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What woman would describe herself as "holy"? And yet, the Lord has commanded us to "practice holiness...continually." What is the meaning of holiness? How can we become a little more holy day by day? Is it even possible? Or is holiness just a lofty, impossible goal?
In considering these questions, best-selling author Wendy Watson Nelson offered a three day experiment to several friends. For three days each woman chose one of her normal daily activities and asked herself "How would a holy woman do this?" Their experiences are both eye-opening and encouraging as we begin to understand how gifts of the Spirit can help us become the women that the Lord needs us to be.

64 pages, Hardcover

First published January 1, 2012

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Profile Image for Linda Hart.
807 reviews218 followers
February 27, 2015
Our RS group bought a few copies of this and gave to us to read, write comments in on pages following each chapter, and then pass on to another in our branch to read and pass on, etc. We are having a branch RS overnight retreat next month and one of the planned activities will be a discussion of the book, sharing our experiences with each other. what a great idea. It is a short book with the suggestion of reading one chapter per day (10-15 minutes,tops) and then applying the principle gleaned to own life for 24 hours. I will likely give this little book as gifts to daughters and friends.
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1,526 reviews4 followers
April 10, 2013
I want to give a copy of this book to everyone I know. The premise is simple: for three days choose one of your daily activities and ask how a holy woman might do it? Just one activity, just three days. What happens?

I love the stories the author shares of what other women experienced when they accepted this challenge. It helps me to know others struggle each day, yes, but I love seeing how they act on what they decide a holy woman might do.

The last three chapters are probably my favorite. I'm grateful I bought the book if just for those, as they expand on the challenge.

I took the challenge and am only two days in, but already it's amazing what has changed in my heart and my surroundings. I see my children from a different perspective. My challenges seem less overwhelming, I have an idea of where to begin working on all the weaknesses that "so easily do beset me."

Thank goodness.
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767 reviews12 followers
February 6, 2022
A simple and doable challenge. For three days, ask yourself the question “what would a holy woman do?” during your everyday activities and see what adjustments you naturally make. (I’m choosing to ignore the dieting advice she gave at the end. Proverbially the roach in the ice cream of an otherwise great talk. iykyk)
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1,228 reviews7 followers
February 11, 2016
My favorite part of this book was the experience that led to the idea that started the conversation and the book. Sister Nelson was with Elder Nelson at the Nuku'alofa Tonga Temple just before it was to be re-dedicated and before the words 'Holiness to the Lord' were placed on it. Without those words on the building it was not complete - holiness is very important. This experience caused Sister Nelson to think about how we must bring holiness to the temple. We must be holy.

She tries an experiment with a few others. They choose one thing each day that they will try to do as a 'holy woman' would. Choosing one thing at a time and consciously trying to be more holy was life changing for those who responded.

This is a simple premise, but to me the lesson from this book was to be conscious and proactive and mindful about trying to be more holy and worthy. I think it's the same as trying to live according to the Spirit and following the example of the Savior, asking 'What would Jesus do?' Another important point for me was that the direction is different for everyone - the Spirit will teach us individually as we ask for guidance in trying to be better.

A few quotes that I liked:

"What did holiness even mean? I knew that 'holiness' was not a word I used a lot. I could go many days, sometimes weeks, and never even say the word. How could I start exploring the concept of holiness (p. 2)?"

"You might be surprised about what you are prompted to do when you view your concerns through the lens of the question 'What would a holy woman do (p. 8)?'"

"'Mom, this is the first day I really love.'
'What do you mean?'
'We get to be with you.'
'What do you mean? I'm always here with you.'
'No, you're not. We're in our rooms playing, and you're always working somewhere else in the house. But today--today, we get to play with you. We really get to be with you. This is the first day I really love (p. 12).'"

"'I learned that desiring to be holy brings changes (p. 13).'"

"'I now know that being holy is not an unreachable goal. I can be more holy every day. I initially wanted to do more than one thing a day, but having only one thing to do really helped me to focus. Working on being holy helped me feel like a more capable, better person (p. 16).'"

"'When I asked myself the question 'What would a holy woman do?' I was able to focus. More things got done and my priorities were good (p. 18).'"

"'There was absolutely no gossiping (p. 20).'"

"She and her husband talked for a long time and developed a plan about how they could keep the negative influences of the world out of their home and out of their minds and hearts (p. 24)."

"'Procrastination has been a problem of mine, but when I think about what a holy woman would do, procrastination is not the answer. Doing things promptly is (p. 29).'"

"My first thought in trying to become a more holy woman was 'Where do I begin?' There are so many rough spots that need to be buffed out. How do I possibly pick one (p. 31)?"

"Can you see how eager the Lord is to personally and specifically tutor us in our very hour of need--even in our very moment of need? All we need to do is ask (p. 32)."

