What Makes a Man Feel Loved: Understanding What Your Husband Really Wants

by Bob Barnes

Bob Barnes, bestselling author and devoted husband to author Emilie Barnes, helps wives discover what men think about priorities, desires, and life in his popular book (more than 85,000 copies sold)--now with a new cover. Drawing from his experience and the experiences of men he has ministered to over the years, Bob reveals: why differences between men and women enrich marriage how a wife can fulfill the desires of her mate the importance of practicing spiritual submission how to affirm a husband's spiritual leadership Bob's biblical "Love in Action" suggestions and principles remind a woman that her support builds a man's sense of being loved and creates a foundation for a lasting relationship.

Genres: Marriage, Relationships, Christian, Nonfiction

240 pages, Kindle Edition

First published February 1, 1998

About the author

Dr. Bob Barnes is the executive director of Sheridan House Family Ministries and author of several books including Who’s in Charge Here?, Single Parenting, Raising Confident Kids, and co-author with his wife, Rosemary, of Rock-Solid Marriage, We Need to Talk, and Great Sexpectations. He speaks at numerous conferences, writes a weekly newspaper column on the family, and hosts the weekly radio program, "Family Time Radio." Bob Barnes lives in Ft. Lauderdale, Florida, with his wife, Rosemary, and two children

Reviews

[PastaSauceVampire · Rating 1 out of 5]

UTTER BULLSHIT. The author literally asks women to stop being highly accomplished and go back to being the typical housewife and take care of their husband and children. Like what the fuck?? He says having a high paying job and also being a mother at the same time is "impossible goals that society has put on women" like come on shut the fuck up already. Having a job and being a mother is "IMPOSSIBLE EXPECTATIONS OF SOCIETY"???? Men sure know how to gaslight women. He says society is lying to women that they can be highly accomplished and be good mothers.

"Women can't have it all and many women are leaving their high end jobs and returning to the comfort of their home and taking responsibility of their husband and children". Are you kidding me?? From where do men like these get the audacity?

YOU ARE A MORON and a waste of oxygen BOB. It's not fckng 1800s anymore. Let women do whatever the hell they want to do. If you cannot love a woman for what she is and have unrealistic expectations that she is going to leave her job and wash the dishes and make you a sandwich 24/7, maybe you're not the man for her and maybe.. just maybe you need to ROT. IN HELL.

Also, a very important suggestion. How about you shove this book up your a$$hole BOB??? Maybe you'll find unexpected "comfort" in it.

[Brenda Griswold · Rating 5 out of 5]

I loved this book. It helped me to realize that my job given to me by God was to love my husband for who he was. I need to read it more often to remind myself this. This book can anger some wives, but it is very freeing in reality.

[Karen · Rating 5 out of 5]

I try to read this book again yearly just as a reminder.

[Okimiji Patricia · Rating 5 out of 5]

I love this book, although am not married yet but I know how to go about things when I do, I will keep reading it to get use to it

[RKF · Rating 4 out of 5]

Okay so in the beginning of the book, I didn't like it. Not even close because I thought Bob had a stereotypical mindset when it comes to women's roles and relationships. And relating everything to religion was rather....not everyone can relate to it. At one point , I thought I was reading spiritual religious guidance and not the book I was supposed to be reading. After half a book , well that's an exaggeration , but after like 1/4 of the book came the actual answer to the question on the cover of the book . The book is a reminder of the things you already know but you've forgotten, with extra opinions by Bob. It isn't THAT Good but I'm sure it'll help the women who are not aware of the basics or are narcissists.

[Michelle · Rating 5 out of 5]

Loved this book! It gave great practical advice!

[Irene · Rating 4 out of 5]

This was a refreshing addition to my library of marriage books. I think part of the reason it was refreshing is because it's primarily written from a man's perspective - who better to know what makes a man feel loved than a man, right? Mr. Barnes was able to deliver his key points with gentle strength and authority (in contrast to a lot of the marriage books I've read where I feel like I've been punched in the gut). I was really able to slow down with this book, chewing on each bit of information and incorporating his recommended ideas into my daily walk with God. The concepts he presents in this book are in opposition of what the world says about how women should be (thank God!). It's serves as a great reminder that embracing our God-designed femininity doesn't mean being weak or being a doormat. I don't have to strive to have or be everything; instead I can embrace the fact that God's design for me is enough and God is everything. I recommend this to any married or engaged woman as well as their spouses (husbands can benefit from a Mr. Barnes' perspective on what to expect and strive for in a God-centered marriage).

[Regina Bennett · Rating 4 out of 5]

THIS book...Hallelujah! What a blessing it has been in my life! Written by a Christian man, he explains how let our husbands know that we do love them and need them...and it's something that I *really* needed a manual for!! It makes me think of "men are from mars, women are from venus" in that it let me know how men actually think and how to speak their "language". Of course, all men are different....but this book is definitely inspiring.

[Heather · Rating 4 out of 5]

A lot of this was already covered in books his wife Emilie wrote, but there is still some great stuff in here. Mostly reminders of things we should know, but forget to remember. :-) I think how much you get out of this book depends on where you are at in your life. Some years it may be a huge impact making book, others it may just be that reminder of things you know.

[Michelle Murray · Rating 3 out of 5]

I think it's good. It is geared at the wife and you have to remember that when reading it. It has some good insights and has given me at least one more book I'd like to read. I only have 2 chapters left and over all satisfied with the content. Having read love and respect this book makes sense. On it's own.... It might be lacking.... But can definitely learn from it either way.

[Mariana]

I only made it halfway through.

[Zainab Suleiman · Rating 4 out of 5]

the book is great, the chapter's I have read tells that women should allow themselves to be women. I recommend you read

[Ugo · Rating 5 out of 5]

Beautiful