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O que te Torna Mais Forte: Como Prosperar Diante das Mudanças e Incertezas Usando a Terapia de Aceitação e Compromisso
Mudanças simplesmente acontecem. Relacionamentos vêm e vão, carreiras deixam de fazer sentido, vidas passam da calmaria ao caos. As mudanças podem ser assustadoras, e tentar evitá-las pode gerar estresse, ansiedade e depressão.
Em O que te torna mais forte, Louise L. Hayes, Joseph V. Ciarrochi e Ann Bailey mostram como aplicar o poderoso modelo de DNA-V, uma mistura potente de terapia de aceitação e compromisso (ACT) e psicologia positiva, para lidar com a incerteza, adotar hábitos mentais saudáveis e reduzir o estresse enfrentando as mudanças e transformando o modo de responder a elas.
Em O que te torna mais forte, Louise L. Hayes, Joseph V. Ciarrochi e Ann Bailey mostram como aplicar o poderoso modelo de DNA-V, uma mistura potente de terapia de aceitação e compromisso (ACT) e psicologia positiva, para lidar com a incerteza, adotar hábitos mentais saudáveis e reduzir o estresse enfrentando as mudanças e transformando o modo de responder a elas.
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Published July 7, 2023
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December 8, 2022
I received an advance reader copy of this book to read in exchange for an honest review via netgalley and the publishers.
What Makes You Stronger is an amazing self help book which uses acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT). This book was created and developed based on a DNA-V system that the authors developed themselves. DNA-V stands for four different core abilities: DISCOVERER, NOTICER, ADVISOR and VALUER. These are explained further within the book but a brief description of each is : Your Discoverer is what helps to push you out of your comfort zone for your advantage in life. Your Noticer is almost like a kind of mindful detector of whats happening in and out of you physically, emotionally etc. Your advisor is the inner voice we all have that helps to keep ourselves safe. And your valuer helps bring energy into your life daily as well as helping you purposefully in positive ways. This book helps you to recognise when one of these roles isn't working well enough for you and then help you to take a proactive approach to help change that. This book was easy to understand and follow and I did find it helpful and useful too. I enjoyed the examples that were shown within the book which were relatable to most of us at times in life and how you could view different perspectives too.
What Makes You Stronger is an amazing self help book which uses acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT). This book was created and developed based on a DNA-V system that the authors developed themselves. DNA-V stands for four different core abilities: DISCOVERER, NOTICER, ADVISOR and VALUER. These are explained further within the book but a brief description of each is : Your Discoverer is what helps to push you out of your comfort zone for your advantage in life. Your Noticer is almost like a kind of mindful detector of whats happening in and out of you physically, emotionally etc. Your advisor is the inner voice we all have that helps to keep ourselves safe. And your valuer helps bring energy into your life daily as well as helping you purposefully in positive ways. This book helps you to recognise when one of these roles isn't working well enough for you and then help you to take a proactive approach to help change that. This book was easy to understand and follow and I did find it helpful and useful too. I enjoyed the examples that were shown within the book which were relatable to most of us at times in life and how you could view different perspectives too.
June 12, 2022
What Makes You Stronger by Louise L. Hayes, Joseph V. Ciarrochi, and Ann Bailey uses an acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) approach to support greater psychological flexibility. The authors write, “This book offers you a radical premise: Trying to control the wrong things brings loss of control. If you try to control how you think and feel, how other people think and feel, or how external events unfold, you’ll lose control. You’ll lose the very life you are trying to protect.”
The authors are critical of the pop psychology messaging that strength comes from positive thinking. They mention a couple of books in particular, saying, “Their core idea is that you can reject uncertainty by creating positive thoughts and convincing yourself you are strong. This gives you the life you want. That concept has failed miserably.” Love it!!!
The book is based on a system called DNA-V that the authors have developed. It identifies four core abilities: Discoverer, Noticer, Advisor, and Valuer. Your Advisor is your inner voice that’s watching out for you and trying to keep you safe. Your Noticer is mindful of what’s going on inside and outside of you. Your Discoverer helps you push out of your comfort zone so you can learn and grow. Your Valuer has two aspects: purposeful actions that are consistent with your values and vitality, which involves bringing energy and engagement into your days.
In the DNA-V system, each of these areas has a purpose, and what matters is being flexible enough to recognize when one role isn’t working well in a particular situation and it’s time to take a different approach. The book explains why trying to resist your advisor doesn’t work very well, instead suggesting that you practice being in charge by taking action based on what matters to you, which allows you to gather new experiences that your advisor can learn from.