"Now, what is the Lord willing to teach you about holiness (p. 40)?"

"The Lord commands us to practice holiness before him continually [see D&C 46:33]. Does that sound like the Lord wants us to learn holiness? That He wants us to be more holy? But how? How can we do it (p. 41)?"

"The Lord says very clearly, 'I am able to make you holy [see D&C 60:7].' Think of that truth. He is able to make us holy. How comforting is that? How encouraging! How invigorating! And He will. So what do we need to do? What's our part? First, we need to let the Lord know that we're serious about becoming more holy (p. 42)."

"As Elder Russell M. Nelson wisely taught, 'We can acquire holiness only by enduring and persistent personal effort.' Start by praying for one specific gift that will help you with one specific weakness. Ask for it. Plead for it. Fast for it. Then pray for another gift to help with another weakness. And then another, and another. Gift upon gift, you and I can become more holy (p. 49)."

"I pray that each time we enter the temple and we see the words, 'Holiness to the Lord,' we will feel joy knowing we are doing our part to bring holiness to the Lord, to the House of the Lord (p. 51)."
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1,563 reviews249 followers
November 2, 2018
This book, while written for a Christian target audience, could help any woman desiring to live more faithfully. It was well narrated by the author (which isn’t always the case).

I enjoyed hearing the experiences of the different women who tried the ‘holiness experiment’. You take one thing you do in your day and ask yourself, “what would a holy woman do?”. It can be anything from cleaning the shower, grocery shopping, driving to work, to dealing with an upset friend. Then you try to approach the thing with a holy mindset.

I liked the idea that we don’t have to be Mother Teresa or some super outgoing person to act in a holy way. I have never thought of myself as somebody capable of holiness. It sounds so unattainable.

I try to never lie, even about little excuses that would get me out of social situations or conversations. I strive to deal fairly and honestly with everyone. Being kind, especially in the face of rudeness or anger, has been surprisingly easy, despite my social anxiety. But, that’s pretty much it. I try to be a good person, but it doesn’t necessarily make me feel closer to God.

I think the exercises in this book are about mindfulness. So, when someone is rude or confrontational, instead of just keeping my cool and trying to diffuse the situation, I try to think of how a holy woman would handle it. Maybe by trying to care about that person and their situation, even if they’re a stranger. I’m guessing that it probably wouldn’t change my actions or words, but it would change my thoughts and feelings about that person.

I don’t think it means I’m ungrateful for my home when I hate doing certain chores. Now I’m kind of inspired to make it less tedious. Like listening to an audiobook or music while I sweep and mop. And taking a minute to look over my shiny wood floor to feel good about making my home a bit nicer. (BTW, late 80’s & early 90’s pop music is just the thing for house cleaning.)

I think that asking myself how a holy woman would handle something will definitely change both my attitude and my actions/words. Some of my personal goals are to be a better listener, complain less, and finding something good within each person I encounter. Making my life holier by asking a question and trying to act and think differently appeals to me. Like, that’s something I can totally do. Achievable.

For secular use, you could change the question. How would I act if I were trying to make the world a kinder place? Each person in the book who tried it had a different story, and they were interesting.
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1,140 reviews24 followers
September 22, 2020
I really like the way Sister Nelson writes, her books always challenge me to be better!
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25 reviews
September 1, 2020
I love Sister Nelson’s books! So full of wisdom that will challenge and stretch our tendencies in order to be become a more perfected version of ourselves.
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353 reviews69 followers
March 21, 2020
4.5 stars
Need a little spiritual boost but not in the mood to read hundreds of pages? This fits the bill.
It’s the wise words and observations of Wendy Watson Nelson. Basically she presents a challenge, to every day approach one of your usual tasks with holiness, seeking to be your best self and a force for good in the things you already do.

Coming in at around 50 pages she shares stories from women who have accepted the challenge, and how to incorporate it yourself. Not guilt producing, not over your head or unattainable, it’s a simple idea. Approach one action daily with holiness.
A very quick and motivating read.
Profile Image for Nicole.
56 reviews1 follower
September 24, 2014
Every woman should take 30 minutes and read this book. It's well worth the time. I finished this book with a simple and profound understanding of what it means to be holy and how I can (and should) apply this in my every day life. Ultimately making the choice to be holy helps us become more like our Savior.
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1,571 reviews21 followers
August 19, 2020
This is a simple, very short book. Read the title and you basically know the whole book. Sister Nelson asked herself and others the title's question. She suggests trying a three day experiment where you choose something or multiple things and ask how a "holy woman" would do those things. She gives examples of how the experiment turned out for other people. It's an interesting idea to try to shift one's identity, behaviors, and responses this way.

