Finally Getting It Right

by Howard M. Halpern

You're trying to get Mr. or Ms. Wrong out of your system.  You know you deserve better that that old, hurtful love.  But why is Ms. Nice so boring?  Why doesn't Mr. Good Guy turn you on?  Will you ever feel excited and passionate again? Howard M. Halpern's wise, witty, compassionate book tells readers why they feel this way--and how they can find a healthy love without giving up the thrill. From an author whose work has helped thousands, here is balm for everyone burned by love, and a bracing companion for the journey ahead.

Genres: Self Help

272 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 1994

About the author

Howard M. Halpern was an American psychotherapist and author who mainly wrote self-help books about severing or realigning burdensome relationships.

Serving as president of the American Academy of Psychotherapists from 1970 to 1972, Halpern was a therapist for over fifty years. He died of leukemia on Christmas Day, 2011 at the age of 82.

Reviews

[Clara · Rating 4 out of 5]

Un livre qui va me rester longtemps en tête, ça c'est sûr.
Certains passages vers le milieu étaient un peu plus arides, mais sinon ça se lisait vraiment bien. Si le livre m'appartenait, je pense que j'aurais surligné pas mal de passages! J'aime que l'auteur pose des questions au lecteur et nous invite à y réfléchir sérieusement et à écrire nos réponses. Les pistes de solution étaient aussi intéressantes, mais j'aurais parfois aimé en avoir plus. Le fait d'intégrer aux explications des histoires réelles de clients de l'auteur (un psychothérapeute) et de nous montrer leur passage à travers différentes étapes aidait vraiment à comprendre le contenu plus abstrait et théorique et à identifier en nous-mêmes certaines tendances ou comportements similaires. Certes, le livre commence à dater un peu (1994), mais j'ai trouvé qu'il restait très pertinent à lire aujourd'hui. J'ai bien aimé à la fin le court passage sur les gens qui publiaient des annonces pour trouver un partenaire, les prédécesseurs des dating apps!

[Brenda Winkle · Rating 4 out of 5]

A must read for anyone who has endured any kind of abuse and now struggles to find lasting and healthy love.

[Michel · Rating 5 out of 5]

I wonder if it's still good when it's not so relevant to the reader personally.

[Jo-Ann]

I read this book years ago and recently found it in my drawer and reviewed it. It had many excellent points in it that I can still relate to but I have found the language has changed over the years as to what he was talking about. He is describing Codependency - and there are many current books that discuss this AND show ways of dealing with it. Although I did liked it at the time, I wouldn't recommend reading it at this point.