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Through Wind and Waves: On Being a Spiritual Guide
A guide is a welcome addition on most any journey. So it is with the greatest of all journeys: the journey to God. One of the Church's most long-standing and fruitful traditions, spiritual direction is an instrument of God's glory in the world. The act of clearing the way for the Holy Spirit is a delicate yet challenging matter, and one that requires humility, patience, and charity, among other virtues. Through Wind and Waves is a guidebook for those undertaking this important work. It offers wisdom for both the supernatural and the practical elements of spiritual direction. It shows that being a spiritual guide is not simply a matter of prayer and meditation, but one of a firm interior life, genuine friendship, and the daily realities of living one's life for the Lord. That life will be marked by adventure, since every soul is unique and is led by the Spirit to blaze new paths to holiness. Filled with wisdom from the saints, as well as Jesus' words in the Gospels, Through Wind and Waves is a valuable resource for those called to lead others into the safe harbor of God's love. Rev. Francis Fernández-Carvajal holds graduate degrees in both History and Canon Law. Ordained in 1964, he is a priest of the Opus Dei Prelature and the author of many popular spiritual works. His seven-volume series In Conversation with God provides over 500 meditations to be used throughout the liturgical year. It has sold over 2 million copies and has been translated into many languages.
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First published January 1, 2010
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August 22, 2025
Guidance for giving and by default receiving spiritual guidance. Brilliant.
July 5, 2022
Over the last 30ish years I have been reading Francis Fernandez’s In Conversation With God, I have read it many years. Finding his books in English has not always been easy. And in fact he has far more available in Spanish. One of the hard parts of tracking down his books is they are published under a few different names, especially English translations. I have seen volumes under these names:
Francis Carvajal
Francis Fernandez
Francis Fernandez-Carvajal
Francis Fernandez Carvajal
Francisco Fernández-Carvajal
And there might be others out there. This volume is only available from Scepter as both a physical book and as an eBook, there is also still a Kindle edition available. A bio of the author on a different volume states:
“Francis Fernandez is the same author of the best selling 7-volume series IN CONVERSATION WITH GOD which has been printed in ten languages with a combined print-run of more than two million copies.”
The description of this book is:
“A guide is a welcome addition on most any journey. So it is with the greatest of all journeys: the journey to God. One of the Church’s most long-standing and fruitful traditions, spiritual direction is an instrument of God’s glory in the world. The act of clearing the way for the Holy Spirit is a delicate yet challenging matter, and one that requires humility, patience, and charity, among other virtues.
Through Wind and Waves: On Being a Spiritual Guide is a guidebook for those undertaking this important work. It offers wisdom for both the supernatural and the practical elements of spiritual direction. It shows that being a spiritual guide is not simply a matter of prayer and meditation, but one of a firm interior life, genuine friendship, and the daily realities of living one’s life for the Lord. That life will be marked by adventure, since every soul is unique and is led by the Spirit to blaze new paths to holiness.
Filled with wisdom from the saints, as well as Jesus’ words in the Gospels, Through Wind and Waves is a valuable resource for those called to lead others into the safe harbor of God’s love.
Rev. Francis Fernández-Carvajal holds graduate degrees in both History and Canon Law. Ordained in 1964, he is a priest of the Opus Dei Prelature and the author of many popular spiritual works. His seven-volume series In Conversation with God provides over 500 meditations to be used throughout the liturgical year. It has sold over 2 million copies and has been translated into many languages.”