I asked myself last night, "What would a holy woman think about while she's falling asleep?" I fell asleep fast, so I don't remember what I thought. Then this morning, I was worried about my son, so I asked, "What would a holy woman do for him?" I decided to text him and tell him he matters to me. I could have said I love him, I do say that from time to time, but I felt like he would believe me when I said he matters to me. I don't know how he'll feel about it (I think he left his phone at a friend's house last night) or if I'll ever know if it makes a positive difference, but it made a positive difference for me, my worries, and my attitude.

To do her experiment thoroughly, I should also try to do what a holy woman would do tomorrow in some way. If I remember, I will. That's the way it is with a lot of these great ideas: remembering to implement them in daily, ongoing life isn't always easy.
151 reviews3 followers
June 7, 2023
”Thinking about being holy gives purpose to your life and to your activities. Holiness means exercising faith—continually desiring faith. Faith is knowing why I do what I do. Christ is real.”

The only complete quote I wrote down in my reading of the book. I read it in just over an hour in preparation for a book club today. It offered a great reset. I love the simple ways that Wendy Watson Nelson inspires others to deepen their connection to God. This simple suggestion did just that in a way that does not induce guilt. She challenged some friends to think about just one way a day that they could act more like a holy woman for three days, and then she shares the insights gained from their personal experiences. I can do that. Inspired me enough to read some of it with my family tonight at dinner.
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688 reviews4 followers
July 18, 2020
This was a quick read that was also an experiment. It was a good reminder to me of what the most important things in life are: faith, family, and friends. When I am trying to be holy I remember to make these things my priorities.
449 reviews
February 19, 2021
A great, easy read with a lot of profound thoughts. It helped me see that everyday actions can be holy, and recognizing the holiness can make me act more holy, too. I’d recommend to anyone!
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92 reviews2 followers
October 8, 2021
I found this book and the included challenge to be life changing. This is an excellent book I will read again!
65 reviews5 followers
April 8, 2018
I really liked this short and simple book. It was inspiring in its simplicity. It gave me hope to do more and be a holy woman, the best kind of woman.
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255 reviews
February 27, 2019
Has the power to dramatically change your life if you apply the principles taught.
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614 reviews2 followers
May 5, 2018
Great little book with a very inspiring message. Written for women but can apply just as well to the men. What can we do to be a little more holy each day?
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51 reviews1 follower
April 20, 2021
I have been so blessed to have so many great books to read this year and this book was no different. It was very short, but so powerful and thought provoking.

I am going to take the "What Would A Holy Woman Do " 3 day challenge

I would urge everyone to participate in this challenge. We all have need for improvement and ways to progress in our spirituality.

So let's all ask ourselves, "What would a holy woman do"? Choose 1 daily activity each day for 3 days that you can do as a holy woman would.

Examples:
How would a holy woman minister?
How would a holy woman study scriptures?
How would a holy woman parent her children?
How would a holy woman speak ho her hubs?
How would a holy woman pray to her Father?
How would a holy woman respond?
How would a holy woman care for herself?
How would a holy woman spend her time?
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230 reviews13 followers
July 9, 2022
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REVIEW OF What Would a Holy Woman Do? by Wendy Watson Nelson

STAR RATING
5 stars

SYNOPSIS
On the outside of each temple of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints are the words "Holiness to the Lord." Pondering these words led Wendy Watson Nelson to wonder what it would mean to have holiness written upon her own life. This led to the question "What would a holy woman do?"

She extended a challenge to six friends to do one normal activity per day for three days with this question in mind. Some of the insights gleaned from those women, in addition to several others, are presented in this book. There are even a few journaling pages at the end of the book where readers can record their own thoughts and experiences with the same challenge.

REVIEW
This book was a very fast, sweet read. It is not overly academic or formal, making it an accessible read for just about anyone. The author includes her own thoughts, summaries of others' experiences, and direct quotations from others. I enjoyed this book as an uplifting and quick Sunday read. I have even taken the question "What would a holy woman do?" and applied it to my own actions since reading it.

BOTTOM LINE
For an inspiring read and idea for self-improvement, try this book. Members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints will especially enjoy this book, but I’m sure anyone can walk away from it feeling uplifted.

