I enjoy biographies about musicians. I thoroughly enjoyed the autobiography of Clapton's long time love/wife Pattie Boyd WONDERFUL TONIGHT. I'm not a Clapton fan, always considered him highly overrated, but I loved the LAYLA album because of the songs, the genius of the late Duane Allman's slide guitar work and the duets Eric sang throughout the album.
When LOUISE reviewed CLAPTON, I decided to read the book because I was intrigued by her review (not the book). Boyd considered Wonderful Tonight song to be a love song, but Louise wrote that after reading Clapton it seemed he had written it out of annoyance, the song was sarcastic. Louise, that made me want to read the book to ascertain if I agreed with you.
After reading this autobiography, I found Clapton to be a unfaithful, serial adulterer, a liar, misogynistic narcissist. It's not the first time I read a biography that made me dislike the person! I found Clapton to be an incredibly boring person because it's based upon his journals, so it's full of a lot of details about his life that aren't interesting. Clapton is not a visual person, so his writing lacks the descriptions that might make this bio more interesting. He does detail his heroin, cocaine & alcohol addictions. Clapton name drops like crazy, this gets nauseating after a while. I realize he's been famous for a LONG time, but Eric refers to so many people as his "good friend" and I don't think anyone has that many good friends, unless they're shallow and don't have a depth of feeling for anyone. BINGO!
Another annoying problem of his writing (he REALLY needed a ghostwriter) when there's two men with the same name, he'll discuss them without the reader being able to tell who he's writing about, this happens a number of times throughout the book. I truly had no idea who he was talking about.
What made me detest him is his callous disregard for his girlfriends; they were as disposable as toilet paper. After living with Charlotte for three years, Eric is finally able to woo Pattie away from George Harrison. Pattie leaves Harrison (probably because he ignored her and had no interest in sex) to move in with Eric. Stunningly, Eric writes that he "told Charlotte to leave, so she moved back to France! She met Jimmy Page and had a relationship with him that gave him his daughter Scarlett." That's it! It's also what he does with every other woman he'd involved with. When someone who's new comes along, Eric beds her and dumps that girlfriend without a thought.
Incredibly, after Pattie, the love of his life, moves in, Eric almost immediately begins to cheat on her! Throughout their marriage, Eric cheated on Pattie with many women. For someone who grew up poor from a broken family, Eric lives the life of a patrician; he collects antiques, paintings, Ferraris, clothes, shoes and eventually he joins Roger Waters (Pink Floyd), Steve Winwood & a few others hunting on the estates of their uber wealthy friends!
Eric cheats on Pattie with an Italian actress who (it seems deliberately) gets pregnant almost immediately; within weeks. Eric doesn't seem to think there's anything wrong with this because he NEVER thinks about the consequences of his actions to others. But having read Pattie's bio, she was DEVASTATED when Eric got his Italian girlfriend pregnant, because Pattie was unable to have children. By the time his son Conor falls out the window (due to his mother's negligence) of the 50 story NYC condo that Eric had rented or bought for the actress, his relationship with the Italian actress is over; because Eric has discovered that she's apparently crazy, prone to tantrums, unreliable.
During this time, Eric finally gets sober. He plans the funeral and amazingly, Pattie attends the funeral. I found the book sad because I'd always assumed that Clapton was besotted by his muse (Pattie), he calls her "the most beautiful woman in the world" and "as I got to know her (when she was still rebuking his advances and married to George) I discovered that she was as beautiful inside as she was out." During this period Eric writes Layla & Other Love Songs, which has a number of passionate love songs about Pattie, records the album and a few years later, plays the album for Pattie to try to get her to leave Harrison. Pattie refuses and they don't see each other for a few years. Eventually, Pattie leaves Harrison, yet as soon as she moves in with Eric he begins cheating on her! Much of their marriage is fighting due to his alcoholic, selfish personality and the lack of sex due to his alcoholism. Pattie went from one husband who ignored her to meditate, to another man who ignored her to drink. So, their big love affair seems to have occurred when Pattie was still with Harrison, refusing Eric's advances; the passion was unrequited love. Eric always got everything he wanted, except Pattie. Once Eric had Pattie, he cheated on her and verbally abused her.
After a lot of touring and a lot more women, none of whom he was faithful to, Eric gets involved with two fans that are half his age. He dates them both, then sleeps with one and when Melia returns, he then sleeps with Melia; she is the woman Clapton married and with whom he had three daughters. Their life is that of the super wealthy, estates in the UK and Antigua, vacations all over the world, nannies, expensive cars, clothes, shopping. Eric fly fishes alone and hunts with men. I suppose marrying a 25 year old woman when he's 56 gives Eric the CONTROL that he needs over everyone and everything. Being insanely wealthy with a callous disregard for the feelings of others, Clapton fires musicians with whom he tours/records without a thought as to their financial futures.
Throughout the book, Eric calls many, many men his "good friend", yet he doesn't seem to be emotionally involved or care about anyone but his current need; shopping, clothes, his career, bedding another "beautiful" woman. Marrying a much younger woman (a fan who asked for a selfie with him & her girlfriend) gave Clapton the right to have a woman who'd give him children, a woman who would make no demands or question his abusive behavior. George Harrison's battle with brain cancer and death are not discussed.
The book left me as empty as Clapton's heart; to quote Gertrude Stein: There's no there, there. He's an empty person, broken as a child, years of addiction prevented him from growing a heart or maybe he's just the narcissist that many famous people are.
Although he's a proponent of the 12 Step Program, Clapton never discusses making amends to all the people her hurt, especially Pattie Boyd, who must be an incredible person because she went to the funeral of the child that Eric conceived with another, younger woman, while Pattie was married to him!
I do think Wonderful Tonight is a love song that was inspired by Eric's annoyance of how long Pattie was taking to get ready... but the lyrics do contain a line about "how much I love you" which makes it a beautiful love song that he got great joy from performing during his tours.