Resistance is also identified as a problem when it comes to trying to avoid inner experiences and control how you feel. The authors explain that the effort that goes into this resistance of feelings doesn’t leave you anything left for actually living, and they offer strategies to engage your noticer to let inner experiences flow.
Engaging the discoverer is about taking action even when there’s fear associated with it. The authors write, “Discovery brings curiosity, vitality, and meaning into your life because it opens the doorway to valued living.”
Part 1 of the book covers the DNA-V system, while part 2 looks at ways to build strength within yourself. It addresses topics like vulnerability and compassion, and explains why labelling ourselves can be limiting, even when those labels are positive. Part 3 focuses on building strength in social situations. I quite liked this bit: “Problem solving is one of your advisor’s most powerful abilities, but in your relationships, it’s the action that’s likely to get you in trouble. People hate being solved.” Amen to that!
While I was already familiar with ACT, the DNA-V system was new to me. It seems like a very balanced approach, and I like that the emphasis is on what’s workable in a particular situation. I liked that the authors offer personal examples of things they’ve struggled with, using the DNA-V model to explore ways to handle those challenges. I also liked that they acknowledge that the strategies they’re suggesting can be difficult at first and may take a lot of practice, such as trying to be more self-compassionate when you’ve got a loud, harsh advisor. Chapter summaries are always helpful, and each chapter in this book ends with a clear visual summary of the key strategies covered to help you find balance between extremes (e.g. trying to please everyone vs. being totally closed off to others).
I quite liked this book. In terms of the target audience, it’s not focused on mental illness or any particular mental health issue, and while sometimes a lack of focus can be a bad thing, I think the DNA-V system applies broadly enough that this book could be useful for anyone who’s feeling like they’re just not where they want to be in their life. The book doesn’t throw a lot of research results at the reader, but the concepts are very grounded in science, and I like the rejection of the ideas that you should control your feelings and always be positive. Overall, I thought it felt quite empowering and was very well done.
I received a reviewer copy from the publisher through Netgalley.
The authors are critical of the pop psychology messaging that strength comes from positive thinking. They mention a couple of books in particular, saying, “Their core idea is that you can reject uncertainty by creating positive thoughts and convincing yourself you are strong. This gives you the life you want. That concept has failed miserably.” Love it!!!
The book is based on a system called DNA-V that the authors have developed. It identifies four core abilities: Discoverer, Noticer, Advisor, and Valuer. Your Advisor is your inner voice that’s watching out for you and trying to keep you safe. Your Noticer is mindful of what’s going on inside and outside of you. Your Discoverer helps you push out of your comfort zone so you can learn and grow. Your Valuer has two aspects: purposeful actions that are consistent with your values and vitality, which involves bringing energy and engagement into your days.
In the DNA-V system, each of these areas has a purpose, and what matters is being flexible enough to recognize when one role isn’t working well in a particular situation and it’s time to take a different approach. The book explains why trying to resist your advisor doesn’t work very well, instead suggesting that you practice being in charge by taking action based on what matters to you, which allows you to gather new experiences that your advisor can learn from.
Resistance is also identified as a problem when it comes to trying to avoid inner experiences and control how you feel. The authors explain that the effort that goes into this resistance of feelings doesn’t leave you anything left for actually living, and they offer strategies to engage your noticer to let inner experiences flow.
Engaging the discoverer is about taking action even when there’s fear associated with it. The authors write, “Discovery brings curiosity, vitality, and meaning into your life because it opens the doorway to valued living.”
Part 1 of the book covers the DNA-V system, while part 2 looks at ways to build strength within yourself. It addresses topics like vulnerability and compassion, and explains why labelling ourselves can be limiting, even when those labels are positive. Part 3 focuses on building strength in social situations. I quite liked this bit: “Problem solving is one of your advisor’s most powerful abilities, but in your relationships, it’s the action that’s likely to get you in trouble. People hate being solved.” Amen to that!
While I was already familiar with ACT, the DNA-V system was new to me. It seems like a very balanced approach, and I like that the emphasis is on what’s workable in a particular situation. I liked that the authors offer personal examples of things they’ve struggled with, using the DNA-V model to explore ways to handle those challenges. I also liked that they acknowledge that the strategies they’re suggesting can be difficult at first and may take a lot of practice, such as trying to be more self-compassionate when you’ve got a loud, harsh advisor. Chapter summaries are always helpful, and each chapter in this book ends with a clear visual summary of the key strategies covered to help you find balance between extremes (e.g. trying to please everyone vs. being totally closed off to others).
