Cinderella Was a Liar: The Real Reason You Can’t Find (or Keep) a Prince

by Brenda Della Casa

Rewrite your romantic reality and create your own

Happily Ever After





Any woman who’s kissed her share of toads will relate

to this wise and witty guide to modern love. Written

by a casting producer for television’s most popular dating

shows, Cinderella Was a Liar explodes the fairy-tale myths that make you miserable--while offering real-world insights that actually make sense. Author Brenda Della Casa interviewed close to 1,000 guys to get the real facts behind the fairy tale and find out what works, what doesn’t, and what will send a man running to Never-Never Land. Armed with that knowledge, you will finally discover why your supposed Prince Charming isn’t into you and how to find the love you deserve.





Features get-real strategies for the NOT-SO-fairytale world of modern romance,







The Twelve Sisters No Prince Wants to Date

The Toads You Need to Cut Loose Right Now!

The Lies We Speak Into the Mirror

One Night Stands...and Other Bad Potions

Guaranteed Ways to Send Him Far, Far Away

And Other Royal Dilemmas!

Genres: Self Help, Nonfiction

256 pages, Hardcover

First published December 20, 2006

About the author

Brenda Della Casa is the internationally-published author of Cinderella Was a Liar, the Managing Editor of I Am Staggered USA, LLC, a blogger for The Huffington Post and the Director of Online Content and community for Preston Bailey Designs.

In addition to her career as a writer, Brenda served as a casting professional for dozens of well-known reality shows (The Bachelor, The Bachelorette, Rock of Love, Hell’s Kitchen, Flavor of Love, elimiDate, The 5th Wheel, Perfect Match and others).

Reviews

[Kim · Rating 2 out of 5]

I picked this book up because my sister had read it and the title grabbed my attention. The author is very witty and charming but there is quite a bit of language in it that I did not like. Also, with my religious background, the issues in the book did not relate to me in many ways. But there were many quotes that I enjoyed and I had to jot them down.

"Your goal should not be to 'get married' or even to be with someone; it should be to get to know yourself and be happy with who you are and then find someone who will love, respect, appreciate, and cherish you while growing with you as a human being."

"By now, we should know that nothing in this life is guaranteed, and certainly most things worth having are not just given to us. Now, the positive side of this is that we have quite a bit of power over how our lives turn out in that we can choose to work on all of the things that make us unhappy, so that when we do meet the person we want to spend the rest of our life with, we won't bring these things into the relationship and bog it down."

"The fact is, marriage might provide a sense of security in a relationship, but it will not change what lies at the core of each individual."

"The fact is, being married to someone isn't love; being in love with someone is love."

"Every single day is nothing but a blank sheet of paper-a twenty four hour block that offers a fresh opportunity to change the pace, tone, and direction of your life. You decide what your lead character will think, feel, and do. Will she be proactive or reactive" Will she give up or move on? Will she embrace life and take risks or be trapped in her routine? The question is: Will you make sure it is a happy one? Will your story be interesting, or will it be the same thing on every page? Will it be a comedy or a drama?"

"While companionship is a viable need, it is neither your only need nor is it something that will fill in the gaps of the other areas if they are missing. A man will only enhance and reflect what is already there. Your life is a reflection of what you put out, and there are mirrors all around you. The question to ask is: 'Am I happy with what I see?'"

"Education is far sexier that three-inch slippers."

"Your surroundings are a reflection of you and how you feel inside."

"Give your attention to those who give you attention, and your respect to those who respect you."

[Tessa · Rating 2 out of 5]

This is a witty one. Never forgot to tie up the Cinderella language with our modern times. Funny I asked my now ex boyfriend to buy me this as a gift for a friend and it ended up staying on my bookshelves.
I guess each toad is different. I realized as the last one hopped away with a new girl. But this is about the book and not me and sometimes I find truth with what she wrote. Some ladies are just too damn desperate that they would really just go for the guy who is already involved. Let's learn to know ourselves. Not through our partners but with our experiences and who we really are.
Thumbs up! and I will definitely recommend this to my daughter.

[Jena · Rating 1 out of 5]

I found the book much too snarky for my taste. A snarky comment every paragraph? Maybe. But every sentence? Give me a break. Maybe that's the way to go in New York, but it got tiresome quickly. I gave up after Chapter 1 and didn't bother to finish reading it.

[Heidi Arata · Rating 3 out of 5]

This was on a table at a house for a guy friend I cat sit for. Them being a pretty typical Bachelor, it was a surprising find in their space, so I decided to take a peek.

It's a pretty typical daters guide book. It was entertaining and requested that the readers take deeper looks at the impossibly high standards they have for their others and then to reevaluate them on the basis that the ideal is too high and that they themselves are inherently flawed and should do some self work themselves before settling into accepting a more realistic set of ideals in the people they date.

[Alexandra de Leon · Rating 3 out of 5]

Es un lindo e interesante libro que invita a pensar, reflexionar sobre nuestras relaciones y sobre nosotros mismos. Lo que más rescato de este libro, es la forma en la que resalta la importancia de pedir ayuda, de recurrir a otro, en aquellas situaciones en las que uno no sabe como sobrellevar lo que está pasando, nuestra realidad, o lo que estamos sintiendo.

[Hasanah]

this book is sooo weird but at the same time soooo true...lol

[Rachael · Rating 3 out of 5]

Quirky :)
Had fun learning how to snag the "prince"

[June · Rating 4 out of 5]

So,prince charming doesn't exist. :(

[Stephanie Nold · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is a life saver