I am not really the target audience for this volume, I am not now a Spiritual Director, and when I was while involved in Campus Ministry many years ago, I probably should not have been. However, that being said, I found this an excellent read, as someone who receives spiritual direction. I read this book over a few weeks, often stopping after a section, either in the book, or the extensive appendix. The Appendix is about a third of the volume and each section in it could be read as Spiritual Reading. The chapters, sections and subsections in the volume are:
INTRODUCTION
Chapter 1: QUALITIES OF A GOOD GUIDE
An Instrument Of The Holy Spirit
The Humility of Being “Only” an Instrument
Rejecting Praise
Humility and High Goals
Asking for the Gift of Counsel
Personal Sanctity: Care For One’s Own Interior Life
Saints in Order to Sanctify
Bringing Souls Frequently to One’s Prayer
Love And Detachment
Love with Deeds
Fortitude
Detachment
Respect For Souls
God Never Repeats Himself
Personal Interest for Each One
Chapter 2: RULES OF A GOOD GUIDE
A Father
An Adult Faith
A Teacher
“The Gift of Tongues”
Spiritual Reading
A Doctor
Arriving in Time
When the Illness Is Serious
With a Mother’s Affection
Knowing the Symptoms
A Friend
The Good Shepherd
The Mercenary
Vigilance of the Good Shepherd
In Search of the Lost Sheep
Chapter 3: A FEW GUIDELINES
Formed In Freedom
Free and Responsible
Showing Prudence
The Human And The Divine
A Christian Personality
Developing Human Virtues
What Should Always Be Present
Struggling for Love: Confidence in God’s Help
As God’s Children
Filiation and Fraternity
Behaving as God’s Children Toward All God’s Sons and Daughters
Spiritual Childhood
Great Ideals And The Little Things Of Each Day
Sanctity in Ordinary Work
Apostolate: The Overflow of Supernatural Life
Unity of Life
Chapter 4: THE CONVERSATION
Place, Frequency, Duration
Order and Duration
The First Conversations
Knowing How To Listen
“Iuvenes Videntur”
Being Understanding
Showing Sympathy
Truth with Charity
Being Patient
Channels of Grace
Beginning Again
Knowing People Well
Fostering Simplicity
Teaching Souls To Struggle
Self-Denial
Getting Down to Specifics
A Positive Outlook
In This Vineyard
Optimism
Chapter 5: CORRESPONDENCE TO GRACE
The Place Of The Heart In The Interior Life
The Passions and Their Influence on the Interior Life
Guiding the Emotions
Feelings in Piety
Lack of Feelings
The Hour for the Heart
Guarding the Heart
Affectivity
A Big Heart
Causes And Remedies
Self-Knowledge
Docility
Correspondence in Little Things: “Grace Calls Out to Grace”
“Retarded” Souls
The Importance Of Sincerity
A Right Intention
Facets of Sincerity
Helping People to Be Sincere
Insincerity
APPENDIX: POSSIBLE TOPICS FOR SPIRITUAL DIRECTION
Prayer
Life Of Faith
Purity, The Entrance Way
Conjugal Chastity
Celibacy and Virginity
Vocation
Mortification: An Encounter With The Cross
Voluntary and Passive Mortification
Interior Mortification
Self-Knowledge And Examinations Of Conscience
Examination of Conscience
The General Examination
The Particular Examination
Charity And Apostolate
The Family
Joys And Sorrows
Love For The Church And The Communion Of Saints
Love for the Pope and the Hierarchy
The Communion of Saints
Lukewarmness And Comfort-Seeking
The Big Enemy: Lukewarmness
It’s Worthwhile
Humility And Forgetfulness Of Self
Humility: The Cornerstone
Poverty And Detachment
Real Poverty
Work
Finding Our Lord
Health, Sickness, Rest
An Apostolic Means as Well
Teaching People to Rest and Sanctify Rest
By Way Of A Conclusion
Prior to the actual text of this volume is a quote from Pope Benedict XVI’s Spe Salvi, No 49:
“Life is like a voyage on the sea of history, often dark and stormy, a voyage in which we watch for the stars that indicate the route. The true stars of our life are the people who have lived good lives. They are lights of hope. Certainly, Jesus Christ is the true light, the sun that has risen above all the shadows of history. But to reach him we also need lights close by—people who shine with his light and so guide us along our way.”
