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Heirs Together
Heirs Together applies the biblical principle of mutual submission to marriage today. The author examines biblical passages traditionally used to support hierarchical marriage and shows how they have been misused. She then shows how applying the equalizing principle of mutual submission can provide a basis for solving problems, dividing responsibility, child care, etc.--practical, no-nonsense advice. The book is widely used by pastors and counselors, and as a college text. Readable and positive in tone.
- GenresMarriage
200 pages, Paperback
First published December 23, 1999
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June 30, 2020
Re-read in preparation for officiating my friends marriage. Practical yet well researched argument for mutual submission in marriage. I do not understand why anyone has an hierarchical marriage- it makes no sense.
My go-to Rec for a “marriage book” because the practical viewpoint and advice it provides as a couple approaches or establishes their marriage relationship.
My go-to Rec for a “marriage book” because the practical viewpoint and advice it provides as a couple approaches or establishes their marriage relationship.
August 19, 2023
An absolutely hilarious cover and name that makes it seem more cliche than the reality. All I have to say is TAKE THAT Meaning of Marriage (kidding bc I haven’t read and I’m sure there are valuable parts). This book highlights the importance of equality and mutual submission in marriage rather than the hierarchy of complimentary relationships. SO important and feels so obvious that marriage is relationship and not institution and rules but sadly has to be debunked. Encouraged at the idea that we get to create our marriage in a way that highlights our full selves
QOTB: For every woman who is tired of acting weak when she
knows she is strong,
there is a man who is tired of appearing strong when he feels vulnerable;
For every woman who is tired of acting dumb, there is a man who is burdened with the constant
expectation of "knowing everything"
For every woman who is tired of being called
"an emotional female,
there is a man who is denied the right to weep and to be gentle;
For every woman who is called unfeminine when she
competes,
there is a man for whom competition is the only way to prove his masculinity;…
QOTB: For every woman who is tired of acting weak when she
knows she is strong,
there is a man who is tired of appearing strong when he feels vulnerable;
For every woman who is tired of acting dumb, there is a man who is burdened with the constant
expectation of "knowing everything"
For every woman who is tired of being called
"an emotional female,
there is a man who is denied the right to weep and to be gentle;
For every woman who is called unfeminine when she
competes,
there is a man for whom competition is the only way to prove his masculinity;…
October 6, 2020
The author of this book made the full text available on the website www.heirstogether.com, which I really appreciated. Our library didn’t have it, so I read it online.
I had a bit of a hard time getting into the first few chapters, but felt like chapters 4-8 were great and well worth reading the book for. They give a great explanation of the historical reasons why certain marriage roles ended up being called traditional and biblical, as well as the biblical case for mutual submission and marriage equality. It’s not a long or incredibly deep book but a good introduction to the topic.
I had a bit of a hard time getting into the first few chapters, but felt like chapters 4-8 were great and well worth reading the book for. They give a great explanation of the historical reasons why certain marriage roles ended up being called traditional and biblical, as well as the biblical case for mutual submission and marriage equality. It’s not a long or incredibly deep book but a good introduction to the topic.
August 24, 2023
Excellent book for equality, mutuality, overall enjoyment of the the opposite partner. Dissects the biblical texts that often times shoves persons in a marriage into unhealthy boxes they were never intended to fill. Greeks, Romans, and early Jewish communities were bad! Men were evil! Patriarchy was rampant in early centuries! Understood in this context, biblical writers were looking at the extreme evils that sexuality or roles that were taking place. Things change.
(4 stars because idk, something WAS missing, but this was my first in a relationship book so idk)
(4 stars because idk, something WAS missing, but this was my first in a relationship book so idk)
June 8, 2022
So I picked this up from Ruth Tucker's recommendation after I re read Black and White Bible, Black and Blue Wife. This was printed in 1980. I wish I had read it sooner. It would not have changed my marriage as my ex is a sociopath but this would have revealed it sooner and reading it now has encouraged me and made me more comfortable in my own skin
February 26, 2008
This is an excellent book that teaches the Biblical way for marriage. It began an incredible journey for us of a new level of oneness in our marital union -- living as husband and wife who submit to one another as we submit to Christ. We owe a great deal to Patricia Gundry. I highly recommend this book for all!
October 5, 2014
I read this back during my seminary days -- as I was beginning my own marriage. Pat Gundry offered a most helpful message of mutuality to the evangelical community. As I understand it, not everyone agreed, but it was influential for many -- women and men.
January 25, 2008
I learned a great perspective on marriage and what the bible says about how we should love eachother
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