldn't finish this book and if I could give it zero stars I would.

[Earl Pestano · Rating 3 out of 5]

I’m surprised how helpful this book is!

[Heroklesread · Rating 1 out of 5]

This is wrriten by a PhD holder writer but this book tells about how to change human behavior with his own social skills and the people without personality issues
Most of examples he described are so simple, and these people behaviour (in examples) seemed like "normal" who acting like a jerk without mental/personality issues. How a psychiatrist not considered how to deal with people who have NPD, bipolar or ADHD in the book that telling "how to change people", those example issues are useless now, and some of techniques in some chapters tell to feed men ego and ask women to give up easily without find another way, so frustrating

[Ashley · Rating 2 out of 5]

Well, I don't know how much I can trust this advice. It sounds reasonable, but the sources are always "research". Just "research". Maybe there's a citations list in the book version, but then why would anyone leave it out of the audio version? Some parts were rough, or overly simplistic. It did get me thinking about emotional motivations, anyway.

[Dr. Huong N. Sabherwal · Rating 4 out of 5]

Interesting quick read

[Maged M. · Rating 2 out of 5]

عنوان الكتاب مغري بشكل كبير. لكن الكتاب اقل من مستوى التوقعات باختصار الكتاب بيتكلم في ان افضل طريقه لتغير تصرفات اي شخص هي التغيير من تصرفاتك وتعاملك مع هذه التصرفات. لكل فعل رد فعل

[Sean Stephenson · Rating 4 out of 5]

Definitely a rapid fire POP psychology book. While I did receive several valuable insights I found many juvenile, far fetched, and implausible techniques too.

[The_J · Rating 2 out of 5]

Eh, maybe.

[L.B. Holding · Rating 1 out of 5]

Trust me. The only way to change the way you think about anybody is to change yourself. This was possibly the biggest waste of my reading life.

[Joseph Young · Rating 2 out of 5]

A well intentioned book.

I read this book hoping to be able to change myself. Unfortunately, the people this book hopes to change are people with much more serious problems, eg gambling, cheating, smoking, whoring, bullying, etc. Some of the advice could work based on the situation; however other advice is quite manipulative or naive.

I have always found honesty (and impartiality) to be the best way to deal with problems; passive-aggressive bs rarely works unless you're dealing with someone who probably would have responded even better if you had been honest with them, in a truly non-judgemental way. The one trick I did find funny and perhaps useful was the superiority complex way of dealing with people who put you down.

Much of the advice requires background attitude which isn't really explained very well in the book. For example, if you pour out your milk for a bully, they'll probably laugh at how well trained they have you. Also, a lot of the advice will result in bad kick-back from people with strong opinions who can detect manipulative bs.

Perhaps I come from a lucky background, and have continued to make my luck, but I feel like most of the problems either can be solved more simply, or aren't necessarily possible or worthwhile to solve.

Unless you have someone who you can't get rid of who has a serious problem, this book isn't worth your time.

[Sandra Sopian · Rating 4 out of 5]

Serial kedua dari penulis yang sama, David J. Lieberman. sebetulnya hampir sama dengan buku sebelumnya yang berjudul "Agar siapa saja mau melakukan apa saja untuk anda", tetapi di buku ini, David lebih menekankan pada upaya-upaya untuk tindakan afektif dari setiap kata-kata kita yang akan berpengaruh langsung terhadap kebiasaannya. secara tidak langsung, buku ini mengajarkan bagaimana memainkan perasaan orang lain, dan pada titik tertentu, diarahkan agar ia bisa melawan dorongan dari kebiasaan buruknya. sangat ilmiah!

[Sam · Rating 2 out of 5]

This book isn't what the title would cause one to believe. It has a few good insights. The good ones I would have liked more depth into. Others I found manipulative even in the name of positive improvement.

[Cjoy Nash · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great Book!!! Easy to read, and understand. I used this book during my son's teenage years (he's 22), it was my 'bathroom' book. Little did I know he was reading it too. Let's just say, he still uses some of the methods to this day.

[Arie K.]

Haven't read it yet..

[edypekalongan · Rating 3 out of 5]

this book give me lesson how to understanding another people.
and give me inspiration to make postive action to change anybody.
thank you.

[Tom · Rating 4 out of 5]

A short book that contains a bare minimum of filler and focuses instead on actionable steps.

[Rahmani Yasinna · Rating 2 out of 5]

Isi dari buku ini kurang membantu & tidak sesuai seperti yang diharapkan dari judulnya

[REPINEMON]

Walaupun belum selesai dibaca seluruh. Bagian awal menarik hingga pertengahan jadi susah untuk diserap karena terjemahannya yang kurang tepat.

[Levine · Rating 2 out of 5]

boring -___-

[PsychoSchematics · Rating 4 out of 5]

Just another great book by Lieberman. Check out his other titles for quality, sound guidance.

[Bebe Four · Rating 3 out of 5]

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