How To Heal A Painful Relationship: And If Necessary, Part As Friends

by Bill Ferguson

Featured on Oprah, this unique book shows, step-by-step, how to end conflict and restore love in any relationship. You will learn what creates love and what destroys it. You will learn how to end conflict, heal hurt, remove distance, forgive, resolve issues and restore your peace of mind. Bill Ferguson’s background as a former divorce attorney provides a rare insight into the nature of relationships. Full of examples and specific action to take, take, this profound yet simple book shows you something about yourself and others that will change your life.

Genres: Psychology

Paperback

First published January 1, 1999

Reviews

[Eunice Garcia · Rating 5 out of 5]

I have the honour to have taken several classes with Mr Ferguson and made wonderful long lasting friendships in the class "Return to your heart" Amazing!
Eunice

[Alex Caravaggio · Rating 2 out of 5]

Very repetitious and not quite what I was looking for. I feel like the target audience for this book is couples going through a divorce. While there were good messages in this book, it felt messy and heavily aimed at divorced couples.

The main message from Bill Ferguson is to take 100% ownership of the faults in your relationship. It takes two to make a mess, but only one to restore the love and set the tone for a healthy relationship. Focus on listening to your partner’s needs and reduce the chance of a blowup by adjusting your perspective.

Nothing really profound here, but this book was a good reminder of the basics of being a good partner.

[Ryan Cloutier · Rating 4 out of 5]

Direct and to the point - slightly repetitious...

This book offers a lot of direct insight, examples, and action items to repair love that has been hidden under pain. Or it helps consider how to leave a relationship while still caring and respecting your partner. Some underlying themes appeared throughout the book but at times seemed almost verbatim. I would definitely recommend this book, and suggest readers take their own notes and review after reading.

[Robert Kinsler · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book helps to explain the the reality that both partners in a relationship are 100% responsible for it, which on its face sound illogical. We often think about relationships as 50/50, but this creates problems with identifying where ones responsibility starts and stops.

The book also helps break down what unconditional love looks like and the notion of total acceptance while also speaking very importantly about boundaries and how all of that is mixed together.

The boon helped me understand better the role I've played in some of my challenging relationships.

[L · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is my favorite of the Bill Ferguson books I have read. It is very to the point of why a painful relationship probably ended up that way and why it continued a prolonged distructive course.
During a breakup or hard time, this is one of the first books I could recommend to a friend.