This book is intended as a guidebook for the guides. It is written for spiritual directors, it provides an excellent outline of spiritual direction and topics that can be covered in that practice. The Writing is as engaging as his In Conversation With God series. It is easy to read an engage with, and yet has a great depth or thought. The final section in the book, By Way Of A Conclusion states:
“I asked a priest who is a good friend of mine, with experience in giving spiritual guidance, to write down what he said to me in a conversation about this book. I think his words can serve as a conclusion to the book, since they provide a sound framework for personal spiritual direction.
Those called to provide spiritual assistance face a great challenge. Theirs is a particularly delicate service, since the only two protagonists in this “business” are God and the person seeking guidance. The spiritual guide has to shun any hint of self-affirmation; in some way, he has to learn to contemplate the interior world of the other person with the reserve, skill, and humility of the professional whose success consists in helping another person to improve while his own role is scarcely noticed.
…
Finally, since it is a confidential consultation, the expert knows that his knowledge of the chest doesn’t give him any right of ownership, or even the right to reveal that he knows its value or has been entrusted with that task. The only person he can discuss this work with is the owner. If anyone has to decide what should be made known and to whom, it is the owner, not the one consulted, since his role his simply to give advice.
In short, if a faithful friend should be seen as a treasure, how much more so is this true of a guide, someone who can advise us what means to use, someone we can talk with about our ideas and plans, and someone who can assure us that the route we are taking is suited to the goal we seek and that we are truly making progress in the right direction.”
Being a spiritual director is not an easy task. With great responsibility. I have had a spiritual director recommend I not read any books by a specific author, and a few years later on retreat a different director recommend that author. As someone receiving spiritual direction we also have a role to play, in openness, honesty and transparency. And as I have grown older, humble obedience. This volume will serve anyone who is a spiritual director well. It can also be of benefit to those of us who are directed. It is a great volume, and I am thankful I took the time to read and work through it. And it is likely one I will return to again.
An excellent read a book I can easily.
Note: This book is part of a series of reviews: 2022 Catholic Reading Plan!
Francis Carvajal
Francis Fernandez
Francis Fernandez-Carvajal
Francis Fernandez Carvajal
Francisco Fernández-Carvajal
And there might be others out there. This volume is only available from Scepter as both a physical book and as an eBook, there is also still a Kindle edition available. A bio of the author on a different volume states:
“Francis Fernandez is the same author of the best selling 7-volume series IN CONVERSATION WITH GOD which has been printed in ten languages with a combined print-run of more than two million copies.”
The description of this book is:
“A guide is a welcome addition on most any journey. So it is with the greatest of all journeys: the journey to God. One of the Church’s most long-standing and fruitful traditions, spiritual direction is an instrument of God’s glory in the world. The act of clearing the way for the Holy Spirit is a delicate yet challenging matter, and one that requires humility, patience, and charity, among other virtues.
Through Wind and Waves: On Being a Spiritual Guide is a guidebook for those undertaking this important work. It offers wisdom for both the supernatural and the practical elements of spiritual direction. It shows that being a spiritual guide is not simply a matter of prayer and meditation, but one of a firm interior life, genuine friendship, and the daily realities of living one’s life for the Lord. That life will be marked by adventure, since every soul is unique and is led by the Spirit to blaze new paths to holiness.
Filled with wisdom from the saints, as well as Jesus’ words in the Gospels, Through Wind and Waves is a valuable resource for those called to lead others into the safe harbor of God’s love.
Rev. Francis Fernández-Carvajal holds graduate degrees in both History and Canon Law. Ordained in 1964, he is a priest of the Opus Dei Prelature and the author of many popular spiritual works. His seven-volume series In Conversation with God provides over 500 meditations to be used throughout the liturgical year. It has sold over 2 million copies and has been translated into many languages.”