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1,188 reviews
January 27, 2015
I enjoyed listening to this audio book. Wendy Watson Nelson, wife of Russell M. Nelson, asks a thought-provoking question to many of her female friends: "What would a holy woman do?" She encourages them to consider this question for three days as they go about their daily routine and see if it causes them to act any differently. Nelson shares some of their responses and it is easy to see that pondering on this question did make a difference in the way they did things and the way they reacted to situations. I appreciated the scriptures Nelson shares in her book regarding holiness and how to become a holy woman. It was a short, quick read, but poignant in message and left me with something to think about and strive for.
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626 reviews3 followers
June 22, 2025
This is a mini-book--only about 50 pages. Wendy Nelson challenged some friends to go for three days asking themselves "What would a Holy Woman do?" with some specific aspect of her life. The results were all positive and it is a good challenge for each of us. Towards the end of the book she broadens the challenge to seek holiness in all things, with good scriptural backup to tell us how to do that.
2nd reading...So worth opening again. It's a wonderful, encouraging book to help us better ourselves.
3rd reading...It's a worthy challenge and I enjoyed it as much as the first two times.
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246 reviews40 followers
March 11, 2014
What would a Holy Woman Do? Would she tell the truth about this book or keep her mouth shut? I honestly don't know. The message in this book is very good and something I will be implementing. However, I paid $10 for this on kindle and it is not a book so much as a pamphlet. Very short and because I had read about it on a blog and our Stake Women's Conference was based on this book, there was no new information. My recommendation is to borrow it if you can.
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188 reviews4 followers
September 16, 2013
I really enjoyed this book and it gave me a lot to think about how I act throughout my day. I would recommend it to anyone, not just women. It was short and easy to read and uplifting.
4,104 reviews21 followers
June 28, 2014
I liked her thoughts. I may have to try some of them.
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221 reviews1 follower
May 10, 2020
I read this book in about a half an hour. It is a short book, but packed with so much inspiration! I didn’t realize this book came out in 2013. I thought it was a newer and more recent book. As I started to read about her three-day experiment on thinking and acting upon this question, “What would a holy woman do?” I began to realize that I had, inadvertently, come up with that same experiment on my own a few months ago. I won’t go into detail about the circumstances, but I do want to tell you that ALL of these experiences shared in this book, I experienced in my life as I thought about doing everything in a more holy way. I researched what the word holy or holiness means in the Bible Dictionary of the KJV and patterned my experiment on what I learned from that definition. This 30 minute read will definitely change your life if you accept her challenge of doing the three-day experiment. It’s not just for women either. That was just her targeted audience because she is a woman and is called frequently to speak to women. This is for everyone! Families, youth, children, parents, grandparents, husbands and wives, single adults, everyone will benefit from this.
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897 reviews
February 5, 2023
The premise of this book really caught my attention when a friend asked me about it, because she was listening to it audibly. We decided to "read" it together.

I loved the opening where the basic concept was shared, and how all the questions were listed in an email challenge to some friends. I felt very inspired by those questions. And again at the end of the short book (it's only 53 pages of reading) where the question "What Awaits You?" is put forth to the reader, and gifts of the spirit are brought up. I loved those opening and closing parts because they are powerful.

The in-between is where the friends who were emailed the questions share their experiences.

I found that being holy is really a very personal experience and decision because we are all in our own place of "holy" at any given moment. And it's up to us as individuals to choose how to apply "holy" to any aspect of our life that we need to or want to. At the end of the book, a 3 day challenge is issued to the reader to find ways to make their life holier too. This concept really stuck with me, and I feel that I can apply being holy to so many situations. It was a great reminder to choose holiness whenever I can.
355 reviews2 followers
June 8, 2023
Just like the temple has "holiness to the Lord" written on it so should your souls have holiness written on it.

How would a holy woman do this activity?
Patient, perspective, perseverance, and plan
Holiness doesn't mean perfect.
Counsel with the spirit
Go to bed early and rise early
Heavenly Father has infinite gifts of the Spirits which were paid for through the infinite Atonement of Jesus Christ to help His children in their challenges. Let's use our gifts eagerly and persistently.

Cheerful countenance so people are drawn to you.
True conversion so you are not distracted or dissuaded from living gospel truths
Gift to be Healed, forgiveness,and wisdom

A casual pray won't bring these gifts. Pray with all the energy of heart (Moroni 7:48)
Burning desire, reaching out,a seeking,an exhaustive exercise if our combined spiritual, intellectual, and emotional energies, all focused on obtaining these divine gifts. (Infinite Atonement 274 Callister)
"We can only acquire holiness only by enduring and persistent personal effort." (Nelson) Ask for it, please for it and fast for it.


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1,057 reviews13 followers
January 6, 2025
I love this woman and her insight. This book is very short and sized as a gift book for someone you love. I read it and while it had much to offer in terms of elevating your own discipleship, i'm afraid that circumstances that are a huge issue in my life made this book feel not-for-me.
Will another reader appreciate the personal anecdotes of others that are a large part of the book? I hope so. They just tended to demonstrate how much my life is rather out on the fringe when compared with the lives of other women. I felt I was eavesdropping, rather than personally invited. This was not Wendy's intention, far from it! But the book is a little older and some changes in the challenges of the world around us could not be addressed in such a small book. So, basically, it was not the most enriching book for me, but her other book The Heavens Are Open is certainly filling my spiritual need. I recommend that.
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