I quite liked this book. In terms of the target audience, it’s not focused on mental illness or any particular mental health issue, and while sometimes a lack of focus can be a bad thing, I think the DNA-V system applies broadly enough that this book could be useful for anyone who’s feeling like they’re just not where they want to be in their life. The book doesn’t throw a lot of research results at the reader, but the concepts are very grounded in science, and I like the rejection of the ideas that you should control your feelings and always be positive. Overall, I thought it felt quite empowering and was very well done.
I received a reviewer copy from the publisher through Netgalley.
July 17, 2022
This book deserves five stars because of these five following reasons, i could actually name much more but only 5 stars are offered to me. So here are five reasons Why you should read this book:
1. It is written with understanding and vulnerability to the particular topic.
2. It shows real life examples me, you or anyone else can relate to and apply its problematics to everyday life.
3. It is filled with wonderful yet not disturbing illustrations.
4. It shows you different perspectives on different matters and openly nonradically shows you How to apply them.
5. It opens you a Gate to ACT world.
1. It is written with understanding and vulnerability to the particular topic.
2. It shows real life examples me, you or anyone else can relate to and apply its problematics to everyday life.
3. It is filled with wonderful yet not disturbing illustrations.
4. It shows you different perspectives on different matters and openly nonradically shows you How to apply them.
5. It opens you a Gate to ACT world.
September 4, 2025
Muito bom, fiquei chocada com como ele realmente é útil, não julga o leitor por seus hábitos e não se deixa cair na bobajada dos autoajudas convencionais
January 2, 2023
DNA-v model, acceptance and commitment therapy - both new ideas for me. Short and clear, practical.
December 14, 2022
I have been struggling in a stressful situation for a long time. Conventional talk therapy has done little to allevaite my feelings. For the first time, I found the answers in this book. Traditional therapy addresses my childhood wounds and hence trigger. But what this book has showed me is a way to move forward.
February 19, 2023
Acceptance & Commitment Therapy is a relatively new approach to psychotherapy, one that I have recently spent a lot of time studying. What appeals to most is that ACT acknowledges what's wrong, You don't try to fix everything you become better equipped to deal with the ups and downs that are a fact of life.
The authors DNA-v model is new to me but it is easy to follow, and if you put the work in then you can expect how you view and interact with the world to change. It helps you to stay present and move forward in life.
I received an arc of this book via NetGalley in exchange for an honest review. All thoughts and opinions are my own.
The authors DNA-v model is new to me but it is easy to follow, and if you put the work in then you can expect how you view and interact with the world to change. It helps you to stay present and move forward in life.
I received an arc of this book via NetGalley in exchange for an honest review. All thoughts and opinions are my own.
September 2, 2024
Helpful tips! Really admired the four components of yeh at you are in control of: your discoverer (trying something new), advisor (guidance of what’s right or wrong), noticer (your presence inside and outside), and valuer (your values). The world is ever changing but I enjoyed that the book gave some advice to give yourself some grace and try different strategies.
October 20, 2024
Um livro que mexeu demais nas coisinhas aqui dentro. Ainda que “acadêmico”, mas bem além. Não precisa estar na psicologia de alguma forma pra ter um encontro feliz com ele. Muito menos ser focado no comportamentalismo. Descobri feliz a ACT por esse livro. Foi um encontro que ainda está sendo…
October 19, 2024
Some very interesting insight!
December 17, 2023
Pre review
Minha psicóloga me recomendou (tanto para me auxiliar na terapia, como também me auxiliar na minha própria profissão de: psicóloga). Estou lendo ele bem devagar, além ser um não ficção, está sendo absolutamente contribuidor para minha auto declarada "busca iluminada" (meu deus, to parecendo coach), o livro está ajudando demais a ser introspectivo e de literalmente ir atrás da minha melhor vida :•)
Sou da TCC clássica, mas me vejo completamente apaixonada pela ACT
Minha psicóloga me recomendou (tanto para me auxiliar na terapia, como também me auxiliar na minha própria profissão de: psicóloga). Estou lendo ele bem devagar, além ser um não ficção, está sendo absolutamente contribuidor para minha auto declarada "busca iluminada" (meu deus, to parecendo coach), o livro está ajudando demais a ser introspectivo e de literalmente ir atrás da minha melhor vida :•)
Sou da TCC clássica, mas me vejo completamente apaixonada pela ACT
May 10, 2024
Meu livro preferido de “auto ajuda”. O autor explica vários conceitos da terapia de aceitação e compromisso de uma forma muito descomplicada e que consegue atingir todos os públicos.
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