THE DISBELIEF HABIT How to Use Doubt to Make Peace with Your Inner Critic

by Yong Kang Chan

From an early age, many of us have this critical voice in our head which we call the inner critic. The truth is we can’t control most of our thoughts. Our unhealthy, habitual ways of thinking are the result of past conditioning, and they have become a part of our protective mechanism. It’s not easy to change this system overnight. This book will help you to be more aware and sceptical of your self-loathing thoughts. In this book, you’ll • Why you shouldn’t take your thoughts too seriously • Why your mind is so critical and hard on you • What are the four common reactions to self-criticism and how to react to your critical thoughts • What is and what isn’t disbelieving • Five examples of how to separate the truth from fiction • How to notice your unconscious reaction • How to identify the message that your inner critic is conveying • How to make doubting your new habitThe Disbelief Habit provides you the steps to practice mindfulness and make peace with your mind. Just test it out and experience the change for yourself. KEY SELLING POINTS • This book helps in taming the mind and its past conditioning • Helps understand the voice of your inner critic • How to utilize self-criticism and turn it into self-improvement • Helps you understand your subconscious thoughts and decode them in a positive manner

Genres: Self Help, Nonfiction, Psychology

Paperback

Published February 28, 2023

About the author

"Being Peaceful when the Mind is Noisy"

Doing more and achieving more don’t always make you happy. When you have low self-esteem and a critical voice in your head, it’s tough to enjoy your life in peace. Reaching your goals is important, but you have to enjoy the process too.

In his books, Yong Kang provides insights on self-compassion and mindfulness to help you be kinder to yourself and transcend your suffering. Unlike other psychology and spiritual books, his content is easy to understand. He uses simple, modern examples in life to explain complex concepts and ideas. You can learn the teachings in his books without any technical or scientific knowledge.

Best known as “Nerdy Creator” online, Yong Kang is both analytical and creative. If someone like him can overcome depression and his noisy mind, you can do it too.

Learn how you can live a peaceful life by checking out his books below.

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Reviews

[Jasmin Mohd-zain · Rating 3 out of 5]

I have quite a harsh inner critic, I tell you ! Many times it has me spiralling down some abyss!

Chan says criticism focuses on the past, but you can't change the past. So instead of criticism, tell yr inner critic to tell you what & how you can improve instead. This is am empowering way to learn from yr mistakes.

Stop the phrase "I should have......" in yr introspection and use "Next time I could..." instead. Practice what he calls "IMPLEMENTATION INTENTION". Pre plan yr response when you can by using this :


If ( this situation happens) then I'll (respond/perform/behave)...this better way.

Teach yrself a better response before yr negative criticism arise....tools included in this book may be helpful to you.

[Jess · Rating 5 out of 5]

Definitely worth a read if, like me, you live in torture from your ‘inner critic’ living with depression & anxiety is tough, but there’s something about reading about others experiences that helps you feel less lonely. It makes you see things from a different perspective. Will probably end up reading this more than once!

[Anastasia Sot · Rating 3 out of 5]

I would recommend this book if the topic is new for you, otherwise may be a bit basic.

[J Crossley · Rating 3 out of 5]

In The Disbelief Habit, Chan explains how the inner critic is able to hurt you, and then proceeds with steps to help you mitigate those painful feelings. By becoming aware of the inner critic and what it is saying, you can be clued in to what it is trying to tell you. You can also question the messages that you receive. Just because you are saying these things does not necessarily make them true.

I liked the part about finding out that the inner critic is there to help you. It is trying to protect you, and by finding out how it is trying to be protective, you can better interpret its message.

[Ashley Kvasnicka · Rating 2 out of 5]

The thing with “self help” books is they’re completely opinionated. My rating reflects my take on it and not necessarily the book itself. I’m glad this method worked for the author, but for me, I couldn’t relate to the feelings he was putting out nor his method for controlling an overactive mind. It’s too much. I was stoked to get to the summary of the method, but that was still-too-much. Also the Eckhart Tolle reference made me cringe. Not a fan of that dude.