I am not really the target audience for this volume, I am not now a Spiritual Director, and when I was while involved in Campus Ministry many years ago, I probably should not have been. However, that being said, I found this an excellent read, as someone who receives spiritual direction. I read this book over a few weeks, often stopping after a section, either in the book, or the extensive appendix. The Appendix is about a third of the volume and each section in it could be read as Spiritual Reading. The chapters, sections and subsections in the volume are:
INTRODUCTION
Chapter 1: QUALITIES OF A GOOD GUIDE
An Instrument Of The Holy Spirit
The Humility of Being “Only” an Instrument
Rejecting Praise
Humility and High Goals
Asking for the Gift of Counsel
Personal Sanctity: Care For One’s Own Interior Life
Saints in Order to Sanctify
Bringing Souls Frequently to One’s Prayer
Love And Detachment
Love with Deeds
Fortitude
Detachment
Respect For Souls
God Never Repeats Himself
Personal Interest for Each One
Chapter 2: RULES OF A GOOD GUIDE
A Father
An Adult Faith
A Teacher
“The Gift of Tongues”
Spiritual Reading
A Doctor
Arriving in Time
When the Illness Is Serious
With a Mother’s Affection
Knowing the Symptoms
A Friend
The Good Shepherd
The Mercenary
Vigilance of the Good Shepherd
In Search of the Lost Sheep
Chapter 3: A FEW GUIDELINES
Formed In Freedom
Free and Responsible
Showing Prudence
The Human And The Divine
A Christian Personality
Developing Human Virtues
What Should Always Be Present
Struggling for Love: Confidence in God’s Help
As God’s Children
Filiation and Fraternity
Behaving as God’s Children Toward All God’s Sons and Daughters
Spiritual Childhood
Great Ideals And The Little Things Of Each Day
Sanctity in Ordinary Work
Apostolate: The Overflow of Supernatural Life
Unity of Life
Chapter 4: THE CONVERSATION
Place, Frequency, Duration
Order and Duration
The First Conversations
Knowing How To Listen
“Iuvenes Videntur”
Being Understanding
Showing Sympathy
Truth with Charity
Being Patient
Channels of Grace
Beginning Again
Knowing People Well
Fostering Simplicity
Teaching Souls To Struggle
Self-Denial
Getting Down to Specifics
A Positive Outlook
In This Vineyard
Optimism
Chapter 5: CORRESPONDENCE TO GRACE
The Place Of The Heart In The Interior Life
The Passions and Their Influence on the Interior Life
Guiding the Emotions
Feelings in Piety
Lack of Feelings
The Hour for the Heart
Guarding the Heart
Affectivity
A Big Heart
Causes And Remedies
Self-Knowledge
Docility
Correspondence in Little Things: “Grace Calls Out to Grace”
“Retarded” Souls
The Importance Of Sincerity
A Right Intention
Facets of Sincerity
Helping People to Be Sincere
Insincerity
APPENDIX: POSSIBLE TOPICS FOR SPIRITUAL DIRECTION
Prayer
Life Of Faith
Purity, The Entrance Way
Conjugal Chastity
Celibacy and Virginity
Vocation
Mortification: An Encounter With The Cross
Voluntary and Passive Mortification
Interior Mortification
Self-Knowledge And Examinations Of Conscience
Examination of Conscience
The General Examination
The Particular Examination
Charity And Apostolate
The Family
Joys And Sorrows
Love For The Church And The Communion Of Saints
Love for the Pope and the Hierarchy
The Communion of Saints
Lukewarmness And Comfort-Seeking
The Big Enemy: Lukewarmness
It’s Worthwhile
Humility And Forgetfulness Of Self
Humility: The Cornerstone
Poverty And Detachment
Real Poverty
Work
Finding Our Lord
Health, Sickness, Rest
An Apostolic Means as Well
Teaching People to Rest and Sanctify Rest
By Way Of A Conclusion
Prior to the actual text of this volume is a quote from Pope Benedict XVI’s Spe Salvi, No 49:
“Life is like a voyage on the sea of history, often dark and stormy, a voyage in which we watch for the stars that indicate the route. The true stars of our life are the people who have lived good lives. They are lights of hope. Certainly, Jesus Christ is the true light, the sun that has risen above all the shadows of history. But to reach him we also need lights close by—people who shine with his light and so guide us along our way.”
