10 Consejos Basicos Para El Hombre Gay

by Joe Kort (Original Author)

Openly gay therapist Joe Kort provides 10 powerful and positive steps gay men can take to isolate and overcome self-defeating behavior patterns, and move in healthier and more rewarding directions:

Take Charge of Their Own Lives
Affirm Themselves by Coming Out
Resolve Differences With Parents and Relatives
"Graduate" From Delayed Adolescence
Avoid-or Overcome-Sexual Addiction
-Learn from Successful Mentors Who've Been There, Done That
Take Advantage of "Therapy Workouts"
Achieve-and Maintain-Rewarding Relationships
Understand the Stages of Loves
Commit to Their Partner

These solid and reliable "Top 10" life steps that have been most helpful to Joe Kort's clients in his 16 years of working with hundreds of gay men, are presented in an engaging and easy-to-understand manner and are supplemented by case histories from his practice. These are time-tested, practical decisions gay men can make in their search for emotional, sexual and personal fulfillment.

Joe Kort, MA, MSW, ACSW, is a psychotherapist in private practice in Detroit. In addition, he is certified as an Imago therapist and leads two biannual workshop retreats, For Gay Men: The Retreat of a Lifetime, which helps gay men recover from being a stigmatized population, and Getting the Love You Want Couples' Weekend, which helps couples communicate more effectively. He is a member of the National Association of Social Workers, the Institute for Imago Relationship Therapy and the National Council on Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity. His writings on gay and lesbian issues appear regularly in Between the Lines newspaper and the Detroit Free Press.

Genres: LGBT, Nonfiction, Gay, Self Help, Queer, Relationships

245 pages, Paperback

First published August 1, 2003

Reviews

[Stephen · Rating 3 out of 5]

Some interesting ideas. It provides some food for thought, although it does feel like a big book-length ad for Imago relationship therapy.

[Tucker · Rating 3 out of 5]

Men who are putting up with other people's cluelessness and rudeness about their gayness or who haven't yet come out at all, or who are having sex in disordered manners or excessive amounts or not at all, might find this book a gentle cradle in which to say: "Oh."

[JaYson · Rating 3 out of 5]

This book might not be for straight men or women. Just kidding. I always love to know about smart things gay men can do to improve their lives. I enjoyed this book and think it should be part of a welcoming kit for newly out gays. I think that all of the community can take away something from the 10 smart things, I know I did.

[M.R. Cullen · Rating 3 out of 5]

First off this is a very easy to understand book and the 10 smart things in the title are pretty much commonsense. If I'd come across this book 20-years ago before I came out I think it would have been much more beneficial. As it stands there wasn't anything in it I didn't already know, but it's good to refresh your thinking from time to time.

[Kirk · Rating 5 out of 5]

WONDERFUL!!!!! This is a MUST READ for everyone!!! Gay, straight, or curious!

[John · Rating 4 out of 5]

A good read

Definitely gave a different view of things, I'd recommend this book to anyone who's either recently come out, experiencing troubles in a relationship or wants a relationship as it gives a different perspective

[Julian · Rating 4 out of 5]

educational and practical

A good read, quite informative and useful to use in our lives. Recommend to every gay man in formation of any age.

[Tim]

An excellent book! Kort discusses all the big and small ways we're affected by homophobia and how it can leave parts of our personalities shut down and how to reassert our inner kings, warriors, lovers, and magicians. He also illustrates the main stages of adult relationships, what to expect and how to work through them. He explains that after the first bloom of euhporia wears off there is a power struggle, but if you're willing to work through that and face your own issues then you can fully enjoy an adult romantic relationship. Kort advises that it's in a relationship that we're held accountable and presented with the issues we need to work on and it's relationships that provide the best opportunity to grow as a person. So much for my recent desire to sit on the sidelines.
He also makes the observation that each of us is at the same level of evolution as those we date. As much of a wound this is to my pride I have to agree that, intellectually, it makes sense. No more taking comfort in feeling superior to all those immature ex's. Let's have a big Homer Simpson “D’oh” on that one!

[Edmund Chew · Rating 4 out of 5]

The first time I've read a psychotherapy book.
Utterly amazing. Numerous times i exclaimed, "hey, this book is about me!"
It helped so much, learning about 'Internal homophobia', covert cultural abuse, cognitive behaviour therapy, etc..
Each new realization automatically brought with it changes in life!

[Neil L]

So far I have learned, with the help of my councelor, that I am the one who needs to be readied and when I am (and probably not looking) Mr. Right will come along and 'find' me. The councel is that people find each other when they are not looking.....but probbly ready for it.

[Herman brown · Rating 5 out of 5]

informative.

[Keita Ito · Rating 5 out of 5]

Even if you are already in a relationship there is still information in here to apply.

[Scott · Rating 4 out of 5]

Great points about stages of relationships.