Not for me, maybe for you. But isn’t that always the case? ;}

[Jeffrey · Rating 3 out of 5]

Pretty basic stuff. Basically, if you find yourself failing against yourself, don't believe you. However, if you start making compassionate statements about yourself then you DON'T want to make doubting yourself a habit. Not a bad self-help book if your goal is to make a peace treaty with the critic. If however you want to permanently silence the critic I would suggest the Two of Fully Feeling.

[T.H. Rivers · Rating 5 out of 5]

I do recommend this wholeheartedly!

It's written simply and succinctly and really sums up many of the self-help books out there for those of us who suffer from a lack of self-belief. "We can't perceive ourselves accurately based on our past experiences because we are biased."

A great book for readers who want a launching point for self-examination and self-healing.

[Alina · Rating 3 out of 5]

“Addiction begins with pain and ends with pain.” When you are escaping your problems, you will continue to feel pain after the activity ends. You can run away from your inner critic for a while, but you can’t run away from it forever. You will still have to face your issues someday.”

[lety ✩°｡⋆ · Rating 4 out of 5]

i didnt have high hopes on this book, scared of it being your sterotypical self help book, but i found it really eye opening and helped me see things through other lenses. i appreciate the practical side of it, i will be applying some of it in my daily life

[Stephanie Freitas · Rating 5 out of 5]

I really enjoyed reading this book. It talked to me in a personal level. I felt embraced and understood, like someone was watching how I live life and how I think. I can only thank the author for writing this.

[Limi · Rating 5 out of 5]

A solid book for those too harsh on themselves. It's not too heavy, written clearly and very helpful.

[Jena Hale · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great advice!

This book really breaks down your inner critic & how to handle it in tough critical situations when it’s needed the most! Thank you!

[rena · Rating 4 out of 5]

Even though I’m not a big fan of self help books,this author has such an amazing way with words. While analysing the subject of every book he still makes sure to remind you that you’re only human,your flaws are normal and all the bad habits you have such as self criticism and doubt (the topics of this book)are not impossible to work with and fix.


He also gives simple and clear directions on how you can work with your mind and change anything that causes you trouble in your everyday life,in a kind and realistic way.

After reading this book I have found myself trying to change my mindset on the nature of my thoughts,the neutrality that is needed when dealing with them if I want to receive just information and not comments coming from my inside voice of criticism. It makes you think that controlling the way your thoughts appear to you and affect you is really something you have power over and through inner work you can gradually get better at it. Totally recommend it!

[Katy · Rating 4 out of 5]

4.5 ⭐

Me gustó bastante la pluma del autor y cómo explicó todo, aunque hubo mucha información que se repitió mucho

Después de leer la sinopsis y saber de qué trata el libro, me llamó mucho la atención e hizo que me dieran ganas de leerlo.

Disfruté mucho del libro, que me enganchó desde la primera página, me gustó bastante la pluma del autor y el tono que usa para explicarnos todo. A medida que fui leyendo, sentí que fue un libro adecuado para mí, debido a que soy una persona que sobrepiensa y analiza constantemente todo. Además, a diferencia de los libros del mismo género que he leído, –que igual no son muchos 😅– el autor prefiere usar un tono más informal y no nombrar tantos estudios, algo que logra que yo como lectora, pueda adentrarme más en la historia. También hay que destacar que nos enseña técnicas para controlar nuestra voz interna y que se calme un poco.

Si eres como yo, que tiene muchas voces internas que nunca se callan, este libro es el adecuado para ti.

[Guillermina Roldan · Rating 4 out of 5]

Me gusto mucho, las técnicas que te da son muy buenas y da ejemplos desde la experiencia del autor que te hacen sentir mas conectado. Para ser un libro corto profundiza lo justo y necesario. Recomiendo

[Manu Rivera · Rating 3 out of 5]

Un libro corto pero que me costó mucho leer, estoy aprendiendo de lo que aprendí y me saco de un bloqueo lector

[eullegotarde · Rating 4 out of 5]

simple y útil, fácil de entender