This book is intended as a guidebook for the guides. It is written for spiritual directors, it provides an excellent outline of spiritual direction and topics that can be covered in that practice. The Writing is as engaging as his In Conversation With God series. It is easy to read an engage with, and yet has a great depth or thought. The final section in the book, By Way Of A Conclusion states:
“I asked a priest who is a good friend of mine, with experience in giving spiritual guidance, to write down what he said to me in a conversation about this book. I think his words can serve as a conclusion to the book, since they provide a sound framework for personal spiritual direction.
Those called to provide spiritual assistance face a great challenge. Theirs is a particularly delicate service, since the only two protagonists in this “business” are God and the person seeking guidance. The spiritual guide has to shun any hint of self-affirmation; in some way, he has to learn to contemplate the interior world of the other person with the reserve, skill, and humility of the professional whose success consists in helping another person to improve while his own role is scarcely noticed.
…
Finally, since it is a confidential consultation, the expert knows that his knowledge of the chest doesn’t give him any right of ownership, or even the right to reveal that he knows its value or has been entrusted with that task. The only person he can discuss this work with is the owner. If anyone has to decide what should be made known and to whom, it is the owner, not the one consulted, since his role his simply to give advice.
In short, if a faithful friend should be seen as a treasure, how much more so is this true of a guide, someone who can advise us what means to use, someone we can talk with about our ideas and plans, and someone who can assure us that the route we are taking is suited to the goal we seek and that we are truly making progress in the right direction.”
Being a spiritual director is not an easy task. With great responsibility. I have had a spiritual director recommend I not read any books by a specific author, and a few years later on retreat a different director recommend that author. As someone receiving spiritual direction we also have a role to play, in openness, honesty and transparency. And as I have grown older, humble obedience. This volume will serve anyone who is a spiritual director well. It can also be of benefit to those of us who are directed. It is a great volume, and I am thankful I took the time to read and work through it. And it is likely one I will return to again.
An excellent read a book I can easily.
Note: This book is part of a series of reviews: 2022 Catholic Reading Plan!
July 14, 2017
This was very helpful in learning how to be a Spiritual Director, but it's still a good idea to read more books and books like "Introduction to the Devout Life" or other similar books to really know what to do as a SD. It's a lot harder than you'd think and takes a lot of prayer and a lot of listening
January 14, 2023
This is an excellent guide to being a spiritual guide or by proxy to receiving spiritual guidance. The Appendix alone (which is a length list of possible topics for spiritual direction) is worth getting this book. An indispensable resource for anyone who gives or receives spiritual counsel.
June 28, 2025
3.5 ⭐️ This is a practical guide for Spiritual Directors filled with a lot of gems. You just have to get through some things you might not agree with, some theology that might not be yours, and some clunky writing at times.
May 28, 2022
Outstanding book for those interested in providing Spiritual Direction.
November 17, 2022
Great book, I enjoyed reading it
I like that it's simple advise and easy to follow. Great book, something to pass on to others l l
I like that it's simple advise and easy to follow. Great book, something to pass on to others l l
July 2, 2024
Good read for spiritual reading.
November 14, 2022
The writing is not always as clear as it should be, and certainly not elegant. There are a lot of little things I found myself disagreeing with (e.g., the idea that the attitude a director conveys should always be that of peace and joy, that a confessional with a grate is the only appropriate place for a male director to meet one-on-one with a female director, etc.). But overall it is a valuable guide, practical, and it even at times served as a good examination of conscience as I read it.
December 16, 2014
- Outstanding wisdom for everyday life that's both optimistic and realistic;
- Encouraging advice for oneself and to be shared with others;
- Best read in small doses, perhaps several times, and applied to life as you go.
- Encouraging advice for oneself and to be shared with others;
- Best read in small doses, perhaps several times, and applied to life as you go.
October 15, 2019
Profound. Helpful. Practical. For those interested in spiritual direction or going into spiritual direction. For everyone else, not sure. I imagine most other people won’t stick with it and that’s ok, it’s pretty niche.
October 17, 2013
Excellent book
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